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Finding love at work?

What would you do if you fell in love with a co-worker? I have heard it time and time again. Never date people from work – Ignore this advice at your own peril. I have to consider the amount of time we spend at the office. A lot of us see our co-workers more than our family members. It is easy to see how a relationship can start at work.

Of course, this does not mean it is a good idea, nor should it be recommended for everyone. There are situations that can arise that could lead to putting added strain on your work life and love life at the same time. Is it worth it to take risk and listen to your heart?

Do you think it is possible to find love at the office? Have you ever dated a co-worker?

Do you know your company policy for dating at work?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

408 comments Add your comment

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 27th, 2012
7:51 am

It can be said finding love has no boundaries, which I take can be anywhere. I have had couple of run ins on the job and none of them lasted longer than a fling. The company I worked for was ok with nepotism and there were many. I’m not against work place romance but I don’t condone it because nothing is discreet when you have made a run through the office honeys and the word spread out. I never considered myself an office stud but I certainly got my share of approaches.

Good Friday Morning:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 27th, 2012
7:56 am

Where’s Lily? I know another late start.

Big Al

July 27th, 2012
8:10 am

Never dip your pen in the company’s ink.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 27th, 2012
8:11 am

Folks you know when I step in the house the blog bar and the buffet lines are open also warming the indoor pool water. Greeting the massage therapist making sure they are ready to relax our mind, body, and soul. The cabana’s are up and ready let’s rock it.

Comon Cents

July 27th, 2012
8:42 am

Good Morning BF! I didn’t know that the blog came with a breakfast buffet! You know a girl is all in the mix now!

On Topic: Don’t agree with the office romances. It usually ends badly and can make the workplace untenable for the parties involved. Also, IMO the reason that office romances don’t workout is because there is never any down time away from your sweetie. I love mine dearly, but I would not want to work with him every day and then go home with him every night. I think that there need to be spaces in your togetherness to create harmony. Kind of like the guitar has strings that make up the instrument, but each one has its separate space; yet they quiver with the same music.

Comon Cents

July 27th, 2012
8:43 am

BTW- Did you see that you got made blog sheriff yesterday afternoon?

Exiled!

July 27th, 2012
8:51 am

It is possible to find love at the office but you have to be disciplined and behave.

From personal experience,I can tell u that finding lust and a Fu_ckin partner at the office is much sweeter!

Comon Cents

July 27th, 2012
8:52 am

Exiled!
It is hard to equate “disciplined and behaved” with “fu_king at the office”…IJS

Into the Light

July 27th, 2012
8:55 am

Morning, all and happy Friday!

I’ll be busy today, but BF please ask the massage therapist to book me from 2-3. ITL is gonna need some deep tissue work after this week. ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 27th, 2012
9:03 am

Common Cents: Morning!!!!! Yes there’s a story behind being the blog sheriff. If anyone is wondering “I have a badge” is a line from the Andy Griffith show made famous by Jerry Van Dyke. I still have my badge, Flo-Light know where I’m coming from.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 27th, 2012
9:07 am

Light you’ve been booked.

disco

July 27th, 2012
9:08 am

good morning. it’s Friday!!! it’s Friday!!! it’s Friday!!! sorry but that fact bears repeating.

I’ve actually seen the dating a co-worker thing work and I’ve seen it backfire big time. worked at one company that we joked was a meat market. everyone up in that camp was dating, hooking up and getting married. once upon a time I would have said that I definitely would not do it but now, if the right man showed up and he just happened to show up at work, I feel I’d owe it to myself to see what happened. bad economy or no bad economy, I think it’s a lot easier to find a suitable job than it is to find a suitable mate. I’d take my chances with the man even if it meant one or both of us had to seek employment elsewhere.

Comon Cents

July 27th, 2012
9:16 am

bad economy or no bad economy, I think it’s a lot easier to find a suitable job than it is to find a suitable mate.

LOL! Well, they say in Atlanta a good man is hard to find (and a hard man is good to find)…

disco

July 27th, 2012
9:19 am

CC – as a woman who has probably been single a little bit too long (and with no end in sight) I stand by that statement 100%.

Stonethrower

July 27th, 2012
9:28 am

Don’t get your honey where you make your money!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 27th, 2012
9:30 am

“bad economy or no bad economy, I think it’s a lot easier to find a suitable job than it is to find a suitable mate.”

This is funny already, I need to slow down on the vodka drinks.

Comon Cents

July 27th, 2012
9:35 am

BF

He.ll Naw! You better keep them dranks coming! It’s Friday!

mark

July 27th, 2012
9:37 am

cant mess with anyone at work because i cant afford to lose my check because georgia power dont play!

disco

July 27th, 2012
9:38 am

BF – don’t laugh at me. you know there’s some truth to the words that are coming out of my mouth.

where is everyone? did someone throw a skip party?

Leggs

July 27th, 2012
9:46 am

Good morning.

“Never dip your pen in the company’s ink.” – I agree

BF ~ man, you must have felt my vibes…I need all that this morning.

I’ve never dated a co-worker, but I did date someone in the same bldg as I that ended ok, but when the elevator doors opened and there he was, I had no place to run. The desire to jump this man’s bones was still strong within me, but I had to stand my ground and put my libido in check and get off when the elevator doors opened (even if it wasn’t the floor I needed to get off on).

Comon Cents

July 27th, 2012
9:47 am

ITL was here earlier but she said she had a busy day. I will be here until about 12:30, but then I have court. IDK where everyone else is. Maybe they got a late start because it’s Friday?

disco

July 27th, 2012
9:52 am

leggs – did you really get off the elevator on the wrong floor? that’s funny.

Leggs

July 27th, 2012
9:55 am

disco ~ I sure did.

CC ~ what type of law do you practice, and how long have you been practicing?

Sassy Me...The blacker the berry :-)

July 27th, 2012
9:55 am

Mornting!! :mrgreen:

“Never dip your pen in the company’s ink.”

ditto…

I’ve never dated a coworker and I wouldn’t. There are alot of couples here and they get highlighte every year on Valentine’s Day and I think that’s cute…it’s just not for me.

Happy Friday!!!!

Blackfoote can I get a massage appointment,too….say from 4-5? Please make sure it’s a man…and he’s cute, that way it’ll make it all better ;-)

kimmie

July 27th, 2012
9:56 am

Morning Gang, happy end of the week and the last day!!

On topic – Normally it’s not a good idea cause folks don’t know how to behave themselves and be discreet. But I’ve seen it work out well many times. One of my employees met her hubs here. They work in different departments. A 1st marriage for her, 2nd for him. He has 2 kids from his 1st marriage and they now have 3 more together so 5 kids in all! And would you believe a COWORKER set them up together!

My husband met his late wife at work. I had a brief fling with a guy at another job I had, but most places I’ve worked there has not been anyone I’d be interested in anyway!

disco

July 27th, 2012
10:00 am

leggs – I think CC mentioned yesterday doing DUIs and something else.

Comon Cents

July 27th, 2012
10:02 am

Leggs
Criminal defense. (DUI and drug mostly)

I have been private for about 3 years and I did 2 yrs as a prosecutor.

Leggs

July 27th, 2012
10:03 am

Excellent, CC! Excellent!

Thanks disco. I missed it yesterday.

Comon Cents

July 27th, 2012
10:04 am

Hey BF, before they are all booked, can I get the 11 AM massage spot? That way I’ll be ready to go fight this afternoon! LOL!

Leggs

July 27th, 2012
10:04 am

kimmie ~ where I work, perhaps a handful of eye candy (if that), but the men here have boatload of eye candy for their enjoyment!!

Leggs

July 27th, 2012
10:04 am

BF ~ I’m ready. I’ll take the 10:15-11:00 slot.

disco

July 27th, 2012
10:07 am

leggs/kimmie – their ain’t jacksh— to look at at my job!!! no eye candy. not even stylish women where you can at least admire shoes/purses/outfits. almost every chick at my job dresses “comfortable”. lol. too comfortable in my opinion but who am i. our security guards aren’t even worth commenting on. on occasion we get an okay looking fed ex or UPS guy but that’s it.l

kimmie

July 27th, 2012
10:08 am

Leggs – The only place I’ve worked where there was REAL eyecandy was when I did that 6 months at CNN. Lawd have mercy!! Some of those men that worked behind the scenes were a feast to the eyes! I mean one producer dude got in the elevator with me & a buddy and when he got off ahead of us we both let out a sigh!LOL!!! And I saw Sanja Gupta in a dark blue suit on the escalator one day. Talk about gorgeous in person!

ThirdWheel

July 27th, 2012
10:09 am

Good Morning Yall!

LOL @the comment that Georgia Power don’t play…. LOL Just get on the news and plead your case. I am sure someone will pay the bill…

As for dating a coworker I just finished dealing with this crap… I just broke up with my ex and I work with a good looking guy. Granted he is very short and has short man sydrome pretty bad but other than that I like him. Well we all went out for happy hour one day and I confessed my true feelings… Mistake number 1 because I was trashed. Mistake number 2 because I knew he was pining away for a girl that worked in our other building for two years that just had a baby with her baby daddy a year ago. Well I didn’t know they had just started hooking up when I confessed my feelings. Now granted I work very close to this guy and she works in another department. After I found out that they were finally banging I stepped back and stopped flirting with him. I guess my coworker has been telling her what was going on and now she is treating me like crap. I have to deal with her on a once a week basis. Instead of coming to me to ask questions she now goes to him… even though we do different jobs. Now it has become annoying and I am just fed up with the both of them. My coworker says she is the one and is going to marry her in 7 years… good for them…. I will never try and date another coworker again.

kimmie

July 27th, 2012
10:09 am

disco – Girl, same here. My hubs has absolutely ZERO to worry about!!

kimmie

July 27th, 2012
10:12 am

3rd – Why SEVEN YEARS????? What kinda ish is that??? Girl, they deserve each other and all that drama! Be thankful you didn’t get any more caught up in it than you did!

Leggs

July 27th, 2012
10:13 am

O/T – not sure if any of you remember the “married” postal worker I met at the gas station who wanted to take me to lunch and gave me his number. I gave the number back and told him to take his wife to lunch. Well, I ran into him this morning (not the first time since that encounter), but he was mighty chatty this morning. Complimenting me and trying to hug me. He didn’t even warrant a church hug so I told him hugging hello wasn’t necessary. He said he still wanted to take me to lunch all I had to do was take his number. Again, told him I see no reason for me to go to lunch with a married dude hitting on me at the gas station. He then said “I’m going to tell you a secret my daddy would always tell me. ‘Never stop fishing..’ ” I told him if that’s his motto you never should have gotten married and gave him the “peace” sign. Just utter nonsense!!!

So, he may or may not be fishing on the job, but he sure is trolling at QT!

kimmie

July 27th, 2012
10:17 am

So, he may or may not be fishing on the job, but he sure is trolling at QT!

Leggs – I am rolling!!!! :lol:

ThirdWheel

July 27th, 2012
10:21 am

Yes 7 years… he said he needs time to get himself together and establish his life…. Ummm if this girl is smart she will find someone else… I wouldn’t wait 7 years to marry someone… but then again he might give her a child since she wants more anyway and then maybe marry her…. Yea Kimmie I am glad that he rejected me…but sad at the same time…

ThirdWheel

July 27th, 2012
10:23 am

Well Leggs at least it was at a QT and not a flash foods…. LOL

Ughhh marriage vaules are just going down the drain… you think when you get married that is it and you are secured… not anymore…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 27th, 2012
10:25 am

All aboard for masages the maseuses are ready to work their majic. All scheduled appointments are now activated and ready to rock.

Comon Cents

July 27th, 2012
10:25 am

#rd~ sad at the same time? WHY?!? Gurl, you dodged a bullet!

Leggs

July 27th, 2012
10:27 am

7 YEARS, again, utter nonsense! Hope he hasn’t told her that plan? And, if he had, hope she’s not smiling from ear to ear!

ThirdWheel

July 27th, 2012
10:28 am

LOL well I still have to work with him and he is still hot plus I hate being rejected! But knowing that he is sleeping with another coworker just turns me off though…

Leggs

July 27th, 2012
10:29 am

“you think when you get married that is it and you are secured” – Never keep that mindset…nothing in life is secured other than taxes and death.

disco

July 27th, 2012
10:30 am

CC – re dodged a bullet. how come all I could think was “but it hurts so good.” again, y’all already know I’m off.

Leggs

July 27th, 2012
10:31 am

“But knowing that he is sleeping with another coworker just turns me off though…” That’s a good thing, because there’s women out there that this would be a turn on for, a “I’ll show you and her” type of thinking and will go after him just to satisfy her own ego! It’s now a competition.

Leggs

July 27th, 2012
10:33 am

I heard that song yesterday…come on baby, make it hurt so good. Sometime love doesn’t feel like it should, unlelss it hurts so bad….

ThirdWheel

July 27th, 2012
10:39 am

@Leggs I don’t think he has told her his plan yet. Now we were friends before and she told me that she is ready to pop out the babies and get married. She is in her 30’s… plus she has other friends that she is messing with too… so I don’t think my coworker is the only one… Once again my coworker is below average height and very cocky.. he told us the woman will wait for him or he will find someone else… I kid you not…. Now as for making it a competition the other coworker doesn’t talk to me anymore and she sees me as a threat. I don’t know why because I don’t want him anymore… He has dripped his wang into the ghetto juice and passed over the fine wine… plus I don’t like leftovers…..

Leggs

July 27th, 2012
10:42 am

O/T ~ any of you see the video of the 9 year old boy tormenting, I mean tormenting toddlers. I can post if you want. It’s disturbing. I’m afraid to see this boy grow up!!!!