Trust your ex around your next?
I am stumped on this latest dating misadventure. I am lucky enough not to have experienced this one:
One of our readers is slightly freaking out since her ex ?? (um ex-fling/hook up/random guy to past the time with just befriended her new man. At this point, she is unsure if it was deliberate or if they simply met each other through friends innocently. To make matters worse, he has a little dirt on her. Just enough to make the new man’s opinion of her change. (She won’t say what it is, specifically but my imagination is working overtime).
I can say that if an ex of mine met my new beau, I’d probably freak out a little bit too. I just don’t know what my exes could say or do to wreck things. Why would the want to?
What would you do if your ex and your new mate became buddies or BFFs. Would you worry about what would be revealed about you?
Is this good reason to have full disclosures in a new relationship. That way, you won’t worry about something coming out before you want it to?
Have you ever met an ex partner of your significant other?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta
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409 comments Add your comment
kimmie
July 25th, 2012
3:21 pm
Light – They are fully indoctrinated!LOL!!! We are going to take a little road trip up there next week because they have been begging me! They frown whenever they see anything with GT on it or a gator!!
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:22 pm
MMeello – You’re so wrong for that.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2012
3:22 pm
For Real, you are too much.
(ITL now looking for the coupon for Buy 1, Get 1 Free Oscar Meyer Angus franks…..only the good stuff for MY man!)
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:22 pm
ITL – And you’re wrong for that…lol
Exiled!
July 25th, 2012
3:23 pm
Cel
Low class is ITL’s words
Didn’t use low class in my explanation
She’s right tho.
A woman drinking beer is not my fav thing to see..it’s worse when I see her mouthing it..
It is what it is in my eyes.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2012
3:23 pm
@kimmie: That makes me so proud!! I’ll be there in 38 days, and I cannot wait!
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:24 pm
ITL – We need to talk. You drop everything for a pack of ON Angus Franks? What about baby Rella? I didn’t see pampers nor milk roll up in here. Weak for the
weenieweinerInto the Light
July 25th, 2012
3:25 pm
@C: I just can’t resist him…..his lips taste like honeybun icing and that vanilla lotion….. it just does it for me, Twink.
For Real
July 25th, 2012
3:26 pm
Blog meet and greet???? Where is my invo..ivnit…invat.. who was suppose to tell me?
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:26 pm
ITL – LOLOL…I couldn’t type for laughing
Okay Twin Twink, get it together. When y’all are done roasting and getting you’re fill on honeybun icing, baby Rella will still need milk and pampers. I need you to snap out of it. Get the money first and THEN the rest.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2012
3:27 pm
But you can believe baby Rella will not be neglected. If I don’t have enough to cover the pampers, milk, and hot dogs, For Real will be getting those chicken dogs.
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:27 pm
ITL – LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL Not CHICKEN FRANKS….OMG….LOLOLOL
Into the Light
July 25th, 2012
3:30 pm
Yep. Chicken franks. Have you ever seen those nasty things? A friend of the Ex’s BFF used to come to cookouts and drink up everybody’s beer and liquor and then say he’d cover the meat for the cookout. Buster Brown would come back with chicken franks and a six-pack of Busch Light and act so proud of himself. Like he had really contributed.
kimmie
July 25th, 2012
3:30 pm
I don’t think that all men that have been to prison have been tapped. But that’s not the only reason I don’t deal with ex-cons. Once you have a record, your entire life is changed. You have trouble getting a decent job no matter how much education you have. Me & my children would forever have to pay the price for your bad decisions.
I’ve just never been comfortable with the criminal types, the bad boys. That mess is not cute, and in that respect I am not ride-or-die. I’m not going to prison or jail for anybody and I’m not exposing my family to that type of scene. I like being able to lay my head on my pillow at night in peace. Miss me with all the drama.
Exiled!
July 25th, 2012
3:31 pm
Cel!
I’m pleading the fif on ur 3:20!
For Real
July 25th, 2012
3:32 pm
Heyyyyyyyyyyy the chicken dogs fry up the best while yall playin. Ain’t that right ITL?
kimmie
July 25th, 2012
3:33 pm
Light – I got a crazy cousin nicknamed Buster Brown!LOL!! And you are right, it is nothing nastier than a chicken frank!!! They taste like raw chicken skin would probably taste if I had tasted it!!
Into the Light
July 25th, 2012
3:36 pm
LOL@Kimmie. One bite of that nastiness was enough for me to know I never wanted to taste one of those again. Gives me the shudders just thinking about it.
@For Real – Quit playing. You know I don’t allow mystery meat in my house. Well, present company excluded, of course.
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:37 pm
ITL – I haven’t had chicken franks but I remember my mama have a caniption because one of my sibs brought back chicken bologna. She almost took a switch. I remember thinking dang, they’re just a kid. The walked to the neighborhood store. She was like that about buying white bread to or forgetting to bring back her Tab or Fresca…lololol Needless to say a second trip to the store was in order.
ITL – Don’t be blinded by a smooth talking, honeybun eating, chicken franks cooking man. If you gonna go all out, go high class and get OM…lol If you want him to make you feel extra special, make him spring for a steak
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:38 pm
MMeello – Naw, don’t be pleading the fif…what say you?
Into the Light
July 25th, 2012
3:39 pm
LOL@C. And For Real, she doesn’t mean a tube steak, either!!
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:40 pm
Well, one thing I believe is that no matter your station in life, you can overcome. I’ve seen mountains move out of the way, I’ve seen the impossible happen. I won’t discount or write anybody off. Like my mama says, God can make a way out of no way. There are some folks that make more money than the educated man and I’m sure is skipping all the way to the bank. There are too many stories of triumph where people had it hard and things looked bleak. Nope, I won’t ever discount or write off anybody.
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:40 pm
ITL – Guuuuuuuuuuurrrrl, getcho steak. Yous highclass then
kimmie
July 25th, 2012
3:40 pm
I am cracking up on you all!! I really needed this!!
(Ova here taking a big swig outta my 40oz) LOL!!!!
disco
July 25th, 2012
3:41 pm
jake – I’m not from jersey. PA though which I suppose – technically – is close.
C –re your momma and white bread. when my mom was here I took her to mcallister’s deli. she got mad because all of the sandwiches were on “crazy” bread. all she wanted was some “regular” bread. whew, that woman frustrated me.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2012
3:42 pm
@kimmie: I always knew you was good people.
kimmie
July 25th, 2012
3:42 pm
Celisea – I don’t write anybody off either, want the best for everybody, but still don’t have to marry them!
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:43 pm
ITL – LOLOL…what is “crazy” bread, pray tell?
disco
July 25th, 2012
3:43 pm
kimmie – you don’t strike me as a the 40 ounce type. do they still make double deuces? that might be more your speed.
Exiled!
July 25th, 2012
3:44 pm
Disco..
I went to college never smoked weed
I ain’t assume nothing
But I ain’t dismissing nothing either
I was just akssin’g lol
Wld a chic have hmmmm if dude said yea I was in there for xyz considering
That’s all Disco ….
Now I be honest with u…me? I aint hanging or befriending a felon unless it’s my relative
None against ur own but me and myself I am with Kimmie
We cool but from afar
I have a friend that married an af American chic and the sister of the chic married a dude that went to prison ex drug dealer
I told my dude friend pleeeeeease don’t bring your bro in law to my house
No hard feelings there ! Lol
disco
July 25th, 2012
3:44 pm
crazy bread is any bread that wasn’t plain, regular, white bread.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2012
3:44 pm
@disco: Or as my daddy calls it, “loaf bread.”
“If we don’t have any rolls or biscuits to eat with supper, just put out some loaf bread!”
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:44 pm
ITL – I’m not making light at all…but it took us nearly a week to convince my mama she was in Florida. Yesterday, my sister said after all of that, my mom asked so, when are we leaving…. She was sitting in her chair at home? She said I asked, leaving where? My mama said Florida. LOLOL Again, not making light but I sure do get it.
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:45 pm
ITL – You’re mom and pops sound like mine
Into the Light
July 25th, 2012
3:46 pm
Awww, C. That’s kinda sad.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2012
3:46 pm
ITL – You’re mom and pops sound like mine
@C: DUH! We’re Twinkies!
disco
July 25th, 2012
3:48 pm
ex – I can get with you and kimmie. I’m not befriending any NEW felons. family and folks I grew up with like family will always get a pass. if I’m in town I’ll swing through the “so and so just got out of jail” barbecue.
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:48 pm
ITL – Cheer up, she’s good. It’s a condition that’s a part of life. Like I said, by no means am I making light.
Mmeello – What’s ignorant about snubbing people is half the folks walking around could be ex-cons. You would be none the wiser. I hope you eat lunch or have a co-worker that did hard time…lol Since you said you ain’t befriending no ex-cons. Trust me, I don’t have any in my rolodex, but I certainly don’t have a problem being kind.
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:48 pm
ITL – @C: DUH! We’re Twinkies!
I know, I know
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:49 pm
disco – I’m tossing a side eye at your 3:48. All day everyday we’ve got a story on some criminal you know, dealt with, had relations with, work with….etc Nooooow, you wanna side with folks that swear off criminals??
LOLOLOLOL
kimmie
July 25th, 2012
3:50 pm
Exiled – One of my good friends was dating this dude that was in and out of prison. She kept making excuses for him. Once they had an arguement and she told me while we were riding in her car that she had to look out for him because he was stalking her and had a gun. I immediately slid down in the seat. I was so scared! I told her I couldn’t come over anymore and would just have to talk to her on the phone!
That’s just not the life for me, having to look over my shoulder.
disco
July 25th, 2012
3:52 pm
C – it’s sort of like the devil you know. I’m cool with MY criminals. I don’t want too much to do with other folks’ criminals. sort of like when I met the guy who had just got paroled after serving time for bank robbery. some folks actually told me I should give him a chance. those folks had me stuck. I’m not the one.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2012
3:53 pm
How come I’m thinking about a fried bologna sandwich? Mmmmm
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:55 pm
disco – I’m not dating, sexing, hanging with any criminals. I don’t blame you. I’m not dating a bank robber, murderer or the sort either. I just believe everybody should get a fair shake. Yes, it was all their fault but if they want to reform, why not?
So family gets a pass huh? Okay then
Familiar criminals…lol
You just never know what shoes you’ll be in one day. Just never know.
Into the Light
July 25th, 2012
3:55 pm
On toasted bread, with a big slice of tomato with salt, pepper, and mayo?
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:55 pm
ITL – As long as it’s not chicken bologna, make me one too please
Celisea
July 25th, 2012
3:56 pm
May I have my bread toasted please?
Into the Light
July 25th, 2012
3:58 pm
That’s the only way, C! I hope you don’t want any Miracle Whip, though, because I do not keep that mess in my house. I can put some sugar in your mayo, though.
kimmie
July 25th, 2012
3:58 pm
C – I don’t snub anyone and I am kind to people. A dear guy friend I have did some time years ago, before we ever met. I have family that has gotten into trouble. Where I draw the line is dating & marrying. Or befriending a person that’s still into a questionable, criminal lifestyle. I’m not just talking street crime either, so-called white-collar criminals as well. I don’t want to have to hide my purse every time you’re around. I never wanted to expose my family to that type of life.
Exiled!
July 25th, 2012
3:58 pm
3:48 is funny! Lol @Disco
Cel I ain’t trying to a t clean but dang…everybody gotta take care of themselves or/and claim what’s theirs.
U know what’s funny,if my lil bro were a drug dealer,I can afford to beret him when he comes to my house,talk foul with him but give him some food still..and sit by side with him..
Can’t dot side by side with someone’s else relation who is ex con and be comfy..
Ull be looking str8 but the corner of ur eye wld be watchful
Dont like that stress