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Can you unbreak a heart?

I wish there was a way to corral all the bad girls in Atlanta together and make them face the trail of broken hearts they left behind. There are so any wounded men walking around this city. Talk about The Walking Dead – dead inside!

I have heard a lot of horror stories from men who are left bitter, scorned, gun-shy. They tell me they are in no hurry to take a leap of faith on another “pathetic broad” – (That’s right, women often become broads or females post bad breakups).

I have personally had to listen to a man call his ex Satan on our first date. Another, said his ex-wife had no soul. Of course, I sympathize and empathize with broken-hearted men. I have been there before too! I just don’t know if I can handle the challenge of un-breaking a guy’s heart, restoring his faith in women again. It just sounds exhausting! (I’m lazy, I know)

What can you do when you meet someone great but they are not open to anything meaningful because of what the last person did to them? Do you think waiting it out and proving you are different then their ex is a smart move?

Have you ever met someone who is suffering from a heartbreak, yet they want still want to date you and see where it goes?

Did you ever go through a bitter phase? How did you get through it? Did you put dating on the back burner or were you actively seeking a rebound person?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:00 pm

Exiled!~ Grew up in a great family. Parents have been married 45 years. Dad is a minister, mom is a teacher. One sibling, older, who graduated from an Ivy League and is married and seems well adjusted. Nope, I’m the only nut in my family and I think that may have been temporary insanity. Otherwise my life is very vanilla. I work, pay bills, pay taxes take care of kids, etc.

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
3:00 pm

2:55 comedy at its finest.

Hahaha no comment. I’m just gon get another drank.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:01 pm

door down

Mmeello – Everybody ain’t swinging…lol Naaaw, some of us can’t get down like that. Nuh uh, I want mine all to myself. I don’t do swapping nor sharing.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
3:01 pm

Alright good blog people I just heard the chambers on the door locks release it is time to fly y’all have a good evening.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:01 pm

Night Blackfoote

disco

July 26th, 2012
3:02 pm

C – I told someone once that there is a fine line between “ha ha, you got jokes” and “you play too much”. you have to be careful with it. you got jokes will get a tired little giggle but playing too much can make a fight break out.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:03 pm

C~ Another interesting note, if the current hubby brought up the idea (of swinging), I would kill him and they would never find his body. I want mine to myself too. I figure the ex wasn’t mine to begin with. He was just an EXample of what I shouldn’t do… literally

HST

July 26th, 2012
3:04 pm

“Didn’t you know that shenanigans, alcohol and sarcasm are what most friendships are based on these days?” I do and insist that out of my friends.

I too laugh at myself – such a rare quality theses days – everyone’s so serious. I dunno why, life is so fleeting.

“I don’t trust folks and their idea of cleanliness. But I’m not a big cooker anymore either.” I hear ya C, that is a big issue for me today. I’m trying to come to an agreement with my housekeeper to cook more. I swear I have a “Berta” from 2 & A Half Men. She does clean a lot, because of the dogs, and can handle them; therefore, she knows she has me right where she wants.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 26th, 2012
3:05 pm

Night Cely

disco you’re too damn much……..LOL
Put me in mind of Leggs.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:05 pm

disco – As a child/teen, I’ve never been one to “jone” or joke. I don’t find it funny when folks take shots and say stuff jokingly that they really mean. I will call a person in a minute on that. I’d rather you say what you really feel, sans the ha ha ha. I can respect that a bit more. But yeah, I like a good joke as much as the next person, but getting to close will get you smacked…lololol

HST

July 26th, 2012
3:07 pm

Shenanigans is almost as good as debauchery.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:07 pm

HST – You just got it going on dontcha? lol She’s the housekeeper right? Can you say what you want cooked? I thought you had chicks in three states? They can’t cook for you? I’m just asking. Tell me to mind my business if you like :)

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:08 pm

C~ those are those “backhanded compliments”. I hate that ish too!

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:09 pm

Comon Cents – Yep…folks are slick with it too…lol

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
3:09 pm

Disco you are a bad influence. You started talking about fighting and now Cel talking bout smacking folks for a ha ha ha.
I was starting to vibe with this KumBaya isht. Dayum now I need another drank to keep up. Ha (only 1 ha, don’t wanna get smacked). Lol

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:09 pm

No, HST, debauchery is MUCH more fun than shenanigans. But it will also cause a lot more trouble.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:10 pm

I would say that tom-foolery might fall in line with shenanigans though…

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:10 pm

WillieD – LOL…I’m just going with the flow and staying on good behavior. If I feel myself talking to much, I’m logging off…lol I can’t get a drank but I can go home :)

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:10 pm

Nite BF!

No one is swinging here, Ex!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:11 pm

C~ “You know, I could NEVER wear a color like that, but it just suits you so well…” LOLOLOL!

Exiled!

July 26th, 2012
3:12 pm

Common thanx!

Right there,dad is minister and mother is a teacher..I grew up around church ministers etc and my best friend dad was a united Methodist church minister

The kids(some of them) are the worst debauchery minded you can find!

Nice rich history u got and u not ashamed to recount it.

Very rarely do u find blog chics that are so candid.

It should help u cleanse urself!

disco

July 26th, 2012
3:12 pm

I could hang with the best of them in cracking jokes or playing the dozens but it’s just part of how I was raised. heck, it’s how my family communicates. lol. we went hard but it was all in love and good practice for the outside world.

re the “backhanded compliments/insults”, I call that foolishness the “southern belle syndrome”. those heffas can step. fake tricks.

WD – don’t blame me. I didn’t do anything.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:17 pm

disco – re the “backhanded compliments/insults”, I call that foolishness the “southern belle syndrome”. those heffas can step. fake tricks.

I’m sooo here with you on this.

Comon Cents – :)

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:17 pm

That’s going to be a problem for me. I cook all the time (except Fridays). My neighbors come over every Sunday for dinner. We swap out Sundays, but it’s always at my place. Now, with lil leggs leaving, I will still be cooking, just have to learn to cook for one. That’s going to be difficult because fast food is not a friend of mine!

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:18 pm

Exiled!~ Dad did not become a minister into I was grown. He was an executive at a Fortune 500 for 30+ years, but I guess the minister was always there, just not officially. LOL!

As far as recounting it, the truth will always out. I believe that and I couldn’t be who I am if I tried to make it any different. I never understand people who try to NOT be candid. “You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.” I would rather you dislike the real me than be bosom buddies with the fake person.

disco~ Southern Belle Syndrome also includes the dreaded “Bless your little heart!” which I lived here for 5 years before I knew it wasn’t a compliment! LOL!

HST

July 26th, 2012
3:18 pm

Look, I’m not a womanizer, I’m just a single man who can afford to do what he wants. That helps if you wanna date, but in no way do I womanize. Moreover, I am not misogynistic in any type of way either.

The women I usually date sound like your statement on cooking as much as I do. I don’t like cleaning or cooking, so I’m not going to ask someone to do what I don’t want to do myself.

I have 300lbs of dog in my house – every one of my K9’s shed heavily – it’s cumbersome to keep the house dust/hair free. She has to do the baseboards once a week. She cooks for me, and leaves meals, but I want her to do more. It’s gonna cost me, she knows me, and I trust her, so I take care of her. My house wouldn’t run without her…

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:18 pm

MMeello – How did you go from swinging and shenanigans to “nice rich history and not ashamed to recount” lololol

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:19 pm

See, Leggs, you swap too! LMAO!!

HST

July 26th, 2012
3:20 pm

“No, HST, debauchery is MUCH more fun than shenanigans. But it will also cause a lot more trouble.” I’ve been know to steer right into trouble, maybe I’ll need your counsel. ;)

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:20 pm

HST – Did you just vent/rant? lol Easy now, if you have women in different states, it reads “womanizer”, but I take your word that you’re a stand up man :) We don’t know one another remember, so really what I think is neither here nor there :)

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:21 pm

C~ Who is MMeello?

HST

July 26th, 2012
3:21 pm

CC, I realize that your married, and I’d never. It was just a fun comment to the infection statement earlier.

disco

July 26th, 2012
3:22 pm

CC – and let’s not forget “precious”.

C – let us not forget that ALL of the blog gents are STANDUP guys. no jokers, losers, busters around here.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:22 pm

You got me, Comon Cents! Good catch…

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:22 pm

Comon ~ Meeellloo is Ex. Meelllo’s name has been banned.

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:23 pm

HST~ I don’t think you would want to need my counsel. I deal in DUI and drug offenses. We don’t want those kinds of shenanigans and debauchery.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:24 pm

Comon — “Me.lo” (but without the period) is original name of the blogger now known as “Exiled!” He got so raunchy that he was banished from the blog for a while. And to this day, you can’t even say the name “Me.lo” (minus the period) without your post getting blocked.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:25 pm

disco – I know right. Everybody is just dang good..lol

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:25 pm

HST~ No offense taken! You went to Emory. I am sure you ran across some of my illk while you were there. We have to be the most debased, debaucherous group ever.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:25 pm

Leggs — You really didn’t do Me.lo’s legend justice there… lol

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:26 pm

Ahhh… I got you now. I’ll be sure not to mention He We Don’t Speak OF then. I son’t want to get banned on my first day…

HST

July 26th, 2012
3:26 pm

I do not have different GFs in different states, which is why I said I wasn’t a womanizer. I did think that you light-heartedly implied it…

Honestly, since I date none of you, I miss my LTR. I really wish she’d come back to the US. I haven’t really dated since she left – I’m still processing my feelings.

disco

July 26th, 2012
3:27 pm

swiss – you broke it down. when they issue blog job positions again I’ll nominate you for the official blog break-it-downer.

Celisea....just agreeing today :)

July 26th, 2012
3:27 pm

HST – You are NOT a womanizer. I believe you :)

Willie Dynamite

July 26th, 2012
3:28 pm

Honestly I’ve been a joker, loser, maybe not a buster (but you catch my drift) to plenty of chicks. I am currently a stand up guy.
Just thought I’d throw that in from the peanut gallery. Lol

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:29 pm

Comon — Then again, you also can’t use the word “ridicu-lous” without the dash, due to the blogs ridicu-lously stupid filtering logic (it’s the “cu-lo” in “ridicu-lous” that gets flagged.). But don’t get me started on that stupid piece of sh!t filter, ‘cos I could rant all day… lol

disco

July 26th, 2012
3:30 pm

HST – you are NOT a womanizer. we all believe you.

Leggs

July 26th, 2012
3:30 pm

swiss ~ I started to, but had to run to credit union.

i'm swiss

July 26th, 2012
3:32 pm

disco — Thanks. See, some of my people can break it down like that… ;-)

Comon Cents

July 26th, 2012
3:32 pm

i’m swiss: I said someting earlier that must have triggered it when ITL was talking about stereotypes. I said: