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Right personality for marriage?

I was having brunch with my brunch chicas this weekend when the topic of marriage came up. I jokingly commented that having a husband that lived in the house across the street or next door sounds perfect!

I think a lot of single people who have not been married before have this fear (unhealthy?) of what life would be like living with someone else. Especially when you actually love living alone, in your space, doing secret single person behavior things all alone.

I wonder if it takes a certain type of personality to adapt to marriage and make those adjustments to living with a mate? Maybe some people find it easier than others.

Do you think some people just have the ideal personality to be married?
How can you know if you are that type? How can you tell if you have what it takes to be someone’s spouse?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:44 pm

I see WillieD has quietly retreated to the loser’s corner/bench

C – He’s in the locker room with his quilt. :)

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
3:45 pm

A 54 year old married man has a 16 year old girlfriend yet the congregation doesn’t see anything wrong with the age, just that infidelity is a sin!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:45 pm

Cel, no I at least wait till their old enough to be out of college

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:46 pm

ITL – Okay, I LOL’d on that. Reckon he got his skillet in there with him?

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
3:46 pm

Gotta go to a quick meeting…back in a bit.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:48 pm

Single and Happy – For your age, ummm THAT’S JAIL BAITING, ROBBING THE CRADDLE, STRANGER DANGER, CHESTER CHESTER…IJS Not accusing you though, my friend.

Honestly, what do you have in common or talk about with someone 25 or 30 years your junior? Seriously. Not being funny. Ohhhh, talking is not required

We still cool though right :mrgreen:

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:49 pm

“the bedroom and the kitchen…..”

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:50 pm

C – I dated a guy 20 years older than me. every now and again he’d be like “do you remember such and such”. I’d be like “no. I was four”.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:50 pm

Cel, what’s going on in the kitchen?

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:51 pm

disco – Dang…you made me LOL while someone was talking to a client…bad disco, bad girl That was a good one.

S/H – The same thing going on in the bedroom…skills

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
3:54 pm

Got my vest on cause what I smell is some more folks who need some Good Dcik like Bluz said she getting…..they fuggin, they both enjoyed it, they been texting a bit, sounds like a normal azz progression to me….here, call this number 1-800-cockfest

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:55 pm

Disco, I aint that bad.

Cel age is the least of our cultural differences, we haven’t made it to the kitchen yet. But I’ve found when dating younger women that if you treat them like a woman and not like a child, it isn’t that hard to over come those hurdles.

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
3:55 pm

Ok blog monster didn’t like my posts. ITL/Cel I aint gone. I like this kinda party.

Bluz – I’m not a psychologist but I do play one occasionally on the blog. What you have is known as d-yck-tam-ized-ati-tis. Good news is it is treatable with advice from those who have been there done that. Side effects are; limp walk, ri-di-cule, sore puddy, psychiatric help, bad credit and if left untreated cats.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:57 pm

Cultural differences?

disco

August 8th, 2012
3:58 pm

C – I am a bad girl. we even had the discussion about worms. what a laugh that was.

S/H – you sure the appeal isn’t that younger women (generally) put up with more mess than older women? I won’t front. I admit that often the attraction with older men is that they are more “generous” than their younger counterparts. LOL. sorry. guess I just jumped right into the stereotypes. nothing wrong with a young buck or an old head.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:58 pm

Ut oh, somebody bout to bring it

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:58 pm

Cel she’s from Jamaica, hell I had to find someone that likes short men (rotflmao)

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
3:58 pm

Wow! 54 – 16…he could be her grandfather!!!

I’ve always dated older men. I have an older soul and get along with people older than me. One ex was 21 years older than me (he was one year younger than my dad)! There were some generation gaps, but for the most part, we got along very well.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
3:59 pm

Cel, I mean lives in Jamaica

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
3:59 pm

S/H – Mmmm hmmm, I’m listening. Keep talking

Bluzgirl

August 8th, 2012
4:00 pm

WD…I have to say that that was funny!!! LOL

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:00 pm

S/H – You can tell me.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:00 pm

Disco, what you say Gold digger, since we got to pay to play, what difference does the age make (LOL)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:01 pm

disco – I’ve heard the worm story and honetly that just grosses me out. I’m gonna retire mine pretty early. I can’t be hanging with no old cat and I can’t get played by a young cat

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
4:01 pm

The same thing going on in the bedroom…skills

Oh snap!!!

:lol:

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:02 pm

Cel aint but one worm here :-D

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
4:02 pm

Jake ~ guess you missed the part where we all slapped her on the back for going after that Big Ego she’s been creaming over! We gave her that. Her flip flopping on what she wants out of this new relationship is what most is talking about. Curtain #1 has been opened. What’s now behind curtain #2??

disco

August 8th, 2012
4:02 pm

S/H – age might make a difference in how much it costs to play. LOL.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:05 pm

Single and Happy – Yeah, I bet

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:06 pm

Disco, well if i’m going to buy a car, I want a new car, not an old used up one (rotflmao) it might have cheaper payments, but every time I want to go somewhere it’s broke down (LOL)

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:06 pm

disco – I’m agreeing. I for one am not digging into her. I say if you can’t roll with the FWB situation, cool. You’re much bigger than me and I can admit…lol But if you can’t and you’re saying you can, well…..

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:07 pm

S/H – Ummmm, if you didn’t just roll off the assembly yourself, I’m not getting that analogy. You might have entered pluckersville yourself…lol

Jake...SPJTWB

August 8th, 2012
4:08 pm

Leggs…same thing that’s behind curtain 1, azz, elbows, and sweat

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:08 pm

Cel you get it, to old pluckers aint going to get anywhere (LOL)

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
4:08 pm

Yall got me cracking up!!LOL!!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:11 pm

Cel I never intended for it to get to a relationship, nor last this long, must be some that Jamaican voodoo, or something in the air down there Mon

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
4:11 pm

Worms??? Do I even want to know?

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
4:12 pm

Jake~ Azz, elbows and sweat are great, but what are we supposed to do the other 15 hours in the day?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 8th, 2012
4:12 pm

ITL, you never heard of big worm??

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:13 pm

S/H – Chile do you. But I can guarantee, if you’ve reached “wormy” age or near it, yous buying young tail…in one form or another. I ain’t knocking it. Just want you to know that’s what’s going on. Don’t want you to think it was solely on merits alone

Willie Dynamite

August 8th, 2012
4:15 pm

ITL (and Cel since this has turned into mixed doubles) LOL – I’m all up for learning how to temper and savor white choc. I am in the boat with the appetizer and entree. Teach me about the dessert and we’ll see about breaking out the quilt and cast iron. Not to turn this into 50 shades cause I’m no masochist BUT having Becky frying Bacon bucket nekkid in the morn is kinda sexy.
Your turn. Hahaha

kimmie

August 8th, 2012
4:16 pm

to old pluckers aint going to get anywhere

Single – That’s why I’ve always liked men close to my own age. I never went for a difference more or less than 5 years. I be damned if he’s sitting up all brand new while I’m propped on bricks or vice-versa!LOL!! We’ll be 2 old pluckers together!

That reminds me of Raqi. She was talking about her grandparents on the blog one day. She passed by them sitting on the front porch, holding hands. She said “hey whatchall doin?” They replied “having sex”.

:lol:

Leggs

August 8th, 2012
4:17 pm

Jake ~ if a Mandingo isn’t behind #2, time to go home!

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:19 pm

WillieD – BUT having Becky frying Bacon bucket nekkid in the morn is kinda sexy

and dangerous…bacon grease ain’t no joke….lol

disco

August 8th, 2012
4:19 pm

S/H – and that could work for you and against you. you might have a young girl who hasn’t figured out her worth yet (translation: bargain booty) OR you could have a young girl who knows her worth and is weighing it against your desire to be with her and not someone your own age. she might charge a premium.

by the way – even though I come off gold digger-ish that’s not really the case. I admit though that I’m always irked to no end when a woman is screwing a guy (and sometimes more than one guy) but she’s coming up short. recently a friend asked if she could borrow gas money until payday. it wasn’t a big deal but in my mind I’m like that MF that’s screwing you should keep you in gas money. another chick was married and had a dude on the side but her money never added up. I could tell tales for days on women who aren’t making it do what it do. they better ask somebody. I’m the friend that will remind them that you should not be broke AND screwing. I just wasn’t raised that way. lol.

DreamsMaterialize

August 8th, 2012
4:20 pm

10 pages?!? What you all up to in here? What’s the topic right about now? How are the ladies doing? Nod to the fellas.

Celisea

August 8th, 2012
4:24 pm

That’s why I’ve always liked men close to my own age. I never went for a difference more or less than 5 years. I be damned if he’s sitting up all brand new while I’m propped on bricks or vice-versa!LOL!! We’ll be 2 old pluckers together!

Exactly. If not, you could end up like Demi for example. Now she’s gotta want Ashton hang out with the cute and younger chick. I get it all the time, dudes think it’s cute that you don’t look your age. Naaah, not falling for that. Go on to the sandbox with your age group.

Into the Light

August 8th, 2012
4:25 pm

and dangerous…bacon grease ain’t no joke….lol

@C: You ain’t nevah lied. I burnt my finger the other day, but that peppercorn bacon on a buttermilk biscuit with a big slice of fresh tomato eased a lot of the pain. :)

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
4:27 pm

@disco~ My momma always said love is just someting to tide you over until you get some money. Love will go out the window if you living in a cardboard box and have no idea where your next meal is coming from.

Comon Cents

August 8th, 2012
4:28 pm

Go on to the sandbox with your age group.

LMAO! :lol: Smelling like similac and pampers up in here…