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Sexting: Is everyone doing it?

A recent study at the University of Michigan revealed that sexting has “become a normal part of the dating process for young adults.” That means it’s not shocking, unexpected, or inappropriate for men and women aged 18-24. So our smartphones are now turned into xxx-phones, that apparently is a part of the wooing process, umm does this news bother anyone?

I wonder about the fine line between sexting responsibly – and sexting irresponsibly i.e. Congressman Weiner style.

When do you think it is appropriate to send a dirty text message or picture? Guys, if a woman sent one without you asking her first, would you judge her? What if you had just met her?

Do you think that there is a way to pull off sexting so that it intensifies the attraction instead of kills it?

Have you ever received a racy text or picture that you did not want?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

421 comments Add your comment

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
11:26 am

Kimmie I’m the person that you never walk up to ask about another, cause most don’t like my answer,

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
11:28 am

Celisea, I know, and speaking of the other day? We need to find away to contact off the blog about the scuba details.

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
11:29 am

Single – :lol: But I do what I want to do! I just don’t want to do what you obviously want to do and defend. I’m extremely happy. I love the values I was taught and live by. They serve me well. They protect me, but at the same time, they allow me to go for what I want. I’m not stifled in any way, nor am I living for anyone else.

disco

July 30th, 2012
11:29 am

single and happy – in kimmie’s defense (because sometimes we be tracking like that) she understands and recognizes that while MOST times what other people think of you matters not there are SOME times that what others think of you is important. she’s making sure that her actions don’t open the door to drama for those times when it does matter. i.e. it doesn’t matter whether or not your co-workers like your outfit but it does matter whether or not your supervisor thinks you are credible/reliable (insert whatever term)

disco

July 30th, 2012
11:30 am

oops. there you are kimmie. I wasn’t putting words in your mouth just thought his comment needed to be addressed

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
11:31 am

disco – Thanks girl, you GET IT!!

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
11:36 am

In the end, I think it is a matter of what you want to be known for. I think I am an excellent legal mind. I don’t want to be judged on my personal life when I stand in a courtroom. Therefore, I make sure that my private life stays exactly that- private. I think that this “do whatever I want” mentality is fine, but be fully prepared to accept the consequences of what you choose to do.

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
11:36 am

Kimmie I’m not just talking about racy stuff, I’m talking any decision, people stay in bad situations whether it be relationships, jobs, church groups, because they are worried what others will say if they walk away.

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
11:41 am

There are alot of things that people have gotten fired for that would not have never been noticed if it wasn’t for some vindictive person. I only put my life story out to a select few people, you may get a little bit here and there, but never enough to know the whole story. I too think it’s crazy to put all your information on ANY social media, but to each their own.

disco

July 30th, 2012
11:41 am

kimmie – I get it alright. I once had a very lengthy discussion with a family member who still doesn’t get it.

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
11:42 am

Blah. I’m going to lunch. Maybe I’ll be in a better mood when I get back.

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
11:43 am

Comon, If i’m not mistaking you’re in a courtroom all the time, but as for me, in my 50 years, I’ve only been to court for minor offense, (traffic and child support, once to be place on, and once to be taken off) I’ve found it’s to easy to stay out of trouble.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
11:47 am

Single~ you are correct, but the implication was that when I go to my job (the courtroom) I don’t want the people I work with (judges, other court staff & other lawyers) look at me thinking about what I do in my private life. I would prefer to stay on the business at hand. And trust, as a lawyer, I can tell you every freak that works in the courthouse of any jurisdiction I work in because EVERYONE talks.

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
11:48 am

What ever happened to “I may not agree with what you say, but I defend your right to say it”?

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
11:48 am

people stay in bad situations whether it be relationships, jobs, church groups, because they are worried what others will say if they walk away.

Single – This is what I was talking about when I say I live my life the way I want to and how I was taught! Your above statement is SO NOT ME AT ALL!!! In fact, it’s laughable! That was one of the things my mom was careful about in raising us. If you’re doing what’s right and what’s right for you – F— what everyone else will say!!

My mom repeatedly told me if I got halway down the aisle and decided I didn’t want to go thru with the wedding to turn right around and walk out and she & dad would support me and forget about how much money was spent and what folks might say!!

You will go crazy worrying about pleasing others. But that doesn’t mean you live in total abandon and without consideration of the consequences either.

disco

July 30th, 2012
11:49 am

single and happy – it may be easy to stay out of (legal) trouble but there’s no denying that you aren’t immune to it. you never know when someone might sue you for something or when you might have the accident that’s just serious enough to put you in court or in jail. you never know when some janky A prosecutor’s office will conspire to pin something on you. okay, I’ll pull back before I get into my conspiracy theory mode.

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
11:49 am

comon that’s everywhere you work :-) people love to put their business out there, then get mad because everyone knows (LOL)

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
11:50 am

Just got back, but I second that 9:23 post!!! Never understood why people send out nekkid pics of themselves, nor do I understand why a guy would readily ask for a sexy photo after meeting you.

Hello there PoppaG! How are things going with and for you? What’s your area of expertise?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
11:51 am

Hey there Light.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
11:54 am

lol @ disco. I feel you!

Single~ That’s my point. So the best way for no one to put your business out there is either a. don’t have any to put out there or b. be ver careful about who you engage with. For me, there is no one I trust enough at work to share my dirt with. There are very few people outside of work I trust to share my dirt with. (That’s why I’m talking to y’all on the internet). While I realize that this is not 100% anonymous, it is definitely more anonymous than talking to someone who sits three or four offices over. :)

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
11:54 am

Single and Happy – You can hit me up only because sometimes I think blog interaction, even if in jest, becomes a bit much and too much exposure. Just know, I’m not hooking up, no affairs, no blog boo…NONE OF THAT I’m serious.

I have a question for you anyway.

beacea95@yahoo.com

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
11:54 am

Kimmie, I agree, but what i’m say just like you chose to live your life the way you do, for those that chose to live it their way, it’s just that, their way.

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
11:56 am

Celisea, I talking about Scuba, didn’t need to add any of that other stuff. there is more to life.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
11:57 am

C~ no blog boo? LOL! Dang! That actually did make me laugh out loud. With a little snort to it too…

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
11:59 am

I’m on both sides of the fence in y’alls arguments. My mantra is living my life and not worrying about what other think. When it comes to being polictically correct on places such as this board and other media spots, I’m not going with the crowd if that’s not what I think, as I live my life for me. If it’s mistakes I’ve made in the past and things maybe I have to overcome, I don’t care what you think or what you heard or what you found out. It takes NOTHING away from my person and it’s neither here nor there.

As it relates to making decisions that will haunt me, then no I’m going to tread carefully. I need my job therefore, I won’t commit something heinous that could potentially be expose or explode or backfire. I’m not going to do something (intentional) that’s going to be on a background check…so forth and so on.

I think you can live your life above what others think but I think there’s a fine line in abiding and going with what’s allowed and do-able. Bucking because you’re grown is stupid, when the backlash of that will be to your detriment.

disco

July 30th, 2012
11:59 am

CC – I don’t do personal at work on any level. I don’t display pictures or personal affects. I might say something basic along the lines of I saw such and such movie over the weekend but not a single solitary co-worker of mine could even tell you what my son’s name is. (I guess HR folks could look it up but no one has ever heard it come out of my mouth). with all the baby showers at my job I’ve joked that if I got pregnant not only would I not announce it up in here but when I had the baby I wouldn’t send pics to the office. my baby would be an enigma. lol

by the way – leggs (I think) did you see beasts of the southern wild?

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
12:00 pm

Single and Happy – That’s even better then :) Can’t have too many friends. As long as we’re on the same page in that regard. Hit me up.

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
12:01 pm

Single – Sigh…. okay, don’t know when I begrudged other folk from doing things THEIR way, but whatever. Like I said, do you honey, cause I’m fo sho doing me!

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
12:03 pm

Something like not wearing white after Labor Day (which I don’t) because everyone takes that path is stupid. You want to wear white, wear white and forget the sniggles and stares.

Something along this example is what I mean but not caring what others think. Robbing a bank and not caring if that’s on my record…NO CAN DO. Yeah, when it’s time to get a job, I should care how it looks.

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
12:04 pm

Celisea – Did you hear the Strawberry Letter this morning? I thought about the discussion we had last week about dating criminals! If you didn’t hear it, it was a real doozy!!

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
12:05 pm

Kimmie you know some of just like to debate (LOL)

disco

July 30th, 2012
12:07 pm

kimmie – I missed the reading of the letter but heard the tail end of the responses (was listening to the Michael bivins interview on tom joyner. loves me some new edition). sounds like dude was more than just a “criminal”, he was a “murderer”. of course, just hearing that little bit made me question either the validity of the letter at all or the sense of the girl. dude could have just been running off at the mouth to sound tougher.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
12:07 pm

Single and Happy – Wasn’t trying to be offensive or anything but for some reason I seem to be the target of either someone’s affection or for being destroyed…lol Yeah, someone playing a cruel joke…lolol I just wanted to keep it straight. Not that I’m saying you thought otherwise…just saying though. I communicate with others offline and we keep it cool and straight. No hanky panky :)

Don’t be offended boo :)

Kimmie – I didn’t catch the actual reading of the letter but I caught Steve’s commentary. That was unbelievable. I wondered if that one was a hoax. Who in their right mind wants to be coupled with a muderer, bank robber, drug dealer (I think I heard that out)…pretty much an all out hard thug.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
12:08 pm

excuse my typos

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
12:10 pm

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ll start this letter off right and throw everything on the table so hopefully Steve won’t chew me up into shreds! I hate to toot my own horn but hey I’m a 23 year old woman who has done very good for herself, if you ask me. I don’t have any babies running behind me, of course I’m enough of a lady to save my little leagues for marriage. I have my own home, my own car, and a great job that I’ve been working for more than five years! But the reason for this letter is because I’ve always been dealt TERRIBLE, TERRIBLE cards when it comes to men. I had a ROUGH and UGLY childhood. I even saw and experienced some things that I still get alone by myself and cry about. I had ABSOLUTELY NO father figure in my life so I looked for that manly figure in my MEN. So about a year and a half ago I met this guy and he had it going on. He had the thug appeal, the job(s), his own car and a conversation out this world. After about 6 months to a year I came over to his house for a late night movie and that was all she wrote. To say the least we had pillow talk several times after that and he began to open up to me. He confessed to being a drug dealer, doing several robberies, countless home break-ins, and taking peoples lives that he felt deserved it. And he even told me that a few times he made breaking news for public shoot-out’s he had with his past rivals. Yes, I admit it frightened me a little at first. So I asked him had he done the right thing and confessed to the police and he blew me off saying that I was asking too many questions and being too nosy! But the more I got to know him I was able to look past his wrong doings and see that he has a good heart. Over the course of me being his boo I grew an enormous bulk of feelings for him. But recently we got into a huge argument and we split up. Well, at least that’s what I’ll say even though he NEVER confirmed us as being in a serious relationship, and it broke my heart. I can’t stop thinking about him and that sexy thug appeal. For almost a month I’ve been wondering if I let my knight and shining armour get away from me. YES, YES STEVE AND SHIRLEY I HEAR YOU LOUD AND CLEAR but, despite his past I still think he’ll make a good husband for me someday! But my real question is, should I run after my murderer/drug dealing ex and make things right before it’s too late or should I just leave our broken pieces on the floor, pick up my heart, dust it off and move on? Signed, THE YOUNG & CONFUSED MURDERER LOVER

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
12:10 pm

Celisea you would be surprised at the women who would do that, How many men would actually stand by their woman if she went to jail, or try to get involved with a woman it jail?

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
12:13 pm

disco~ I’m not THAT personal at work; I have pics of my kids & hubby on my desk. (I have to remind myself why I work all of the hours I work… LOL!) But I don’t think anyone at work could tell you how old my children are, what area of town I live in, etc.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
12:14 pm

Single and Happy – I don’t know about the men, but I can’t do it. We talked about this before. I think I said if he went to jail (as a married couple), for me or saving my life or something of the such. Anything thing else, I can’t do it.

Kimmie – It’s a dang shame. I’m blown away and don’t know what to say or think outside of she’s a bit touched. Who? Why? Who? Why? What? Would you? I’m sooo not understanding.

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
12:16 pm

Kimmie WHAT THE HE**

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
12:18 pm

Celisea – It’s so crazy it’s almost funny, cause I’m like Disco in thinking it might be fake or dude was mouthing off trying to sound harder than he was. He got the sense that the thug thing turned her on, so he decided to be Superthug!LOL!! He was proably using her and thought that would be a good way to keep her away once he was done with her. Bet he didn’t bank on the idiot trying to hook back up and marry him!LOL!!

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
12:19 pm

“He has a good heart”, “will make a good husband”. but he’s a drug dealer, and a murder, and doesn’t mind taking the life of someone else because he felt they deserved it??

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
12:19 pm

Maybe it’s just the nature of my career, but I couldn’t do it either. Make no mistake, I have had my share of clients who have tried to hook up (some of them straight ballin!) but I could not sleep comforatably at night knowing I was dealing with someone who would do those types of things. I think that circumstances lead a lot of these people into this lifestyle and that’s why I am willing to defend them, but on a personal level, I could never do it.

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
12:20 pm

kimmie/disco ~ while you guys were listening to those stations, I was listening to The Bert Show where another woman wanted closure. She can hear everything the guy is saying, but can’t respond. He finally comes out and says he ended the engagement because he hoped to have children one day and he deemed her to have poor parenting skills. He watched her interaction with her two kids and didn’t like the way she handled conflict. WOW, talking about honesty. Then I had to get out the car.

Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
12:20 pm

The letter may be a fake, but the problem is that there really people out there like that, and people who think they can change them.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
12:21 pm

I wonder if she sexted him? If so, her sh!t is about to be all over the internet.. LOL!

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
12:21 pm

disco ~ I didn’t get a chance to see it this weekend.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
12:22 pm

Leggs: That’s what I was listening to this morning too. I swear to God the chick that called was a past client. And if it’s who I think it was, she really did have piss poor parenting skills.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
12:23 pm

Kimmie – Okaaay! I didn’t think about that…lol The joke is on him then if that’s the case. Buddy thought he was getting some young, dumb, get in and out chick. He didn’t realize she was going to hang on…lol Jokes on him. How is that appealing though I wonder? You’re talking to a dude and he’s telling you he’s killed people he didn’t think deserved to live, he’s robbed banks, he’s done home invasions. And you’re seeing him more and more as your hero?? C’mon seriously???

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Single and Happy

July 30th, 2012
12:24 pm

Okay, what the heck is closure (LOL)