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Do you have dating paranoia?

I am unofficially calling dating paranoia a legitimate condition that many singles suffer. It is the unreasonable, unhealthy fear that everyone you meet is a murderer, psycho, or sexually confused individual that is out to get you. Newsflash: There are normal people out there and they usually find a way to find one another.

If you are paranoid about everyone one you meet and date, perhaps the issue is you. I’m just saying. At what point do you decide to trust your own instincts? All of us have made stupid decisions in the selection process of dating, but aren’t we supposed to learn from them?

Have you ever dated someone who just seemed too good to be true? Do you get paranoid that they will turn out to be someone else?

Do you get the sense that sometimes we look for things to be wrong with people to avoid getting too close?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

348 comments Add your comment

ThirdWheel

July 31st, 2012
1:57 pm

I’m moving out December 28th and never looking back. I don’t feel anything but anger towards him. I will never feel sorry for anyone else. This has taught me many life lessons….

Leggs

July 31st, 2012
1:57 pm

@Leggs not if you had breathing problems and the smoke was coming in your room but oh my that is another excuse -l hear you, but doesn’t a nasty house affect the quality of air inside it??

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
1:59 pm

ITL re-entering the blog, now in her happy place and chanting her mantra…….rrrruuuuummmmmm…….ooohhhhmmmmm….

(waving) Hey BF!!! Glad to see my BBB made it in. :)

SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!

July 31st, 2012
1:59 pm

O/T: Well the weekend getaway with the beau to meet his folks went well. When we were all giving out hugs and saying our good-byes on the last day, his mom whispers in my ear that she hopes I’ll be her daughter-in-law soon. His folks were pretty down to earth, so much so, that it felt as if I had hung out with them before. So I’d say two thumbs up ;-)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 31st, 2012
2:00 pm

Ok I’m typing to dead air, never mind I’ll be gone early today anyway.

Leggs

July 31st, 2012
2:01 pm

“I asked him about it and he said he was depressed because his ex wife use to do the cleaning and if he did it he didn’t have the strength to finish it because he would be sad all over again”

Okay, come on. Now you’re just f__king with us.

THANK YOU, swiss. That is a bunch of poppy cock right there. Who stops cleaning a bathroom because they’re overcome with tears because the ex used to clean it. You still have to use the bathroom, where’s the smarts in that???

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 31st, 2012
2:03 pm

Hey there my Light in the darkness.

Yeah I had to come in at 5:30 this morning to do reviews for my overnight crew.

i'm swiss

July 31st, 2012
2:04 pm

Alllllllllllllllllllllllllllrighty then…

Now for something completely different.

So, yesterday this dude I beat earlier in the season in my tennis league calls to see if I’m up for practicing a bit. The guy’s got the shots, he just hasn’t quite figured out how to put it together in a match. So, I go out & hit with him for a bit. We rally for about 30 mins, practice some serves & returns, and I guess he started feeling good about himself, because then he wanted to play a set. I got up 4-0 on him before he decided it was getting late & he had to get back home. :lol: Was that mean of me?

Willie Dynamite

July 31st, 2012
2:04 pm

Afternoon All,

Rarely am I speechless…….

ThirdWheel

July 31st, 2012
2:05 pm

@Leggs I am hardly ever at home and I keep my side of the house spotless reguardless! I know he was putting on a show after the fact!!! He was a good actor and I fell for it. I admit it I was stupid but I have never been divorced so I didn’t know.

disco

July 31st, 2012
2:08 pm

slim – WOO HOO! good for you and good for the rest of us. we can talk “normal” relationship issues for awhile.

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
2:09 pm

Are we back on track/schedule?

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
2:09 pm

Hey there, my BF! Muah! Kisses for my BBB. :)

@Slim: Alright now…do I hear Mendelssohn?? :) Glad it went well.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 31st, 2012
2:09 pm

3rdWheel I thought you said after the bed broke down, that was the last straw. What did you do go buy another one?

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
2:11 pm

BLACKFOOTE?!?!? Please read: We are trying to put that mess to rest. If you stop talking, they’ll stop talking. I’m sorry you came in late but we’ve been through it once!!!!! PLEASE!!!!!!!!!

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
2:12 pm

@Swiss: Not mean at all. It wouldn’t do him any favors to enable unrealistic notions of his ability. Better to give him something to keep striving for. IMHO….

disco

July 31st, 2012
2:13 pm

swiss – that wasn’t mean. you didn’t want to play, he did. you just showed him that he’s got some more work to do. he should be thanking you.

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
2:15 pm

That was mean :evil:

SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!

July 31st, 2012
2:15 pm

swiss – No matter if it was mean or not, it surely was funny. lol

ITL – I’m not sure about buying wedding dress books just yet lol but I’d say it’s a move in the right direction. They were really cool people so it was easy breezy…there is nothing like some down to earth folks. I was amazed at how affectionate they all are towards each other, especially with the niece, nephew their grandmother. Plus they were well-mannered…The niece had just turned 13 during the weekend but we all went out for breakfast. She actually said the grace before we ate and i was amazed at her praying skills (if there is such a thing). Gave me chills

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
2:15 pm

WD: You like the bow I put on my mullet ponytail today? Red, white and blue for TeamUSA!! Speaking of, you will be glad to know I’ve been cheering for Lochte….even though he’s a gator.

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
2:17 pm

@Slim: Now THAT’S what I’m talkin’ bout, Willis! ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 31st, 2012
2:17 pm

Ok lil sis, I’ll zip it up. (my mouth that is)

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
2:18 pm

@BF: Or, as For Real would say……

ZZZZZZZIIIIIIIIIPPPPPPP!!!! :lol: :lol:

Sassy Me...The blacker the berry :-)

July 31st, 2012
2:19 pm

You like the bow I put on my mullet ponytail today? Red, white and blue for TeamUSA!!

:lol:

disco

July 31st, 2012
2:19 pm

slim – I agree. that’s what’s up. good for you. y’all, I want to be like slim.

Leggs

July 31st, 2012
2:20 pm

No, that wasn’t wrong of you at all swiss. Someone you beat wants to come over and practice and learn some things from you. You taught him well. Don’t come to me to learn my craft and my technique cuz I’m going to ace you back to the walk of shame to your car!

disco

July 31st, 2012
2:21 pm

swiss – I’m not even the type to let a little kid win a game so you know I’m not checking for letting a grown person win. dude better recognize.

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
2:21 pm

I’M KIDDING….

No, seems like you opened up a can of whupp-a__ on him. That’s the way it goes.

Leggs

July 31st, 2012
2:23 pm

“I admit it I was stupid but I have never been divorced so I didn’t know.” – ok, last comment because I don’t want you believe this hype.

You don’t have to be divorced to wonder if this is a true statement or not. A relationship broke up, a deep one at that. You’ve been there as gf and bf before, right? You break up, you going to stop cleaning your a$$ and the bowl that holds your a$$. I think not.

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
2:23 pm

dang, disco. Warn a girl before you pop out with something like that. I nearly spit orange drank (yeah, I said drank) all over my monitor.

He better recognize!! (the visual makes me laugh)

Leggs

July 31st, 2012
2:24 pm

Oops, sorry Celisea. I’m reading late.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 31st, 2012
2:24 pm

LOL…….@Light

I’m pulling up out of here for the day. Back to the hole under the stairwell.

As always y’all have a good one.

i'm swiss

July 31st, 2012
2:25 pm

Thanks for the reassurances, ladies. Although, truthfully, it was a rhetorical question. I don’t really give a crap if it was mean, myself. :lol: As Herm Edwards would say, “You play to win the game!!!” :lol:

ThirdWheel

July 31st, 2012
2:27 pm

Ok Celisea that was really mean….
@Blackfoote I made him fix it and then threw him out the Master bedroom…

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
2:27 pm

Bye, BF!

;) @ Swiss. And that’s why you’re my blog boo buddy.

I have a 2:30….back later.

Willie Dynamite

July 31st, 2012
2:27 pm

ITL – (dayum did she catch me staring at the c’s/d’s) I’m sorry I didn’t even notice your hair. Um yeah nice touch, looks good. Team player hunh.
Lochte may be a Gator but he is a classless douche.

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
2:32 pm

ThirdWheel – Danggit I KNEW you was going to go there. You’ve been punched several times this mornign and ya kept right on skipping like you do with McNasty. But nooooo, Celisea is the meanie. Girl, I said nothing no different than the other. Too bad so sad if you took it that way. On page 1 or 2, I might have apologized. You shut this mug down for half an hour and you come back and say I was mean? Ummm, okay then. I still wish you the best.

Did you miss For Real’s entire post. I think that was the harshest and you said I was mean…yeah, ummm okay…whatevs

Leggs – LOLOL :)

Willie Dynamite

July 31st, 2012
2:35 pm

Cel – but c’mon you are mean. Lol. I can’t imagine you having a lil alcohol in your system.

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
2:36 pm

WilieD – I almost choked…. Why not pray tell????? I waiting.

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
2:37 pm

WillieD – Even though I burst out laughing. I DO NOT appreciate that. To think, I was gonna have a beer the next time we did wings. I’m so done with you for that…lololol

disco

July 31st, 2012
2:37 pm

C – no worries. we’ve just added another gazelle. soon enough we’ll have a regular little petting zoo up in here.

ThirdWheel

July 31st, 2012
2:38 pm

I was just answering people’s questions though… Everyone has a story to tell.. No one is perfect… life lesson 2012 learned….Now help my friends find their dogs please!!

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
2:39 pm

disco – We gonna have to some sort of warning ahead of reading posts. I burst out laughing again. That caused folks to look at me.

Okaaay….NOT A PETTING ZOO….LOLOLOLOL

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
2:41 pm

There is a difference in really learning, getting over and moving on versus staying there, wallowing in it and blaming it on learning and mistakes. There’s a will (or should be), built within each of us to move it up a notch. I don’t know anybody for making mistakes, Lord in heaven KNOWS I’m not perfect and still have things I’m overcoming. I will not whine about it though. Y’all gonna have to raise the BS meter or something. Geesh!

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
2:41 pm

James Earl Harris

July 31st, 2012
2:42 pm

“There are normal people out there”

That is a bold faced lie, there is no such thing as “Normal people” EVERYONE has qwirks, whether you admit it or not. If you call yourself “normal” you’re a liar, I’m not normal I like drinking straight lemon juice in front of people, I can drink a whole large bottle without getting sick and it creeps people out. (yum yum)

For gun shy people, I’ll keep right on moving, but don’t feel bad about it, it is one of those things that people go through and hopefully work through.

disco

July 31st, 2012
2:43 pm

TW – i don’t know what you heard about me but help someone find a pet is not something I’ll ever put a lot of time and effort into. I’m the person that would say that they could go out and get another dog that looks just like the old one. I know animal people love their pets and all but I’m not an animal person.

JEH – there is normal. thing is normal is relative.

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
2:44 pm

Off topic…is there a topic currently??

How about everyone is on vacay. Well, not everyone but the essential partners on my team. Why oh why did the dude that hangs out of work come over to say he’s in a meeting in the building until five and to text him if anything pops off. Well, sure enough during the lunch hour my phone was ringing off the hook as well as folks IMing me….because he was nowhere to be found. I send him two texts…think he’s answered? Nope, not yet. I can bet you he’s at home. When the cat is away the mice will play. No lie…he just responded while I was typing this. Ummm, I sent that message earlier

ThirdWheel

July 31st, 2012
2:54 pm

Sorry Disco I was just trying to change the subject… I have one more thing to add… Another reason why I haven’t left is because my dad keeps telling me to stick it out and stay the term of my lease…Just like he has been stuck in a 40 year loveless boring marriage.. I see the connection now…

Willie Dynamite

July 31st, 2012
2:55 pm

Cel – awww I was just funning with you. Its ok you can still have a drank with ya boy. I’ll behave, I promise.