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Sexting: Is everyone doing it?

A recent study at the University of Michigan revealed that sexting has “become a normal part of the dating process for young adults.” That means it’s not shocking, unexpected, or inappropriate for men and women aged 18-24. So our smartphones are now turned into xxx-phones, that apparently is a part of the wooing process, umm does this news bother anyone?

I wonder about the fine line between sexting responsibly – and sexting irresponsibly i.e. Congressman Weiner style.

When do you think it is appropriate to send a dirty text message or picture? Guys, if a woman sent one without you asking her first, would you judge her? What if you had just met her?

Do you think that there is a way to pull off sexting so that it intensifies the attraction instead of kills it?

Have you ever received a racy text or picture that you did not want?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

421 comments Add your comment

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
3:30 pm

:lol: :lol: Thanks, kimmie! These kids are quite hilarious. There mistake is thinking we parents are dumb!

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:31 pm

That’s right. Do you if no one else is involved or can get hurt. What’s the issue? I wish I had a bit of that “let loose” in me…okay not to the point of being stupid (no slight to bluzy). I’m just saying.

disco

July 30th, 2012
3:33 pm

I hate to go here – bluz you know I got mad blog love for you – but bluz is our blog gazelle. we are working on blessing her with strength, courage and wisdom and perhaps one day there will be a transformation. what’s the upgrade from gazelle?

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:33 pm

@disco: Carcass?

Bluzgirl

July 30th, 2012
3:33 pm

Cel…I know. I feel like I have gained more respect for myself over the past 6 months or so. Maybe that’s why I’m second guessing myself for doing this.

Kimmie…both of us are single.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:34 pm

All I know is I’m a cougar/lion or something of the such. No gazelle here…lol Noooo can do

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
3:34 pm

Disco we used real money, pitching pennies, playing cards, we were some bad ass kids (LOL)

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:34 pm

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:35 pm

@Bluz: Okay, I was kidding about the carcass thing, but seriously, I can’t figure you out.

Bluzgirl

July 30th, 2012
3:36 pm

ITL…I can’t figure myself out most of the time!!! That’s why I go to therapy and also come here!

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
3:36 pm

Celisea the problem is someone does get hurt, she does, so she shouldn’t do it.

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
3:37 pm

Bluz – Is there some reason why you wouldn’t want to date this guy then? I mean, sounds like he’s a good friend. Is he a good person you could see yourself actually dating?

disco

July 30th, 2012
3:37 pm

single and happy – we were in grade school. we didn’t have real money and it’s a good ting too because I know the older kids would have robbed us blind doesn’t matter that we were related. and as for bad A kids, how come we used to practice rolling joints with crushed up leaves. (not that I’m trying to top you at being bad).

ITL – wrong but funny. certainly not the response I was looking for though.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:37 pm

Bluzy – But why…if I may? Why is “sex” top of mind/the list for you? Can’t you hang out and not go there? I mean men are great for making “good friends.” You should save some of them for just that. Yeah, I know all about sex always being on the table and what not but that’s controlled by you. You can let them know, there will be NONE OF THAT, throw back a couple of brewskies and K.I.M. They’ll come to love and respect you as a friend in return.

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:38 pm

Bluz, Bluz, Bluz…. If you think that where you are now is beyond a casual encounter, then just chalk it up to needing your oil changed and keep it moving….. But you will make yourself (and possibly me and others) crazy if you keep mind-f#cking everything to death.

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
3:39 pm

Bluz, if you don’t mind me asking, but how long have you been going to therapy? are you using it like confession? just to get your dirt off your chest so you can do it again?

Bluzgirl

July 30th, 2012
3:40 pm

kimmie…he is a really nice, good guy and a good friend. He’s just a lot like my ex in the fact that he’s a musician, he’s self-employed (which is better than the ex), he recently had to move back home. I don’t know…I can see myself liking him as more than just a friend, but he’s not the kind of guy I should end up with. I can see us maybe dating, having fun and hanging out…but, nothing serious. At least, I don’t think so. It’s a little confusing…

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
3:40 pm

Bluz ~ I know you’re not dense, that’s what I apologized. Girl, STOP! Chill out! Stop looking for validation in these guys. Once you validate yourself, you’ll pick better. Until then, you’ll always get a bottom feeder.

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
3:40 pm

Disco, it was our lunch and candy money, and some time the big kids did come through and take it (LOL)

Willie Dynamite

July 30th, 2012
3:40 pm

Popping back in, then out again. Let’s see what did I miss?

All the blog ladies and gents were bad azz kids but are “normal” and cautious parents now. Hahaha

Cel – still collecting sponsors.
Leggs – has a 18 year old in the house by the street lights. J/k I know you are an a+ mom.
Bluz – got them yams split. Good for you long as we don’t talk about it for 2 months.
read yall later unless I walk in on a barbershop talk

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
3:41 pm

Bluz – Comon is right about the instability of musicians, as you probably already know. I do know some upstanding men though, where the music is a side thing. My next-door neighbor and his wife have “regular” jobs, but he has a little jazz band he plays saz in on the side and she sings with them from time to time. Their daughter now sings and plays the piano and they are active in the church music ministry. In other words, if music is a love of yours, there is no reason you have to exclude it or men that are into it from your life.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
3:42 pm

The gazelle thing made me think of this:

Every day a lion wakes up in Africa and he knows that he must run faster than the slowest gazelle if he wants to eat to survive. Every day a gazelle wakes up in Africa and knows it must run faster than the slowest gazelle if it wants to survive. Moral of te story? Whether you are a lion or a gazelle you had better wake up running…

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
3:43 pm

Self employed, had to move back home? what the heck is that. how is that an option??

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:43 pm

gazelle you had better wake up running…

…..and stay away from Urkel the gazelle, bc you know his clumsy behind would trip you and you’d be the one to get eaten while he stands there saying, “Did I do that???”

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
3:45 pm

CC again – looks like you have now officially met bluz.- Hilarious.

” I wish I had a bit of that “let loose” in me…” girl, girl, girl. I could easily be slut. I ain’t, I is just a saying (lol).

An upgrade from gazelle is a carcass???? I must have missed something somewhere.

WillieD ~ mine will be out the house in 19 days (yeah I’m counting) and she’s only 17.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:45 pm

I’m still skimming because I can’t just read and blog as normal…

WillieD – Shet it up!!!

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:46 pm

Where the deuce is Dreams? I need a shot of tequila. Maybe two.

Bluzgirl

July 30th, 2012
3:46 pm

Cel…maybe it was the Fifty Shades books that I’m reading! LOL! No…seriously. I really, really enjoy sex. I think he would have respected it if I had said that I didn’t want to do that. But…I did want to at some point in the night. We went out and had such fun together.

Single…I’ve been going to therapy off and on for almost 2 years. I try my best to utilize it, but sometimes do feel like I use it as a confessional. I really do feel like therapy has helped me tremendously. It may be hard for you guys to believe it, but had this been a couple of years ago, I would most likely be a wild child!!!

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
3:46 pm

comon (rotflmao) I was looking for that story

i'm swiss

July 30th, 2012
3:46 pm

“Bluz – got them yams split. Good for you long as we don’t talk about it for 2 months.”

Willie D:lol: Man, I was sitting here thinking the same thing. Getting the cobwebs dusted isn’t a problem. Turning the next 3 months into one endless episode of Dr. Phil is.

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
3:46 pm

Sax, not saz!!LOL!!

Bluz – Okay, then just keep as a good friend. As for dating with nothing serious, no can do. You’re either in or out – you know yourself! I personally could never do that “nothing serious” stuff, cause I know me, I catch feelings once me and a guy “go there”. You strike me as the same type and there is nothing wrong with that. To thine self be true.

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:47 pm

@Leggs: I was feeling a little frustrated when I wrote the carcass thing. :( I’ll go to the corner.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
3:47 pm

LOL @ ITL :lol:

Bluz~ And there it is “self-employed and had to move back home” WHAT?!? How old is this dude? Moving home is not an option. If music is not paying the bills then you had better get a real job and support yourself until music WILL pay the bills if you’re that good. Otherwise, deuces! You’ll end up supporting this loser because “he’s a nice guy”. (I think I just threw up in my mouth a little when I said that)

disco

July 30th, 2012
3:49 pm

y’all (mostly ITL though) are tripping today.

Bluz – thanks girl for breaking up the monotony.

Bluzgirl

July 30th, 2012
3:49 pm

I keep trying to tell myself to just get over it…chalk it up…I enjoyed it tremendously. I don’t know why I’m over thinking it so much!!! Maybe that’s where the therapy comes in…making me question my actions.

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:49 pm

LOL@Swiss. Scooch over…I brought us a bottle of tequila and some limes to share. ;)

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:52 pm

@disco: I’m adding a disclaimer to my moniker. “ITL is in a pissy mood today. Nothing she says or insinuates should be taken as gospel. If it is taken as gospel, ITL, nor her estate nor any of its representatives shall be held responsible for any damages incurred including but not limited to emotional, mental, or physical.”

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:53 pm

Bluzy – Girl, I think we all LOVE sex…like that. Still, you have to be smart about choices and decisions. You just needed some…it’s okay.

It’s all good like they just said, just don’t come whining 3 months from now.

So Dr Brit is a done deal??

Bluzgirl

July 30th, 2012
3:53 pm

Comon…I’m not even going to say his age…let’s just say he’s old enough to not be living back at home. Although, he is taking care of his parents. He is a handyman and independent contractor. He does bring the money in, but had a rough winter and ended up losing his place. That’s part of why I hesitate also. My ex was living with his mother when we got together and he ended up using me for a place to live…CANNOT do that again.

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
3:53 pm

Bluz – Girl, sounds like he ROCKED your world!! Bada Bing!!! But moving back home – nope, CC is right, you’ll end up supporting him. Quit questioning it. This could actually be progress for you – girl you got your cobwebs cleaned, had some fun! Keep it light when you see him, don’t try to DATE him cause he can’t afford to right now anyway and KEEP IT MOVING!!

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
3:54 pm

Bluz always breaks up the monotony.

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
3:55 pm

Bluz – Sweety, they ALL say they are taking care of the parents!LOL!! That’s the standard line honey! You can take care of parents from your own place – believe me it can be done!!

i'm swiss

July 30th, 2012
3:57 pm

ITL — Did I hear body shots? :lol:

Hey, where’s Slim? I swear I saw her doppelganger this weekend. Thought it was her at first, but then I checked the CT. Could definitely be her stunt double, though.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:58 pm

let’s just say he’s old enough to not be living back at home. Although, he is taking care of his parents. He is a handyman and independent contractor. He does bring the money in, but had a rough winter and ended up losing his place

Chile why…huh, just why???

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:59 pm

At least get screwed by someone more than a bottomfeeder. Shoot ain’t nothing extra in it if you going for the low hanging fruit.

Ladies, we need to teach her what it means to AIM HIGH

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:59 pm

That sounded GOLDDIGGER-ISH…lol

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
4:00 pm

Bluz ~ two consenting ADULTS made beautiful music between the sheets. Ok, you had an a sexual excursion. Own it, smile about it go about your business. Bear with me WillieD/swiss, but if you don’t mind me asking, Bluz, what part of the swaying of the hips has left you feeling guilty?

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
4:00 pm

Bluz, if you can’t change the people around you, CHANGE the people around you!!

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
4:00 pm

(ITL now on the bar singing)

Jose Cuervo, you are a friend of mine…
I like to drink you with a little salt and lime…
Everytime we get together I sure have a good time…
You’re my friend, you’re the best, mi amiiiiiiiigggoooooo……

@Swiss: Your turn, but for the love of all that’s holy would you please shave? I think I got a hairball after that last shot. :lol: :lol:

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
4:01 pm

O/T ~ did you guys know you can break up the $5.99 bag of cherries at Publix and make your own bag? I didn’t know that.