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Do you have dating paranoia?

I am unofficially calling dating paranoia a legitimate condition that many singles suffer. It is the unreasonable, unhealthy fear that everyone you meet is a murderer, psycho, or sexually confused individual that is out to get you. Newsflash: There are normal people out there and they usually find a way to find one another.

If you are paranoid about everyone one you meet and date, perhaps the issue is you. I’m just saying. At what point do you decide to trust your own instincts? All of us have made stupid decisions in the selection process of dating, but aren’t we supposed to learn from them?

Have you ever dated someone who just seemed too good to be true? Do you get paranoid that they will turn out to be someone else?

Do you get the sense that sometimes we look for things to be wrong with people to avoid getting too close?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
3:50 pm

LOL@disco. I’m staying right here, next to the sane people. Those crazies can only fake it for so long, and I don’t wanna be within shooting shouting distance when they do.

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
3:50 pm

I’m still here. Kind of popping in and out today. I have a lot on my plate early in the week. By Thursday, it’s usually smooth sailing. The hubs always accuses me of being a bull in a china shop. Maybe it’s my height? Always been tall and awkward so I feel the need to be aggressive? HST! Help me out wit your MD (graduate psychology level classes) havin self! :lol:

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
3:52 pm

zing!

CC: 1
HST: 0

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
3:53 pm

ITL~ I’m just trying to keep up with y’all so I can be classified with the zingers too… :oops:

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
3:54 pm

Mmeello – ??

disco

July 31st, 2012
3:54 pm

CC – wait. I’ve always been short and slight so I feel the need to be aggressive. the theory can’t work both ways can it?

Exiled!

July 31st, 2012
3:55 pm

Common.so when we have DUI and murder stuff on the blog, we come to u for help..where about in the A do u work..location wise?

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
3:55 pm

Comon Cents – Who told you about the zinger triplets? Did someone pull you aside and tell you our secret?

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
3:56 pm

ITL – We’ll have to add another backing (in the zinger snack pack), if CC is trying to jump in. A quad of zingers??

disco

July 31st, 2012
3:58 pm

celisea – didn’t they make bonus packs?

SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!

July 31st, 2012
4:00 pm

disco – I’m not sure of what the living arrangements will be but his kids are in another state with the mother I assume.

Ex – I never claimed to be perfect but I sure as hell can tell you that you would not find me marrying some dude I haven’t even known for 30 days. Dude must have some serious talk game

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
4:00 pm

disco – Yeeeep….shole did

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
4:02 pm

disco~ I guess it could. The only way to NOT be aggressive is to be average? Sounds about right to me…

Ex~ I’m in Decatur where it’s greater. (Actually, right outside off Clairmont @ I-85)

C~ You guys told me about the Zinger Triplets on my first day. Sometime near the end. I have a good memory too… LOL!

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
4:02 pm

I dunno….getting kinda crowded in this here pack….

Leggs

July 31st, 2012
4:03 pm

Comon ~ how you know about the zingers if your first time blogging was last week? Curious?

disco

July 31st, 2012
4:03 pm

slim – and speaking of old boy’s talk game. do you think that was the whole deal? he talked her into it? any chance she was lonely, desperate, hopeful, anxious, whatever – just out there in the world looking for any old body to marry? I mean it’s your girl so you might have a clue as to where her head was at. actually I think I might like it better if it was on her than if she got “talked” into it.

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
4:03 pm

:) I kid, I kid. The more the merrier. But I don’t wanna be one of those specialty, limited time items that doesn’t sell and ends up on the shelf at Big Lots. Nope.

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
4:04 pm

@disco – Maybe he’s loaded.

disco

July 31st, 2012
4:06 pm

ITL – yeah. I guess I am a little too into this tale huh?

Exiled!

July 31st, 2012
4:07 pm

Slim??
its not talk game unless u mean his weener made her talk in bed..from pleasure ofcourse. :lol:

she got handled real goood, im sure…unless he is mad loaded with money.

she is married,which is an upgrade and thats all that matter! :lol:

@ITL..crowded in here? u not very welcoming, ha…??

stop frowning ITL :grin:

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
4:07 pm

I dunno….getting kinda crowded in this here pack….

LOLOLOL…Well Comon Cents, I was gonna ask my blog bro and twin twink to make room but we’ll have to see what they say….in case you’re interested in traveling with us :)

Exiled!

July 31st, 2012
4:09 pm

Common..i think i have met u..been to some law office there.

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
4:10 pm

Hush, Ex! I’m only frowing because Dreams unlocked the blog doors this morning, but didn’t come back to open the bar. Wait til he gets back….I’mma hide his coaster.

@Cel: I guess the right thing to do is vote on it. :)

Leggs

July 31st, 2012
4:11 pm

Comon ~ I now see your 4:02.

SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!

July 31st, 2012
4:12 pm

disco – I think you pretty much summed it up: lonely, desperate, hopeful, anxious, whatever – just out there in the world looking for any old body to marry Even the chicks father told her she has some serious daddy issues lol She was just ‘in a relationship’ with her on again offf again bf and was talking about potentially marrying him. I told her even then, that whatever issues you two have had are not going to disappear just because you get married. They will probably get worse. So the fact that they were just together recently, now you done jumped up and married some other dude in a matter of seconds is what’s so shocking.

Ex – Since when did marriage equal upgrade??? I can think of plenty downgrade marriages…toe up from the start lol

disco

July 31st, 2012
4:12 pm

ex – that mindset (that marriage, any marriage, is an upgrade) might very well be what got her into this. those of us who wish old girl well are hoping that marriage is an upgrade. that’s not always the case though. it can very well be a downgrade.

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
4:15 pm

Comon ~ I now see your 4:02

I went back to try and find exactly where I read it, but I couldn’t. Thought it was the first day, but maybe not. **shrugs**

I have had a lot of fun with you guys the past few days. I actually look forward to down time in my office now because I have something to do.

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
4:17 pm

Slim/disco~ I agree 100%. There is another attorney in here that handles divorce/family court issues and some of the things she encounters! Whooo! They make my last marriage look normal!

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
4:17 pm

ITL – Yep, I agree. We have to get it from Comon Cents though if she’s even looking to travel. I mean she mentioned but didn’t express a desire to join the banging triplets

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
4:18 pm

Awww, Comon, you’re okay with me. You’re a breath of fresh air. Now we can’t just be inducting folks all willy nilly into the Zinger pack, but I think there’s a spot available with the Nutty Bars. :) You’ll be in good company, Swiss is over there (but don’t tell him, he doesn’t know….)

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
4:19 pm

Common..i think i have met u..been to some law office there.

Which one? There are several over here.

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
4:21 pm

ITL – Yep, I agree. We have to get it from Comon Cents though if she’s even looking to travel. I mean she mentioned but didn’t express a desire to join the banging triplets

Weren’t we just talking about accepting proposals from people you don’t know all willy-nilly?! How I look getting hooked up with y’all. I ain’t known you long enough… J/k I wanna be a banger! :lol:

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
4:28 pm

I’m about to blow this popsicle stand. Y’all be sweet, and don’t forget to VOTE!

Leggs

July 31st, 2012
4:31 pm

I chat with you guys in the morning.

PEACE!

Exiled!

July 31st, 2012
4:32 pm

Disco/Slim…

see..i wont go there with u since u want to bring us back to the angry black woman theme. :lol:

joke… :lol: as long as u tell me u aint dating/men jaded.

Exiled!

July 31st, 2012
4:35 pm

who u voting for ITL?

I support the NO vote since this aint doing Jack for south dekalb except for long rides on marta buses…wack!

(I dont live in s.dekalb tho, in case u wondering but they are getting a raw sewer deal on this thing)

SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!

July 31st, 2012
4:36 pm

Ex – No angry black women deal over here. I’m good ;-)

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
4:36 pm

I voted NO this morning on my way in. That is a BS referendum…

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
4:37 pm

@Ex: I’m voting no. The bill, as written, is a mess.

disco

July 31st, 2012
4:38 pm

I’m not angry all the time. lol. I have admitted here that it seems like the angry black woman gets results when it comes time to settle disputes and have some conflict resolution. so as long as some folks need to be dealt with my inner angry black woman will never be laid to rest

Exiled!

July 31st, 2012
4:44 pm

Commonm and ITL u some nice,sexxy,informed,intelligent chics..im short on adjectives..I would have voted NO too if i were in ur imigration shoes.. :lol:

Disco… so i was 50% correct… :lol:

Slim..how was MIL on the vacay? did u get a pass or A grade

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
4:44 pm

In the words of my twink…I’m about to blow this popsicle stand…

Peace out!

SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!

July 31st, 2012
4:49 pm

Ex – I gave a brief recap of the trip…but long story short, I believe all is well with MIL. She told me she hopes I end up her daughter in law. ;-)

Exiled!

July 31st, 2012
4:50 pm

Slim..good job… ur job is half done.

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
4:56 pm

Alrighty, guys & twinks, I am out! Have a great night and DON’T FORGET TO VOTE!!!

disco

July 31st, 2012
5:02 pm

Ex – in my opinion, all women have a touch of angry woman inside. some of us are more reserved about letting her out than others but she resides in all of us. problem is you men like to blame her because y’all can’t run all over certain folks. nothing but a cop out. as for slim’s trip, guess what you are really asking is if she managed to get an upgrade.

Jensen Mutilator

July 31st, 2012
5:15 pm

At one time I dated what I thought was a zombie……Turns out she was Jewish.

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
6:14 pm

disco – I’m all over your 5:02 A woman that’s not a live doormat is always angry. What do you do? Pick one…..easy or not. In between eventually defaults to one or the other…lol

there’s so much truth, I couldn’t let it slide