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Sexting: Is everyone doing it?

A recent study at the University of Michigan revealed that sexting has “become a normal part of the dating process for young adults.” That means it’s not shocking, unexpected, or inappropriate for men and women aged 18-24. So our smartphones are now turned into xxx-phones, that apparently is a part of the wooing process, umm does this news bother anyone?

I wonder about the fine line between sexting responsibly – and sexting irresponsibly i.e. Congressman Weiner style.

When do you think it is appropriate to send a dirty text message or picture? Guys, if a woman sent one without you asking her first, would you judge her? What if you had just met her?

Do you think that there is a way to pull off sexting so that it intensifies the attraction instead of kills it?

Have you ever received a racy text or picture that you did not want?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

421 comments Add your comment

Lily

July 30th, 2012
6:54 am

Sorry Diva, you are misguided if you believe what you wrote. The “wooing” process does not include anything explicit or sexting. I don’t care if everyone is doing it. The “wooing” process is almost nonexistent because courting is no longer practiced. Sexting is just that. It’s inappropriate for young kids, the age group that’s indulging. Children are not consenting adults. Even between consenting adults, there is a big difference in sex over being wooed. Most just want to have sex.

IMO, sexting can be fun and that bit of added spice if you’re beyond needing parental consent, can handle sex and all it brings or being able to handle a sex only arrangement.

Big Al

July 30th, 2012
8:24 am

Texting is for people too lazy to exercise real communication skills.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
8:36 am

Not into sexting those who are I don’t judge. I’m so old school give me a Player, Playboy magazine or the real thing.

Hi Lily, you went missing a few days good to see you’re back.

Good it’s a new day Morning:

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
8:44 am

IDK about anyone else, but seeing someone’s “junk” on my smartphone is NOT my idea of wooing. Going the other way, I would never send pictures of my stuff because if anything lasts longer than luggage, it would be electronic media. It is too easy to find yourself posted on websites, social media, etc. for the wqhole world to see because some old lover felt scorned.

However, if others choose to indulge, that’s an on them and more power to them.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
8:45 am

Good Morning, BF! Is the bar open yet? I think I need an eye opener after this weekend and coffee just ain’t cutting it…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
8:52 am

I’m not aroused by pictures like I was at sixteen. To me that’s who is being targeted young boys reaching puberty. I don’t know about girls liking it but if I had a daughter I would make sure she tell me when ever she received one.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
8:55 am

Morning Comon, how did that weekend go lady? As always when I’m in the building the spread is open to full service.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
8:55 am

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
8:55 am

hello everyone, hello comon you tall sexy redwood. Courting is just suffering because of sexting, it’s just a lost art that people don’t believe you have to do any more, You meet greet, I like you, you like me so lets move in together and have children.

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
8:57 am

Blackfoote, make sure she tells you (LOL) not that’s a good one (rotflmao)

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
8:59 am

Good morning, Good morning.

Sexting is all about mental agility. One must get themselves aroused by words on their phone and their own mental stimulation. Sexing w/o touch, w/o eye contact, w/o stroking of each other’s skin is not for me.. You can send a msg saying what may take place later in the day to get my juices flowing, but to have a sexual connection through written word is too much work. IMO.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
9:01 am

Learn a new trick and still can’t put it on the same page.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
9:01 am

Weekend was awesome on this end. Good Morning Single. How were the weekends on y’alls end?

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
9:04 am

You meet greet, I like you, you like me so lets move in together and have children.

But don’t you think that’s part of the issue? We live in an instant gratification society. People who have been together a year think they have had a LONG relationship. Everyone is sleeping with everyone else. People have known each other 4 hours and because they have “chemistry” they are jumping in the bed together.

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
9:04 am

Weekend was wonderful, now ready for a great week :-)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
9:05 am

Hey what’s up Single, hope yours was a good weekend as well.

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
9:06 am

Comon that’s a big part of a problem, you’re being nice saying a year, there are some that think 2 to 3 months is a long time, and they need to try and work things out

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
9:08 am

Leggs good day my lady, I’m still in the walking phase with the smiley faces. Thanks to you and Kimmie I will be fine.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
9:12 am

Y’all are s correct about instant gratification. It will come to people having relationships like a speed date. In my era it was wam bam thank you mam, but it still took a while before you got to the bam.

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
9:20 am

Blackfoote that’s the microwave society we live in, by the time the ding goes off why do we need to get to know each other.

disco

July 30th, 2012
9:25 am

good morning all. I don’t text at all so it’s a definite non-issue for me.

CC – I saw a children’s theatre production of the wiz over the weekend. I was almost feeling guilty about how much I enjoyed the show. those kids killed it!!! the little boy who played the tin man showed out. even tossed in a little Kevin hart when talking about the wicked witch. said “she gone learn today”.

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
9:28 am

Disco I went to see the wiz decades ago, still was on of the greatest productions I’ve ever seen.

Chick-fil-A Biter, Not Pillow Biter

July 30th, 2012
9:33 am

Ladies,

I am very appreciative of any “taboo” photos you send me of yourself, as is My “Little Buddy.”

However, I will stop respecting you as a human being and potential mother of my children when you I receive it.

If you show your goods to me, I suspect you will show them to anyone and everyone (if you haven’t already).

FYI: I would expect no less than you losing respect for me in return if I sent you a photo of me “standing at attention” or bouncing back and forth from knee to knee.

I’m just being honest here, not necessarily P.C. for the liberal-media-driven 21st Century which wants everyone to think this is okay or “normal.”

disco

July 30th, 2012
9:35 am

single/happy – I’ve always loved the wiz. must admit I was a little leery going in with an all-child cast but I was very impressed with the job that they did. definitely $20 well spent.

Leggs

July 30th, 2012
9:37 am

Glad to hear it, BF.

Poppa Grande

July 30th, 2012
9:39 am

Good Morning, all

Long time, no blog.

I just happened to see the topic and decided to just throw out a friendly reminder:

Once you hit send, it is no longer a private picture. I tell kids (18-24) that all the time. Once you hit send, your mobile provider has a copy of it too. I subpoena text records every single day. So, I see ALL kinds of pictures everyday. Apparently, the natural look is in style again. Not much shaving or waxing going on before pictures are taken.

Also, in some states, these pics can get you labeled as a sex offender. So, think before you hit send.

This was just a quick “hit it, quit it” post.

Have a great day, all!

disco

July 30th, 2012
9:42 am

I take PGs post to read – if you must send sext messages be sure to buy a prepaid phone at your neighborhood convenience store. lol.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
9:56 am

disco: I am glad you enjoyed the Wiz. I have always loved it. I let my inner white girl out this weekend and the hubs and I went and saw Lindsey Buckingham at Center Stage. He KILLED it! Show was only an hour and a half, but fabulous none the less.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
10:02 am

disco you mentioned the Oz, I saw a preview at the movies about a new Oz movie coming out this fall. It it a pre-qual to the original aimed at adults on how the wizard went to the city of Oz and got established, looks good might be another classic.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
10:07 am

I don’t know about the Wizard getting established in Oz, but if you have not seen “Wicked” and you get the opportunity to go, it is FABULOUS! I have seen it 3 times now and I would definitely go a fourth!

disco

July 30th, 2012
10:08 am

CC – I had to google Lindsay Buckingham. glad you guys had a good time.

BF – don’t call me out but you couldn’t pay me to watch the wizard of oz on tv or live on stage. lol. I’ll watch the wiz though. I don’t really care for the overall story line but I love the song and dance routines.

Exiled!

July 30th, 2012
10:10 am

I would go for sexting if there is mutual consent!
This is personal to the two or three people involved. Some may want to see pictorial evidence just so they can size the package.

I am not against a female showing me how decorated it is around hers,how phat and moist it is. IJS :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
10:10 am

There’ a new Oz movie coming this fall to theaters, saw previews of at the movies. It’s a pre-qual to the orignal showing how the wizard got to the city of Oz. It looks good might be another classic.

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
10:11 am

I’m with you on that one, Disco, I hate the wizard of oz, but love the wiz, have a copy on DVD

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
10:17 am

I alread said that didn’t I, The Wiz was the absolute best. Common I heard of Wicked but never seen it I’ll have to check that one out.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
10:18 am

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Celisea

July 30th, 2012
10:19 am

Morning,

Sexting is not smart. IMO, it’s another one of those reckless freedoms that this ill-informed generation seem to think is the thing to do, not knowing they’ll likely regret. I like the old way (I’m probably one in few remaining) of what it takes for getting in to see the sexy.

And on this:
I would expect no less than you losing respect for me in return if I sent you a photo of me “standing at attention” or bouncing back and forth from knee to knee.

Bouncing knee to knee?? Wowzer!!! That’s about as bad as hitting the waters when you pee (hey Fion). I’m sure that’s an exaggeration..lol If it’s knee to knee hanging, that would mean it’s reaching the mouth if it’s at attention.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
10:20 am

This lap top aint working with me. Going back to the office desk top.

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
10:20 am

I had to google Lindsay Buckingham

That made me LOL this morning, disco. I am a huge Fleetwood Mac fan. (I almost names my daughter after a FM song) so I was very excited to go see Lindsey since a FM reunion seems like it will never happen. And I had never been to Center Stage before. I liked it; very intimate venue…

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
10:22 am

Morning Celisea :-D

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 30th, 2012
10:24 am

Hey Cely how are you Ms. Lady.

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
10:24 am

Good morning Single and Happy :wink:

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
10:25 am

Blackfoote – Hey there, my BBB…I’m well this morning. How are you?

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
10:25 am

If you think about it, sexting is just the new form of Playboy or Penthouse. Anyone remember how scandalous it was that Vanessa Williams had naked photos published in Playboy and they took her Miss America title away? Now every other week you hear about so and so’s sex tape or some pro athlete texting pictures of his junk to some woman (Brett Farve). Hell, you have people famous for doing that; Kim Kardashian is known because her dad represented OJ and she made a sex tape with Ray J.
If I could go back in time, I would stop OJ from killing those prople so no one would EVER have to know what a Kardashian is…

Comon Cents

July 30th, 2012
10:26 am

Good Morning Cely!

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
10:27 am

Good morning Comon Cents

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 30th, 2012
10:27 am

Wow Kim’s dad represented OJ, learn something new everyday (LOL)

disco

July 30th, 2012
10:28 am

I was out to dinner Friday night and most of the tvs were on the Olympics but one was showing the dewey bozella story. I was ticked because the tv didn’t have the closed caption on. anyway, I go home and look up the show, autotune it since it was on all weekend only to discovery that I didn’t have the daggone channel. I was sitting there feeling cheap.

kimmie

July 30th, 2012
10:29 am

Hey Gang!!

On topic – This is a non-issue for me & mine. You NEVER leave any kind of pictorial or written evidence, even before texting was popular. No videos or printed photos, nothing! Duh!!!

Sure, within an established relationship a sweetly suggestive text is cute. Something you would exactly be super-embarrassed about should it fall in the wrong hands.

Thing is, people have NO finese anymore. It’s a way to do anything where it won’t come off crude and offensive, but a lot of people seem oblivious to that. “Flashing” me via text makes you no better than a street flasher, in my book, but that’s me. But if you’re turned on by someone you just met flashing you via text, thus proving themselves not-so-smart, hey do you!

Celisea

July 30th, 2012
10:29 am

Single and Happy – Now just stop that. You knew that already…lol I’m not buying.