Do you have dating paranoia?
I am unofficially calling dating paranoia a legitimate condition that many singles suffer. It is the unreasonable, unhealthy fear that everyone you meet is a murderer, psycho, or sexually confused individual that is out to get you. Newsflash: There are normal people out there and they usually find a way to find one another.
If you are paranoid about everyone one you meet and date, perhaps the issue is you. I’m just saying. At what point do you decide to trust your own instincts? All of us have made stupid decisions in the selection process of dating, but aren’t we supposed to learn from them?
Have you ever dated someone who just seemed too good to be true? Do you get paranoid that they will turn out to be someone else?
Do you get the sense that sometimes we look for things to be wrong with people to avoid getting too close?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!
July 31st, 2012
2:55 pm
Petting zoo HA HA HA…funny thing is we went to Animal Kingdom park in Orlando and I saw a few gazelle’s on the safari
swiss, I could be mean and ask if either of the blog gazelles happened to be in Orlando this past weekend, but I won’t.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
2:56 pm
WillieD – I’m good with the funning. Because of that though, it will be diet coke
disco
July 31st, 2012
2:57 pm
TW – no need to apologize. I just don’t do pets. you mentioning missing dogs just reminded me of the few dogs in my neighborhood that I would like to make go missing. I’ve joked about just straight kidnapping the unattended dogs, tossing them in the car and driving them across town and dropping them off. as Bernie mack joked – “I took him to the park”.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
2:58 pm
Y’all don’t think there’s some sort of plague or hoax or spell turning the blog women to gazelles??
Ut oh, I bet someone would LOVE to rip my hide out…lol
disco
July 31st, 2012
3:01 pm
C – plague, hoax, spell? sounds voodoo-ish to me. (I say this while trying to figure out where I can get some goat blood, ostrich feathers and crushed tiger teeth real quick for the antidote).
Willie Dynamite
July 31st, 2012
3:02 pm
Cel – haha that might be good though. We can’t have a table full of clowns we need at least 1 sane one in the bunch.
James Earl Harris
July 31st, 2012
3:03 pm
Well Disco I have never met these elusive “Normal” people, but you may be right on it being relative. Like I said, I have never met anyone that qualifies as normal, not even myself and I really would not want to be like everyone else or considered normal, I love who I am, if a person can’t deal with me that’s fine it’s not like I’d force someone to.
ThirdWheel
July 31st, 2012
3:05 pm
LOLOL Disco!!!
i'm swiss
July 31st, 2012
3:11 pm
Slim — Go ahead, be mean. It’s kinda fun sometimes.
Hey, by the way, I saw your doppelganger this weekend. I thought it was you at first, until I snuck a peek at the CT, which just didn’t compare.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
3:12 pm
disco – All I know is, I’m scared…lol I’m seeing some scary crap going on among the women folk and it’s not pretty. I just need to know if I need to hop off and run…lol
WillieD – Hey, it’s what I’ve done in the past…lol Folks drunk and hooking and and little ‘ole Celisea kept sober. Not all the time the position I wanted to be in, but danggit somebody had to keep things straight. Consider this my acceptance of staying above the fray while eating wings and fries
HST
July 31st, 2012
3:12 pm
Holy crap at today’s blog. Since its taken the direction it has today…
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i'm swiss
July 31st, 2012
3:14 pm
A table full of clowns? Is Bluz having a dinner party?
(Sorry, Bluz, it was sitting there & I couldn’t resist)
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
3:14 pm
LOL….you walked righ into that
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
3:15 pm
Slim – Congrats on a fantab getaway
SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!
July 31st, 2012
3:18 pm
swiss – You are a mess lol
disco
July 31st, 2012
3:18 pm
swiss – you crazy but I’ll jump in. “bozo meet homey, homey, bozo”. “Clarabelle, you are sitting over there next to bubbles”. “pennywise. I expect you to be on good behavior”.
SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!
July 31st, 2012
3:19 pm
Cel – Thanks
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
3:19 pm
Ok.. I’m back! And boy have I got one for y’all…
Had a second meeting with a DUI client today to review the dashcam video. Why is this her second visit to the office and she was DUI coming to the office both times?!? How you gonna come DUI to the DUI attorney? Not the first time it’s happened but just the first time I had someone I could share with.
disco
July 31st, 2012
3:20 pm
CC – in old girl’s mind that’s what she’s paying you for. her job is to get the DUI, your job is to fix it. lol.
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
3:20 pm
disco~ LOL @ Pennywise. I love Stephen King! “We all float down here!”
bluzgirl
July 31st, 2012
3:20 pm
Gee thanks, Swiss! LOL!
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
3:22 pm
I knew she was a lush when she gave me the classic line:
“I only had one drink so I wasn’t drunk!”
When a client says that, I automatically start thinking “Yeah, if that drink was in a gallon jug.” and the video always bears it out! LOL!
HST
July 31st, 2012
3:23 pm
CC, you should totally call her out on that behavior. Wow…just wow.
SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!
July 31st, 2012
3:26 pm
Cel – The after-weekend-getaway bliss was short-lived because I found out someone very close to me got married yesterday to a man 20years her senior, with three kids, that she has known for only a few weeks.
Frankly, I disappointed…
James Earl Harris
July 31st, 2012
3:26 pm
Also Disco my neighbor is Bosnian and they slaughter a goat every new year, soooooo if you really need the blood, I can provide a hook-up on that.
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
3:29 pm
HS~ Call her out and say what? Obviously, she is an alcoholic. This is not her first DUI. Therefore, she will have to go to A & D evaluation. It is pretty much out of my hands, but until she gets into treatment, the behavior will continue. Since I represent her, all I can do is rush the court date (no continuances, LOA’s etc). It’s not like being an MD, HST. I don’t really get to advise my clients on their lifestyles. I mean, realistically, when I deal with a drug dealer, what he does is illegal. I can advise a career change, but at the end of the day, my job is to make sure he doesn’t get convicted.
disco
July 31st, 2012
3:29 pm
slim – 3 minor children or 3 adult children? I know you are more concerned about the short time they have known each other but I had to ask. does your friend have kids? have you met the guy yet? what’s your take? sorry. this just has the makings of a good story.
JEH – good looking out.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
3:29 pm
Slim – Don’t let that let the wind out of your sail. All you can do is be there for here. Bask in yours though
Leggs
July 31st, 2012
3:29 pm
WOW, Comon. She has a drinking problem meaning she no longer has any control. Did her DUI stem from drinking the night before and it still in her system, or did she drink a lot before coming into the office that day?
Exiled!
July 31st, 2012
3:30 pm
I used to be sceptical when i heard u chics say there is men shortage..After reading that Third Wheel was sleeping with an elephant that rolls in dirt,im tempted to believe uall.
Dang!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
so ThirdWheel, are u obese as well..
coz honestly, i cant imagine a fly,slim to reasonable weight chic choosing a morbidly obese chic outa ALL the dudes out there.
Dang…
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
3:30 pm
DAAAMMMN, Slim! Have you talked to her to find out why she married this cat? For me, it was definitely a rebound thing, but he wasn’t 20 yrs my senior and he didn’t have any crumb snatchers hanging off his jock…
Into the Light
July 31st, 2012
3:32 pm
Back from a meeting and LOL at the petting zoo and the dinner party. S/N on the dinner party – at least parking wouldn’t be an issue, since they all come in one car.
Okay, I’ll stop.
Slim: I gotta hear more about this.
CC: I know you keep Febreeze in the office, bc that lush smell is not pretty. P U!
disco
July 31st, 2012
3:33 pm
celisea – here’s that disclaimer you asked for. I’m about to say something crazy.
CC – you sound realer than a mug.
Exiled!
July 31st, 2012
3:33 pm
choosing a morbiidly obese dude, not chii
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
3:33 pm
Did her DUI stem from drinking the night before and it still in her system, or did she drink a lot before coming into the office that day?
Her DUI was from a night out with the girls. She was on her way home when that happened. But, it would be my suspicion that old girl drinks everyday. And not a little. That is the reason for the evaluation.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
3:35 pm
disco – Go for it.
I’m thinking CC sounds almost like a dude…lol Just always keeping it so real and all
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
3:36 pm
CC: I know you keep Febreeze in the office, bc that lush smell is not pretty. P U!
Had to open te doors and windows. We could have gotten a contact in there! LOL! Thanks to GOD she was not in my office (we met in the conference room)…
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
3:37 pm
Damn! I sound like a dude? Maybe I need to lighten up!
No, seriously, work is just different than personal. It’s all about logic.
disco
July 31st, 2012
3:37 pm
see celisea? that’s why the disclaimer serves no purpose. the “realer than a mug” was my going for it. in my real life whenever I say “than a mug” folks crack jokes.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
3:38 pm
Comon Cents – No honey, work your magic…lol Keep bringing the real
disco – My bad…lol
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
3:39 pm
I thought you was aiming for a disclaimer on the crazies and clowns and voodoo and gazelles and stuff….lol
ThirdWheel
July 31st, 2012
3:40 pm
Yes, Exiled I am overweight. At the time I started dating him though I had just lost 80 pounds.
Into the Light
July 31st, 2012
3:41 pm
(ITL singing and skipping) Crazies and clowns and gazelles…..oh my!
SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!
July 31st, 2012
3:42 pm
Disco – His kids are I believe like 11, 14, 15 or something like. The chick has one small daughter…No I have never met this guy, never talked to him. I’ve only seen a picture of them on the internet. After one week of knowing him she claimed she loved him. I just have never been that smitten with anyone after knowing them a few days.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
3:42 pm
disco – I thought you was gonna jump on another post and “get something said”…I didn’t realize all in the same breath…lolololol
Realer than a mug = Comon Cents Work it girl!!!
disco
July 31st, 2012
3:44 pm
ITL – just don’t go into the light. crazies and clowns and gazelles love company.
slim – what will their new living arrangement be? her moving in with him or him moving in with her? honestly if it weren’t for the kids I’d give them both a pass under the premise of “to each his own” but seems like a lot of innocents are involved.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
3:46 pm
Comon Cents – You still here?? Don’t you dare go nowhere
That rhymed. You’re like a
breath of fresh airtornado blowing up in this mug.SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!
July 31st, 2012
3:46 pm
And I can understand his stance, being his age having an AA young tenderoni on his arm. However, I still can’t fathom the rush to the alter and no she isn’t preggo lol
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
3:47 pm
Sometimes feeling panicked will make you make rash decisions. Hopefully it works out for the best.
Exiled!
July 31st, 2012
3:49 pm
Cee..living arrangements?
it dont matter but i would think she moving with him…
they are married so …Slim is just some outsider looking in….like her ish dont stank!