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Sexting: Is everyone doing it?

A recent study at the University of Michigan revealed that sexting has “become a normal part of the dating process for young adults.” That means it’s not shocking, unexpected, or inappropriate for men and women aged 18-24. So our smartphones are now turned into xxx-phones, that apparently is a part of the wooing process, umm does this news bother anyone?

I wonder about the fine line between sexting responsibly – and sexting irresponsibly i.e. Congressman Weiner style.

When do you think it is appropriate to send a dirty text message or picture? Guys, if a woman sent one without you asking her first, would you judge her? What if you had just met her?

Do you think that there is a way to pull off sexting so that it intensifies the attraction instead of kills it?

Have you ever received a racy text or picture that you did not want?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

421 comments Add your comment

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:06 pm

@Leggs: Yep. And you’re right about being “bored”…. if you said that, my parents would find something for you to do. But then again, we loved being outside so much, we wouldn’t come home until dark. After dark in the summertime, because we would play hide and seek after the sun went down.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
3:08 pm

Bluz~ Did you have mixed emotions at the time you did it? If not, don’t second guess yourself now.

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
3:08 pm

Single – You are right, now that I think about it. They want to hand their kids everything. And you are right about the college thing, but you said one key thing in describing yourself – your are SKILLED. No, college is not for all, but there is also no place anymore for someone with no skills, not in this world. You gotta be TRAINED in something.

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
3:08 pm

Celisea ~ eye candy should give you some sort of reprieve from the madness (lol).

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
3:09 pm

Here’s an interesting article on marriage. I really agree with the first one
http://www.parade.com/news/views/guest/7022-marriage-owners-manual.html

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
3:10 pm

Bluz, Bluz, Bluz, we are your therapists…whatcha do??

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
3:11 pm

kimmie/Single~ while college is not for everyone, these days having an undergrad degree is what having a high school diploma was 20 years ago. I know people who have Bachelor’s that are working retail or fast food because they can’t find a job. Skilled laborers are staying in their positions longer so there are no opportunities for advancement for the new workers coming in. They had better get something on the ball or they will end up unable to support themselves.

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
3:11 pm

Into the light, I can honestly say I don’t ever remember being bored, (except at church (LOL)) but we had imaginations back then, we could make a game out of anything.

disco

July 30th, 2012
3:11 pm

CC – we used to hop trains too. first train story, one of my cousins hopped a train and that bad boy sped up and he was afraid to jump off. he ended up getting off almost 100 miles away and his mom had to drive to go pick him up. another train story. I was in elementary school and we were instructed to stay off the tracks. one day a group of us, walking home from school decided to not only walk the tracks but to cross the overpass. as we are prancing over the overpass a car is coming down the street. just so happens it was my mom and two of her sisters (those cousins were with me). needless to say I think they drew blood when we got our butts whooped.

CC again – you haven’t met bluz yet have you?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
3:12 pm

Comon no you didn’t go there with the train rides to and from. We did all that stuff, grab rear end of cars with our skates on. Numerous things you weren’t suppose to do but it was all harmless.

Great Scott it’s time for me to flush out, have a good evening folks.

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:12 pm

@Celisea: I was thinking Piece of Cake cupcake with salted caramel icing. Mmmmmm…… :)

@Comon: I know! We were talking about that kind of stuff, too! How we’d go off down in the woods and slide down these big rocks into the pool below. Couldn’t tell us nothin’! :lol:

@BF: Yep. And she was saying how her mom would leave her in the car while she went in the store (windows rolled down, of course).

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:13 pm

Leggs – Yummy…lol Just a bit…and I’ll take that

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
3:13 pm

comon even with that, some don’t have the ability to even get a BS degree, but meanwhile, america is sending all it’s unskilled jobs to other countries

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:13 pm

ITL – You should do a cake run. You fly, I’ll buy :)

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
3:14 pm

disco~ No I haven’t. But after being here a few days, I felt alright just jumping in. LOL! I didn’t cross the boundary, did I?

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
3:15 pm

We used to ride on the back of the bus, then jump off at some random location. Sometimes we had our roller skates on let the bus drag us. Best times were when we played in the streets!

Bluzgirl

July 30th, 2012
3:15 pm

Leggs…you can probably guess what I did! I enjoyed it at the time, but just feel weird about it because he is just a friend and I’m not breaking the mold that I’ve talked about that needed breaking…

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:15 pm

@C: No, I should not. I’m making a great effort to curb my sweet tooth. I even bought some sugar free popsicles to help get me past the cravings….

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
3:16 pm

Disco you wrong for this “CC again – you haven’t met bluz yet have you?” (rotflmao)

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
3:16 pm

comon even with that, some don’t have the ability to even get a BS degree, but meanwhile, america is sending all it’s unskilled jobs to other countries

Sad, but true. And, unfortunately, because of that we will end up being the people who support them.

Bluzgirl

July 30th, 2012
3:16 pm

I can see myself liking him, but he reminds me a lot of my ex…only, much nicer and more ambition…He’s not really someone that I should get into a relationship with.

disco

July 30th, 2012
3:17 pm

BF – we did that too. carhopping we called it. in the wintertime when there was snow/ice.

ITL – we did that too!! (it sounds like I’m hopping on everybody’s bandwagon – LOL). I have a scar on my forehead to this day from an accident at the cement factory. there was a cement company on our block complete with what we called the “cement pond” where the trucks dumped at. between the cement pond, the gigantic industrial sized bricks stacked in the back and the fact that it all backed up to the tracks we were always into something.

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:17 pm

ITL now stabbing her eyes out with a plastic fork…..

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
3:19 pm

Comon ~ reading your post about you would lose your rabid a$$ mind if your children did the things you did growing up. I told mine just the other day that I’m one of those parents who remembers what it was like being a teenager. Meaning she can’t pull the wool over my eyes. She tried to play me Saturday evening only to find herself sulking in her bedroom because I wouldn’t let her go to a popular party.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:20 pm

ITL – I’m sooo disappointed. What’s wrong boo boo..my twin twink?

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:20 pm

@disco: That’s what got us laughing this morning – talking about “how did we ever survive!!” I know the world was different back then, but I wonder if kids were tougher?? I dunno….

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
3:20 pm

At least I know I am not the only one with a dysfunctional (but happy) childhood behind me! LOL! I have done all the things y’all are talking about.

Bluz~ Don’t know you, but it sounds as if you date the same guy over and over again with slight variances. Maybe you should look at what it is about you that attracts this particular type of guy and vice versa.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:20 pm

Leggs – You’re a good mommie :)

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:21 pm

@Twink: I’m just trying to stay “on the wagon” where sugar is concerned. I’ve been hearing too many horror stories lately, and ITL’s not getting any younger. ;)

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:22 pm

At least I know I am not the only one with a dysfunctional (but happy) childhood behind me!

@Comon: We like to say we put the “fun” in dysfunctional. :lol:

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
3:22 pm

Bluz ~ we all know what you did! Again, if you didn’t regret it while you were doing, don’t regret it now. Own it and move on. However, if you need a therapist to figure our why you’re sexing all willy nilly, you have bigger issues. Clamp on a chastity belt and work on you.

Oh boy on not breaking the mold. That’s because you’re hanging around the same type of people. If you want something different, change the darn scenery!

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
3:22 pm

Leggs~ I have to second C on that!

Bluzgirl

July 30th, 2012
3:23 pm

Comon – Trust me…I’m trying to figure it all out. Darn musicians! LOL

I’ve debated all day whether or not to tell the blog about this. It’s just so weird to have such mixed emotions about something that was VERY enjoyable.

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
3:23 pm

Comon I hope you mean supporting them through our taxes, cause it sure want be any other way. Mine need to figure it out.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:23 pm

Ut oh, what did Bluzy go and do? Do I need to go back? I’m only skimming today

Bluzgirl

July 30th, 2012
3:24 pm

I already had the therapy appointment scheduled before this happened. :-)

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
3:24 pm

Single – Not just unskilled work is being sent overseas now. A person should not aspire to have an unskilled job anyway, even is outsourcing wasn’t going on. Not accusing you at all Single, but alot of folks have chips on their shoulders when you start talking about college and start spouting about how college isn’t for everyone and how they know people who make more money than folks who went to college, yada yada. Bottom line, you are going to have a nearly impossible time out here with no degree and no training of any kind. Those who didn’t go to college and are doing well know how to do SOMETHING – type, fix cars, plumbing, HVAC, electrical work, construction, cooking, etc.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:25 pm

Bluzy – Did you sleep with him? Oh Lawd, does it all have to be in vain? All the stuff and advice we gave? Please say no, that’s not it.

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
3:25 pm

AAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!

Bluz: If the blog were a Peanuts cartoon, your relationships would be Lucy with the football and you’d be Charlie Brown. smh….

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
3:25 pm

Leggs well said, but will she hear it this time?

Bluzgirl

July 30th, 2012
3:25 pm

It’s not so much that I regret it…I just don’t want it to be weird between us. I have to keep myself in check and just have him as a friend. Maybe a friend with benefits!

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
3:26 pm

Bluz, Bluz, are you really as dense as you come across? Snap out of it girl. You know what to do, you just refuse to do it…WHY??? Answer that and you may be making headway on what’s really wrong.

Bluzgirl

July 30th, 2012
3:27 pm

ITL…I know…

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
3:27 pm

Bluzy – If you want men to respect you and take you seriously, you’re going to have to respect yourself first!!!! You cannot just “do” folks all willy nilly. ESPECIALLY if you’re gonna have a hankering, as in I LOVE HIM, afterwards. You don’t strike me as that chick that can do it and move on, with no emotions or feelings involved.

Chile, what are we going to do with you???

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
3:28 pm

Bluz~ “Darn Musicians” tells me a lot. Maybe you want to take care of someone. Sadly, when I meet someone and they tell me they are an “artist” I hear unemployed unless they are someone whose work I have actually heard of. I’m like “No, really, what’s your real job? You know, the one that pays you?”

Also, musicians tend to have a very hard time being faithful. So, on breaking the mold, if you are tired of getting what you have always gotten you will have to do something you have never done. As my dad used to say “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing (or person in this case) over and over and expecting a different result.

Single~ I feel the same way. Mine know, I’m saving college money; not bail money. Anything other than that and my retirement will be a little nicer on you. And at 18, you ain’t got to go to college, but you can’t stay here.

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
3:29 pm

I’m sorry. Shouldn’t have used the word “desnse.” You’re just confused, I think.

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
3:29 pm

Bluz – Girl, if it was VERY – whatcha worrying about? You grown & single, and hopefully so was he. If neither of you are married or boo’d up, what’s the problem?

Bluzgirl

July 30th, 2012
3:30 pm

Leggs…I’m really not dense at all. I honestly don’t know why I do some of the things I do. I mean…I really enjoyed it and have had some curiosity about him for a while…BUT…I was trying to be good. In the moment, it seemed right, but I woke up yesterday not feeling so great about it. I don’t really see why I feel so weird about it. I guess because I know that wasn’t the healthiest thing to do. If this had been a year or so ago, I wouldn’t be thinking twice about it…I would be jumping for joy that I got some!

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
3:30 pm

Bluz, you know dang well you can’t handle FWB so why put yourself in that situation?

disco

July 30th, 2012
3:30 pm

CC – dysfunctional childhoods. you weren’t here when I explained to the blog that we used to shoot craps with our monopoly money in grade school. gotta start somewhere. lol.

CC again – looks like you have now officially met bluz.