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Should you confess indiscretions?

One of our MIA blog readers would like a little advice about what he should do. He and his girlfriend recently had “the talk” and decided to go exclusive. Soon after the talk, he goes on a weekend trip with his boys and has a little inappropriate contact with random girl at bar.

He knows that since they had “the talk” he should own up to his indiscretion. The problem is, his girlfriend broke up with the last guy for a similar offense. Although he believes what he did was “not as bad” the fact that he didn’t actually sleep with someone else means he should keep it to himself.

If you are in an exclusive relationship, would you confess if you did a little dirt on the side? Would it matter the degree of the offense?

If someone you were seeing did something inappropriate with someone else, would you want them to tell you?

What would do if you your new boyfriend/girlfriend had an encounter with someone else, right after you decided to be exclusive?


P.S. For the record, I believe that if you hook up with someone else on vacation/out of the country or state..it’s still cheating. Seriously, don’t ever ask for a pass on something like that.

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
11:07 am

Cel even when they show you the pictures on face book, the answer is, it wasn’t me!!! ( it wodn’t me)

SlimUno

August 6th, 2012
11:09 am

The beau and I had a convo about cheating last night…he had a dream I told him I cheated on him or something. But anyway, he said he’d be gone if I cheated. I think there’s always a difference in how women and men handle infidelity. More often times than not, the women would be more willing to work it out. The men are ready to dump yo ass before you get the whole confession out.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 6th, 2012
11:09 am

Bluz yes it is, that’s a good one I think I’ll try one myself without the coffee.

i'm swiss

August 6th, 2012
11:10 am

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
11:10 am

Unknown ~ ok. Yes, its’s a big world and we can’t generalize any particular group but we do! So, going forward with ALL the rest of MIA topics, let’s keep that in mind.

SlimUno

August 6th, 2012
11:10 am

BF – Hey, hey, hey ;-)

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
11:11 am

Hey there, BF. Have you perfected the art of your new toy?

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
11:11 am

I need the caffeine to go with the booze! LOL! Too many late nights in a row…

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
11:11 am

Siim once you cheat on a man, you are used goods, you can laugh at all the men before you and say they just could keep her, but not at the ones after you.

Celisea

August 6th, 2012
11:14 am

If a woman is not a virgin, isn’t she “used” goods anyway?

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
11:15 am

CCA = Alicia Keys (404) 741-1075. However, I only heard one clue!

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
11:17 am

Cel, no because I never shared her with anyone, and they couldn’t put it on her like I do.

Celisea

August 6th, 2012
11:17 am

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
11:18 am

Cel you know we have some warped minds when it come to that p cat (LOL)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 6th, 2012
11:18 am

Leggs a work still in progress, I got my cheat sheet I’ll get there. :)

Celisea

August 6th, 2012
11:19 am

Um…oh, okay

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
11:21 am

Is the bar open? I’ll have an Amarula and coffee!

Celisea

August 6th, 2012
11:22 am

I sure don’t feel like working today

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

August 6th, 2012
11:24 am

Coming up for my Light in the darkness.

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
11:28 am

Mmmmm, delicious. Thanks, BBB! Just what I needed. :)

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
11:30 am

Cel…I’m hearing you there! I cannot seem to get moving today. On my third cup of coffee and it’s not working well. I typically only drink two small cups. Moving my friend yesterday has just wiped me out!!!

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
11:31 am

My CCA pick is accurate. Get to dialing!

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
11:36 am

If any of you haven’t been to Wolf Creek for an outdoor concert, please go. Acoustics on point, comfortable seating with room for a small table if you like, gravel road parking(uggghh)/grass parking, but no traffic getting out. The exit from the concert was well executed, and I was very appreciative.

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
11:38 am

Where’s Wolf Creek?

Into the Light

August 6th, 2012
11:44 am

Headed to lunch and Costco. (deep breath)

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
11:49 am

Random thought…don’t you hate it when you have to change your password on a Monday morning?!?! I keep typing in the old one!

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
11:50 am

Merk Road/Camp Creek Parkway. Very nice and very comfortable. Had a great time. Took the wrong person to attend with me, but still made sure I enjoyed myself. For free tix, I was extremely happy with my tix (Row G, Seat 20). Better than when I won tix to see Mary J at Chastain. I was all the way in the back with the squirrels in the woods. Horrible seats.

SlimUno

August 6th, 2012
11:53 am

I was all the way in the back with the squirrels in the woods

Well dayum! lol Glad you had a good time. Why was the company the wrong one? Were they are part pooper, constant complainer, just wack as heyal?

Celisea

August 6th, 2012
11:59 am

Bluzy – Funny thing about me, I only want one REEEEALLY good cup of coffee in the morning and I’m good. I think you’re having withdrawals or something…lol

On the password thingy, I jot in small letters in the back of my portfolio binder or tablet (whatever I’m using) but I do it in such a way that no one can crack or know where/what system to key into. Chile, I can change one day and forget the next morning…lol I have to key it several times for it to stick

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
12:04 pm

Hmmm…maybe it is withdrawals!!! LOL! I feel like I’m a zombie today! Of course, it didn’t help that I stayed up Sat night until 6 am to finish reading the third Fifty Shades book and then had to get up at 9:30 to help my friend move!

With my password…I know what it is, but it’s just instinct to type in the old one! It should never change first thing on a Monday or on Friday afternoon! I always write it down and keep it in my desk, which is locked up when I’m not here.

Leggs

August 6th, 2012
12:05 pm

Interesting you said “constant complainer” – Good grief, she complained about everything. Sitting there with her lips pursed most of the evening. People behind her dancing a little to close to her head (she’s sitting) and she started cussing. DJ played between intermission (he was JAMMING), she complained because she thought it was too much of a filler. It was, but it was what it is, go with it. Bytching isn’t going to get the artist on the stage any quicker. Got up to use the rest room, but person didn’t move their cooler quick enuf, she bytched about that, she’s a passenger type driver and bytched about all the drivers on the road. I was about to scream. Guy two seats from us showed up 3 hrs late drunk and she complained about “why did he even come if he’s that wasted?” Jonathan Butler came out and guys 3 rows ahead of us stood up and stayed standing. She griped and griped about why wouldn’t they sit back down. Told her it’s their tix and they’re entitled to stand or sit. Some folk don’t care about those around them at outdoor concerts. At one point had to tell her, this is all part of outdoor concert going. Stuff like that.

Hell, I needed to be there with a man just to stroke my shoulders. I was tensing up thinking that! I danced in my aisle by myself. Wobbled, cupid shuffle, etc. by myself why she sat with her arms folded. Oh well. I definitely know who not to bring next time.

Honey

August 6th, 2012
12:07 pm

I think he needs to tell his gf and they should reevaluate whether they’re ready to be exclusive. If I were her, I wouldn’t break up with him but I’d definitely wonder if he was ready to be a one-woman man.

SlimUno

August 6th, 2012
12:22 pm

Leggs – Dang! I agree…let ole girl complain from the comfort of her own home next time lol

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
12:32 pm

Leggs I think I know that girl (LOL)

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
12:33 pm

Here’s something funny…I texted the guy last night and did not remember it at all until he just replied. I take Ambien to sleep and sometimes text and email and don’t remember. Luckily, I’ve never said anything I shouldn’t. I just don’t know that I did it until the next day. It’s always something relevant.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
12:35 pm

Bluz you take ambien, is that the one that makes you do crazy things in your sleep?

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
12:37 pm

Not just the crazy text, but it kind makes the you do the things you may have been thinking about doing but wouldn’t do.

abc

August 6th, 2012
12:38 pm

First of all, if you can’t avoid cheating, then give your partner a break: tell them, and let them go.

But, if you screw up and resolve to do better, just shutup and make like it didn’t happen. It isn’t honest, but it spares the other’s feelings. Personally, I have no doubts about my girl, but I know she’d never tell me if she stepped out on me, and I’m actually fine with that. If I knew, we’d be through. As for myself, I know I’ll never cheat.

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
12:40 pm

Ambien can make some people do crazy things. With me, I usually just eat a bowl of serious and may try to return emails and texts. It doesn’t always hit me hard like it did last night, but I was overly exhausted and for some reason still couldn’t just drift off. It’s like my body was fighting. I’ve been on Ambien for about 3 years, I think. Never have done anything crazy…

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
12:46 pm

Bluz, he just never told you (LOL)

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
12:46 pm

Umm what’s a bowl of serious (LOL)

Celisea

August 6th, 2012
12:48 pm

Bluzy – Are you able to fall asleep without Ambien?

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
12:50 pm

LOL! I meant bowl of cereal! Can you tell I’m multi-tasking?!?!

Come to think of it…my ex and I did have sex when my ambien kicked in and there were tims I would remember doing it, but not remember details. He didn’t like that because he’d put in a good performance and I would say “I think it was good.” LOL! I told him that if he didn’t like it, then we needed to not have sex so late.

SlimUno

August 6th, 2012
12:51 pm

I’m not quite sure but i’ll take CEREAL for $300 Alex

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
12:52 pm

Cel…I can fall asleep on the weekends without it, but I’m a night owl and just stay up until I’m ready to sleep. During the week, if I don’t take it, I will toss and turn and my mind will race. I think part of it is because I get stressed about my boss. I have anxiety issues, so this helps to take the thoughts and worry at night.

Celisea

August 6th, 2012
12:53 pm

Bluzy – Gotcha. Don’t want you to get “hooked” on it. You think you toss and turn now BECAUSE you’re body is dependant on it?

Celisea

August 6th, 2012
12:54 pm

If I may, you should do something really exerting and see if that will help you knock out.

Celisea

August 6th, 2012
12:56 pm

Bluzgirl

August 6th, 2012
12:56 pm

I think I may be slightly dependant on it. If I had to stop it, I’d be afraid that I would go back to having insomnia. I don’t take it on the weekends to give my body a break and I’m usually fine. I’ve tried to not take it during the week when I was super exhausted, just to test. I just tossed and turned as was up and down all night! I think my tolerance is a little higher since I’ve taken it for so long…many nights, it still takes 2 hours for it to really kick in.

Single and Happy "don't judge others simply because they sin differently than you"

August 6th, 2012
12:56 pm

Bluz all jokes aside, have you been getting that prescription from the same doctor? Isn’t it just supposed to be short term?