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Should you confess indiscretions?

One of our MIA blog readers would like a little advice about what he should do. He and his girlfriend recently had “the talk” and decided to go exclusive. Soon after the talk, he goes on a weekend trip with his boys and has a little inappropriate contact with random girl at bar.

He knows that since they had “the talk” he should own up to his indiscretion. The problem is, his girlfriend broke up with the last guy for a similar offense. Although he believes what he did was “not as bad” the fact that he didn’t actually sleep with someone else means he should keep it to himself.

If you are in an exclusive relationship, would you confess if you did a little dirt on the side? Would it matter the degree of the offense?

If someone you were seeing did something inappropriate with someone else, would you want them to tell you?

What would do if you your new boyfriend/girlfriend had an encounter with someone else, right after you decided to be exclusive?


P.S. For the record, I believe that if you hook up with someone else on vacation/out of the country or state..it’s still cheating. Seriously, don’t ever ask for a pass on something like that.

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
3:17 pm

Slim…I was addicted to that for a couple of weeks, then it faded…

SlimUno

August 6th, 2012
3:18 pm

Bluz – I’m sure I’ll get over the newness of it at some point.

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
3:21 pm

Me, too, Bluz and Slim. Although I still like it. Addicted to Scramble with Friends and Draw Something, too. :)

@Slim: Weren’t you recently in Pigeon Forge/Gatlinburg? I might be going in October. A group of us that used to be together every weekend but don’t get to see each other much anymore are thinking about doing a weekend there.

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
3:26 pm

Most of my friends got over the newness of the Words also, so they quit playing or would take forever to respond.

I’ve wanted to try Draw Something, but have no one to play with!!!

Celisea

August 6th, 2012
3:28 pm

Bluzy – I love Draw Something and WWFs but my memory is low so I had to remove. I was headed to buy a memory card a gazillion times Saturday but never made it.

All of a sudden, I’m slammed with work….ugh

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
3:33 pm

Bluz: send me an email, and I’ll give you my user ID for Draw Something.

SlimUno

August 6th, 2012
3:37 pm

ITL – I have not tried Scramble but I heard that it’s better or more fun than Words…I was in TN last October for our yearly trip. We’ve actually postponed this years trip because too much other stuff is going on. Plus we usually reserve the same 3 cabins in a cul de sac and they all weren’t available for the time we usually go. I’m a bit bummed but it’lll be ok i suppose.

SlimUno

August 6th, 2012
3:38 pm

How does the Draw Something thing work? Sounds boring

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
3:41 pm

Scramble is more fast-paced, so if you like that, then it’s more fun. Plus, it only has 3 rounds, so games take less time.

I hope we get this all worked out so that we can go. I think a couple of folks are camping, but I’m thinking cabin/cottage. Sleeping on the ground is not as kind to my body as it used to be. LOL Plus, not to be a total cheez-ball, but I heard something about going to Dollywood. I’m IN!! :)

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
3:41 pm

ITL…can’t find your email addy…mine is bluzgirl79@gmail.com

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
3:42 pm

I’m not much of an artist, by the way! :-)

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
3:42 pm

Draw Something is like Pictionary for your phone/tablet. You are given three words, and have to choose one to draw and your opponent has to guess. You both get tokens for every round that is guessed correctly. The more tokens you have, the more colors you can “buy” to draw with.

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
3:48 pm

Bluz: Mail call. And don’t worry about being artistic….most people aren’t. Including me.

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
3:50 pm

Got it…setting up the app now…

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:04 pm

SlimUno

August 6th, 2012
4:05 pm

I’m still here trying to get through this last dragging hour

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:06 pm

I hate the last hour of the day! I don’t feel like doing anymore work. At least I have my bass lesson to look forward to tonight. My hope is to be able to play at a jam in a few months. At least one song!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
4:09 pm

going to have to change your moniker to bassgirl

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:11 pm

Well…I’ll be playing at blues jams when I’m ready…maybe “bluzbassgirl”

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
4:12 pm

okay, bluzbassgirl it is

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:13 pm

I just hope I actually stick with this and learn!

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
4:18 pm

No hope to it, Bluz. If you want to stick with it, you will! :)

SlimUno

August 6th, 2012
4:18 pm

Bluzfool
BluzzyBassBroad
BluzzyBass Girl
BB Girl

ok, i’m rhet ta go now lol

SlimUno

August 6th, 2012
4:19 pm

And who uses broad anymore…not even sure what I was thinking. Guess I was going for that BBBBBBB deal. oh well, pay me no mind

SlimUno

August 6th, 2012
4:22 pm

BadBassBluzChick :-)

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
4:22 pm

I think you def have to leave Bluz in there somehow, otherwise people might think you just like to fish. ba domp bomp. :)

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
4:23 pm

Where has disco been today????? I was all set to tell her about seeing Baby Boy on TWICE this weekend.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
4:23 pm

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:25 pm

Loving all the suggestions! I’ve been wanting to learn for a couple of years at least. My ex played bass and guitar and he never would teach me. So, now, I’ve found a cool chick willing to teach me for cheap!!!

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
4:26 pm

Speaking of bass players, I’m guessing you know Eskill, Bluz?

Chick….anyone I might know?

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:27 pm

I started to teach myself to play in high school, but my brother loaned his bass to a friend and it got stolen. I was just starting to get decent when that happened. I think I’ll pick it up fairly easy. The hardest part is learning all of the notes and chords! Show me a song and I can learn it, but I need to learn the essentials…

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
4:28 pm

Can you read music or do you play be ear or both?

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:28 pm

I do know Eskil!!! Very well!!! I think we probably know each other…my ex used to play with Eskil years ago…he was the bass player for the band that E is in now. (don’t want to get too specific).

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
4:28 pm

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:30 pm

I know just about all of the musicians who play at Northside…

I don’t read music yet. That’s one regret I have…I learned to play percussion in middle school. At least I can read beats, but I wish I had learned to play a horn so I could read the notes.

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
4:30 pm

Sorry…didn’t mean to blast that out there. I thought about it after I hit “send”. But are you talking about the big tall guy that played with another band as well?

I’m betting we’ve met. My friend Kim is good friends with Eskil and Lola.

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:33 pm

Not big and tall…long, brown hair and glasses. He quit playing with them about 5-6 years ago I believe…he used to date the blond sax player that was in the same band…

i'm swiss

August 6th, 2012
4:37 pm

Y’all are gonna make folks think that all white people know each other. :lol:

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:39 pm

Only the cool ones, swiss…

Steven Q. Stanley

August 6th, 2012
4:40 pm

The longer you wait, the more likely you are to get a no good dog who is going to cheat on you. Wake up ladies, don’t die alone.

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:43 pm

Steven…I’d rather die alone than be with the wrong man.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
4:43 pm

yall white?? (LOL)

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
4:44 pm

What about the men, Stanley Q? Are they going go die alone because most of them are still sleeping? Nevermind, I guess the answer to that would be a yes too!!!!

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
4:45 pm

Green Stamps: Two words for you: frozen peas! LOLOL

Willie Dynamite

August 6th, 2012
4:45 pm

Late afternoon All,

Just creeping/peeping in as I make my rounds.
Swiss – you are one funny dude.
Bluz – please have a few drinks during your bass lesson with your lady friend.please

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:45 pm

LOL single…yeah…white girls who are into the blues!

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
4:46 pm

OMG WD…the alcohol doesn’t work that way with women anymore! That went out in my early 20’s!

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
4:46 pm

(ITL now working through beer-fogged memories to get the right mental picture)

Hmmmm, I’m going to have to think on that one, Bluz.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
4:47 pm

ITL, I see you bending ova, Bluz I thought it was just CW

Willie Dynamite

August 6th, 2012
4:50 pm

Bluz – hey you are into your just having fun stage. Ijs