Sexting: Is everyone doing it?
A recent study at the University of Michigan revealed that sexting has “become a normal part of the dating process for young adults.” That means it’s not shocking, unexpected, or inappropriate for men and women aged 18-24. So our smartphones are now turned into xxx-phones, that apparently is a part of the wooing process, umm does this news bother anyone?
I wonder about the fine line between sexting responsibly – and sexting irresponsibly i.e. Congressman Weiner style.
When do you think it is appropriate to send a dirty text message or picture? Guys, if a woman sent one without you asking her first, would you judge her? What if you had just met her?
Do you think that there is a way to pull off sexting so that it intensifies the attraction instead of kills it?
Have you ever received a racy text or picture that you did not want?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Comon Cents
July 30th, 2012
12:25 pm
The letter may be a fake, but the problem is that there really people out there like that, and people who think they can change them.
There are definitely people out there like that. That murderer from Aurora, CO has a fan page on FB and they say he is receiving mail daily. Richard Ramirez (the night stalker) actually married on of his groupies. So, yeah, there is definitely a segment of the world that is not quite right in the head…
Celisea
July 30th, 2012
12:27 pm
Leggs – I heard that one too. I was a bit offended with her. It takes a lot to deal with and raise kids. To pass judgement on how you’re rearing is a bit much IMO. I saw good riddance. It’s not getting on a child’s level because you’re a bit stern with them “acting out” in public. Like my mama said, where you clown is where I’ll clown with you. You don’t want me to clown, then don’t you clown. I NEVER had a that problem with my kid was younger. Nuh uh. Before we leave the house and while we’re rearing, it’s understood. Don’t show your tail when I say no. No means no. Screaming and acting the fool won’t change the answer. You can call the sheriff, the po po, whomever. Don’t go there and it won’t be an issue.
kimmie
July 30th, 2012
12:28 pm
Leggs/CC – I heard that on the Bert Show too – I was 2 for 2 this morning in the car!!LOL!!
Leggs – To be honest, that was a dealbreaker with my now hubs. If he had some bratty kids I saw he was not half-raising, I would have cut things short!! Plus, folks are very funny about their kids. I had plenty tell me I didn’t know what I was talking about since I didn’t have any. Fine, but I don’t have to deal with your little brats either! Don’t nobody think they are cute but you!!
Maybe that will wake that chick up though!
Leggs
July 30th, 2012
12:29 pm
“But the more I got to know him I was able to look past his wrong doings and see that he has a good heart.” – Really, how does one get past public shootouts, robberies and believe in killing people he deems “deserving” of it. Heck, she may be on his list if she veers out of her lane???
“…my real question is, should I run after my murderer/drug dealing ex and make things right before it’s too late or should I just leave our broken pieces on the floor, pick up my heart, dust it off and move on? – Wait one cotton picking minute. Didn’t she start off this letter with ” I hate to toot my own horn but hey I’m a 23 year old woman who has done very good for herself…” Material possessions are just one facet of doing very good. Your mental faculties are also important ,and it’s quite obvious this woman is a dimrod!
Celisea
July 30th, 2012
12:29 pm
To clarify, offended along with her, not offended at her. I think though when someone breaks it off and can’t be man or woman enough to say why, just let it go. It will save you, IMO, even more heartbreak.
Willie Dynamite
July 30th, 2012
12:30 pm
Afternoon All,
I don’t do sexting at all. No pics or videotaping either. I have seen my fair share of shared pics though. I was just hanging with a few buds last week and 1 dude proceeds to show us a few racy pics. We at the sports bar being dudes and put a round on who could guess which chick it was (she was there). So anyway, buddy had convinced said chick to trim the mangrove as an arrow pointing down to the spot. He proceeds to call over several chicks and say something stupid about Cupids arrow. Next thing you know 1 chick punched in the arm. We all bust out laughing. I would have never guessed her.
What else you good folks got going on in here.
disco
July 30th, 2012
12:30 pm
celisea – my mother’s version was “where you show you’re a-s-s is where I whoop you’re a-s-s”
Celisea
July 30th, 2012
12:33 pm
disco – My mama’s and mine
Sorry if that’s too mean or harsh for some, on a kid’s psycho but I bet you can walk through the mall, grocery store and wherever with no issues. And no, it’s not intimidation or none of that. It’s a nice pleasant outing with lunch and shopping, void of clowing.
Leggs
July 30th, 2012
12:34 pm
Celisea ~ I’m with you on not having trouble with mine too. Not one temper tantrum, no falling on the floor kicking, screaming, whatever kids do. I wasn’t having it and she knew EARLY ON that I wasn’t having any of that nonsense. I almost had one incident when checking out with all that candy around her. I had already said no, and she started whimpering. She looked like she was about to start hoping from foot to foot when I stooped down and looked her in the eye and said, you can make a scene here and I will make a scene with you in the bathroom…take your pick!
kimmie ~ did you hear any feedback from the woman re: child rearing?
kimmie
July 30th, 2012
12:35 pm
Celisea – I’m with you on that about showing out in public. My mom was the same way with us, no waiting until we got home to tear that behind up!
While I agree about that one incident, if it was to the point where he couldn’t even see himself being able to deal with it after 2 years, that was just the tip of the iceberg. At the very least, you need to be open to working with someone or at least taking their ideas under consideration if you’re talking about marrying them. If you can’t meet someone halfway, and your ideas about childrearing are THAT far apart, then you really don’t need to be getting married. You need to be a united front.
Single and Happy
July 30th, 2012
12:38 pm
With my mom if you showed out in public, you got it in public, and when you got home you got it again. My mom didn’t whop us, she would pinch the heck out of us, then our dad would beat us when we got home (LOL)
Celisea
July 30th, 2012
12:40 pm
Kimmie and Leggs and disco – I see nothing wrong with it. If it worked for us and we aren’t shooting up movie theatres and malls but rather trying to be functional, law abiding adults, then it’s good enough for my child.
MervTheTerrible
July 30th, 2012
12:42 pm
I’m sorry I know I am a dumb hick but, what the hell is sexting???
kimmie
July 30th, 2012
12:44 pm
Leggs – Yes I did hear. She was very upset. She said she was a single mom with 2 kids trying to raise them alone and if he didn’t like the way she was raising them then good riddance.
Noone wants to hear that they are a bad parent. It could be they just disagreed about parenting styles. I disagree with alot of my friends parenting styles, but then I’m not married to them or trying to raise kids with them. Right now, hubs and I have different styles, but they also compliment each other. He’s more easy-going, I’m more strict. But I’m strict as a preemptive measure. When I set the ground rules and expectations and let them know the possible consequences, we don’t have as many issues. I don’t have to worry about showing out in public or at school or when they visit others. When you do the work up front, you can enjoy your children.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 30th, 2012
12:46 pm
Oh man that girl 23 years old is living right out of a thug video she seen on tv. That’s what I see happening everyday, young folks want to be the thuggist there is. They are unemployable then they the are angry at society because no one will hire them with tatoos all over their body. So what do they do they steal and rob and murder people and say he deserves it, and cower like the coward they when the law chases them down.
Single and Happy
July 30th, 2012
12:48 pm
Celisea, I think a lot of us do to much for our kids, we seem to forget the values we learned as children made us the adults that we are.
disco
July 30th, 2012
12:48 pm
kimmie – re different parenting styles. seems like I recently mentioned on here that I’m constantly telling folks to put their grown A kids out. I don’t understand why some parents don’t consider that an option. guess they’d rather complain and be stressed out all the time. to each his own.
Celisea
July 30th, 2012
12:52 pm
Honestly, I think he bailed because he wanted to. I mean I understand he wasn’t aware that she was listening but that’s a copout. When you think you’ve found “the one” and you desire for things to work, you have a talk. About whatever it is that’s bugging you. If you don’t see a future, IMO it’s just easier to take the quickest exit.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 30th, 2012
12:53 pm
My mom had to consatntly stay on my butt, because she told me I’m not raising any criminals. I had the tendecies to become one but her and grandma in unison made it perfectly clear they weren’t having it. Like I said last week a boy, young man, and man have phases in life we go through and when we reach a cross road a decision you must make. Today everything is scrap on the floor.
kimmie
July 30th, 2012
12:53 pm
disco – I don’t understand that either, but my parents would not have had a problem with it. My hubs did it with the oldest daughter and that’s the only thing that straightened her up. That’s when I knew we were on the same page with the parenting thing!!
Celisea
July 30th, 2012
12:53 pm
Single and Happy – I agree.
Single and Happy
July 30th, 2012
12:55 pm
Disco, you sound like me (LOL)
Celisea, sometimes the quick exit is the best choice,
disco
July 30th, 2012
12:57 pm
single and happy / kimmie –I actually started telling my son when he was in kindergarten that when he turned 18 he was getting out of my house. I was never the parent talking about “as long as I have a place to stay, you have a place to stay”. bump that. as it worked out, my son left home at 18 and hasn’t returned except to visit.
Celisea
July 30th, 2012
12:57 pm
Single and Happy – It is…sometimes. But would you stay two years and “find” a reason? The example that dude gave IMO was not enough to walk. But I’m not him, nor do I know his level of tolerance. He mentioned the mom being a bit abrasive in disciplining one of her kids on an outing. That’s enough to walk? Now maybe it was something that he saw constantly, meaning her style but if y’all are together and you want to iron things out, would you not mention or ask or even suggest? Easy exit I say.
kimmie
July 30th, 2012
12:58 pm
Celisea – I actually was thinking that too. Oh, and if you recall, they told him up front she would be listening. But I got the same feeling you did, that he just wanted out.
If not, those kids must be real brats! I can see that side better now, because I know of some really nice men now that wish they had thought twice before marrying the women they did with bratty kids, alot of them grown and still around the house reaking havok. The men are miserable. One comes over to hang out with us from time to time to get away from his adult stepkids. Can’t even enjoy being in his own home anymore.
Single and Happy
July 30th, 2012
1:01 pm
Celisea if I was just dating to be dating, I probably would stay 2 years and find a reason, when I decided I wanted something more, I would start looking at my mate different and decide if she’s what I want to spend the rest of my life with.
Single and Happy
July 30th, 2012
1:03 pm
Disco, If these people weren’t being stressed and complaining about their grown children, it wouldn’t be a problem, You can do bad by yourself, and if you look at most, not only is it the children, then bring others with them.
kimmie
July 30th, 2012
1:04 pm
Celisea – He did claim that he tried on a few occasions to make suggestions on better ways to handle situations or some things she might try, but he said she wasn’t open to his suggestions. It was a “you can’t tell me how to raise kids because you don’t have any of your own” type of attitude. One of the women on the Bert Show, I think it was Jen, asked him about that.
Celisea
July 30th, 2012
1:06 pm
Kimmie – No, I missed that piece. So he knew she would be listening? Oh yeah, buddy just said any ole thing. I guess I don’t understand women sometimes, even though I’m one. If you break it off, I can’t like and act like I wouldn’t try and understand what your issues are. I’m not though, taking it on the air. If you can’t be open and just tell me or you hand me some recognizable BS, then it’s a wrap….just the way you want it.
Single and Happy – Would you date just to be dating? For you, when do you date just to be dating versus dating for something solid or serious? Is it like a mood or a place you’re in and you just want to kick back and have fun…nothing too deep?
Celisea
July 30th, 2012
1:09 pm
Kimmie – Gotcha. I didn’t catch the entire story. I did hear Jen ask him that question. If you don’t have kids, it really is so much easier to say how it should be or what you wouldn’t do. Kids are kids and they aren’t always the perfect little munchkins and things won’t always go as planned or like clockwork. It’s not always easy.
kimmie
July 30th, 2012
1:16 pm
Celisea – And if that incident went like he said, I bet he was embarassed. The thing is, his story was not QUITE adding up. On one hand, he said the kids were brats and he thought she was a poor parent. But then on the other hand, he said he would want the mother of his kids to be more patient and loving with kids. If their brats and having temper tantrums in public, the time for “patient and loving” is OVER!!!
Single and Happy
July 30th, 2012
1:19 pm
Celisea I’ve dated just to be dating, someone to hang out with, have sex with, just fun to be around, it was just learning experiences part of life. guess that’s why i’m still single (LOL)
Single and Happy
July 30th, 2012
1:21 pm
Kimmie why did he feel the need to even get on the radio and explain himself? that’s the crazy part to me.
Celisea
July 30th, 2012
1:21 pm
Kimmie – Exactly. IMO, things didn’t quite add up either. I’m not buying that as his TRUE reason. I think if he had not known she was listening, he would have been out with it.
Celisea
July 30th, 2012
1:24 pm
Single and Happy – Um, okay. I forgot you mentioned before that you like your life as is…lol Why would you be looking for anything other than dating just to be dating. Silly me…lol
Single and Happy
July 30th, 2012
1:29 pm
Celisea, I’m very open to the idea of spending my life with someone, IE: “lets get married today” but just not at the top of my list.
Single and Happy
July 30th, 2012
1:29 pm
Celisea, I’m very open to the idea of spending my life with someone, IE: “lets get married today” but just not at the top of my list.
kimmie
July 30th, 2012
1:29 pm
Single – He didn’t feel the need but she requested it. It’s a segment on the show where people write/call in about a breakup they didn’t understand or didn’t get a reason for. The show tracks down the person that did the breaking up and convinces them to come on the show and explain why. So I guess a better question is why he agreed to it.
Celisea – That’s why I kept my mouth shut when we dated and still I tread lightly. Though I’ve never given birth, I saw what worked in my upbringing and I have years and knowledge and common sense under my belt. If you’re going to be with someone and expect them to help you raise the kids you’ve already got, you need to at least be open to what they have to say, if not at least to see where their head is. I can really understand people who don’t want to get involved with folks with young children.
Leggs
July 30th, 2012
1:30 pm
That woman’s feelings were deeply hurt. When it comes to parenting, criticism from another isn’t an easy pill to swallow, esp. one who is childless.
Celisea
July 30th, 2012
1:33 pm
Single – LOL…okay, gotcha. I’m not shopping either, just wanted to put that out there
Single and Happy
July 30th, 2012
1:34 pm
Kimmie, yea I worded that wrong, I just don’t believe in this closure thing, most of the time if people don’t get the response they want, there is no closure. Looking at the news i’ve heard people say they didn’t get any closure because a COLD BLOODIED killer didn’t show any remorse, I’m sitting there thinking umm folks he’s a COLD BLOODIED killer, what did you expect?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 30th, 2012
1:34 pm
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=30uiWiG_eX0
Anyone seen the dancing Walrus?
kimmie
July 30th, 2012
1:35 pm
Leggs – Like I said, either it was a real horror show or dude just wanted out.
Celisea
July 30th, 2012
1:35 pm
Kimmie – And you see where it got you?
It takes a lot to entrust a “stranger” per se with you children. That’s a BIG deal. She really did sound very hurt. I think just hearing that will help her get over it and move on probably quicker than some other issue.
If I know I’m doing this thing alone, I would be a tad bit offended too at someone’s criticism. I would be open to talking and hearing your perspective or something constructive.
kimmie
July 30th, 2012
1:36 pm
Single – Yep!
Leggs
July 30th, 2012
1:39 pm
kimmie ~ I think both. If he didn’t like her parenting, and she wasn’t keen on his advice, but he enjoyed the sexing, he stayed longer than he should have. Then, the time simply came when her vajay jay was no longer enough. To be with someone two years, he knew early on her parenting skills didn’t mesh with his.
Comon Cents
July 30th, 2012
1:39 pm
C~ But you definitely have met the person who needs to be more on top of their kids and isn’t. If you don’t want criticism then you have to tow the line. Don’t just have some bad a$$ kids and get upset or hurt when someone else says something negative about your parenting.
kimmie
July 30th, 2012
1:41 pm
Celisea – I have a friend now that has a daughter(16) of her own and is seeing a guy with 2 kids that are 9 & 11. They’ve been together 2 years and are clashing a little because of the kids. Everything is cool as long as she is buying things for the kids and taking them places and having fun. But let her open her mouth with any constructive criticism and all h– breaks loose with him.
Single and Happy
July 30th, 2012
1:41 pm
Leggs, if the sex is good, I can put up with bad parenting, heck they aint my kids, and I aint going to marry you (LOL) Just don’t bring those brats to my house (LOL)
kimmie
July 30th, 2012
1:43 pm
Leggs – I bet my last dollar that’s exactly how it played out. It’s rather obvious from jump what kind of parent someone is!