Do you have dating paranoia?
I am unofficially calling dating paranoia a legitimate condition that many singles suffer. It is the unreasonable, unhealthy fear that everyone you meet is a murderer, psycho, or sexually confused individual that is out to get you. Newsflash: There are normal people out there and they usually find a way to find one another.
If you are paranoid about everyone one you meet and date, perhaps the issue is you. I’m just saying. At what point do you decide to trust your own instincts? All of us have made stupid decisions in the selection process of dating, but aren’t we supposed to learn from them?
Have you ever dated someone who just seemed too good to be true? Do you get paranoid that they will turn out to be someone else?
Do you get the sense that sometimes we look for things to be wrong with people to avoid getting too close?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:00 pm
Where is Blackfoote and Single and Happy. They went missing together?
disco
July 31st, 2012
12:01 pm
C – stop. lol.
ThirdWheel
July 31st, 2012
12:02 pm
I am dying this morning…. My coworkers must think I am crazy… LOL I never want to be with a dirty man again. I found out about all his dirty habits when we moved in together. I use to clean his bathroom and I always wondererd why his shampoo and body soap was always heavy….. Stupid me thought oh he must be using very little but then again he is obese… I had to see it for my own eyes… oh and I LOVE sleeping by myself now. I use to wake up to the sounds and smells of butt scratching going on… I kid you not….
Into the Light
July 31st, 2012
12:02 pm
C,you know you’re wrong for that.
SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!
July 31st, 2012
12:03 pm
CC – Yeah, I almost made myself throw up in my mouth when I started thinking about ball sweat, leftover doo doo crumbs, peery undies after days of not bathing is just sickening.
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
12:03 pm
C~ They said to tell you they went on the scuba trip without you.
Into the Light
July 31st, 2012
12:03 pm
Third: STOP! PLEASE!!!
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:03 pm
disco/ITL – What? I wasn’t implying anything…lol
Into the Light
July 31st, 2012
12:04 pm
Dayum, Slim.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:04 pm
Comon Cents – That’s AOK with me but that’s a bit odd dontcha think? lol And if men are taking trips together, NOOOO worries here.
ThirdWheel
July 31st, 2012
12:05 pm
Common you never get use to the smell. I am obessed with smelling good so I always keep sprays around and I would spray around him and the house. I know better though.. I stayed in the relationship too long thinking he would change… If you can’t change your draws then you can’t change yourself….
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
12:05 pm
So, getting off the nasty dudes, what’s your favorite frangrance to smell on a dude? (Besides soap…)
disco
July 31st, 2012
12:06 pm
C – I know we all like “investigation discovery” but there will be no sleuthing on the blog today. lol.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:06 pm
Anybody still got “crumbs” in their bvds, they should be reduced to heading back to pre-K. That’s right up there with learning how to tie your shoe, learning how to “whip” good. I better not see “crumbs” falling out of anything. That’s a DEALBREAKER
Into the Light
July 31st, 2012
12:07 pm
In my quest to become more physically fit and lose weight, I am adopting the ThirdWheel/Slim/ForReal diet plan. For breakfast: Read posts about Third’s ex. Appetitite gone. Repeat for lunch, dinner, and snacks as needed, or until you pass out.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:07 pm
disco – I ain’t said a thing. Matter of fact, wasn’t going there. Y’all kick that one opened. We’re still on hygiene.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:08 pm
ITL – LOLOLOLOL
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:08 pm
That’s what I did with my kid when she was 4/5 ish…”wipe again, and again, and again”
Into the Light
July 31st, 2012
12:08 pm
@CC: I love Sexual Fresh by Michel Germain.
single gal
July 31st, 2012
12:09 pm
I dated someone once who seemed nearly perfect. Then I googled him – turns out, he had been lying to me about his personal life and his beliefs. From now on, I always google dates before it gets too serious. I wrote about the experience in my blog: http://www.thehopefullromantic.com
Into the Light
July 31st, 2012
12:09 pm
@C: Or, as a guy I know told his son – “wipe until it stops slipping and starts gripping”
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:11 pm
ITL – Sho nuff….lololol
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
12:11 pm
ITL~ I like that. I also like Vera Wang Man and Nautica Blue. Even though it’s old, I still love Cool Water too.
Into the Light
July 31st, 2012
12:11 pm
And Light Blue by Dolce and Gabbana
disco
July 31st, 2012
12:12 pm
I just thought of the line in big daddy where the little boy is screaming “but I wipe my own ass”. lol.
ThirdWheel
July 31st, 2012
12:16 pm
I love the way a man smells so much that I shave with a man’s shaving cream instead of a woman’s cream. Is that normal? I have met a couple of men that smelt really really good but they don’t like me because I am not ghetto enough… Ohhh don’t get me started on my ex’s diet…. I came home from work yesterday and the house smelt like someone just took a good one. I had to put my hand over my nose. I can’t wait to be away from him!!!
Leggs
July 31st, 2012
12:16 pm
Obsession Cologne is never old. Love it on a man.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:17 pm
Anybody ever shaved your dude?
disco
July 31st, 2012
12:17 pm
third wheel – and what’s the hold up again??
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
12:18 pm
3rd wheel~ Diet is always a huge factor. He needs to have lots of pineapple juice in it if he wants the love below and no garlic or broccoli at least 3 days before.
Leggs~ I haven’t smelled that in YEARS! But it is a good scent. What about Drakkar Noir?!? LOL! I’m going back to middle school now!
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:19 pm
And no, not talking about replicating the scene from The Color Purple…lol I almost convinced one, once. I begged (cause I think it’s sexy) but he as scared…lol He tettered several times on letting me and then would look at me and say, “nuh uh, see you’re playing” He was just chicken.
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
12:19 pm
C~ I shave Mr. with a straight razor (and cut his hair). He also shaves me. It is a reciprocal agreement…
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:21 pm
Comon Cents – I hear ya.
Leggs
July 31st, 2012
12:21 pm
disco ~ I was thinking “and how long you going to stay??”
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:23 pm
I would move back home with my parents in an ugly situation if I no other outs. But knowing me, I’d rent a room before I stayed in that situation or going back to my mom. Just saying. You gotta crawl before you walk and if “crawling” means breaking free of that kind of situation, then crawling it would be.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:25 pm
Nothing like your own spot…even it’s four walls. As long as it’s clean and crime free and it’s yours, that’s better than being “stuck.”
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
12:25 pm
C/Leggs/disco~ I echo the sentiments of all of the above. They is no way in Sam Hell I would stay in a situation lke that with a nasty ass man. What’s the old saying? Grass, gas or ass. Whatever I gotta sell to make this ish work for me! LMAO!
disco
July 31st, 2012
12:25 pm
leggs/C – I remember vaguely that there’s some reason why the move hasn’t happened. I can’t remember it and I surely can’t imagine one so I figured I’d ask. me, myself, personally – I’d be out.
SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!
July 31st, 2012
12:26 pm
Dolce and Gabana
Cel – I know a dude who says he does his finaly wipe with a little alcohol
bluzgirl
July 31st, 2012
12:27 pm
I haven’t read through everything yet. I’m home sick today, so just now logging in…
I wouldn’t say I’m paranoid, but I’m skeptical. Like Disco, I’m a bum magnet. I’ve dabbled a little in the internet dating, but I just can’t get into it. I’m not very trusting of these men online and I don’t want to give my number out right away. I think I’m going to give that up…
bluzgirl
July 31st, 2012
12:27 pm
I haven’t read through everything yet. I’m home sick today, so just now logging in…
I wouldn’t say I’m paranoid, but I’m skeptical. Like Disco, I’m a bum magnet. I’ve dabbled a little in the internet dating, but I just can’t get into it. I’m not very trusting of these men online and I don’t want to give my number out right away. I think I’m going to give that up…
disco
July 31st, 2012
12:28 pm
C – I thought of my grandmother always saying “a shack of your own is better than a mansion that’s somebody else’s”.
CC – I’m with you. by hook or by crook but I’ll make it happen.
Into the Light
July 31st, 2012
12:30 pm
I think something is rotten in Denmark. IJS…..
ThirdWheel
July 31st, 2012
12:31 pm
@Disco our lease is up next June… I am dropping deuces at the end of the year though… Want 2013 to be a good year!!
disco
July 31st, 2012
12:31 pm
uhn uhn. bluz. like disco nothing. I attract bums to me. you are attracted to bums. there is a difference. lol.
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:32 pm
CC/disco – I’ve heard that too, grass, gas or ass…by any means necessary. You can’t just lay limp, while complaining. You want to change your situation, get out there and do it. People don’t believe God help those who help themselves. I dare anybody to give it a try and see if doors won’t open. I’m silly enough to believe that. But ain’t nothing gonna change if you’re sitting on your hands or waiting for change to find or fall on you.
Slim – Ouch, that’s gotta burn…lol It’s clean and germ free though. That will work…lol
Bluzy – Being a bum magnet is not a free pass to dabble in that. You see a bum, run!!!
Celisea
July 31st, 2012
12:33 pm
disco – LOLOLOLOLOL @ your 12:31 HUGE difference
disco
July 31st, 2012
12:33 pm
TW – august, september, october, november, december. REALLY??? can’t you just pay the re-let fee or something?
Comon Cents
July 31st, 2012
12:35 pm
#rd~ That would be one Hella broken lease. IJS…
ThirdWheel
July 31st, 2012
12:36 pm
Oh I am living in a nightmare…. I stopped cleaning the house because he would never keep anything clean so I have to clean up the areas I want to use like the kitchen. I dare not sit on his couches in the living room. I have packed up half of the house already and I will do the other half soon. I told the landlord I want my name off the lease because I don’t want to be responsible for nothing!!!! I give the ex a month to live though since he don’t pay his own bills…. paying house bills is no joke…With a credit score in the low 300’s I will probably see him and my dog in one of those pay by the week motels…