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Sexting: Is everyone doing it?

A recent study at the University of Michigan revealed that sexting has “become a normal part of the dating process for young adults.” That means it’s not shocking, unexpected, or inappropriate for men and women aged 18-24. So our smartphones are now turned into xxx-phones, that apparently is a part of the wooing process, umm does this news bother anyone?

I wonder about the fine line between sexting responsibly – and sexting irresponsibly i.e. Congressman Weiner style.

When do you think it is appropriate to send a dirty text message or picture? Guys, if a woman sent one without you asking her first, would you judge her? What if you had just met her?

Do you think that there is a way to pull off sexting so that it intensifies the attraction instead of kills it?

Have you ever received a racy text or picture that you did not want?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

421 comments Add your comment

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
10:30 am

Correction – something you would NOT be super-embarassed about!

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
10:32 am

Thing is, people have NO finese anymore.

Nope and not at all. Everybody (well, not all), seem to believe more is where it’s at (yes at). Less is ALWAYS more. Women, especially young women believe full disclosure will snag the man. Well, it will make him look and get his attention as he’s not dead. But something that will turn into a keeper, not likely.

No, class, no finesse, no decorum…just bankrupt…lol

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
10:33 am

Celisea, I really didn’t know that, if it doesn’t affect me in any way, I don’t pay it any attention. I’ve never watched the show, haven’t looked at the tape.

i'm swiss

July 30th, 2012
10:34 am

“(I almost names my daughter after a FM song)”

Comon — Rhiannon?

disco

July 30th, 2012
10:36 am

single/happy and celisea – if we are talking about S/H not knowing the kardashian’s father represented OJ then I didn’t know either. heck, I’m still not sure who the kardashians are!!! granted I hear their names all the time but I’ve never watched anything they’ve done. tv shows, talk shows, certainly not the sex tapes. if they didn’t have such an uncommon name they wouldn’t be on my radar at all.

abc

July 30th, 2012
10:37 am

I don’t consider the behavior of 18-24 year olds to be very relevant to anything. Kids take longer to mature these days; 18-24 now is like high school kid back in the day. They’ll figure it out sooner or later. Meanwhile, give the media hype and jive a rest. Folks in the media seem to just write stuff off the top of their head, just to have something to publish, without anything to actually convey (ahem).

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
10:39 am

Single and Happy – Okay

disco – I believe him now, since you said it…lol I don’t find it incredible since two of you can attest to know being aware. Honey, you ain’t missing nothing. They’re are nothing but highly paid strumpets. The oldest has made a career of being a wh@re on national television. I’m sure others will beg to differ but I don’t have a grain of respect for any of that clan, especially their mom. She’s the biggest pimp in that clan. And no respect for Bruce because he’s the man of that clan that’s been deballed at least twice by the three daughters (not the twins yet) and a gazillion times by the mom/wife.

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
10:40 am

Disco, i’m like that about alot of people, I know more than I want to about their lives from just overhearing it on the news when I’m at work, but I couldn’t tell you what they do to get them famous, never seen them in a movie or heard one of their songs. I’m the one sitting there asking who are these people, and why should I care?

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
10:40 am

not being aware

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
10:43 am

I’ve only been asked once to send something risque…only once.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
10:44 am

One time too many. If you asked me, I’m sure you asked EVERYBODY else annnnnd probably kept all on ice.

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
10:44 am

Celisea – Thing is, that demographic Wise mentioned, the 18-24 group, is that critical age group where some of the decisions you make can shape your life forever. Bad decisions, while they were made while you were “young” can come back to haunt you. Yes, you were young, but old enough to know better and be held accountable. Later on, you are going to want to use that “but I was young” defense, but right now you let everyone know you’re “grown” and can do what you want. You’ll want someone to feel sorry for you later down the road when you can’t run for office, get the job you want, or any other benefit where your character has to be judged. I know I sound like an old fogey but I see those mistakes come back to haunt a lot of folks, including myself and at the time, someone, a parent, teacher, etc, tried to give them a head’s up.

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
10:48 am

Celisea, did you send it :-D

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
10:50 am

i’m swiss- Of course!

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
10:50 am

Kimmie – I totally agreeing. Think before you leap. It’s not old fogey. It’s smart, it’s displaying class and it’s thinking outside of the moment. I don’t understand being reckless. Crass behavior and no holds barred seem to be the trendy thing to do. And really it’s all just sex and all about sex. It’s not about love, falling in love, romancing…none of that.

disco

July 30th, 2012
10:52 am

doesn’t sound like there’s any money to be made in a collection of “blog gone wild” videos.

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
10:52 am

I’m with the College Park firefighter on racy pics, what does it have to do with her saving lives. Having your own morale’s is one thing, but forcing them on someone else is another.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
10:53 am

Single and Happy – Nope. What they asked for was not body part (i.e. coochie or tatas), but still risque none the less. I wondered a long time about that those and that person. I didn’t tell them but I wondered a REALLY long time.

i'm swiss

July 30th, 2012
10:53 am

Comon — Here’s another Lindsey Buckingham fix for you, if you need it:

http://www.hulu.com/watch/241597

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
10:54 am

Kimmie, all that is people trying to force their values on to someone else. That has been going on since the beginning of time, will always be a problem.

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
10:57 am

Morning, all!

@Comon: I saw FM at the Gwarena several years ago. Lindsey and Stevie made the show! That man can still rock it out. And Stevie….well, she’s timeless.

I don’t mind receiving a risque text or photo…if it’s appropriate to the situation.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
10:59 am

I have to be honest, I’m not against something spicey between booed up or married folks. I’d be lying if I said I’m totally against it. I’ve talked pretty racy when I knew the plane would be landing later. I didn’t mean to cause folks to leave out of their conference…lol But I just think it’s too risky and a chance if you’re taking snapshots eaglespread…just saying. Whatever your decision, be certain it’s not something that’s going to be to your detriment.

Too, please date “grown” folks. Meaning, know your partner well enough to know if they’re the vendictive type. What adult gets angry and blasts something special or intimate all over the internet out of an effort to bring you down??? Who does that??? If things don’t work out, please destroy or put the pics away. Nothing but children have tantrums and sets out to destroy folks.

i'm swiss

July 30th, 2012
11:00 am

“@Comon: I saw FM at the Gwarena several years ago”

ITL — I was at that show, too. Was that you flashing your tatas 2 rows behind me?

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
11:03 am

Celisea you hit the nail on the head, “grown folks” I had some pretty racy pics of an ex, who hurt me so bad, I didn’t date for awhile, when I came across them, I put them in the shredder, putting on the net for the world to see never crossed my mind.

i'm swiss

July 30th, 2012
11:03 am

Here’s the key to sexting: never include your face in the picture. That way you have plausible deniability.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
11:04 am

Single – I think that what people are saying is that it speaks to character. If you would text questionable pics of yourself, what other bad decisions would you make?

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
11:04 am

Single – I could care less about anyone else’s values. But you said the key thing in that it’s always been a PROBLEM and always will be, been going on since forever. The internet and texting are just new venues for keeping the problem/evidence around forever.

You can call it forcing values or whatever. All I know is, I’m glad I can apply for any job I want, any license I want, do anything I want at this point in my life and not have to answer questions for some stupidity I got into when I was “young”! At the very least, I didn’t embarass myself & my family. Yeah I had my fun like anyone and have made mistakes, but nothing that’s derailed my life & my dreams.

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
11:06 am

Comon, why is it a bad decision? what ever happened to people living their on lives.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
11:07 am

Good Morning ITL~ I am so jealous tat you and swiss made that show. I missed it. :( Now I may never get to see them again since they can’t seem to decide on a reunion tour or not. I did see them YEARS ago, but now I am relegated to seeing them separate.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
11:08 am

Single and Happy – That’s great. Sometimes folks being salty is something to deal with. I’m sure she’s grateful that you’re not one she has to worry about in that regard. That’s really great :)

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
11:08 am

Celisea – Exactly, a little racy between grown & booed up is a-okay with me. Something that could potentially fall in the wrong hands or folks trying to “pay back” cause they are mad is NOT OKAY!!

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
11:10 am

Single~ We live in the bible belt. People have lost their jobs over less. No one wants to feel that they have the slutty chick working for them. Promotion time? Nope, I have to pass you over because people might think I sampled the goodies in order to give you the job. When people know all of your dirty laundry, it makes them a little more judgemental that they would already be. That would be why people I’ve never met on the internet get to give me advice about my jacked up situation, not people I work with. The people in my office would NEVER believe that I managed to get myself tied up in this mess. It’s just not who I am when I am here.

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
11:12 am

Kimmie, if a job, or license call for getting into my personal life, beyond a criminal record. It’s none of their business. My personal life is just that, my life! I don’t worry about embarrassing any one, live it for me and me only. If someone is embarrassed by something I do, then it’s their problem not mine.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
11:13 am

Kimmie – Even further to your 11:08, I’m happy with men (in our case), that are okay and understanding of the exchange of “grownup behavior” done in the moment and satisfied with that. I don’t want the pressure of video tapping because you’re going to get your rocks on that way. Why can’t the grown and sexy suffice in the moment?? I just don’t trust that potential backlash that will ALWAYS hang over your head. If a mate is not understanding of that, then there are plenty video chicks and supahead type chicks that won’t mind letting you tape, snap, video all your little heart desires…lol

Now, if there was a man, the one man that I could trust throughout eternity and only he will see and it’s going in the grave (literally) with him, then maybe. Until I can find someone that can guarantee, then I’m taking a pass on tapping stuff.

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
11:14 am

Single – Who is stopping anyone from living their lives?

There are just going to be some consequences, good or bad, for some of the things you decide to do, even in private. Especially when what’s supposed to be private goes public. That’s life. People are sometimes not prepared to deal with the consequences of their actions, so they need to think before they leap. Don’t play if you can’t pay!LOL!!

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
11:15 am

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
11:15 am

@Swiss: Guilty. :oops: I kid, I kid…..

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
11:16 am

Single and Happy – Who is the grammar police?

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
11:17 am

Comon is it really the bible belt, or is it the media driving society where everyone feels a need to be in everyone else’s business? I’ve noticed that when ever you try and defend your actions people have a field day, but when you ignore it, they move on to the next story.

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
11:18 am

Celisea, i’m not calling any names (pointing at Celisea) (LOL)

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
11:19 am

Single – Honey do you. Personally, I’m not going on tv being another Kardashian cause like it or not, my grandmama, hubs & kids might see that. I recognize I’m not in this world alone, even though both parents are deceased. I respect myself and those I love too much.

And there are too many employers checking Facebook & Google & whatever. They won’t find anything on me.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
11:19 am

Single and Happy – Umm, okay. I’m not though…really You can probably say Dick Tracey or the such but not grammar police…lol

Into the Light

July 30th, 2012
11:20 am

s/n: I wanna go home. People are on my nerves today, but it’s not them – it’s me. I need a vacation.

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
11:21 am

Kimmie if you’re questioning every decision you make because of what others may think of you, then you are not living your life for you, you’re living it for others. It can be as much as small decisions but it’s still not what you really want to do.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
11:22 am

Cely I’m back in the office now doing well.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
11:22 am

Even on some of our mandatory training now, media outlets are included. And it states that (post training), you understand the nature of the content to shared on those type sites and your responsibility as an employee. Anything otherwise could be a cause for disciplinary actions. Yep, it was on our training earlier this year. We have to do it annually. This was the first year media outlets were included.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
11:23 am

Blackfoote – :)

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
11:23 am

Celisea, that was because of my (hello lady’s) statement the other day, didn’t know my bad grammar and spelling would cause all that (LOL)

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
11:23 am

ITL~ Hold on; football is coming… That’s all the vacation I need. And even though it’s pre-season, it’s kind of like Skin-a-max porn; after 8 months without it, it gets the job done. :lol:

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
11:24 am

Single and Happy – Oh, I remember well. I was being partly facetious