Should you confess indiscretions?
One of our MIA blog readers would like a little advice about what he should do. He and his girlfriend recently had “the talk” and decided to go exclusive. Soon after the talk, he goes on a weekend trip with his boys and has a little inappropriate contact with random girl at bar.
He knows that since they had “the talk” he should own up to his indiscretion. The problem is, his girlfriend broke up with the last guy for a similar offense. Although he believes what he did was “not as bad” the fact that he didn’t actually sleep with someone else means he should keep it to himself.
If you are in an exclusive relationship, would you confess if you did a little dirt on the side? Would it matter the degree of the offense?
If someone you were seeing did something inappropriate with someone else, would you want them to tell you?
What would do if you your new boyfriend/girlfriend had an encounter with someone else, right after you decided to be exclusive?
P.S. For the record, I believe that if you hook up with someone else on vacation/out of the country or state..it’s still cheating. Seriously, don’t ever ask for a pass on something like that.
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"
August 6th, 2012
1:44 pm
Hey cel I’m trying to give the girl a break, at least she was in church, maybe she has changed her life
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
1:45 pm
That should have been 2 ki ki and 1 woo
ki ki, woooo ki ki woooo, ki ki woooo…lol
Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"
August 6th, 2012
1:45 pm
Cel that had a womens football league that played in lingerie, I think that had a team here in one of the metro areas.
Into the Light
August 6th, 2012
1:45 pm
LOL@Slim. Your train story had me giggling. Thanks, I needed that.
@Swiss: Oh, it could help….help get her arrested!
@C/Stamps: Maybe she plays water polo?!?!?!?
i'm swiss
August 6th, 2012
1:46 pm
“maybe she has changed her life”
And if not, maybe she has her cell number tattooed on her cooter. Either way, who are we to judge?
Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"
August 6th, 2012
1:46 pm
Enter your comments here
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
1:47 pm
Single and Happy – Yeah, people can change
Really? – Never heard of football lingerie. I guess touch or tackle in that arena would be okay…lol
Bluzgirl
August 6th, 2012
1:47 pm
swiss…yes I have and I don’t care for it much! I’d rather drink, but not drink myself to sleep every night!
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
1:47 pm
ITL – LOLOLOL
Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"
August 6th, 2012
1:48 pm
It was tackle, with pads over the lingerie
SlimUno
August 6th, 2012
1:48 pm
Cel – My coworker said maybe the chick misread it. I’m thinking, now what could her tattoo have said that looks remotely like “Balls Deep”?
Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"
August 6th, 2012
1:49 pm
Cel here you go http://www.lflus.com/
Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"
August 6th, 2012
1:50 pm
Slim, “Yalls some creeps” (LOL)
Into the Light
August 6th, 2012
1:51 pm
@SH: We stumbled across the lingerie league one night. The ex and his BFF were staring at the TV like they’d stumbled on Nirvana.
@Slim: Bulls Weep? Like since Jordan retired?!?!?
i'm swiss
August 6th, 2012
1:51 pm
Re: lingerie football. I love it when they run the spread and go deep. And when they pound it straight ahead. And and when they slip tight end over the middle.
(Should I go on…?)
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
1:52 pm
Single and Happy – I can’t be getting tackled with stuff all loose. Pads on what parts? The breasts and cooter?
Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"
August 6th, 2012
1:52 pm
Swiss, just like my moniker says don’t judge. i tell people that were all going to be sitting on the same bench in hell, so what difference will our sins make then!
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
1:52 pm
Slim – I was trying to picture a picture
Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"
August 6th, 2012
1:53 pm
Swiss what about that balls deep play, hike hike!!
SlimUno
August 6th, 2012
1:54 pm
ITL – Good one, Didn’t think of it all all.
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
1:54 pm
Okay, wrestling maybe but not “tackled”……our parts are delicate in some sense. I know folks like painful pleasure but getting elbowed and stuff??
Into the Light
August 6th, 2012
1:54 pm
Bluz: Have you tried relaxation techniques or hypnosis?
i'm swiss
August 6th, 2012
1:54 pm
I wonder… in lingerie football when the QB is under center, does her hand get slippery?
Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"
August 6th, 2012
1:54 pm
Cel, helmets and shoulder, and knee pads. (don’t need no carpet burns) (LOL)
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
1:54 pm
Single and Happy – Is that a safe link? Do I need to look from my cell?
Into the Light
August 6th, 2012
1:55 pm
SWISS!! Stop it, man. Stop it, I say.
Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"
August 6th, 2012
1:56 pm
I think it should be safe, probably blocked for sports though.
Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"
August 6th, 2012
1:58 pm
Slim i’m sure the have pad or a shield for that (LOL)
i'm swiss
August 6th, 2012
1:58 pm
ITL — Hey, you’ve got to account for these things in your game plan. I’m guessing there’s a lot of shotgun in that league, IJS…
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
1:59 pm
Okay….checking it out from my phone
Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"
August 6th, 2012
1:59 pm
Opps I meant Swiss
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
2:00 pm
Single and Happy – Never heard of this before…wow. Where is this being held? What state?
Into the Light
August 6th, 2012
2:02 pm
Okay, I’ve to run upstairs. Y’all pray for me….this woman up there, God love her, works my nerves. Wooo saaaaa……woooo saaaaaa
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
2:02 pm
I can’t go past the initial page,without purchasing a ticket.
Single and Happy – Are you going?
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
2:07 pm
I wonder what the qualifications are to join this league
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
2:08 pm
Guess I’ve been under a rock because when I started to google, it populated on it’s own.
i'm swiss
August 6th, 2012
2:10 pm
Cel — You thinking of trying out? I’ll come cheer for you!
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
2:10 pm
Oh wow….when it says lingerie, it means lingerie
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
2:12 pm
Swiss – I’m wondering if I could quality…lol I appreciate the support though
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
2:13 pm
Single and Happy – I learned something today. I learned there are things out there that I have no clue about…lololol
i'm swiss
August 6th, 2012
2:14 pm
Cel — I usually keep this on the low-low, but I’m actually an advance scout for the lingerie league. Based on what I’ve seen, I think you have potential, but of course, we’d need to put you through a full work out.
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
2:21 pm
Swiss – LOLOLOLOL…..when does training start?
Bluzgirl
August 6th, 2012
2:23 pm
ITL…never tried hypnosis. I have tried some relaxation techniques. Just doesn’t seem to work at bed time. I know I’ve gotta find something else that works. I know it’s not good to have to take a pill to sleep, but I’m afraid it will be like before. I was miserable when all of this set in.
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
2:24 pm
Bluzy – Join the lingerie league. That’ll help you get to sleep…I’m sure. A few rounds of running across the field all scantily clad and getting tackle should do the trick
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
2:24 pm
Bluzy – Join the lingerie league. That’ll help you get to sleep…I’m sure. A few rounds of running across the field all scantily clad and getting tackled should do the trick
i'm swiss
August 6th, 2012
2:25 pm
Cel — Lingerie football is a year-round sport. What position did you have in mind? You look like a natural tight end to me.
Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"
August 6th, 2012
2:26 pm
Cel I think they used to have a team here, but folded due to poor attendance
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
2:27 pm
Single and Happy – Dern it, I was getting amped for training.
Celisea
August 6th, 2012
2:28 pm
Swiss – LOLOLOL…natural tight end works for me! Whatever you recommend coach
James Earl Harris
August 6th, 2012
2:29 pm
Cheating is cheating, no matter how you sugar coat it.