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Trust your ex around your next?

I am stumped on this latest dating misadventure. I am lucky enough not to have experienced this one:

One of our readers is slightly freaking out since her ex ?? (um ex-fling/hook up/random guy to past the time with just befriended her new man. At this point, she is unsure if it was deliberate or if they simply met each other through friends innocently. To make matters worse, he has a little dirt on her. Just enough to make the new man’s opinion of her change. (She won’t say what it is, specifically but my imagination is working overtime).

I can say that if an ex of mine met my new beau, I’d probably freak out a little bit too. I just don’t know what my exes could say or do to wreck things. Why would the want to?

What would you do if your ex and your new mate became buddies or BFFs. Would you worry about what would be revealed about you?

Is this good reason to have full disclosures in a new relationship. That way, you won’t worry about something coming out before you want it to?

Have you ever met an ex partner of your significant other?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta

409 comments Add your comment

Leggs

July 25th, 2012
11:28 am

Celisea ~ no, you’re not the only one who caught it…you are a firecracker!

exiled

July 25th, 2012
11:28 am

ok Cee..let me watch some Olympics soccer..now that i vented that outta the chest. :lol:

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:29 am

Mr Unknown – No, it’s not. She’s got some splaining to do too…maybe. lol

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:31 am

Leggs – Why?? Why we gotta play those kind of games? Why can’t we just blog and let be? lololol I just don’t understand. I still say Blackfoote make too many errors. Either he’s faking in one place or someone is faking in another. But, all in a day on As the Blog Turns :)

Mmeello – No, you can stay. You was blocking my view of the crime scene and talking. The talking was distracting other folks from seeing what I saw. :)

Into the Light

July 25th, 2012
11:31 am

@C: No, I saw it, too. But I see people using ’s to make a word plural all the time, so I just chalked it up to a common mistake. (shrugs)

Mr. Unknown

July 25th, 2012
11:31 am

I’m out, have a good day guys..

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:32 am

I mean seriously, as an adult (and not beating a dead horse), would you not consider indiscretions can haunt you? Would you just be get your sugar snaps on, never considering you may want to get serious and some dudes can’t roll with a loose past?

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:33 am

ITL – I guess so…shrugs

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 25th, 2012
11:33 am

Wait a minute somebody trying to step my heels? I see it now Cely who the hell is that?

Leggs

July 25th, 2012
11:35 am

Celisea ~ I often wonder why people do that. The only thing I came up with is:

1. To see if they can fool others

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:35 am

Leggs – I guess so. Cause all that flirting and stuff is just on the screen.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 25th, 2012
11:36 am

Y’all know I don’t play a role in that kind of stuff.

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:37 am

And although it’s a blog and just for fun, it’s still mean spirited to do that to someone. I mean have 50 names but let it be yours. Don’t insinuate foolishness on an innocent bystander. That’s just mean. And don’t be getting your rocks off behind a name. Trrrrrrust that I’m not fool nor slow. Just because I play along don’t mean I’m not aware.

disco

July 25th, 2012
11:37 am

not that I’m trying to change the subject but I have a couple of random off topics. first, I recently put a new heel on a favorite pair of shoes (brown leather sandal with 4 inch heel made to look like a bamboo stalk). it occurred to me this morning as I put on my favorite pair of shoes that they are probably like 12 or 14 years old. I remember growing up when old folks would say “I’ve got shoes/hats/belts/whatever” older than you. I wonder if I’m going to be that person.

next one. I’ve got a friend who works as a social worker. in particular she does food stamp cases. she was complaining the other day about all the men who come in to apply for food stamps and try to holler. I laughed but does anyone thinks she’s too picky or “judgmental” for not wanting to date a “down on his luck” guy?

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:39 am

disco – Heck no! You ain’t gotta date a foodstamp man and feel bad. Not knocking anyone’s station in life but if you gotta lean and lay on me, I’ll take a pass.

Into the Light

July 25th, 2012
11:39 am

Oh lawd….here we go again. I wish there was some way to limit the IDs to one per IP address. That would get rid of this foolishness.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 25th, 2012
11:40 am

Until Single and Happy can make this good I would suggest blanking him.

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:40 am

And really, if you want to holler at someone (including the blog), you’re single they’re single, wouldn’t it be the grown-up thing to do, by just pulling them to the side and asking? Why all the “yuuummmmm, hmmmmmmmmm, oooooooo??” C’mon!!

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:42 am

Let’s just keep blogging folks.

I’m probably gonna be the recipient of a bomb later today…lolololol

exiled

July 25th, 2012
11:43 am

I wld have to be down to one leg and one arm..maybe one eye as well and maybe completely incapacitated…. to be going on the Food stamp route.

Iam too proud to beg!

:lol: :lol:

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:44 am

Mmeello – LOLOLOLOLOL Me too

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:46 am

I don’t understand men and foodstamps. I don’t. I’ve been where I was struggling like a mug with a baby. I’m talking broke and I refused to lean on the system. It was no cake walk, I was fighting back tears from the hurt and the struggle almost EVERYDAY, but I made it. I know it’s a cliched and stuff but you can overcome if you try and have the staying power.

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:46 am

“all” cliched and stuff

disco – Is your friend considering one of those men??

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 25th, 2012
11:47 am

Single I need to hear what you got to say. Cely what he put out here I said that a few days ago. Why he’s copying and pasting me is weird.

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:48 am

Blackfoote – Don’t sweat it. Like I said, it’s just a blog but there’s something and a feeling behind someone attacking you. Whether it’s blasting or subtle.

Leggs

July 25th, 2012
11:48 am

Celisea ~ going on things BF have said in the past, I think BF is being set up by misspelling the word like he does.

disco

July 25th, 2012
11:48 am

well C – another of my ghettoisms – food stamps are “free money”. lol. heck even more so since EBT. the govt should go back to paper stamps. that might deter a certain demographic from applying for them. I remember growing up we had to bust food stamps (we could spend a quarter) so the adults could get the change.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 25th, 2012
11:50 am

I have a stalker and the effed up part is it’s a damn man.

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:51 am

disco – LOL. I know back in the day, folks did NOT want to be caught handing over colored money. You’re in line behind them while they pull from various books. The cashier taking the money out while they’re looking to see who’s looking.

disco

July 25th, 2012
11:52 am

C – I don’t think she’s checking for the food stamp guys. as for paper stamps, you heard me say we used to bust them. for a quarter you could get a good little stash of candy. bust a couple stamps and momma could get some kool filter kings.

Into the Light

July 25th, 2012
11:53 am

@C and Leggs: Are y’all saying there is a conspiracy going on here? If so, that is crazy and beyond messy – that’s like “Hoarding: Buried Alive” messy.

Using an apostrophe s for a plural is a common mistake, though; I see it every day on FB. Isn’t it possible Green Stamps just made the same mistake? I’m not defending, I’m just asking if it’s a possibility.

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:53 am

disco – Yep, folks standing outside the store or away from the counter waiting for the kid to bring the change. Oh yeah, that happened all the time at Bubba’s

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 25th, 2012
11:54 am

Cely note when you called him out he went missing in action.

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:55 am

ITL – Chile, I don’t know what day it is anymore. But if Blackfoote is saying he didn’t say it and he’s the only one that’s ever used lady’s, then I dunno.

I just know Single and Happy, our cruise is off and the thought of taking vacay and swimming with the fish is done :( I’m mad at you right now

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:56 am

Blackfoote – I know, I know….been there. Just keep blogging right on past it.

Into the Light

July 25th, 2012
11:56 am

Dang. I am feeling really naive right about now. I just didn’t know people did stuff like that. Or, as Sassy says, “Where they do that at?”

Into the Light

July 25th, 2012
11:57 am

thought of taking vacay and swimming with the fish is done

If your suspicions are correct, you might have been swimming with the fishes for real. :shock:

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:58 am

ITL – I know right…lol Lawd why?? That’s was a bit dramatic huh?

disco

July 25th, 2012
11:59 am

yeah. ebt messed up a lot. also makes buying stamps that much more difficult. back in the day, the neighborhood drug dealers would have mad stamps at the first of the month. back in the day, it was a race to see who could get to so and so and get those stamps for 50 cents on the dollar. now with ebt you have to either be cool enough to be trusted with the card or take those jokers to the store with you. okay. sorry. guess I got carried away on food stamps. I’ll pull back now.

I didn’t sign up to attend the blog meet and greet/cruise/ski vacation but if I ever attend one I’ll bring security. lol.

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
11:59 am

All I can be sure of is Celisea. When I’m talking I can confirm that it’s me that’s talking…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 25th, 2012
12:00 pm

LOL…….@Light

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
12:01 pm

So our waiving across the waters from Bahama Island to Cocoa Beach is just ruined now. It feels tawdry

Single and Happy – If you want me to keep the souvenir I have for you, defend yourself..lol

Into the Light

July 25th, 2012
12:03 pm

Ugh. If I sign up for the blog ski trip/bungee jump/breakfast buffet, I’m bringing security and my invisibility cloak. And a robot that looks like me, in case someone gets pushed off the mountain/bridge/into the eggs. :(

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 25th, 2012
12:04 pm

Flo-Light you mean with the sharks. Hopefully it is something he can explain easily. disco with all the shams that go on down here traveling here with security wouldn’t be a bad idea.

Into the Light

July 25th, 2012
12:04 pm

And, C, baby Rella wants to know what Auntie Twink brought her…..

disco

July 25th, 2012
12:05 pm

BF – sure he can explain it easily. it wasn’t him. his moniker was hijacked. he wasn’t impersonating you. someone that was impersonating him was impersonating you.

Into the Light

July 25th, 2012
12:06 pm

@BF: I hope so. I went back to page one and noticed that he used “ex’s” instead of “exes” when referring to two exes. Again, not defending, just pointing out that it could be a common mistake.

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
12:09 pm

ITL – Your 12:03…lol

I have Baby Rella a cute onesie with Disney stuff on it :)

ITL – I went back too and same the same. All I can say is hmmmmmmmm

Leggs

July 25th, 2012
12:09 pm

ITL ~ she says “where they do dat at” :wink:

Celisea

July 25th, 2012
12:10 pm

Single and Happy – Come back…we’ll give you the benefit of the doubt :)