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Can you unbreak a heart?

I wish there was a way to corral all the bad girls in Atlanta together and make them face the trail of broken hearts they left behind. There are so any wounded men walking around this city. Talk about The Walking Dead – dead inside!

I have heard a lot of horror stories from men who are left bitter, scorned, gun-shy. They tell me they are in no hurry to take a leap of faith on another “pathetic broad” – (That’s right, women often become broads or females post bad breakups).

I have personally had to listen to a man call his ex Satan on our first date. Another, said his ex-wife had no soul. Of course, I sympathize and empathize with broken-hearted men. I have been there before too! I just don’t know if I can handle the challenge of un-breaking a guy’s heart, restoring his faith in women again. It just sounds exhausting! (I’m lazy, I know)

What can you do when you meet someone great but they are not open to anything meaningful because of what the last person did to them? Do you think waiting it out and proving you are different then their ex is a smart move?

Have you ever met someone who is suffering from a heartbreak, yet they want still want to date you and see where it goes?

Did you ever go through a bitter phase? How did you get through it? Did you put dating on the back burner or were you actively seeking a rebound person?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

597 comments Add your comment

xkp1

July 26th, 2012
7:03 am

“There are so any wounded men…”

“…many wounded…”, maybe?

i know, it is early :-)

Lily

July 26th, 2012
7:27 am

I don’t believe any one of us possess that kind of power. Seems too big of a task to take on. I wouldn’t want someone to undertake my broken heart in that capacity and certainly, I wouldn’t.

Ray Charles to the BS

July 26th, 2012
7:30 am

I bet they forgot about Karma or the trail of tears that they left behind as well. I do respect folks who take time to heal before subjecting someone else to their last dysfunction. The Golden rule is not just a “good Idea”, its a fundemental cornerstone to staying healthy!

Exiled!

July 26th, 2012
7:37 am

How does a person love somebody to point where there heart gets ‘broken’ when they divorce or break up??

Can somebody tell me and measure for me the magnitude of that love?

Yes,they are folks who are walking dead because they poured All their hearts foolishly and in their wildest of dreams,never imagined in a thousand years that a divorce or break up could happen. Never ever in a thousand years!

But that’s FOOLISH!!!

Exiled!

July 26th, 2012
7:38 am

To a point where their heart!

Exiled!

July 26th, 2012
7:42 am

How can somebody be ‘great’ if they are not being open with their heart to u? How do u see their so called ‘greatness’?

oddmanout

July 26th, 2012
8:09 am

Good Morning!!

WOW!! Another good one!! Where do I start?? Call it being bitter or wounded or whatever you wanna call it. Just like a Lady needs to protect herself from being hurt, especially post deep relationship, a man needs to do the same. Grant it, they are not handled the same way but are very similar. I can say this because I am a guy that cant get too deep with another person. Ive just come across some real off that wall guys and that is something coming from one of the most off the wall person that I know, Me.
Next thing, no one can fix a broken heart except for the peron with the broken heart, they themselves must be willing to move on from that heartbreak by really moving on. Dont get caught in Heartbreak Hotel, there are people that prey off thoses poor souls. Only advice i can give is to first figure out he stands with himself as far as relationships go. If you notice that you are not ready to pursue a relationship with him at that moment in time, tell him. Its not the words that you say, its the tone you deliver it in.

Have a Grand One ^_^

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
8:39 am

Once the heart is broken you can’t unbreak it can heal and be mended. I can’t say much to a man that’s broken except hurry and get over it. A lady with a broken heart is different, the advice I would give her is get focused on something else you like so you can live a healthy productive life. I have seen many women with hearts broken try to re-live the old days they had with their man. Stop that and find new friends this is no time to be closed in you have to re-acclimate yourself to a new you.

Good Morning:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
8:52 am

“What can you do when you meet someone great but they are not open to anything meaningful because of what the last person did to them?”

This is why many end up in a funk, some people think they can force the issue. They know you don’t want anything and yet they try to make you feel they are the greatest lover for you. We are no one’s savior so let that person make up in their own mind when or if they will ever be ready for you.

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
8:53 am

First of all GOooood morning (Today is my Friday wooo hooo hooo)

What can you do when you meet someone great but they are not open to anything meaningful because of what the last person did to them? Do you think waiting it out and proving you are different then their ex is a smart move?

What can you do…..you keep it moving. Wait it out? HEYALLLLL NAw…Men get on women all the time for not acceping what a man says in the beginning, hoping they are going to be that great of a woman to change his mind. So 10 years down the line you’re wondering why it has not progressed to what you always hoped for. Can’t blame anyone but yourself.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
8:59 am

IMO, if a man spends that much time dwelling on his ex, it’s not over for them and I got to chuck up the deuces.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
9:01 am

Very interesting topic because I’ve been wondering the same thing myself. I’ve come up with the only way to unbreak one’s heart is to remind yourself of your “worth.” It is up to that person to heal and move onward and upward. If one looks to another to do it, disappointment will probably set in because no other person can make a person better if they’re not doing it themselves. Acknowledge your part in the “break” (if there’s blame for you to shoulder), and work toward doing things differently in the future.

“What can you do when you meet someone great but they are not open to anything meaningful because of what the last person did to them?” – This is simple. If they’re not open to anything meaningful, then I need to keep it moving. I’m no Clara Barton . I don’t have the time to fix someone’s broken heart if they’re willingly walking around wounded all the time. Dealing with an emotional closed person only dooms my own happiness.

Good morning.

Roberta

July 26th, 2012
9:02 am

Unbreak my heart. Sounds likes a pretty good title for a song. Anywho, time takes care of everything. Even broken hearts.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
9:03 am

Slmi1 I was going to add while that person is still pissed about their last relationship they are the kind you don’t want to get involved with. They will always bring up things that person done to them, they can never really get over the hump. There aint nothing there to wait for because the other person has used all their juices up.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
9:07 am

Leggs very well said at 9:01.

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
9:08 am

BF – And who would want to be around someone like that anyway…a debbie downer. I’m pretty much a happy go lucky person and i don’t want to always have to debate that every situation is different and everyone isn’t like your ex that you’re bitter about. That’s like constantly having to sell yourself to someone who can’t hear or see. Too much damn energy i’ll tell you that much.

DreamsMaterialize

July 26th, 2012
9:12 am

Morning
You can’t unbreak someone’s heart, and if someone is still suffering from hurt in past relationships, there’s nothing you can do about that. You’re setting yourself up for disappointment if you think you can “heal” them and make them believe again. People need to heal BEFORE they get into new relationships.

Single and Happy (Morning ladies ( looking for the grammar police:)

July 26th, 2012
9:14 am

Getting over a broken heart isn’t easy, but mine always seems to come unexpected in the form of a new love. Without all the extra baggage!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
9:16 am

Interesing story I read on this subject said that however long the relaionship lasts, you were breaking up half of that time. So, if you were together 5 yrs, you were “breaking up” for 2.5. Therefore, if it took you 2.5 to leave, won’t it probably take that long to heal? Anyone you meet in the interim (no matter how great they are) will not be able to help you out of that process.

ThirdWheel

July 26th, 2012
9:20 am

Did you ever go through a bitter phase? How did you get through it? Did you put dating on the back burner or were you actively seeking a rebound person?

Good Morning Yall!!
I am going through a bitter phase now. I still live with my ex though and it’s a nightmare. I tried moving on to someone else but, he ended up a loser and a user too. Now I have come to the conclusion that God just wants me to live alone until my dying day. I’m fine with that and I am in the process of planning for life for one. The men out here are foolish and I don’t have time to be used and played with. As long as they make C batteries I will be good!

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
9:24 am

Comon Sense….um, did you mean Common Sense? ijs lol

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
9:24 am

ThirdWheel

God doesn’t want you to live alone until your dying day- I think that is definitely the bitter phase talking. But maybe there is work for you to do before God sends you the right person? IJS…

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
9:26 am

SlimUno-

Nope, I meant Comon Cents. I figure that it’s damn sure not common anymore so maybe we should change the spelling.

disco

July 26th, 2012
9:28 am

good morning.

I don’t deny there are broken-hearted men walking around but my first thought upon reading diva’s comment re the men and the ex bashing was that some of it’s game. how so? if you operate under the predator/prey assumption, some guys know which chicks to prey on. they can smell the weak on them. these guys think if they tell a certain kind of woman all about the bad of the last woman that the new woman will do all in her power not to be/act the same way. truth of the matter is, there are some ditzy broads out there that will try to “love” him better than the last one. if he complains the ex didn’t cook, she’ll try to cook more. if he claims the ex kept a nasty house, she tries to keep hers neater. you get the picture. they want all the dirt on the ex so they have a “guide book” on how to act or not act. shame on them (the chicks who are simple enough to get caught up) I say.

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
9:29 am

3rd Wheel – How old are you if you don’t mind me asking?

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
9:32 am

disco

I have to give you the “Amen!” to that! Honestly, I really don’t want to hear about your ex. Especially when you talk about her like a dog, but then y’all were together for 9 years. If she was such a biotch why did you stay for 9 years?!? AND you’re still talking about her to anyone who’ll listen? Puh-leez!

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
9:33 am

Morning, all!

I can’t “unbreak” anyone’s heart; not even my own. Each has to heal in his or her own time and own way.

I do, however, now have the song stuck in my head. Thanks for that, Diva.

Unbreak my heart….say you love me again…..

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
9:33 am

Morning,

It’s simple, heal yourself or allow yourself to heal before embarking on a new love.

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
9:37 am

CS – Alrigyty then

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
9:43 am

@C: Dang! We have the twink connection going – we said almost the same thing. LOL

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
9:48 am

ITL – Heeeey! Noticed the time? Same time too :)

disco

July 26th, 2012
9:49 am

wonder twin power – ACTIVATE!

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
9:51 am

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
9:54 am

Form of….an ice ladder! :)

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
9:54 am

@disco: I used to love the Superfriends, and the Wonder Twins were one of my faves. I loved their little purple monkey. What was his name? Gleep??

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
10:04 am

Thought this fitting for today’s topic

Speak life to your broken dreams today. Stay in an attitude of faith and expectancy, and as you do, God will take you places that you’ve never dreamed. He’ll make something beautiful out of every broken place in your life!

D Dub of the ATL (back to his roots)

July 26th, 2012
10:05 am

From personal experience, there are two things that mend a broken heart for a man – Time, and an EXCEPTIONAL woman. Please note the word exceptional – a good woman isn’t enough anymore. My ex-wife will forever be referred to as Grimace because she started looking like the McDonald’s character and I grimace every time I am forced to think about her.

Back to the recovery… it actually took two women to bring me back. I was weighed down in self-doubt, and was constantly wondering what I did to deserve being treated so crappy. Those two ladies made me realize that the only thing I did wrong was decide to marry a psychopath. At the end of the day, I am still the same person I was pre-marriage (with a few new battle scars), and there was nothing wrong with me. A few months ago I made a trip back to the city that she lives in and ran into the guy she had been sleeping with the entire time we were married – for the longest time I wanted to punch this dude in the face… but when I actually had the opportunity, the only thing I could do was tell him thank you. He probably did me the biggest favor anyone has done in my life. Marrying that skank was one of the dumbest things I did in my life, and I have lived to tell the story without any kids, and without any significant debt.

Today I am in love with a beautiful woman that is going to have my first child early next year – time and time again, she has shown that she has my back in any situation, trusts me unequivocally, and appreciates and allows me to be a man – something my ex never did and probably will never be capable of.

An Exceptional Woman and Time. That’s all you need.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
10:06 am

Hello lady’s, what’s the happenings with my sisters? Is baby Rella doing good, just so you know I caught up with For Real he should be coming soon with some pampers and milk..

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
10:08 am

O/T: Just found out one of the GM’s of a nearby hotel we send dealers to, died of a massive heart attack last night. He was just in here Tuesday and was supposed to buy my department lunch today. I’ve had chills ever since I found out…he wasn’t even old, over weight nor sick. You just never know these days. Wow :shock:

disco

July 26th, 2012
10:08 am

D Dub – nice little story. I love the term grimace. too funny. congratulations on your comeback. I have to ask though, if a broken hearted man never meets and “exceptional” woman, is he doomed for all time?

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
10:10 am

D Dub – Beautiful story. I’ve read you on here before. Your tone is much different.

I have to wonder to on this –> I have to ask though, if a broken hearted man never meets and “exceptional” woman, is he doomed for all time?

Could it be coincidental that as you nearly healed, you met a good woman?

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
10:11 am

D Dub – So what happened with the chick before your current exceptional woman…did you drive her away with your bitterness?

disco

July 26th, 2012
10:12 am

C – not “good”. good isn’t enough anymore. lol.

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
10:12 am

Time is really all you need :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
10:12 am

Slim1 sorry to hear that, I saw on the news yesterday there is a 34 year grandma and the child is 13 months. Meaning she was a grandma at age 33, I hope this aint a new trend for parenting.

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
10:12 am

Heeeey, Uncle Foote! Good lookin’ out. :) No chicken franks for you at the BBQ; nope, you get a steak! :lol:

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
10:12 am

disco – I caught that…whew

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
10:13 am

@Slim: I’m so sorry to hear that. :(

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
10:13 am

Nice post, D Dub! Glad to got to the other side. Nice!

ThirdWheel

July 26th, 2012
10:14 am

Hey Slim I am 32 years old

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
10:16 am

But couldn’t we turn that question around? Any time a relationship fails there is definitely enough blame to go around on all sides.

disco

July 26th, 2012
10:18 am

BF – re the parenting trend. I’ve joked that I come from a long line of teen parents. while there is the obvious downside one of the pluses is that we grew up with tons of grandparents, great grandparents, great great grandparents. some of my friends never experienced any grandparents at all. my grandfather is 80 years old and only just lost his mother a few years ago. on both sides of my family we go five generations strong.

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
10:20 am

BF – I think they were discussing young grandparents and great grandparents on the Bert Show this morning. They had folks calling in trying to top the youngest grandparents from the previous caller.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
10:21 am

I used to work for the state and I had a 23 year old grandmother on my caseload. She had a baby at 11 and her baby brought her a baby at 12. I think the grandmother was only in her 30’s. Sad state of affairs…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
10:22 am

Chicken franks? Where do they sell them at? The steak sounds delicious over a fire grill, but it have to be surrounded with some scallops or a rock lobster. If the staek is right no sauce needed, now I’m thinking about the bone-in rib eye I had for dinner. I had breakfast this morning, talking steak done brought my appetite back.

Robert

July 26th, 2012
10:22 am

“What can you do when you meet someone great but they are not open to anything meaningful because of what the last person did to them?”

When we are young and we experience these feelings for the first time we struggle to understand why this happening to me. As we get older we should look at ourselfs rather than what someone else did. For example I always ask myself;
1. What is wrong with me for allowing anyone to treat me bad?
2. Why do I attract the wrong kinds of women (bad girls, etc.)?
3. Why did I not see the signs – “hand writing on the wall”

Some people are prone to repeat the same mistakes and struggle with new relationships because they can not “forgive” in their heart & mind and forget about the past and thus lack “trust” which is a key ingredient in a new relationship. Getting over past relationships should make you stronger, wiser and better.

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
10:22 am

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
10:23 am

I think there is a story out of a 10 year old that just had a baby recently. Now that’s just plain crazy…

Lets see, My niece is 3yrs old, my sister is six years younger than me at 28, I’m 34, my mother is 51 and my grandmother is 74. My mom had me she was 16 turning 17. So far, I don’t have any kids ;-)

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
10:23 am

ITL- Right?!? Sadly, we had both the “mother” and the baby in care at the same time… SMDH

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
10:24 am

BF: I am SO with you on the no sauce needed. You’re making me hungry for some surf and turf. I love scallops. Lobster, too. And skrimps.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
10:26 am

“Any time a relationship fails there is definitely enough blame to go around on all sides.” – Not necessarily. Some times, it’s the guy being a manhore, she a skank, he has a double life unbeknownst to the wife, she’s a call gal at night…a host of things can go wrong where the blame can easily rest on one person’s shoulders.

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
10:26 am

Some people are prone to repeat the same mistakes and struggle with new relationships because they can not “forgive” in their heart & mind and forget about the past and thus lack “trust” which is a key ingredient in a new relationship. Getting over past relationships should make you stronger, wiser and better.

Robert, I agree

disco

July 26th, 2012
10:27 am

I’ve said before “old enough to bleed, old enough to breed”.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
10:28 am

What the heck a 23 year old grandma.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
10:30 am

LOL……@disco

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
10:30 am

BR & ITL – Well since you two are talking lobster tails and steak, I’m sure you’d be disappointed to read this story about a 17lb lobster lol

http://www.ajc.com/news/nation-world/man-frees-17-pound-1484327.html?cxntlid=thbz_hm

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
10:34 am

I know a guy and this dude was serious when he said this, from 18 to 79 he would take them on. He was about 48.

disco

July 26th, 2012
10:34 am

BF – it’s funny but it’s real. I think a lot of people forget that. they recognize that little girls are having periods, some as early as 8 or 9 years old. we all know some little girls that are bigger at 8 or 9 than some grown women. people still tend to think “oh, they are just kids”. they don’t think that with periods come “certain feelings”. throw in innocent little games of house or doctor and opportunistic predatory friends/family members/neighbors and things can and do happen.

D Dub of the ATL (back to his roots)

July 26th, 2012
10:36 am

Disco… to say someone is doomed is a bit harsh, but it is usually self-inflicted as well. I guess I should add another caveat in the mix that he must be willing to allow that exceptional woman into his life. Time may be the catalyst to let that happen sometimes, but at the end of the day you must let go of the past to be able to get to your future. Few people can do that on their own – I certainly needed that push.

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
10:37 am

No man is worth your tears. And when you find the one who is, he will never make you cry.
Unknown

When a love comes to an end, weaklings cry, efficient ones instantly find another love, and the wise already have one in reserve.
Oscar Wilde

There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can” live without but have to let go.
Unknown

I was never one to patiently pick up broken fragments and glue them together again and tell myself that the mended whole was as good as new. What is broken is broken — and I’d rather remember it as it was at its best than mend it and see the broken places as I lived.
Margaret Mitchell

Love can sometimes be magic. But magic can sometimes… just be an illusion.
Javan

There is a time for departure even when there’s no certain place to go.
Tennessee Williams

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
10:38 am

Slim1, Larry the lobster would have been on a oversized plate. 17lbs. of lobster would last almost a week.

kimmie

July 26th, 2012
10:38 am

Morning Gang!!

Hey 3rd, didn’t you tell us you were on a path to getting fit and healthy? Concentrate on that! It’s something about losing weight and getting fine that just does WONDERS for the self-esteem! Yours will go thru the roof. Trust me on that. In the meantime, God will help you find a way to be able to physically separate from your ex that’s living with you. It’s probably better to put dating on the back burner awhile until you get in a better place physically and emotionally. You will attract a better caliber of men. Your positive spirit will be infectious!!

disco – Love your post!!! Most of that broken-hearted man mess is all game, if you ask me. I’m not saying men can’t be hurt, but going around beyotching about it to anyone that will listen – miss me with that!

On topic – It is entirely too exhausting to try to deal with a bitter person. I’ve found men especially tend to hold onto that bitterness for a very long time. Oh sure, alot will jump on out there quickly and sleep around, but that doesn’t mean they have truly dealt with the hurt. Some will even marry someone else, but deep down, still isn’t dealt with. Plus, too many times I’ve seen these very dudes GO BACK to the very chick they claimed caused them so much grief. They liked that mess all along or they wouldn’t have hung around and taken it! It’s a thin line between love and hate, they say!(another song title). So do yourself a favor and if you come across a dude like that – RUN! He’ll probably go back to her real soon anyway!

(you probably can tell I may have some experience with this. yep I have and it wasn’t pretty!)

Sassy Me...The blacker the berry... :-)

July 26th, 2012
10:40 am

I love scallops. Lobster, too. And skrimps.

I sooo cosign on that!! Speaking of seafood did you see the way Benzino cooked for his date on Love n Hip Hop Atl?(yeah I watched it)…dude had skills.

On topic: It’s already been very eloquently well stated that you can’t “unbreak” someone’s heart…that’s something they have to do for themselves. You can be supportive to a point but after a while it may feel like therapy. I think after a break up the person would need to take time and: 1. Reflect on what happened and accept ownership,if any, then 2. Heal yourself and your soul cause going through a breakup can be a grieving process of sorts and lastly 3. Just chill out, do you and don’t rush into another relationship until you’re READY. Unfortunately some people think the best way to get over someone is be getting on or under someone else but that’s a fleeting, short lived moment that only leads to more of what they were trying to escape in the first place.

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
10:41 am

When a love comes to an end, weaklings cry, efficient ones instantly find another love, and the wise already have one in reserve.
Oscar Wilde

Meant to take this one out…I copied the page

D Dub of the ATL (back to his roots)

July 26th, 2012
10:42 am

Celisea – time has helped me get over it, so I think my tone and outlook has changed significantly.

SlimUno – we are still friends, but realized that we were at different points in our life and she lives in the city with Grimace – I needed to be closer to my family (I have a 18-month old nephew) and her moving here wasn’t an option with her family being there.

Leggs – Thanks!

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
10:43 am

Dang, just got busted coming out the closet with my space heater. Oh well, write me up because I’m cold. Walked to my desk with him following behind me. I plugged it up anyway, listened to his spiel , nodded, then he walked away because he knew I wasn’t really trying to hear what he was say.

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
10:44 am

3rd Wheel – You are too young to be chanting the ‘you’re probably just meant alone mantra’…in the words of Cuba Gooding Jr in that movie RADIO….”Doooon’t quit! Dooooon’t quit!” lol

kimmie

July 26th, 2012
10:47 am

3rd – I agree with Slim – you’re too young for all that. Eff those dudes. Don’t give them the power to break your spirit!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
10:48 am

“Not necessarily. Some times, it’s the guy being a manhore, she a skank, he has a double life unbeknownst to the wife, she’s a call gal at night…a host of things can go wrong where the blame can easily rest on one person’s shoulders.”

1. If he was a manwhore/she was a skank, s/he didn’t get that way overnight. Know who you are involved with. If you choose to say in the face of evidence that he’s a cheater that’s your own blame. You can’t fix stupid either.

2. No one is perfect. Even if you love you SO dearly, there are those traits that make you want to strangle them almost daily. The trick is not to find someone perfect; it’s to find someone as messed up as you so that they can deal with your shortcomings and you can deal with theirs.

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
10:48 am

Ut oh, Chad Ochocinco is doing the Wesley Snipes…just listening to the radio

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
10:49 am

I agree with the DJ…go for what you know and want, but don’t assisinate the character of black women….overall

compliments of V103

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
10:49 am

Leggs – I have my space heater plugged up, Live and in action! Hace frio!

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
10:50 am

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
10:51 am

No one is perfect. Even if you love you SO dearly, there are those traits that make you want to strangle them almost daily. The trick is not to find someone perfect; it’s to find someone as messed up as you so that they can deal with your shortcomings and you can deal with theirs.

Agreed

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
10:52 am

What the, Leggs it’s almost a hundred degrees outside and you’re cold. Here you can have a heated blanket to keep you warm until I arrive.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
10:52 am

Comon ~ you’re right, no one is perfect. Simply going on your statement that the demise of a relationship is usually both parties fault. Not always.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
10:52 am

ITL – Love you twin twink. Turn your frown upside down :)

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
10:53 am

Oh yes, snatching that heated blanket…thank you!

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
10:54 am

kimmie/3rd – I was talking to an older lady just yesterday. She said she has a friend who is 62yrs old. She has never been married, nor has had any kids. She lives alone and has no idea what to do with her money. Anyway, she said she knows that God has a husband for her and she is waiting but until then, she’ll shop, travel or whatever until they meet. Now that’s faith for yo azz!

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
10:54 am

Not directed entirely at you BF, but why do people say “it’s 100 degrees outside and you’re complaining about being cold?” Yep – my desk isn’t outside…..

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
10:56 am

Cely wasn’t Ochocinco involved with the gal on DWS?

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
10:58 am

Cel – I was on another station, so what exactly did Ocho say?

kimmie

July 26th, 2012
10:58 am

Slim – Go on with her bad 62 self!!

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
10:59 am

BF ~ he supposedly had a brief affair with his dance partner..very brief.

kimmie

July 26th, 2012
11:02 am

Cel – Chad & Evelyn just got married & he’s going back to his birth name of Chad Johnson. He just got picked up by the Miami Dolphins. Life seems to be going good for him. I didn’t hear the radio spot, but why the putdowns?

He just seems to have a stank attitude anyway when I’ve seen him on BBW.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
11:03 am

Blackfoote – Not sure

Slim – They said on his twitter page he asked for thoughts surrounding interracial marriages. That he went latino because with black women you can’t win….something like that. I logged into twitter to see if I could see it…couldn’t. Pretty much the same thing as others that feel that way. On the radio, they’re saying he’s had his comeuppance and pretty much adopted the same drab attitude. She asked where were the latinos when he was broke??? She was also asking how he could feel that way when his daughters are black? Overall, the same we said the other day….if you’re experience was a bad one with a black women, fine we won’t discount. Just because though, don’t assisinate the entire race of black women with blanket statements and a dumb point of view.

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
11:03 am

Awwww, thanks, C! :)

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
11:04 am

Kimmie – I just read that on his Twitter page. I didn’t realize they were married. They said when he did his reality show, he asked the producers to limit the number of black contestants. I watched a bit of it when it aired but stopped because I got the same vibe….stank attitude.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
11:05 am

Leggs ~ Didn’t he just change his name because he got married and didn’t want the new wifey to have to drag OchoCinco around? Ain’t that some ish!?! Marry you and THEN disclose he was sleeping with his dance partner. SMDH…

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
11:05 am

ITL – I’ve played too much this week, I’m playing catch up. Just wanted to send some rays your way :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
11:06 am

LOL……..@Leggs I’m hot nature, shoot when it’s 75 outside I complain about it being hot.

disco

July 26th, 2012
11:07 am

kimmie/slim – re 62 year old keeping the faith. I wish her the best. goodness knows I’ve heard and read stories of folks marrying later. still, not to be all negative, I’ve seen folks die unmarried. I always wonder if they never wanted to marry or never had the opportunity. It makes me think of how everyone has a story.

celisea – re old boy’s daughters being black. I have a friend (non-black) who was married to and had two children with a black man. they divorced. her ex-husband is the type who just out and out doesn’t date black women at all. after her divorce she decided she was just plain through with black men. she has since remarried a white guy. I told her that, in my opinion, she and her ex-husband were both sending their “black” children a very serious message that black people obviously aren’t good enough. her response was that she’d never thought of it that way.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
11:09 am

disco – I agree 150% in sending a message to your (black) children that black isn’t good enough if all you ever seek are people outside of your own race.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
11:10 am

kimmie ~ I agree on the stank attitude with Chad. He’s cocky, corny, stuck on self and strokes his own ego (constantly). Just like Terrell Owens. Hope he fares better than Terrell.

ThirdWheel

July 26th, 2012
11:16 am

LOL! Thanks Slim and Kimmie!! I’m just not getting my hopes up anymore! I see I tend attract guys that need help….

kimmie

July 26th, 2012
11:19 am

Leggs/Cel – With stank dudes like Chad & TO, whatever other races they want can have them. They can decide to hook up with green aliens for all I care. Somebody else’s problem to deal with, not mine!LOL!!!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
11:21 am

Leggs I don’t go calling folks out on ugly but that gal TO has a child with is just that. He didn’t look at the woman in court the other day and she said he haven’t seen the child in years. And he’s a daddy of more children what a way to be a dad.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
11:22 am

Kimmie – Less crap for us to have to deal with if they all (that feel that way), migrate to the race they so desire…lol I wish we could do a sweep of all those attitudes and get rid of them at once…lol I’ve always been like you don’t want me? You won’t EVER have to worry about me. Ever!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
11:22 am

On the OchoCinco/On Topic note~ Have you guys seen this movie “Diary of a Tired Black Man”?

disco

July 26th, 2012
11:22 am

kimmie – as with Wesley snipes we’ll just vote those other jokers on over to the other side. can we take away some benefits when they crossover? perhaps keep them from being able to use cocoa butter? lol. okay, I’m being silly.

kimmie

July 26th, 2012
11:24 am

3rd – Girl, needy men prey on women they think have low self-esteem. Sometimes you have to “fake it till you make it” so you don’t give off that energy. When they see a confident 3rd at peace with herself, they’ll know you are not the one and go bother someone else. People like to say opposites attract, when I think it’s more “same attract same”. A positive, together individual will more likely attract and be attracted to more of the same!

kimmie

July 26th, 2012
11:26 am

disco – Take away not only cocoa butter, but shea butter, olive oil butter…. the list goes on!LOL!!!!

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
11:27 am

I see I tend to attract guys that need help….

We probably all have, but recognize it and K.I.M. Just because they’re attracted to you doesn’t mean you have to be a magnet and have them stuck to you. Shoo pesky one, shoo….

disco

July 26th, 2012
11:32 am

well alright kimmie. since you took the bait. I say we keep possession of all hair care products and accessories. no do-rags or stocking caps for them. we also get to keep hot sauce. any of you see dave chappelle’s racial draft. that man’s a nut.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
11:35 am

I think we should let them have their hot sauce. White people use hot sauce, but doubt they use cocoa butter.

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
11:37 am

disco – Let’s send the Tussy products with them too :lol:

Ray Charles to the BS

July 26th, 2012
11:38 am

Lol..I need Happy Hour. Is it too early for a Margurita?

disco

July 26th, 2012
11:40 am

leggs – then can we keep the lawry’s seasoning salt? red kool aid? something? alright. I do need a topic change. lol. anybody got anything?

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
11:41 am

Whatever you do, don’t take the Vaseline. Wesley might need that in his current accomodations…

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
11:41 am

disco – I decided to hold back and not switch up. It’s only fair to allow folks to post their thoughts and opinions. I don’t have anything but if you got something toss it out there.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
11:42 am

Not that I do that on purpose…lol Just the way the flow goes.

disco

July 26th, 2012
11:43 am

C – I agree. folks can post whatever. on topic, off topic, personal issues. I’m having a slow day. all I want is for folks to post. help a sister out.

comon – good one.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
11:45 am

Hey now, hold up a minute… I need that hot sauce. And I use the do rags as headbands for tennis. Can a whiteboy get an exemption up in here? ;)

Morning, folks!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
11:50 am

Well, disco, here you go~ personal issue and since I don’t know any of you, I will solicit your opinion. ;)

To make this short:

I lived with someone for 4 yrs. We broke up in Mar 2002. Met the now ex husband in Jul 2002. We got married 8 weeks after meeting (yeah, he was the rebound guy). In Jan 2005 he says he wants an open marriage. I left. Date someone briefly. Friends sart telling me the husband is miserable without me, blah blah blah. I go back in Nov 2005. Agree to open marriage. He sleeps around; I don’t. Daughter is born in Sep 2006. Finally get sick of it in summer 2010 and start preparing to leave. Left in Apr 2011. Reconnect with old BF. Divorce final Aug 2011. Remarried Jan 2012. Ex husban paternity tests daughter in May 2005. She’s not his. He is accusing current husband of being the father (which he is not) and is suing me for custody.

The question is: He has been verbally abusive and posted LOTS of random threats on FB. I am contemplating terminating his rights. Opinions?

disco

July 26th, 2012
11:50 am

hey swiss – you get an all access pass.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
11:51 am

What are your needs/wants for today? Anyone?

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
11:54 am

DAYUM, Comon Cents. You definitely didn’t use common sense. And, he’s not the father. Man, if you were on Maury the entire audience would have had their mouths wide open in shock!

And, why do women agree to an open marriage when they don’t want one. Never a sure fire way of keeping your man.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
11:54 am

Ok, people, come out of your shock and weigh in (lol).

Thanks for sharing, Comon!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
11:54 am

Sorry May 2012 on the paternity test.

disco

July 26th, 2012
11:56 am

comon – is it an open marriage if only one partner is “open”? well, I guess technically it is since you gave the go ahead. I’ll stay in my lane on that one. if he’s not the father he can kick rocks suing for custody as far as I’m concerned.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
11:57 am

I go back in Nov 2005. Agree to open marriage. He sleeps around; I don’t. Daughter is born in Sep 2006.

Then how did you become pregnant???

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
11:58 am

Leggs: I got pregnant while we were apart. When they changed her due date, I knew he wasn’t her fater and (obviously) on some level he did too. Even though he is not the father, he is attempting to remain in her life (but he doesn’t want to pay child support. Ain’t that rich?!?)

I think I agreed to the open marriage because at that point I just didn’t care. I think I knew the marriage was going to end then, I just had to plot my escape.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
11:59 am

Nevermind, you had to be pregnant before going back to him in Nov. 2005.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
11:59 am

LOL…I did the math, Comon.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
12:00 pm

Clarification: the guy I was dating while we were apart is her father. He knows he is her father (He and I are friends. He is actually her Godfather. He has since gotten married and his wife does not know about our daughter and it would be complicated to explain so we have left him out of this equation)

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
12:01 pm

Disco: Yea, it was open. Whenever he “did his thang” I knew what he was doing.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
12:01 pm

Gotcha, Comon. Like Katie Holmes proved, planning/plotting may be necessary.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
12:03 pm

He’s her Godfather as a ruse to cover things up? Wow. That’s a new one for me.

kimmie

July 26th, 2012
12:05 pm

I don’t know what to say except you didn’t use much common sense, Comon Cents. Sorry just could not resist it!

Anyway, yeah agree with Leggs about the open thing. That’s not a marriage. One may have fun for awhile(whomevers idea it was) but after a point it should get old(or they get old). Just asking for mess even agreeing to it.

Sounds like the only issue is the legal. Let the attorneys and the courts handle. Get you good, mean attorney that will pull out all the stops.

disco

July 26th, 2012
12:05 pm

common – well it sounds like he’s attempting to use the kid to keep tabs on you. he may not be ready to let you go and if he gets visitation with the kid, he gets visitation with mommy. nip it all in the bud. terminate his rights and you and your baby get on with your lives. now the game you are playing with the father/godfather is a little more tricky. if he knows but won’t claim her openly what kind of friend is he really? if he’s your friend – like you say – there’s a chance that wifey will see said child. what happens when one day she looks like/acts like him and wifey figures it out? you have a lot going on. as leggs said – thanks for sharing.

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
12:12 pm

WoW, let me gather my thoughts

Bluzgirl

July 26th, 2012
12:13 pm

On topic: I’ve been in two serious relationship where the men seemed to be “ruined” because of an ex. Both of them were very bitter. I think I held onto hope that they would learn that I’m not the ex and get over it. WRONG!!! I’ve been hurt by several men in my past and I refuse to get bitter about love. Let’s hope the next man I fall for is not a wounded little boy! I’m tired of those!!!!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
12:17 pm

Common Cents let me chime in, old hubs want to stay with you because you allowed him the freedom to check in with other women. He knows it is unlikely another woman is going to agree to him sleeping with folks. You gave him the green light for a double life style and he wants to keep it that way.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
12:20 pm

Bluz you’ve got some fire in you stay strong you’ve come a long ways.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
12:21 pm

Just a hot, lumpy bed of coals….

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
12:23 pm

On the father/Godfather thing: We have discussed it and I feel that at some point she will want to know who her father is and he and I have both written her letters discussing what happened and why we made the decisions that we made. (They are in a safety deposit box for her) I feel that it is an on him to discuss the situation with the wife (not my place). I am friendly (we see each other socially ocasionally) with the wife. IDK that she would figure he is the father because my daughter looks and acts like me. (She actually took very little from her father except skin tone)

Legally, I am planning on filing the petition to terminate his rights but apparently that is an uphill battle in Georgia. She has a strong male role model in the step-dad and they are very close.

Disco: The point about keeping tabs on me seems to be the general consensus among my friends and family. He is in another relationship, but apparently spends all of his time marinating on what I’m doing, whether I am happy in my marriage, etc. (Which is what led me to my answers about today’s topic)

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
12:24 pm

I use hot sauce. And a bloody mary is not complete without seasoned salt on the rim. AND I use cocoa butter. AND I have a gallon of tropical punch Kool-aid in my refrigerator right now.

Hmph. Please miss me with all that racial profiling mess, food or otherwise.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
12:25 pm

BF~ Funny you should say that; I was surprised by the number of people we met who were into that lifestyle and did both permit their partners to sleep around and slept around themselves.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
12:25 pm

Leggs has boss man gone about his business and left you alone. Why don’t they let you use a space heater, do they trip the circuit breakers?

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
12:26 pm

@Comon Sense: Wow. I don’t have anything to add to what the other bloggers said about your ex, but I am curious about the godfather. Does your daughter know he is her dad? Do you think she has a right to know the truth?

disco

July 26th, 2012
12:27 pm

comon – I figured I’d hear that the daughter looks nothing like him. trust me when I say there is always something. it may skip the notice of the common observer but the wife knows her husband. she’ll pick up on little mannerisms that you may not even pick up on. she may laugh just like him, smile just like him, tilt her head just like him. any of a zillion things.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
12:29 pm

ITL ~ calm down pookie, just joking around.

BF ~ boss man is here today holed up in his junky office. I’m fine with that . Yes, they trip the breakers. BUT, since only a handful of us still seem to have our heaters, I see nothing wrong with pulling it out every so often. My legs are cold and the heat feels good on them.

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
12:29 pm

@comon: Never mind. I see your earlier post answered my question. I think you are walking some shaky ground with your future relationship with her by not telling her.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
12:29 pm

disco~ True. She very well may pick up on someting that I have missed, but that will be his row to hoe; not mine. I suggested to him that he be honest with her BEFORE they said “I do”. I was honest with my now husband before we got married.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
12:30 pm

Comon ~ I think the letters in the safety deposit box is a good step, but hopefully you won’t need to have her read the letters and you would have told her yourself at some point.

HST

July 26th, 2012
12:31 pm

“I am contemplating terminating his rights. Opinions?”

No way that you can blame the ex for being hurt, which is why I’m assuming he’s giving you crap via social media. You have to expect some backlash from him finding out the child wasn’t his, moreover, your timeline that you typed only leaves the BF now husband to be the only other father. That is an ego crusher, and just very hurtful, especially when he raised her as his child all those years.

I say, deal with him, and his emotions. He obviously wants to be Daddy to his child no matter what, and you shouldn’t take that from him. After all, you not only gave it to him, but in the most traditional sense – a child from marriage. Even though it wasn’t the most conventional, it was your marriage, and you chose to be there.

This is going to take time to heal, and I can only imagine what your daughter is going to think.

You sound very co-dependent, you need professional help. I don’t mean that negatively, but after your statement, it’s clear as day. Everyone has problems, yours are a little unique, but you shouldn’t just run away (taking the child away). I don’t think you’ll grow as a person until you find out why you have co-dependency issues.

Jake...SPJTWB

July 26th, 2012
12:32 pm

I’m sure this has been said, I’ll read back..but, ladies, do not waste your time on a dude who is heartbroken, he soft ass hellz for telling you about “her”. We are like hotels, if the no vacncy light is on, you cannot get a room (in his heart), no matter how much you offer to pay. (no matter how great, sexy, phat azzeded you are).

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
12:32 pm

ITL ~ calm down pookie, just joking around.

@Leggs: and so was I. Sort of. I didn’t comment the other day, but it seems to me if we (all people) are always looking for the things that make us separate and divided, we will never be unified. I’m not saying that people should give up the cultural identities and traditions that make them who they are. But I think that even in 2012 there are a lot of misconceptions about other races – by all sides. It’s disheartening.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
12:33 pm

ITL~ With everything that is going on, she is seeing a therapist and we are trying to find the best way to tell her that the ex is not her father (since I am seeking to terminate his rights I don’t want her to feel abandoned by someone who has been around her all of her life) but, she is only 5 so I am treading very lightly.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
12:33 pm

Common Cents I had to re-think and say we are in Atlanta and lifestyles like that are on the rise.

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
12:36 pm

@Comon: I’m glad you are getting assistance on a professional level. I know this is going to be a tricky situation to navigate, and I wish you the best of luck.

Bluzgirl

July 26th, 2012
12:37 pm

Thanks BF!!! Time heals all wounds. I felt broken hearted for a bit, but have realized that my heart was only a little bruised and it heals more and more each day!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
12:38 pm

HST~ Not co-dependent. He is a very volatile personality and my fear is that if she does not know that he is not her father, he will have a disareement with her at 11 or 15 and yell out “I’m not your dad anyway!” He is that type of person. Also, realistically, he KNEW there was a possibility he was not her father or he never would have taken her to be paternity tested. Instead of manning up and asking me (I would have told him the truth) he snuck off to test her. And the BF (now husband) is NOT her father. He and I broke up in 2002 and reconnected in 2011. I dated someone else during the 2005 separation.

disco

July 26th, 2012
12:38 pm

HST – you brought a whole new perspective. I’d tell ex hubs where to go, how to get there, and when to get off.

ITL (again) – I agree with you that some folks tend to seek out differences. there are always going to be differences and there are always going to be similarities. personally, I appreciate open dialogue about both the differences and the similarities. if I can have a little fun with it, that’s all good too. I don’t mean to offend but it happens sometimes just the same.

HST

July 26th, 2012
12:42 pm

IMO, any guy who whines about an ex on a first date, or the first few is not over her, and needs help himself with emotions. I would be embarrassed if I even mentioned another woman while on a date – much less complain. The women I date would put me on the friend list, or do not call if I said anything of the sorts.

I’m surprised at what some put up with in the dating arena.

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
12:42 pm

personally, I appreciate open dialogue about both the differences and the similarities. if I can have a little fun with it, that’s all good too.

Agree 110%, disco. I think we run into issues when people can’t differentiate between stereotypes and reality. :)

(again)?? Did you agree with me earlier? Am I 2 for 2? ;)

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
12:43 pm

ITL – Hugs :) We’re just discussing, no offense intended. Still you have to understand if you’re talking among predominately blacks, there’s going to be “that kind of discussion”

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
12:46 pm

disco, C & ITL~ My issue is not people dating outside of their race, it is when they say they “only” date a certain race or don’t date a certain race that I start giving them the side eye.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
12:47 pm

Comon Cents – I agree, whole heartedly

disco

July 26th, 2012
12:48 pm

CC – (I got tired of typing comon since spell check keeps correcting it) – I think we covered that yesterday or whatever day we had our Wesley snipes segment.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
12:48 pm

HST I gotta say I wouldn’t know how to start a conversation about an ex while out on a date. I wouldn’t say anything negative if at all because the lady I’m with will think if this nut is talking about an ex this way what will he say about me.

Into the Light - White on the Outside, Multicolored on the Inside

July 26th, 2012
12:48 pm

@C: I know, Twink. And I’m not offended. Those conversations just read a little awkward for me, because it’s not clear if people really think that way, or they’re just kidding, or a little of both. :)

Into the Light - White on the Outside, Multicolored on the Inside

July 26th, 2012
12:49 pm

@CC: I agree!!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
12:50 pm

ITL – :) :) Hugs and kisses and I completely understand from where you’re coming

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
12:50 pm

Cely we got Light wrapped in nothing but love she knows it.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
12:50 pm

ITL~ If it makes you feel better, I got the rainbow coalition going on over at my house right now. I have a half Philipino, a half Guatemalan, a half white and two blacks. We don’t discriminate! LOL!

HST

July 26th, 2012
12:51 pm

“HST~ Not co-dependent.” ~Yes, you are.

“He is a very volatile personality and my fear is that if she does not know that he is not her father, he will have a disareement with her at 11 or 15 and yell out “I’m not your dad anyway!” He is that type of person.” ~Way too judgmental, and you put that aside yourself, deal with your actions. You let him be the father and he was your husband. If you’re in GA you will lose this legally if he purses, because you let him think he was the father.

“Also, realistically, he KNEW there was a possibility he was not her father or he never would have taken her to be paternity tested. Instead of manning up and asking me (I would have told him the truth) he snuck off to test her.” ~Knowing a possibility is an unknown; if you wanted to be truthful, you would have told him in the beginning.

“And the BF (now husband) is NOT her father. He and I broke up in 2002 and reconnected in 2011. I dated someone else during the 2005 separation.” ~I thought you married the fling, my mistake. Have you told the fling he’s the father? Is he?

Into the Light - White on the Outside, Multicolored on the Inside

July 26th, 2012
12:52 pm

Awwww. Nothing like being wrapped in Zinger Trio love. (ITL getting a little teary now)

This blog really does make my day so much more amusing.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
12:52 pm

Blackfoote – Zingers for like

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
12:53 pm

life not like

disco

July 26th, 2012
12:53 pm

BF – that’s because you aren’t the predator out there seeking gazelles. lol. a gazelle wouldn’t think you were a nut. a gazelle would think your ex didn’t understand you and didn’t deserve you. a gazelle would be trying to be the best gazelle she could be.

Into the Light - Zinger to Infinity....and Beyond!

July 26th, 2012
12:54 pm

I feel like we need a group hug. :lol:

Into the Light - Zinger to Infinity....and Beyond!

July 26th, 2012
12:55 pm

@disco’s 12:53: that is Truth with a capital T.

HST

July 26th, 2012
12:57 pm

Exactly BF, If I hang with someone, and they talk poop about one of our friends whom isn’t around – I feel I can’t trust them. I would think nothing less if a date did the same about an ex.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
12:59 pm

“Yes, you are.” ~ So glad you can deduce that from 3 paragraphs of text. I am a lot of things, but co-dependent is DEFINITELY not one.

“Knowing a possibility is an unknown; if you wanted to be truthful, you would have told him in the beginning.”~ I shortened the story for the sake of space, but to give you some background, before the marriage was “open” we had 8 failed pregnancys together. When they gave us the due date of my daughter, I was pretty sure he could not be her father. I tried to broach the subject several times but he shut me down. During that same period, he told several mutual friends that he did not believe that he was her father but NEVER asked me or spoke to me about it. It is only when he sees that I really don’t want to have anything to do with him other than regarding our child that he pulls the paternity test stunt.

“I thought you married the fling, my mistake. Have you told the fling he’s the father? Is he?”~ See the earlier posts. A. It was not a fling. He was someone I dated and B. He is the father & knows he is the father.

Into the Light - Zinger to Infinity....and Beyond!

July 26th, 2012
1:00 pm

I’m hungry. I wish Ruby Tuesday’s was closer. I could go for one of their salads.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
1:00 pm

LOL……@disco

You have that big country, sophisticated citified world knowledge, gotta like a lady like you.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
1:02 pm

ITL – I’m hungry too. I think I’m going to grab a bit to eat. Not too many choices where I am.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
1:02 pm

Into the Light - Zinger to Infinity....and Beyond!

July 26th, 2012
1:04 pm

There’s a Greek place across the street that’s pretty good. I might do a Greek salad with gryo meat on top.

HST

July 26th, 2012
1:05 pm

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
1:05 pm

ICK on gyros…lol There’s a REALLY nice spot down the street that I frequent on “lunch dates.” I’m heading downstairs.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
1:08 pm

I like the Zaxby’s House Zalad. But we wonder why America is so fat – You can get a cheesburger for a dollar but a salad will cost you $7…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
1:08 pm

I’m still thinking about the steak I mentioned this morning, the bad thing is I ate it last night. Sitting here watching the Chew and they’re grilling chicken I wish I could grab through the tv set.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
1:09 pm

Blackfoote – Are you playing hookie today?

Into the Light - Zinger to Infinity....and Beyond!

July 26th, 2012
1:10 pm

@CC: AND some of the salads are as bad nutritionally, if not worse, than the burgers. It’s sad, really.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
1:11 pm

C~ I thought you were just agreeing today? You better get on those gyros, gurl! LOL!

Into the Light - Zinger to Infinity....and Beyond!

July 26th, 2012
1:12 pm

I’m getting to the point that I only want to eat food I’ve cooked. Between that show “Hoarders” and realizing some of those type people are handling our food, and all the mystery stuff they keep finding in food…. makes me feel yucky.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
1:12 pm

Comon Cents – Yeah, I did say that…lol How about I’m agreeing with her lunch selection? That’s being agreeable…lol

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
1:13 pm

ITL~ I read that some of those Mickey D’s salads are as fattening as a Big Mac! Although, if you load a cheesburger on top of some lettuce IDK why you’re surprised when it’s more fattening. **shrugs** Oh well! Thank you God Jesus I don’t have a weight problem… I think I’m having wings for lunch.

Into the Light - Zinger to Infinity....and Beyond!

July 26th, 2012
1:13 pm

LOL@CC! Tell her, gurl! A little lamb is good for you. Makes your fleece white as snow. Well, on second thought…. LOLOLOL :lol: :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
1:14 pm

Cely I’m on lock down until 3, I have tv in my office and in other locations.

Into the Light - Zinger to Infinity....and Beyond!

July 26th, 2012
1:14 pm

Okay, I’m off to pick up my salad. Back later….

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
1:15 pm

ITL~ You watch “Hoarders”? Did you see the rat man episode?!? I actually felt a little sorry for dude. I am sooo obsessed with that show. I just can’t look away from it!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
1:15 pm

Blackfoote – Gotcha…tv in your office? Cool.

Bluzgirl

July 26th, 2012
1:16 pm

I’m craving a good milkshake!!! I wish there was a Steak N Shake near me!

HST

July 26th, 2012
1:16 pm

On my way to my MD, I took master level Psychology classes. It doesn’t take much to deduct from your brief synopsis of your relationships to see co-dependency. Now, you wanna take your child and run, but you don’t have co-dependency issues…OK. You need a new therapist…

If you wanted him to know you would have told him – not broach the subject. The more you type the more it’s evident that you’re co-dependent. Take a serious look at what you’ve said out here today…

In the end, I wish the best for your child, she’s the innocent one in your situation.

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
1:17 pm

Are we bringing the gazelles and roadkill back again? lol

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
1:19 pm

BF~ ou must be the BIG BOSS! LOL! TV in yo office and thangs! I would settle for a window in my office! I might lose my mind if I had a television. LOL! ;)

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
1:22 pm

5 years old and seeing a therapist. The sins of the father…meaning “grownup!”

“…that I really don’t want to have anything to do with him other than regarding our child that he pulls the paternity test stunt.” – Might help if you start using the word “our.”

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
1:23 pm

“On my way to my MD, I took master level Psychology classes. It doesn’t take much to deduct from your brief synopsis of your relationships to see co-dependency. Now, you wanna take your child and run, but you don’t have co-dependency issues…OK. You need a new therapist…

If you wanted him to know you would have told him – not broach the subject. The more you type the more it’s evident that you’re co-dependent. Take a serious look at what you’ve said out here today…

In the end, I wish the best for your child, she’s the innocent one in your situation.”

On the way to my JD I took Master’s level Psych too. That does not a therapist make. Anyone can throw around the alphabet soup after their name and do some elementary head shrinking, but I think I’ll stick with the people who actually finished their PhDs and do this for a living. IJS…

Jake...SPJTWB

July 26th, 2012
1:23 pm

Comon Sense…its your life, but the little one needs everyone to put there secrets out so she can grow accordingly. I know, sounds judgemental, but seriously, the sooner she is aware, the quicker she can build her relationships on a solid foundation…if you wait, her resentment of everyone involved will only get worse…Stop Playing

Exiled!

July 26th, 2012
1:24 pm

Speaking of Benzino and that chic,how do u get impressed by one date and then your already tongue deep in his mouf,kissing and all that yacky stuff…after one chance meeting outside the studio.

Sometimes when chics say they got hurt it exactly coz of making these silly decisions…your own fault.

See when I come at you,I come correct ready to hit All the spots I know impress you..nice dress,car house cook for you.

But that don’t mean u can’t take ur time!

I’m not surprised if Benzino smash already! :lol:

(on the road later)

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
1:24 pm

“You can get a cheesburger for a dollar but a salad will cost you $7…”

And you can thank our bought-and-paid-for politicians for that. The beef & dairy industries are heavily subsidized, as is corn (feed for cattle); while fresh veggies & fruit growers get little if anything.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
1:26 pm

Common Cents not the big boss just a little one, plus the channel is suppose to be on CNN or Weather channel. Since my boss doesn’t work here with me I can cheat on the channels to watch………..LOL (with a devilish smirk on my face)

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
1:29 pm

Might help if you start using the word “our.”- I think you meant stop and I was using the term because I tried to have a decent co-parenting relationship with him because I believed tat it was in the best interest of my daughter at the time. BUT, at the point at which I realize you hate me more than you love her I have to protect my hild.

It is very easy to sit in judgement of someone else’s life. I accept the culpability for the decisions that I’ve made and I am taking the steps to insure that those decisions affect my daughter as little as possible. However, just because one makes a mistake or bad decision does not mean that they should continue to make bad decisions out of guilt for the original decision or because of some misguided sense of the need for punishment.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
1:30 pm

stop, not start….

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
1:31 pm

“Comon Sense…its your life, but the little one needs everyone to put there secrets out so she can grow accordingly. I know, sounds judgemental, but seriously, the sooner she is aware, the quicker she can build her relationships on a solid foundation…if you wait, her resentment of everyone involved will only get worse…Stop Playing”~

That’s why she is seeing a therapist. I posted earlier about how we are deciding te best way to break the news to her and get everything out in the open.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
1:31 pm

On the way to my JD I took Master’s level Psych too. – Dang, nice comeback!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
1:32 pm

“And you can thank our bought-and-paid-for politicians for that. The beef & dairy industries are heavily subsidized, as is corn (feed for cattle); while fresh veggies & fruit growers get little if anything”

Amen to that Swiss!

HST

July 26th, 2012
1:33 pm

” I think I’ll stick with the people who actually finished their PhDs and do this for a living. IJS…” don’t blame ya, but I can’t believe you’d deny co-dependency, or your therapist.
All the best.

JD, nice, I haven’t heard of anyone recently with that Doctorate, really cool. Where did you get your JD? I’m gonna be a green-eyed monster if you got that JD from Harvard.

I went to Emory for my MD.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
1:35 pm

I went to Emory for JD as well. Funny enough I did a combo JD/MDiv there.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
1:36 pm

You haven’t heard of anyone recently with a law degree? I find that hard to believe from an MD…

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
1:38 pm

As The Blog Turns :)

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
1:38 pm

Dang! CC beat me to it! I was about to ask if we needed to add a glossary.

JD = Juris Doctorate

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
1:39 pm

CC: Two close friends of mine did their MDivs at Emory. :)

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
1:42 pm

Well if anyone cares, I got me DL from the DMV.

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
1:43 pm

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
1:44 pm

“Well if anyone cares, I got me DL from the DMV.”

And I got my TP for BMs at A&P. TMI?

Robert

July 26th, 2012
1:44 pm

@Celisea – “When a love comes to an end, weaklings cry, efficient ones instantly find another love, and the wise already have one in reserve. Oscar Wilde ”

Great Quote!!!!….

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
1:44 pm

I like this game. I got my PBJ from the QT. :)

HST

July 26th, 2012
1:45 pm

All this talk of salad has me going out to Golden Corral. Before you say it, I eat clean there, it’s just an easy way to get vegetables. I just eat a salad made my way, no dressing, grilled chicken, and water.

I will agree that most restaurants’ salads as an entree have horrible calories, and little nutritional value. It’s freaking shame…

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
1:45 pm

Yeah, ,that’s a bit much swiss (lol). Not only that, that TP must be moldy by now. A&P doesn’t exist anymore (lol).

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
1:45 pm

And my BB from the CC, along with my CDs from BB and my SUV from the AJC

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
1:46 pm

Dern it Robert…I didn’t like that one. I took it out

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
1:46 pm

” Not only that, that TP must be moldy by now. A&P doesn’t exist anymore (lol).”

Leggs — Conservation. ;-)

Hey, you know I never let little details like facts get in the way of a good joke. lol

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
1:48 pm

Or a bad joke.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
1:49 pm

Not moldy, disintegrated.

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
1:49 pm

Can (unused) TP get moldy??? Gross.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
1:49 pm

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
1:50 pm

HST – You’re dining at the Golden Corral?

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
1:50 pm

@Swissykins: So when do we get to see the 3D of SuisseMochette Noelle?

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
1:51 pm

@C: Mmmmm hmmmm. And then going to WalMart to get some red paint for the bottom of your shoes!!! :lol:

HST

July 26th, 2012
1:51 pm

A JD is different from a Law Degree, or Admission to Practice Law right? It’s been a while, but am I off base?

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
1:51 pm

That’s why I changed the word, ITL. It didn’t fit (lolol).

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
1:53 pm

Admission to practice law is when you pass the state’s bar exam. A JD is a juris doctorate in that you’ve complete your course of study from law school. Doesn’t mean you can practice law.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
1:54 pm

ITL – LOLOLOLOLOLOL….you made me LOL on that. Uhhhh huh…SIDE-EYE A man with garages of sports cars and couture and fine dining and women around the world (okay the one LTR), homes in three states, grazing at the Golden Corral?

Yeah, I can see the spray paint now…lolol

ITL – That was a goooooooood one!

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
1:54 pm

But you do have a law degree.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
1:54 pm

ITL — I don’t believe I’ve seen a 3D of little SwissMocha myself. Or if I have, it must not have been very impressive 3D. I’ve got some regular ol’ ultrasounds, though (yes, I’m that guy — the one that carries around ultrasound pics on his phone).

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
1:56 pm

I got my WT (wolf tickets) from MIT (mission in turmoil) so I can PWS (play with the sheep) liscense.

HST

July 26th, 2012
1:56 pm

Golden Corral has the best salad bar in my area. I can eat very clean there, and get my salad my way.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
1:58 pm

Blackfoote – LOL…good one

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
2:00 pm

LOL @ Uncle Foote and C.

@HST: That might be the first time I’ve seen or heard Golden Corral and clean in the same sentence. Just kidding, but seriously, after the E.Coli outbreak, I avoid it like, well, the plague.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
2:01 pm

Sorry I missed out on the convo, but I had to grab some food. (All that talk made me hungry!) ;) Leggs is correct though, you get your JD when you finish law school. After the passing of the bar, some lawyers use Esq. after their names to denote that they have, in fact, passed the Bar and are licensed to practice.

HST~ I believe that you are thinking of a Doctor of Laws or an LL which would be the Doctorate level of law.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
2:02 pm

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:03 pm

ABC, DEFG, HIJK, LMNOP…QRS and TUV, WX and Y and Z :)

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
2:04 pm

And, Esq. stands for Esquire (for those who may not know).

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
2:05 pm

And speaking of For Real, where is he today?

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
2:05 pm

ITL~ Don’t laugh at the Corral. My parents have done pretty well and that’s my mother’s favorite place to go eat for “fast” food. Personally, I throw up in my mouth a little every time someone suggests we go there but I think that is conditioning from YEARS of cafeteria food. Blech! :D

cba

July 26th, 2012
2:05 pm

….now I know my abc’s……

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:05 pm

We need him right about now…

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
2:06 pm

I got my BC from the DR, so the CT can get that VIP, while throwing in a BJ or two. :lol: :oops:

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:06 pm

tell me what you think of meeeeeeeeee

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
2:07 pm

Thanks for the clarification Leggs! Are you in law as well?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
2:08 pm

LOL……….@Cely and Slim1

HST

July 26th, 2012
2:08 pm

Gotcha.

The Golden Corral by my house always has an A or A+. If it’s not busy, I drive right on by, but right now all the retirees are going there, and the food is fresh. I only eat a salad, and drink water when I go.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
2:09 pm

C~ I love how you typed LMNOP as one awesome word cuz that’s how I just sung it in my head while reading that. LOL!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:09 pm

Blackfoote – I didn’t get in the whole discussion of crazies earlier but you would think with all these letters flying around some of that stuff would help steer and guide a person’s life.

But I’m not judging nor am I trying to be offensive…just say :)

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:10 pm

Comon – I was singing it as I typed…so I typed it the way I was singing :)

HST

July 26th, 2012
2:10 pm

“I got my BC from the DR, so the CT can get that VIP, while throwing in a BJ or two” hahaa.

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
2:11 pm

@CC: I’m not hatin’ on the Corral. My parents like it, too. I know a lot of folks who like it but the last time I ate there, I was running to the ladies room before I even finished eating. :(

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:11 pm

HST – You’re a man multi faceted and dimensional :)

Sassy Me...The blacker the berry... :-)

July 26th, 2012
2:11 pm

ABC, DEFG, HIJK, LMNOP…QRS and TUV, WX and Y and Z

Okay?!?! ….As the Blog turns :lol:

All this high falootin n such goin on…too funny :lol:

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:12 pm

I’m hating on the Golden Corral :(

HST

July 26th, 2012
2:12 pm

Screw it, I’m having a protein shake and a banana.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
2:13 pm

Comon ~ not the way I want to be. Been in the legal field my entire life. Bachelor’s in Criminal Law, took LSAT twice. Passed 2nd time around with a good enough score to be accepted to Georgia State College of Law, then isht started happening in my life that “I” used to hinder me from attending. Never left my soul so once I get lil leggs squared, I believe I’m going back.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
2:15 pm

“I got my BC from the DR, so the CT can get that VIP, while throwing in a BJ or two”

Now, that’s using the letters to mean something (lololol) – Good one!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:15 pm

All this high falootin n such goin on…too funny

I’m feeling crumpets and tea right about now :)

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
2:16 pm

C~ I think that it guides me in my professional life. However, I know a lot of people I went to school with and some professionally whose personal lives are train wrecks (mine included). No offense taken. Hopefully, I have grown up and moved past the mistakes I made at a really bleak time in my life. Contrary to what HST suggests, I don’t blame anyone for the position I am in; I made that bed and therefore I must sleep in it. I would also find it noteworthy that when I was at Emory the joint degree I pursued was a Master’s of Divinity (MDiv). While Candler is a very liberal school, I don’t think that my lifestyle for that period is what they had in mind. :D In fact, I have laughed about that very thing with some of my friends. But in my experience, people with degrees are generally no smarter than people without them. We just proved that we could stick with someting beyond high school for however many years. (9 for my post-high school, but I think it’s longer for an MD. Correct HST?)

disco

July 26th, 2012
2:16 pm

BF – big country, sophisticated citified world knowledge? what you know about that? lol.

ITL – I am bringing Sunday dinners back. I know for most folks they never went anywhere but I admit my cooking fell way off after the offspring left the house. thing is, with just me, Sunday dinner lasts forever.

Slim – DL from DMV. now that’s what I’m talking about.

and… I’m still reading to get caught up.

Jake...SPJTWB

July 26th, 2012
2:17 pm

HST-As long as it ain’t a Banana in the Tailpipe!

Sassy Me...The blacker the berry... :-)

July 26th, 2012
2:17 pm

I’m feeling crumpets and tea right about now

and cucumber sandwiches with the crust cut off…

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:18 pm

Comon Cents – No judgement here. Honestly, I wish you the best. Your life is crazy though…lol

HST

July 26th, 2012
2:18 pm

If you eat clean (salad, grilled chicken, water) at the Corral then it’s OK, but the other food is an atrocity to health.

Thanks C.

Sassy Me...The blacker the berry... :-)

July 26th, 2012
2:19 pm

oooh chile all that hot air…just a blowin everywhere…

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:19 pm

Comon Cents – You should know too, all that swapping will create infections…lol Ewwww ewww ewww and ICK

Just funning with you since you’re being lighthearted about it

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:20 pm

Sassssssy – LOL

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
2:20 pm

Leggs, IDK how well you did on the LSAT, but I know that GSU has relaxed their curriculum a lot in the past couple of years and they are working with a much more flexible schedule to accomodate working adults. You may want to look into their program. Also, because they are a state school, they have some EXCELLENT funding opportunities to help pay for it. If I had it to go back and do over again, I would look into their program because that bill from Emory was OUTLANDISH!!!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:21 pm

We should hang Slim’s quote over the blog entrance

Jake...SPJTWB

July 26th, 2012
2:21 pm

Comon-At least you recognize that there are serious concerns, and you aren’t saying we’ll just let the chips fall…Best Wishes to You All

HST

July 26th, 2012
2:22 pm

“HST-As long as it ain’t a Banana in the Tailpipe!” I did that to my buddy’s R8 on the Gumball. It melted, and his car smelt like a freaking banana for 2 days! He still doesn’t know who did it…

disco

July 26th, 2012
2:23 pm

I have never been to golden corral.

as for the initials and acronyms and all that I guess since this is a dating blog I’ll throw out “you down with OPP” (it’s all I could think of without putting too much thought into it)

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
2:23 pm

C~ LOL at the infections. Maybe I will have to go visit HST to get cured? LMAO! Fun all you want. I have to laugh about the situation. Being depressed over it won’t change anything and there are a lot of people who feed off your misery. I plan to starve those biotches to death!

Sassy Me...The blacker the berry... :-)

July 26th, 2012
2:24 pm

Celi…yes we probably should hang it right over the threshold…so you HAVE to read it upon entry..

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
2:25 pm

LOL @ disco! OPP is what started this situation for me so I think I’ll pass…

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
2:25 pm

We sure do, C!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:26 pm

Sassy – And make miniature copies…to hand out…lol

Comon Cents – HST is your man…he’s multi faceted :) Good you can laugh

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
2:26 pm

…and Jake got A LOT of letters after his name!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:26 pm

ITL – Bronze that bad boy…lol

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
2:27 pm

Rather hang that sign than “Abandon Hope All Ye Who Enters Here!”

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
2:27 pm

Bonanza is on that means I have a few minutes to go before I can holla I’m free.

Jake...SPJTWB

July 26th, 2012
2:27 pm

NEW QUOTE, NEW QUOTE!!!!…and since I was using CAPS, one more time, “FREE WESLEY”…lol

“There are a lot of people who feed off your misery. Starve those biotches to death!”

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:29 pm

Imma need a snack. For lunch I had a bed of greens with a scoop of tuna. I’m still hungry.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:29 pm

plate of greens

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
2:29 pm

@disco – Yeah you know me!

Jake...SPJTWB

July 26th, 2012
2:30 pm

Comon-I do don’t I, and they stand for….

Sweet Peeda Jeeda, The Womb Beater!!!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:30 pm

as in salad…not collards

disco

July 26th, 2012
2:30 pm

if y’all (we) keep it up it might be another record breaking day up in here. way to go team!!!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
2:33 pm

LMAO @ Jake!

Disco~ What record are you (we) trying to break. Sorry I’m new here…

Sassy Me...The blacker the berry... :-)

July 26th, 2012
2:34 pm

as in salad…not collards

I hope you had a salad and NOT collards with that tuna fish…lol

disco

July 26th, 2012
2:34 pm

CC – just that we’ve got quite a few pages going, keeping a good steady pace. some days are SLOW.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:35 pm

That’s why I re-stated…lol That did sound weird

HST

July 26th, 2012
2:35 pm

It was 9 for me, but I wasted no-time.

I never implied that you didn’t take responsibility if that’s what you were inferring.

I too find some humor in the MDiv degree, and would have chucked with you if we were friends.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:36 pm

disco – We’re standing the real test today. No shenanigans (except Comon), not bickering, no attacks, not major cutting up (hey ITL)…just a normal flor?

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:36 pm

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
2:38 pm

Cel – I’m glad you clarified that, I was going to say that tuna and collards is a combo i’ve NEVER heard of. lol

I’m having a cinnamon bun for a snack ;-)

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
2:38 pm

You know I gotta cut up a little bit, C.

(ITL now singing, I gotta be me…….) :lol:

Into the Light...Pure as the Driven Snow

July 26th, 2012
2:39 pm

Uh oh. Slim said cinnamon bun. Honeybun will be here in a minute.

HST

July 26th, 2012
2:39 pm

I had greens and tuna for lunch yesterday C.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:39 pm

Slim – LOL…I know right? I think I’m going “light” in the snack department….I think

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:40 pm

HST – Greens? Salad?

Jake...SPJTWB

July 26th, 2012
2:40 pm

I am also a licensed, LLL.

Lick’em Low Lover…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
2:41 pm

disco I was implying you are a sophisticated get in your face girl……LOL Know the books and know how to run the streets. Now that’s a gal worth the chasing.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:41 pm

ITL – I there with you..lol I like cutting up. I purposed, in my heart today, I would NOT clown. It’s not easy though…lol

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
2:42 pm

Jake – LI (love it) lol

HST

July 26th, 2012
2:44 pm

I despise dieting, but I like seeing my abs more. Stupid protein shake and fruit for lunch. Now I can’t stop thinking about Nigiri!

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
2:45 pm

Afternoon All,

Looks around and thinks, WhannaHELL going on in here?

I’ll just keep walking and nod. I need a drink to try figure out who these people are and what have they done with my blog crazies.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
2:46 pm

LOL……@Jake 2:40

That’s a good one for the fellas.

HST

July 26th, 2012
2:47 pm

Yes C, just like you – greens as in salad. I’ve always called salad greens, and collards collards.

HST

July 26th, 2012
2:49 pm

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
2:49 pm

WillieD ~ you make it sound like you walked into a scence from The Body Snatchers.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
2:49 pm

“I too find some humor in the MDiv degree, and would have chucked with you if we were friends”~ even though we are not friends feel free to chuckle.

“We’re standing the real test today. No shenanigans (except Comon), not bickering, no attacks, not major cutting up (hey ITL)…just a normal flor?”~ Didn’t you know that shenanigans, alcohol and sarcasm are what most friendships are based on these days?

disco

July 26th, 2012
2:49 pm

BF – I am a unique individual indeed. sometimes it’s funny to watch the personalities/vernaculars shift from professional to regular to straight hood and back. what can I say? I’m versatile.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:49 pm

HST – Gotcha. I don’t like dieting either. I’m do MUCH better with my junk food/no good for you food intake :) I’ve never been big on fast foods anyway. I don’t trust folks and their idea of cleanliness. But I’m not a big cooker anymore either. I use to when my kid was small.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:50 pm

WillieD – The crazies? Chile we don’t know. We’re just on the blog bus. Apparently it comes with the ride…lol

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:51 pm

Comon Cents – Didn’t you know that shenanigans, alcohol and sarcasm are what most friendships are based on these days?

Nuh uh, I didn’t know. You taught me something today though. Sounds good to me :)

disco

July 26th, 2012
2:51 pm

I’ll own alcohol and sarcasm. not claiming shenanigans though.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:52 pm

disco – Shenanigans consists of an array of things….lol

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
2:54 pm

Had to go back and speed read a few pages to see how yall got to this point.

Alrighty then. Think I’ll stay posted up in my corner to stay outta trouble.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
2:55 pm

disco~ not all shenanigans are bad. On the contrary, some are good and fun; those ususally come from the sarcasm and alcohol…

Into the Light...Pure as the Driven Snow

July 26th, 2012
2:55 pm

ITL: I’ll take Shenanigans for 800 please, Alex.
Alex: This famous blog meeting spot, is known for it’s “multiple” attractions.
ITL: What is Bonefish??

Into the Light...Pure as the Driven Snow

July 26th, 2012
2:56 pm

Exiled!

July 26th, 2012
2:56 pm

You got a good one today! :lol:

Fu-cking, leaving ,coming back, Fu-ck some more ,bring another, fuc with them

That’s what we call Rotation! :lol:

@Common C? Did u grow up in a loving family or there were some issues growing up?

(I know it’s done at this point but)

disco

July 26th, 2012
2:56 pm

C – yep. but I’m not claiming shenanigans. in my mind shenanigans is too close to “play too much”. I just can’t get down with the “play too much”.

“red rover, red rover, let Willie D come over”. don’t be scared man. join in the fun.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
2:56 pm

Hi, Willie! Now that you know all of my sordid past, nice to meet you!!! LMAO!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
2:58 pm

Exactly. When I say shenanigans, I’m not talking waaaay to the left.

Into the Light...Pure as the Driven Snow

July 26th, 2012
2:58 pm

Off to see my guilty pleasure. If I’m not back in 10 minutes, y’all will know he is looking exceptionally fine today. :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
2:58 pm

LOL…….@Light you went there.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:00 pm

MMeello – Well just kick the down down then…lololol

disco – I feel you on the “playing too much”

Exiled!

July 26th, 2012
3:00 pm

Like the son in the direct tv commercial stumbling on
parents swinger party

Willie and I stumbled on a Blog swinger’s party! :lol:

Enjoy! :lol:

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:00 pm

Exiled!~ Grew up in a great family. Parents have been married 45 years. Dad is a minister, mom is a teacher. One sibling, older, who graduated from an Ivy League and is married and seems well adjusted. Nope, I’m the only nut in my family and I think that may have been temporary insanity. Otherwise my life is very vanilla. I work, pay bills, pay taxes take care of kids, etc.

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
3:00 pm

2:55 comedy at its finest.

Hahaha no comment. I’m just gon get another drank.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:01 pm

door down

Mmeello – Everybody ain’t swinging…lol Naaaw, some of us can’t get down like that. Nuh uh, I want mine all to myself. I don’t do swapping nor sharing.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
3:01 pm

Alright good blog people I just heard the chambers on the door locks release it is time to fly y’all have a good evening.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:01 pm

Night Blackfoote

disco

July 26th, 2012
3:02 pm

C – I told someone once that there is a fine line between “ha ha, you got jokes” and “you play too much”. you have to be careful with it. you got jokes will get a tired little giggle but playing too much can make a fight break out.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:03 pm

C~ Another interesting note, if the current hubby brought up the idea (of swinging), I would kill him and they would never find his body. I want mine to myself too. I figure the ex wasn’t mine to begin with. He was just an EXample of what I shouldn’t do… literally

HST

July 26th, 2012
3:04 pm

“Didn’t you know that shenanigans, alcohol and sarcasm are what most friendships are based on these days?” I do and insist that out of my friends.

I too laugh at myself – such a rare quality theses days – everyone’s so serious. I dunno why, life is so fleeting.

“I don’t trust folks and their idea of cleanliness. But I’m not a big cooker anymore either.” I hear ya C, that is a big issue for me today. I’m trying to come to an agreement with my housekeeper to cook more. I swear I have a “Berta” from 2 & A Half Men. She does clean a lot, because of the dogs, and can handle them; therefore, she knows she has me right where she wants.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
3:05 pm

Night Cely

disco you’re too damn much……..LOL
Put me in mind of Leggs.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:05 pm

disco – As a child/teen, I’ve never been one to “jone” or joke. I don’t find it funny when folks take shots and say stuff jokingly that they really mean. I will call a person in a minute on that. I’d rather you say what you really feel, sans the ha ha ha. I can respect that a bit more. But yeah, I like a good joke as much as the next person, but getting to close will get you smacked…lololol

HST

July 26th, 2012
3:07 pm

Shenanigans is almost as good as debauchery.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:07 pm

HST – You just got it going on dontcha? lol She’s the housekeeper right? Can you say what you want cooked? I thought you had chicks in three states? They can’t cook for you? I’m just asking. Tell me to mind my business if you like :)

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:08 pm

C~ those are those “backhanded compliments”. I hate that ish too!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:09 pm

Comon Cents – Yep…folks are slick with it too…lol

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
3:09 pm

Disco you are a bad influence. You started talking about fighting and now Cel talking bout smacking folks for a ha ha ha.
I was starting to vibe with this KumBaya isht. Dayum now I need another drank to keep up. Ha (only 1 ha, don’t wanna get smacked). Lol

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:09 pm

No, HST, debauchery is MUCH more fun than shenanigans. But it will also cause a lot more trouble.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:10 pm

I would say that tom-foolery might fall in line with shenanigans though…

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:10 pm

WillieD – LOL…I’m just going with the flow and staying on good behavior. If I feel myself talking to much, I’m logging off…lol I can’t get a drank but I can go home :)

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:10 pm

Nite BF!

No one is swinging here, Ex!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:11 pm

C~ “You know, I could NEVER wear a color like that, but it just suits you so well…” LOLOLOL!

Exiled!

July 26th, 2012
3:12 pm

Common thanx!

Right there,dad is minister and mother is a teacher..I grew up around church ministers etc and my best friend dad was a united Methodist church minister

The kids(some of them) are the worst debauchery minded you can find!

Nice rich history u got and u not ashamed to recount it.

Very rarely do u find blog chics that are so candid.

It should help u cleanse urself!

disco

July 26th, 2012
3:12 pm

I could hang with the best of them in cracking jokes or playing the dozens but it’s just part of how I was raised. heck, it’s how my family communicates. lol. we went hard but it was all in love and good practice for the outside world.

re the “backhanded compliments/insults”, I call that foolishness the “southern belle syndrome”. those heffas can step. fake tricks.

WD – don’t blame me. I didn’t do anything.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:17 pm

disco – re the “backhanded compliments/insults”, I call that foolishness the “southern belle syndrome”. those heffas can step. fake tricks.

I’m sooo here with you on this.

Comon Cents – :)

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:17 pm

That’s going to be a problem for me. I cook all the time (except Fridays). My neighbors come over every Sunday for dinner. We swap out Sundays, but it’s always at my place. Now, with lil leggs leaving, I will still be cooking, just have to learn to cook for one. That’s going to be difficult because fast food is not a friend of mine!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:18 pm

Exiled!~ Dad did not become a minister into I was grown. He was an executive at a Fortune 500 for 30+ years, but I guess the minister was always there, just not officially. LOL!

As far as recounting it, the truth will always out. I believe that and I couldn’t be who I am if I tried to make it any different. I never understand people who try to NOT be candid. “You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.” I would rather you dislike the real me than be bosom buddies with the fake person.

disco~ Southern Belle Syndrome also includes the dreaded “Bless your little heart!” which I lived here for 5 years before I knew it wasn’t a compliment! LOL!

HST

July 26th, 2012
3:18 pm

Look, I’m not a womanizer, I’m just a single man who can afford to do what he wants. That helps if you wanna date, but in no way do I womanize. Moreover, I am not misogynistic in any type of way either.

The women I usually date sound like your statement on cooking as much as I do. I don’t like cleaning or cooking, so I’m not going to ask someone to do what I don’t want to do myself.

I have 300lbs of dog in my house – every one of my K9’s shed heavily – it’s cumbersome to keep the house dust/hair free. She has to do the baseboards once a week. She cooks for me, and leaves meals, but I want her to do more. It’s gonna cost me, she knows me, and I trust her, so I take care of her. My house wouldn’t run without her…

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:18 pm

MMeello – How did you go from swinging and shenanigans to “nice rich history and not ashamed to recount” lololol

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:19 pm

See, Leggs, you swap too! LMAO!!

HST

July 26th, 2012
3:20 pm

“No, HST, debauchery is MUCH more fun than shenanigans. But it will also cause a lot more trouble.” I’ve been know to steer right into trouble, maybe I’ll need your counsel. ;)

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:20 pm

HST – Did you just vent/rant? lol Easy now, if you have women in different states, it reads “womanizer”, but I take your word that you’re a stand up man :) We don’t know one another remember, so really what I think is neither here nor there :)

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:21 pm

C~ Who is MMeello?

HST

July 26th, 2012
3:21 pm

CC, I realize that your married, and I’d never. It was just a fun comment to the infection statement earlier.

disco

July 26th, 2012
3:22 pm

CC – and let’s not forget “precious”.

C – let us not forget that ALL of the blog gents are STANDUP guys. no jokers, losers, busters around here.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:22 pm

You got me, Comon Cents! Good catch…

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:22 pm

Comon ~ Meeellloo is Ex. Meelllo’s name has been banned.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:23 pm

HST~ I don’t think you would want to need my counsel. I deal in DUI and drug offenses. We don’t want those kinds of shenanigans and debauchery.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:24 pm

Comon — “Me.lo” (but without the period) is original name of the blogger now known as “Exiled!” He got so raunchy that he was banished from the blog for a while. And to this day, you can’t even say the name “Me.lo” (minus the period) without your post getting blocked.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:25 pm

disco – I know right. Everybody is just dang good..lol

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:25 pm

HST~ No offense taken! You went to Emory. I am sure you ran across some of my illk while you were there. We have to be the most debased, debaucherous group ever.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:25 pm

Leggs — You really didn’t do Me.lo’s legend justice there… lol

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:26 pm

Ahhh… I got you now. I’ll be sure not to mention He We Don’t Speak OF then. I son’t want to get banned on my first day…

HST

July 26th, 2012
3:26 pm

I do not have different GFs in different states, which is why I said I wasn’t a womanizer. I did think that you light-heartedly implied it…

Honestly, since I date none of you, I miss my LTR. I really wish she’d come back to the US. I haven’t really dated since she left – I’m still processing my feelings.

disco

July 26th, 2012
3:27 pm

swiss – you broke it down. when they issue blog job positions again I’ll nominate you for the official blog break-it-downer.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:27 pm

HST – You are NOT a womanizer. I believe you :)

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
3:28 pm

Honestly I’ve been a joker, loser, maybe not a buster (but you catch my drift) to plenty of chicks. I am currently a stand up guy.
Just thought I’d throw that in from the peanut gallery. Lol

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:29 pm

Comon — Then again, you also can’t use the word “ridicu-lous” without the dash, due to the blogs ridicu-lously stupid filtering logic (it’s the “cu-lo” in “ridicu-lous” that gets flagged.). But don’t get me started on that stupid piece of sh!t filter, ‘cos I could rant all day… lol

disco

July 26th, 2012
3:30 pm

HST – you are NOT a womanizer. we all believe you.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:30 pm

swiss ~ I started to, but had to run to credit union.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:32 pm

disco — Thanks. See, some of my people can break it down like that… ;-)

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:32 pm

i’m swiss: I said someting earlier that must have triggered it when ITL was talking about stereotypes. I said:

HST

July 26th, 2012
3:33 pm

How do you make words in bold?

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:34 pm

well, i think it might be the second part. not the fried chicken…

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:34 pm

So you can’t say me.lon?

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:35 pm

Comon ~ before the day gets away from us, let me take this time and thank you for joining our blog conversation. Not only that, you jumped into the mire right out the gate with a personal account and surfaced pretty much unscathed. That’s rare here in Blogsville. If you stick around, your vest will be thrown to you in about 2 weeks.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:35 pm

I said ITL says “I like fried chicken and waterme.lon too!” and it filtered it. Thought it was a glitch on my end…

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:35 pm

Comon — Here’s a tip: the filter tries to look for bad words even in other languages. So even words like “repu.tation” will get flagged because it contains “pu.ta.”

Whoever programmed the filter is a dumbass.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:36 pm

Leggs: I have to say, you have all been interesting and entertaining today. I am glad I stumbled upon this blog. Didn’t do any work today (thank GOD for paralegals!) and I will definitely be back to visit again!

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:36 pm

Yeah, “me.lon” is forbidden because it contains “me.lo” :lol:

Note that I was able to say “dumbass.”

Stupid f__king filter. lol

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:37 pm

i’m swiss~ I would have to agree with you.

Leggs~ as I come back, I will keep you guys posted on the progress of the situation. I go to court in October, so we’ll see how it goes.

disco

July 26th, 2012
3:38 pm

swiss – breathe in, breathe out. breathe in, breathe out.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:38 pm

Oh boy, I think swiss is revved up.

disco

July 26th, 2012
3:39 pm

CC – ditto. thanks for stopping by. you can sit on the porch with me any time. do you know how to play spades? lol.

HST

July 26th, 2012
3:39 pm

How do you guys boldface out here?

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:40 pm

You do that, Comon. We will be here if you need support in your favor or in your child’s favor (more likely will lean with the child), but you get my drift.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:42 pm

disco / Leggs — I have patience for a lot of things, but stupid isn’t one of them. :lol:

disco

July 26th, 2012
3:43 pm

swiss – I agree. looks like the filter people “play too much”

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:43 pm

disco~ I am a spades champion. But don’t let me play with the hubby as a partner because we cheat… IJS

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:44 pm

HST~ I want to know how tey bold too. And make their smileys laugh…

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:44 pm

Comon Cents – You said you’re a gal right? Just want to make sure I don’t get folks mixed up on here. I initially thought you was a dude until you said different. Okay…got it :)

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
3:45 pm

Swiss- everybody always ask about SwissMocha and the Mrs. How are you doing man?

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:46 pm

Let’s see if this works…

For bold text:

<![CDATA[bold text here]]>

For italic text:

<![CDATA[italic text here]]>

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:46 pm

HST – use lessn symbol then type the word “strong” then close with greater than symbol, type what you want bold then, less than symbol then “/strong” then greater than symbol.

whew, does that work???

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:46 pm

Nope…

Basically, just use the HTML “strong” and “em” tags to bold & italicize.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:47 pm

Nine pages of fun fun fun, two new bloggers in one day. Whoo hoo, attendance is on the rise. That’s a good sign :) I thought I saw Single and Happy earlier. Maybe not. Oh and Ray Charles to the BS…that’s 4 in a week. Keep ‘em coming. We NEED new folks to mix it up, give it some spice (yesterday’s topic..lol), keep things fresh and anew :)

Glad to have y’all NEWBIES!!

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:47 pm

Do not like people who cheat at cards..it boils my senses. Spades is elementary, my dear watson. I challenge you to a game of bid whist!

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
3:48 pm

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:48 pm

Willie D — We’re all doing well, thanks man! My only complaint is that Mrs. Swiss’s tittays have never looked more inviting, but they’re too sore for me to really have fun with…. :lol:

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:50 pm

HST / Comon — I used to have a whole cheat sheet for all of the font styling & emoticons, but I think I blew it away when I re-installed Ubuntu on my web server. Oops.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:53 pm

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:53 pm

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:55 pm

I still have the cheat sheet…I printed when you posted. Anybody need it??

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:55 pm

Yea, not working for me… Oh well. I have still enjoyed blogging with you guys today.

disco~ I only cheat when I play with the hubs and it’s not even intentional! We have known each other so long, I just know what he’s thinking/doing. As my sister-in-law says “When someone cheats at cards it makes your ass itch? LOL! :D

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:56 pm

C ~ YES! I always wanted to learn how do all that stuff!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:56 pm

WillieeeeeeeeeeeeeeeD – :)

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:56 pm

bold:
bold text here

italics:
italic text here

Just remove the spaces from those tags.

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
3:57 pm

And to this day, you can’t even say the name “Me.lo” (minus the period) without your post getting blocked

Reminds me of the movie Beetlejuice lol

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
3:57 pm

Swiss – you already whooped man (good), answering we to a ? About YOU.

Tween me and you, re: soreness. Stop knawing man, Get you a feather, baby oil, stethoscope and some patience. Fight the urge to dive in and just sit back and perform. Trust me on this one.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:57 pm

Dammit! It recognized the tags with the spaces… okay, here…

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:57 pm

swiss ~ I still have your cheat sheet. Is it ok if I post it or I can send to you via email…whatever your preference.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:58 pm

Comon Cents – Okay you know I’m “challenged” a bit so I’ll have to fax to myself and figure out how to post here under a link. If you can tell me quicker (lol), then post it here and I’ll follow your instructions.

When I say I’m not tech savvy, I AM NOT…lol

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:58 pm

[strong]bold text here[/strong]

[em]italic text here[/em]

Just replace the [ ] above with

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:59 pm

Comon Cents – Never mind…Leggs will handle.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:59 pm

Motherf__ker… ;lol:

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
3:59 pm

Cel – I need the cheat sheet too because when we upgraded our systems it erased all that stuff. :-(

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:59 pm

Have to have swiss’ permission.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:00 pm

Slim – What’s your fax (if you can post)? If not, Leggs says she has a copy.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
4:00 pm

Leggs — If you try to post it here, it won’t work. If you email it to me, I’ll put a link up to it as a plain text file & then you’ll be able to actually see the symbols without the browser actually rendering the markup.

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:03 pm

OK, that went right over my head, I am a computer dummy.

OK now I don’t feel so inept, or least alone…haha.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
4:04 pm

Into the Light...Happy She Got Her Flirt On

July 26th, 2012
4:05 pm

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:05 pm

[strong]work![/strong]

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
4:06 pm

:lol: Leggs — That’s the link to my web server that got wiped clean.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:06 pm

HST – See, I would have just left the fax machine from faxing to myself to save as an attachment…lol

The link is here!

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
4:06 pm

Daggone it, didn’t mean to hit submit.

For Real

July 26th, 2012
4:07 pm

Swiss: also no
Motor boating
Thumping the nipples
Hotsauce
Milking
Condensing of the nipples so you can suck both of them at one time

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:07 pm

[why do you mock me computer?]

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:07 pm

Well, I guess not. The link is NOT here…lol

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
4:07 pm

Exiled!

July 26th, 2012
4:08 pm

We can fuc soon Common if u like! :lol:

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:08 pm

this is cracking me up…

HST's Computer - Not ITL, I Promise!!!

July 26th, 2012
4:08 pm

BECAUSE I CAN, EARTHLING!!!!!

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
4:08 pm

swiss ~ It pulls up all the tricks for me…

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
4:09 pm

HST — Replace the [ ] with < and >

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
4:09 pm

(ITL now clearing her throat)

Ahem!

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:09 pm

Blogsville set a new record today? 460 posts…wow.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
4:10 pm

Leggs — you must have it cached. Can you copy that whole thing & email it to me? I’ll replace the file on the server.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
4:10 pm

Oh snap. Got it, swiss.

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:10 pm

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
4:12 pm

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
4:13 pm

I don’t have it cached.

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
4:13 pm

Cel – I can get it from Leggs if she has a valid one

Exiled!

July 26th, 2012
4:13 pm

ITL u deep throating? :lol:

Damn folks are brave today! :lol:

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:14 pm

I am now scared of my computer. I still can’t get it to work right – it must have it’s own mind. Hey computer, remember the laws of robotics!!!

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
4:15 pm

Cel / Slim / Leggs — If any of you actually have the text of the old cheat sheet copied somewhere (or in Leggs‘ case, cached in your browser), please copy the whole thing & email it to me & I’ll restore the file on my web server. Thanks! :)

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:15 pm

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
4:15 pm

4 Real – Swiss not paying attention. He’s on one of his techboy rants. We trying to tell him how to handle his new toy tatas but he’s talking bout html. Bless his heart.

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
4:15 pm

@Swiss: I have it as a Word doc

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
4:16 pm

So, Leggs, the old link is just giving you “page not found” now?

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:16 pm

I have the sheets right here in front of me

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
4:17 pm

4 Real / Willie D — Nah, I saw about the motorboating, etc. But I also saw that the list was prefaced with “No…” so I quickly lost interest. :lol:

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:17 pm

I’m ready to go home.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
4:18 pm

Cool, yeah, just send the doc to me, that’ll work.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:18 pm

“We can fuc soon Common if u like!”

I will have to take a pass on that one Exiled! the new hubby is possessive just like me… Sorry! No can do! Actually, I’m not sorry because my husband is fu_king AMAZING!

ITL~ glad you got your flirt on. He must have been super duper fine today cause you was gone a long time… IJS!

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:18 pm

That link is still not working…

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:20 pm

@Swiss: email me intothelight25@yahoo.com (if you don’t get it from Leggs)

@Comon: Guuuurl. He is a cutie pie. And asking me to make him a banana pudding. Hmph. :lol:

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
4:20 pm

It won’t work, HST. The file doesn’t exist on that server anymore.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:21 pm

Swiss~ But there are so many things you CAN do! Besides preggo snatch is the best. (Especially if she’s having a boy!) Testosterone goes up, etc. etc. etc…) LMAO!

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
4:21 pm

I had it saved to my favorites so I no longer have just the text of it…oh well

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
4:22 pm

UGA UGA – come on in the corner with me. What size do you wear (-2)? I just may have some jorts for you.
Swiss kill the flashing light 4real don’t need to know bout this one.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:22 pm

Girl, you better make that pudding! They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, but I have generally found that is not true. The best way is through the breastbone… **wah wah wah…***

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:22 pm

I thought you were putting it back on that address.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
4:23 pm

I will as soon as I get a copy of the file. I think ITL is hooking me up. I’ll repost the link when it’s up.

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:23 pm

LOL@Willie D. Only if you promise to help me get my mullet just right. :) Business in the front, Par-tay in the back. :lol:

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
4:24 pm

swiss I will pdf the file to you.

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:24 pm

LMBO@CC. Now THAT was funny.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:24 pm

Comon Cents – You okay? You nearly lost it there at 4:21 talking about snatch…lol So you’ve been told, I’d hope, right? I hope you ain’t been sampling another chick’s snatch…lol That’s all we would need for MMeello to really get riled….lol

DreamsMaterialize

July 26th, 2012
4:25 pm

Dang you all are on a roll today. How’s everyone doing? Just a few more minutes until my weekend starts. Let’s get the blog bar opened. Am I still allowed to do that, or did I get replaced for excessive absence? What are you all having?

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:26 pm

Dern…I’M READY TO GO!!!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:26 pm

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
4:27 pm

Sent the copy of the page. Yeah, it’s telling me “page not found.”

Hope what I sent is what you can use, swiss.

C-YA in the morning….peace!

disco

July 26th, 2012
4:27 pm

ITL – will you be picking up bananas and vanilla wafers on your way home?

CC – I say the way to a man’s heart is through his chest with a bullet. folks usually look at me funny when I say it for some reason.

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:27 pm

Hey Dreams! I’d love a vodka tonic, lots of ice, lots of lime.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:29 pm

C~ So I was told repeatedly when I was knocked up. But, no, I have zero interesat in sampling snatch.

HST~ I got the bold to work, so now it’s just you… You better put that MD to work boy! LMAO!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:29 pm

ITL – Better yet, can we get deets after the pudding has been sampled? :)

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
4:30 pm

Alrighty then, here’s the new link:

http://karaokebus.com/blog_formatting.txt

Thanks, ITL & Leggs

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:30 pm

@disco: Maybe. :oops:

And with a bullet?? LOLOLOL.

What does it mean when a man is panting and screaming your name? You’re not holding the pillow over his face tightly enough.

DreamsMaterialize

July 26th, 2012
4:30 pm

Hey ITL. I got you. Lots of ice, lots of lime, LOTS of vodka (you forgot that part). ;-)

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
4:30 pm

ITL – see, see you had to go there.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:30 pm

disco~ I prefer to use the blood stream and some poison to get there, but tomato tomato…

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:31 pm

@DM: I know how you pour…..lots of vodka is a given. ;)

@Cel: You know I won’t air it here….but I might tell you, Twink. :)

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:32 pm

ITL – Good enough…you have my email addy :)

disco

July 26th, 2012
4:32 pm

CC – I don’t have the patience for the blood stream. haven’t you noticed by now that I’m a straight shooter (no pun intended of course).

ITL – get your banana pudding on girl.

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:33 pm

Am I the only one drinking? Oh well…..bottoms up, bottoms up….

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:33 pm

11 pages folks…I think I am outta here!

Night!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:33 pm

Well, I guess I’ll be going with ITL & DM. I would say I’m an alcoholic, but they go to meetings. My meetings happen at the bar.

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:35 pm

@C: You can’t leave yet!!!! It’s still early!

@Comon: Pull up a seat, chica. DM is a great bartender. (and not too rough on the eyes, if you know what I mean ;) )

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:35 pm

disco

Blood stream is so much less mess than the bullet & I ain’t trying to go to jail; started my career in te prosecutor’s office. They would hurt me in there…

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:36 pm

Haha CC. I just made a word doc so I don’t lose it…

what a pain in the a**

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:36 pm

ITL~ as nice to the eyes as Mr. Bannana Pudding?

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:37 pm

Why do I feel like I just accomplished something important?

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:37 pm

HST
Better late than never… glad you could show up. You want a drink? I think there may be debauchery to be had… It’s Friday eve.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:38 pm

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:39 pm

@CC: I couldn’t say…I’m just going on what I overheard in the ladies room of the blog bar. :roll:

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:39 pm

Bourbon neat please… :D

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:39 pm

HST

Don’t feel bad, I feel that way too. Isn’t it a dang shame? Graduated from college and I’m impressed that I can make text bold. My father would be so proud. **face palm**

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:40 pm

@Willie D: I went where? Why, whatever do you mean???? :evil:

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:40 pm

ITL – I can vouch for Dreams. He’s a handsome devil.

Face Palm? What does that mean?

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:41 pm

ITL~ So, do tell what’s in the recipe for the bannana pudding? That sounds yummy! You know all this food talk today got me going!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:41 pm

Okay…I’m gone for real this time ITL

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:42 pm

I hear ya CC. :oops:

I’m going amok, amok, amok with this cheat sheet!

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
4:42 pm

Ahem… What am I, chopped liver over here?

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:42 pm

C~ Face palm= Head down, hand over face, smdh…

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:43 pm

Swiss: You got work to do. Go get some feathers and syrup and make that girl happy!!!

But thank you for the cheat sheet…

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:44 pm

I’m out also, I’m going to the lake with my dogs. Hopefully it will cool down, the water is even warm right now.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:45 pm

So, before I cut out, do you guys always meet on this blog?

Jake...SPJTWB

July 26th, 2012
4:45 pm

Kicks in the door waving the 44, sorry didn’t mean to scare ya’ll, its really just a Supersoaker…duck biotches!!!!!

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:45 pm

Thanks i’m swiss!

HST

July 26th, 2012
4:46 pm

Everyone have a great afternoon and evening. :D

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:46 pm

Swiss – Not at all boo, not at all. I just vouched for Dreams because ITL spoke to his handsomeness (is that a word…lol)

Oooooooohhhh, FACE PALM…well call me slow. It sounded vaguely familiar. Anyhoo, no biggie :)

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
4:47 pm

ITL – umm the mullet comment. I’m bald but if you wear your mullet in a ponytail we might can still be cool. Daisy Duke had on jorts Ijs

DreamsMaterialize

July 26th, 2012
4:48 pm

I think there may be debauchery to be had
Comon Cents If debauchery is what you want, I have a few tequilas for that. National Tequila Day was a few days ago, but I’m celebrating all week. What’ll it be?

Bourbon neat please…
HST You got it. Any preference in brand?

I can vouch for Dreams. He’s a handsome devil.
Hey Celly Cel. How you doing? Thanks for the compliment! I wasn’t sure I wanted to called a devil, but then I am serving up alcohol and supporting debauchery. lol Anything for you? ;-)

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:49 pm

Dreams – Heeey there…you know you’re an Al B. Sure lookalike. He was hawt back in the day :)

I’m about to roll out so Imma pass on anything hey Willie, if I did it would have to be virgin. And for virgin, heck I can do that at home :)

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:50 pm

@C: Stay and play til 5. K?

@Comon: Let’s see…..heavy whipping cream, bananas, Nilla wafers, a little bit of this, a little dab of that….

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
4:51 pm

Hey everybody! Cel’s going home to do a virgin! :lol:

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:51 pm

ITL – Til 5? K…for you I will. I was gonna clean some stuff up until it was time to go. I’ll sit here and continue to, ahem…multi-task until then.

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
4:51 pm

Kicks in the door waving the 44, sorry didn’t mean to scare ya’ll, its really just a Supersoaker…duck biotches

Slim now tries to hide her white t-shirt with the 50 Shades of Grey book nearby.

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:52 pm

@WD: A ponytailed mullet??? Can I at least keep my teeth? I don’t have to black any out, do I?

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:53 pm

Swiss – I’m feeling like a dude now….no virgins for me…lol Except drinks of course ;)

ITL – LOLOL @ your 4:52

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:54 pm

11 pages…I think 12 more comments will get 12. Can y’all do it in 6 minutes?

GO!!!

disco

July 26th, 2012
4:56 pm

6 minutes dougie fresh you’re on. that was my contribution C.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:56 pm

ITL, WillieD? Nothing? I thought we were about to get the mullet/jorts thing going. Nothing?

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:56 pm

@C: I’m glad you’re staying!!!

@Swiss: boo, you are a LOT of things but chopped liver is not one of them. ;)

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:56 pm

Well dernit, I guess not huh…YAAAAAAY….page 12

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
4:57 pm

ITL – I quit, you don’t play fair. Hahaha

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:57 pm

Soooo, I have a question.

If Swiss’s job is the blog breaker-downer, who would fill the other blog jobs?

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:58 pm

disco – lololol…thank you ma’am We needed that

ITL – I’z here for you girl…

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
4:58 pm

Hey C~ they said light skinned guys are making a comeback so maybe we will see Al B. Sure soon…

SlimUno

July 26th, 2012
4:58 pm

I made it unscathed….see yall next week. Im outta here biotches!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:58 pm

ITL – What are the other blog jobs???

Into the Light....feeling left out.

July 26th, 2012
4:58 pm

I’m sorry, WD. C’mere…let me rub your bald head for luck (in a completely friendly way that is IN NO WAY disprespectful to Mrs. Dynamite or the Dynamitettes). :)

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
4:59 pm

Bye, Slim!

@C: I dunno. I was thinking we might need to generate the list.

I nominate BF as Blog Sheriff.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
4:59 pm

Comon Cents – I don’t know about what they say but Celisea only dated “light skinned” guys…nothing knew or spectacular to me. I like them all shades. That’s just what’s been attracted to me :)

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
5:00 pm

Okay…so

Blackfoote – Blog Sheriff
Swiss – Blog breaker-downer

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
5:01 pm

Celisea’s only date

nothing new to me

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
5:01 pm

Guys, I got to run. Got to go pick up lil cents. I’ll catch you later. This was fun!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
5:02 pm

Can I be the domain master of debauchery? I think I’m qualified…

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
5:02 pm

Comon Cents – Ohhhhh, my bad…lolol I thought you said maybe YOU (as in me), will see Al B Sure…oooh, my bad

I’m not looking for Al B. :)

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
5:03 pm

Comon Cents – Unless you’re some kind of woman, I think “debauchery” of anything should be assigned to one of the men. Dontchu think? It’s just not lady like :) BUT, if you can hang, I say the job is yours :)

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
5:04 pm

I think you are a shoe-in for the job, Cents! :)

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
5:04 pm

C~ based on what’s gone on in my life, I think I can hang. IJS… ;)

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
5:05 pm

@C: What’s your job gonna be?

I think we should put For Real on the refreshment committee, since he likes those dang honeybuns so much.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
5:05 pm

Comon Cents – Okay GIRL, you got it!! It’s yours. Work it!!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
5:06 pm

See you guys later! Have a great night!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
5:07 pm

ITL – I don’t want to be in the spotlight. Can I man the doors and pull the curtains? If they’re not yea high, no entrance. If they don’t rub the stump for good luck, no entrance. Oh, and handing out blog vests???

Can I? Please?

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
5:08 pm

Mother may I????

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
5:08 pm

@C: I don’t see why not. But you might have to wrassle (yup, I said wrassle) Leggs for blog vest hander outer. She always does that.

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
5:08 pm

ITL – Okay…I’ll just man the doors and pull the curtains :)

What’s your job going to be?

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
5:09 pm

I think we should make Sassy Chief Manties Patroller. You know she can spot ‘em in a minute. LOL

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
5:09 pm

I dunno. What do you think would be a good job for me?

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
5:10 pm

Yes! That’s a good one. Can we throw in handing out warnings, prior to said citation?

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
5:11 pm

I think it’s up to her to set the policy, but yeah….I think a warning is probably in order. Unless it’s a really greivous offense.

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
5:11 pm

I think “greeter”…you would do fantab in that position :)

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
5:12 pm

Gotcha on Manty Handler….ohhhh, love that title…Manty Handler :)

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
5:12 pm

We should bring this up tomorrow, so other bloggers can select their jobs, too. Wonder what disco will pick? Kimmie? Leggs? Willie D? Jake? This could be a riot!

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
5:13 pm

Awwww, I like greeter. Plus, it’ll be good practice for when I retire and work part time at Wal-Mart. LOLOLOL

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
5:13 pm

Manty Handler! That made me laugh out loud.

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
5:14 pm

I’m scared to think of what Ex’s job might be….. Dear Lord, help us.

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
5:14 pm

Okay…cool.

So far we have

Blackfoote – Sheriff
Swiss – Blog breaker-downer
Sassy – Manty Handler
ITL – Greeter
Celisea – Door man gal

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
5:15 pm

Ooooh, I think disco should be the counselor. You know she will give it to ‘em straight; no sugar coating. We need that kind of honesty.

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
5:15 pm

LOLOLOL….not Walmart greeter….LOLOLOLOL Move over, I just might be working with you there :)

I think he and Comon Cents can share the debauchery thingy. I’m SURE there’s enough for the both of them to get in on it…lol

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
5:16 pm

Okay….cool, disco is counselor

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
5:17 pm

Alright mey ladee (let me stop), it’s time for me to scadaddle :)

Night!

I might have to come up with a better job for myself tomorrow. Nobody better not crack either…lol

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
5:17 pm

Yeah, but he gets so out of control with the nastiness sometimes. He’s in a category by himself. :lol:

Into the Light

July 26th, 2012
5:18 pm

Night, C!

Don’t forget to practice your “Welcome to Walmart” greeting on the way home. We’ve only got 30 years to get it just right. :lol:

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
5:19 pm

Well seeing how Comon have weathered the crazies by her account today, I think she can handle MMello. If not she can just knock him across the head a time or two…lol

Celisea

July 26th, 2012
5:19 pm

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
5:31 pm

For the record, I believe “Manty Wrangler” is a better title. But that’s just me…