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Should you confess indiscretions?

One of our MIA blog readers would like a little advice about what he should do. He and his girlfriend recently had “the talk” and decided to go exclusive. Soon after the talk, he goes on a weekend trip with his boys and has a little inappropriate contact with random girl at bar.

He knows that since they had “the talk” he should own up to his indiscretion. The problem is, his girlfriend broke up with the last guy for a similar offense. Although he believes what he did was “not as bad” the fact that he didn’t actually sleep with someone else means he should keep it to himself.

If you are in an exclusive relationship, would you confess if you did a little dirt on the side? Would it matter the degree of the offense?

If someone you were seeing did something inappropriate with someone else, would you want them to tell you?

What would do if you your new boyfriend/girlfriend had an encounter with someone else, right after you decided to be exclusive?


P.S. For the record, I believe that if you hook up with someone else on vacation/out of the country or state..it’s still cheating. Seriously, don’t ever ask for a pass on something like that.

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:50 pm

He ain’t worth trying to figure out who he is! LOL! I wouldn’t be surprised if you and I danced together at some point without even knowing it.

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:51 pm

WD…even if I was into girls, she would not be my type!

i'm swiss

August 6th, 2012
4:51 pm

“That went out in my early 20’s!”

Bluz — Tell us more about your hot lesbian experimentation early 20’s, please.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
4:52 pm

yall danced together mmmmmm (drooling again)

Steven Q. Stanley

August 6th, 2012
4:52 pm

If you want to die alone Bluz that is your call. Do so with my blessing. Many do not though, but they are on the path to doing so.

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:54 pm

You’ll just have to imagine my experimentation! ;-)

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
4:54 pm

Stanley, here’s one just for you.

My child has been trying to get me to get a kitten while she’s away. All I can think of is Stanley Q, Stanley Q, Stanley Q = Hell No!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
4:54 pm

Steven we all die alone, no one goes with us!

Willie Dynamite

August 6th, 2012
4:54 pm

Bluz – what time is your lesson? 9:30 perhaps
Let’s see: musician + ambien + alcohol + early 20’s rebirth = a good blog day tomorrow. Hahaha j/k Bluz

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
4:54 pm

Going to die alone I mean

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
4:55 pm

Probably so, Bluz. Ask Little Joe or “Danny” – I play a mean tambourine. LOL I think I told you the story about the conga line.

Do you know the guy who plays spoons and washboard with them? He was a total a-hole to me one night.

@Swiss – down, boy, down. LOL

i'm swiss

August 6th, 2012
4:55 pm

“You’ll just have to imagine my experimentation!”

Bluz — Hell, I already do that with every hot chick I see by default. Throw me a bone here. :lol:

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
4:56 pm

Green Stamps, twink was right about you drooling. We need to get you a bib, sweetie? :)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
4:57 pm

Yea, my shirt all wet

i'm swiss

August 6th, 2012
4:57 pm

“@Swiss – down, boy, down.”

ITL — Which one of us are you talking to?

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
4:58 pm

Steven we all die alone, no one goes with us!

Unless you get really pi$$ed and take some of them mugs with you!! :lol: :lol: Sorry, couldn’t resist.

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
4:58 pm

True dat, Single, but we know that’s not what Stanley Q meant.

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:58 pm

ITL…I used to be up there playing tambourine and dancing on the stage with them! I do know the current washboard player…he’s super sweet when sober. Never know after drinks!

WD – my lesson is at 6:30, so not a late night!

Maybe, just maybe, I’ll tell you about my girlfriend one day…

I gotta go…they’re kicking us out of the office. Later!

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
4:59 pm

@Swiss: Both of you! I think I heard Mrs. Swiss calling for your cunning linguistic skills and the Matterhorn.

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
4:59 pm

swiss ~ maybe you might need to throw ITL your bone!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
5:00 pm

Leggs, but doesn’t one still end up dying alone? How many couples have actually died together?

Willie Dynamite

August 6th, 2012
5:01 pm

Wait a min, ITL and Bluz were drunk playing the tabourine and dancing together in a congo line while in there early 20’s and drool was involved. I gotta stop speed reading.

i'm swiss

August 6th, 2012
5:01 pm

“I think I heard Mrs. Swiss calling for your cunning linguistic skills and the Matterhorn.”

ITL — Hey, you wouldn’t run a marathon without getting warmed up first. Might pull a groin or something… :lol:

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
5:02 pm

swiss ~ maybe you might need to throw ITL your bone!

Thanks, Leggs, but I don’t really have a taste for married bones. ;)

Steven Q. Stanley

August 6th, 2012
5:04 pm

At least you have a child there for you Leggs. You will have someone there for you. Obviously someone who cares too.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
5:04 pm

Yea WD you got the jest of it (LOL)

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
5:04 pm

@Swiss: Why do I have a mental image of you writhing on the floor screaming, “I pulled a hammy!” :lol:

i'm swiss

August 6th, 2012
5:06 pm

“@Swiss: Why do I have a mental image of you writhing on the floor screaming, “I pulled a hammy!””

ITL — Um…. ‘cos…. you were peeping in our window last night?

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
5:07 pm

Um…. ‘cos…. you were peeping in our window last night?

Dam#@it! I knew you saw me. But btw, nice dismount – you really stuck the landing. :)

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
5:09 pm

Hey WD – 26 more days!!! :)

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
5:12 pm

I agreed with you Single. I took Stanley meaning growing old alone then dying alone. Just playing with the words.

I know ITL!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
5:13 pm

Instead of thinking about dying alone, why not enjoy life whether it be alone, or with someone. Life is too short to be worried about who’s by your side when you die.

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
5:14 pm

Um…. ‘cos…. you were peeping in our window last night?

Dam#@it! I knew you saw me. But btw, nice dismount – you really stuck the landing.

Both of you have lost your minds!

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
5:15 pm

Both of you have lost your minds!

@Leggs: You’re just now figuring that out???? :lol:

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
5:15 pm

Life is too short to be worried about who’s by your side when you die.

I sure hope not many are worried about that because more often than not, many can’t even see or know who’s standing by their side.

i'm swiss

August 6th, 2012
5:15 pm

Thanks, ITL. I’ve had to totally re-calibrate the dismount to account for the baby bump, but I’m getting there. :lol:

Celisea

August 6th, 2012
5:16 pm

And drooling ALL THE TIME but you can’t type PUDDY??? You type “p cat?” Me thinks your drooling is a bigger issue than CT or lingerie or puddycat

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
5:18 pm

Leggs that’s right, that’s why you better enjoy it while you can, live life with no regrets!

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
5:18 pm

@Swiss: I think you could up the difficulty if you did the twisting double back in full layout position instead of pike, but other than that, you are pure gold, baby….pure gold. :)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
5:19 pm

anyway Cel, I was trying to think of a way to put it without it getting blocked (LOL)

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
5:20 pm

Single, with this new chapter I’m about to embark on I’m going to do just that!

Celisea

August 6th, 2012
5:20 pm

PUDDY PUDDY PUDDY CAAAAAAAAT….meoowwww

:) :)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
5:20 pm

Cel what CT?

Celisea

August 6th, 2012
5:20 pm

i'm swiss

August 6th, 2012
5:22 pm

“I think you could up the difficulty if you did the twisting double back in full layout position instead of pike,”

ITL — I was in full layout. That wasn’t my legs in pike position…

Celisea

August 6th, 2012
5:22 pm

I’m out of here

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
5:23 pm

Leggs I told my sons awhile back that I’ll probably be dead for a couple of weeks before they even notice, but when they look at all the refrigerator magnets of all the places I’ve been and the things I’ve done they’ll will know I enjoyed my life!

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
5:23 pm

:oops: Oooohhhh, my bad, Swiss. DAYUM. You should be on the track team.

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
5:24 pm

Night, Twink!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
5:25 pm

will someone tell me what CT means?