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Do you have dating paranoia?

I am unofficially calling dating paranoia a legitimate condition that many singles suffer. It is the unreasonable, unhealthy fear that everyone you meet is a murderer, psycho, or sexually confused individual that is out to get you. Newsflash: There are normal people out there and they usually find a way to find one another.

If you are paranoid about everyone one you meet and date, perhaps the issue is you. I’m just saying. At what point do you decide to trust your own instincts? All of us have made stupid decisions in the selection process of dating, but aren’t we supposed to learn from them?

Have you ever dated someone who just seemed too good to be true? Do you get paranoid that they will turn out to be someone else?

Do you get the sense that sometimes we look for things to be wrong with people to avoid getting too close?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

348 comments Add your comment

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:04 am

Ewwww ewwww ewwwww, that’s just nasty in every way

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
11:06 am

@disco: :shock: Those sheets better smell like Gain, because they’ve just been washed. :lol:

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:10 am

Febreezing will not do away with cooties. That is just plain nasty. Some women, some women, I tell ya. Just a dang shame.

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
11:13 am

C~ Like the woman who proudly admits she just screwed your man in your house? Yeah. I’m like “You was too cheap to ask him to take you to a hotel?!”

disco

July 31st, 2012
11:14 am

C – some women are a daggone shame but the shame here mostly lies with the nasty A dude who is juggling chicks before he gets around to changing his sheets. I can imagine that many a dude has used the same sheets more than once. (none of the blog gents of course). lol. I don’t know that my friend was saying dude really did that or if she was saying it to get a rise out of the other girl but I still thought it was funny.

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:15 am

Comon Cents – It’s stupidity like that that skews the dating pool and have men believing “women” as a whole are stupid. Which brings us in a roundabout way, to today’s topic…lol

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:17 am

disco – By no means can we leave out Rufus…lol He’s really believing he’s doing the dang thang. Just recycling stupidity laced with cooties.

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:20 am

That’s about as bad as the duffle bag dude that came on bragging about going down on chicks with no bathing or mouth washing in between. Nasty man bragged about his duffle bag and change of clothing. What are changing clothes for if you ain’t hitting the tub or shower? Nasty mouth….ewwww He said one chick told him his breath smelled like cooter. He admitted that he left one and went to (help) another. Car trouble or something. Leaned in to kiss her….SANS BRUSHING AND SCOPING HIS MOUTH. Just plain naaaasty

disco

July 31st, 2012
11:20 am

CC – re the “bold” chick who admits to screwing in your house. I’m not THAT chick but in my day I’ve discovered that most women don’t like for another woman to know her business. if you can tell a chick about her man, her house, her job, her kids, her last vacation – it will drive her mad. I always tell guys that if any woman ever calls me thinking she’s going to question me over the phone she’s going to get an earful even if I have to make up something. it hasn’t happened to me lately but I swear I can’t stand for a chick to call talking about she found this number in her man’s phone. grow the eff up.

For Real

July 31st, 2012
11:21 am

What up blog fam!

On topic: According to webster here is the definitioin of paranoia

1: a psychosis characterized by systematized delusions of persecution or grandeur usually without hallucinations
2: a tendency on the part of an individual or group toward excessive or irrational suspiciousness and distrustfulness of others

So in laymens terms, paranoia means women, chick, girl, and lady. And some of y’all wonder why you attract the men you do. CAUSE CRAZY IS OOZING FROM YOUR VEINS!

For Real is now warming up some banana pudding.

SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!

July 31st, 2012
11:21 am

ITL – PEERY?? OMG, I haven’t heard that term used in a looong time. FUNNY :lol:

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:21 am

BUT….in the realm of dating, absolutely NOTHING surprises me.

ThirdWheel

July 31st, 2012
11:22 am

@Into the light… Well at first I thought the smell was because he is overweight, then I thought oh maybe he is not drying his clothes enough then I saw it for my own very eyes….. He got up out of the bed, put on his work clothes and went straight to work… mind you he works in the food industry. No water hit his body that day and then I knew….. I can’t even imagine leaving the house funky….

ThirdWheel

July 31st, 2012
11:23 am

@Common I LOVE that channel!!! I go to sleep with it on…. LOL that is bad… LOL

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:24 am

ThirdWheel – After that first encounter of realizing he wasn’t taking baths, did you still give him some? Not to knock you or anything but sometimes we perpetuate some things. That should/would have been the next conversation. No bathing, no ass. Period. Again, not knocking you. Just wondering.

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
11:27 am

Have mercy. What’s the name of his restaurant? Funk in a Bucket? (BLECH!)

For Real

July 31st, 2012
11:29 am

HELL NO SHE DIDN’T STOP GIVING HIM SOME!!!!! HELL IT WASN’T UNTIL THE EIGHTH TIME BEFORE SHE REALIZED THAT OLD FRENCH FRY SMELL WASN’T BECAUSE A FRY GOT LODGE UNDER HIS BELLY!!!!

ThirdWheel

July 31st, 2012
11:29 am

Oh I called him out and he would shower when I was staying with him. Then when our relationship started going down hill he would stop showering… His ex wife told me he did the same thing with her… he is just a nasty person. I should have seen the signs though because plant life was growing in his bathroom but, I thought all guys were dirty like that…

ThirdWheel

July 31st, 2012
11:31 am

Into the light… I just spit out my milk!!!! LOLOL Try a pizza chain…..

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:32 am

For Real – LOLOLOLOLOL…..man stoooooop. A bit of delicacy please sir :)

ThirdWheel – Gotcha. Girl, you did NOT say plant life growing out of his bathroom….lolololol No ma’am, take it from me, there are some clean finicky dudes that exists. I have no complaints. I’ll take that over nasty :)

ThirdWheel

July 31st, 2012
11:35 am

Oh me too Celisea!! I want a CLEAN man like my daddy!! Those are hard to find!!! I cried the first time I had to use his toilet. I had to squat…. but once again he told me he was going through a divorce and depressed and just didn’t have the strength to clean…. lies all lies… he is just nasty!

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
11:38 am

And some men even smell like vanilla lotion…..ain’t that right, baby? ;)

disco

July 31st, 2012
11:38 am

third wheel – that needs to go on a list somewhere. if you have to squat to use a person’s bathroom then…

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:38 am

ThirdWheel – Trust me hon, there are PLENTY clean men. I think once you’ve completed disconnected from McNasty, you see things much brighter :) You did not say squat. Ewww ewww ewww. You should have bought gloves and sponges, a mop and Clorox Clean-up, bit the bullet and cleaned it….since you had to share space with him.

I keep latex gloves, Clorox Clean-up and sponges. Toss those bad boys out once I’m done. My kid was half doing the bathroom. I fixed all that. Bought all the supplies…now what??

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
11:38 am

No bathing, no ass. Period

I just SOL! (Snorted out loud) I know people in my office are like WTH?!?

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
11:40 am

just didn’t have the strength to clean

How much strength does it take? If he’s that weak, let the scrubbing bubbles do the work, and then wipe that isht off.

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:40 am

Nothing like rubbing up a man, clean shaven and freshly bathed :) :)

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
11:41 am

My hubby is INSANELY clean. I dare to say he is cleaner than I. I like the bathroom to smell of Clorox and disinfectant, but he likes to be able to see the vaccum marks on the carpet. LOL! That’s Fine wit me, though!

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:41 am

Comon Cents – That’s taking a hardline….for that kind of dude. Really though, why even be bothered. I mean we all get sweaty and just naturally need a bath everyday. But, for it to be a chore and of course being a chick that’s gonna love her man and stay (not saying me), then you need to make some adjustments. Don’t climb on me if you can’t bathe….PERIOD

kimmie

July 31st, 2012
11:44 am

Morning/almost afternoon Gang!!!

4 Real – Okay, I’m hating that chick Skylar was screaming Shut Up at now!!!

On topic – Doesn’t hurt to be cautious. Paranoid is tough to deal with though, kinda like a commitment phobe. I had to get over that “looking for the other shoe to drop” syndrome when I met hubs. I had to fake it till I made it!

I can deal with a “little” clutter, but nasty no-can-do!

kimmie

July 31st, 2012
11:45 am

My boo always smells wonderful!!!

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:45 am

And you will not bask in soft Oil of Olayed skin (from soap and lotion) :) , all soft and smelling good, only to drag you funky behind on me. Heck no! My clean to your clean and vice versa…or nothing. I’m just saying. Yeah sometimes the sweaty gets in the mix but as a rule and everyday living, if I’m bathing then so are you.

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
11:47 am

@Comon: My ex was like that. I’ve come home to find that man with a bucket of Murphy’s oil soap and water, wiping down the baseboards. :)

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
11:47 am

I could not be with the kind of dude that I had to buy soap and aftershave for as Christmas/birthday/anniversary gifts to try and give him the hint that his ass is funky! That could go on the list too! “If you buy him things to deordorize his butt because you can’t stand the smell of him…” LMAO!

disco

July 31st, 2012
11:48 am

well here’s a quick nasty chick story. guy friend of mine says he and another guy stopped by this chick’s house to chill for a bit. he says they had brought beer and asked her for an opener. old girl went in the kitchen and dug around in a sink full of cold, grimy dishwater that looked like it had been sitting for days and pulled out a can opener. dude said he just put his beer back in the car.

C – my son takes upwards of 3 showers daily. I called him on it like – why? he’s not even doing anything strenuous. he says he takes his wake up shower in the morning. if he works or goes to school in the afternoon he takes another shower before leaving. if he goes out anyplace at night he takes a shower before going. and then he takes a shower before bed. low count, 2 showers a day if he doesn’t have to leave the house. 3 plus depending on what he’s doing.

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
11:49 am

ITL~ Funny you say that. We have hardwood stirs and I cam home on Sunday to find him oil soaping the stairs. LMAO! I love that!!!

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
11:50 am

….and scent is important to most men, too! There have been many times I’ve climbed in bed after showering/washing my hair and I could tell he was sniffing my hair as he spooned up behind me. :)

LOVE a man that smells good.

SlimUno - back to reality, wiggety wack!

July 31st, 2012
11:51 am

I’m not going to be with a dude that does not believe in being clean…just ain’t gonna happen cap’n. :roll:

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
11:51 am

C – my son takes upwards of 3 showers daily

disco~ That has nothing to do with cleanliness… He is a teenaged boy; go figure! :roll:

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:52 am

disco – Ewww ewww ewww….lol That’s what I have for the nasties…any kind of nasty.

disco – I can do two a day…not all the time though. Not three..that’s too much. Usually, I don’t do showers. I prefer baths. I think, being a woman, a sitdown is in order :) I’ll do showers if I oversleep or if I’m heading back out and I’m short on time. If I have time though, whether it’s work or going out later, it’s a bath. And when Aunt Flow comes to visit, that’s an automatic 2 times a day…

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
11:52 am

LOL@Comon. I love the smell of Murphy’s oil soap. One of the first things he said to him mom the first time she came to the house was, “Don’t you love the floors?” :)

For Real

July 31st, 2012
11:53 am

Dude: Dang I got something in my nose! Got it! Whew!

Chick: Um baby you got a big one hanging out. Let me get a napkin so you get it and wipe your hands.

Dude: Thank you baby. You know what don’t bother I’m too tired. I’m goint to let air dry and fall off on it’s own.

Comon Cents

July 31st, 2012
11:53 am

Slim~ I feel you! I always wonder how a chick coulld be with Pepe La Pew. Do you just get immune to the smell?!? Ughhh… I think I just threw up in my mouth a little.

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:54 am

For Real – You are soooo nasty….lol Ewww ewww ewww

disco

July 31st, 2012
11:55 am

CC – he’s 23. he also keeps a pretty clean house. I can’t front. if I had to say I missed one thing about my emancipation (his departure) it was the free housekeeping.

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:55 am

That kind of stuff…seeing it (folks picking or digging), ALWAYS make me gag….literally. Especially if I’m eating. My sister is worse than me…lol A lady at church as digging, of course she had a kleenex but still. I told her, “look at so and so”, she turned and looked and instantly gagged….lololololol Her stomach is waaaay weaker than mine.

Into the Light

July 31st, 2012
11:57 am

I hope we change topics soon….I’m feeling a little queasy.

For Real

July 31st, 2012
11:58 am

Kimmie: I really want Skylar to die a really, really, violent death. I wish Tuco would come and do some fugged up ish to Skylar. I can’t stand that trick!

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:59 am

ITL – Me too. I was thinking after reading For Real, glad I wasn’t eating lunch.

Something, anything lighthearted :)

Celisea

July 31st, 2012
11:59 am

I’m listening to music as I type/work :)