Men of valor
Like many of you, I have been extremely saddened to hear about the tragedy in Aurora, Colorado this weekend. It is heartbreaking to hear about the lives that were lost and the families that are left with the huge loss of loved ones. My thoughts and prayers go out to all those who were affected.
I read that there were three men who shielded their girlfriends and lost their lives protecting them. True men of valor. I am sure it was an instinctive move to do so because men innately want to protect. At least, that is what my Father always told me.
He said that any man that does not show you he wants to protect you is not the man for you. He would say, “Pay attention to that kind of thing because it is always about their character.”
A lot of women overlook the importance of a man’s character. It’s not until they are faced with a particular situation that shows them a man’s true character. I believe the same holds true for men. They think that looks are enough until they realize the severe lack of character.
How do you think people show their character in the early stages of dating? What do you pay attention to?
Have you ever dated someone and realized how great their character was? What were the circumstances?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Robert
July 23rd, 2012
1:25 pm
@HST – “It’s OK, I understand that this scares you, and you need to believe in something, but your thought and beliefs are that of a pacifist.”
I grew-up in a City where crime and violence occurred everyday and I never owned a gun in that environment. I am no pacifist. I am a realist. It appears people who live in the suburbs have more guns than everybody else because of “fear”. They “fear” someone will steal their property (car, tv, etc.). Based on your extreme comments you would kill someone trying to steal your car or tv. I hope and pray I am not in WalMart or Starbucks with people like you who think it is appropiate to brings guns into public places. You are no different than the guy who killed and wounded all those people in CO. I am sick and tired of all the hatred, fear and rage/mob mentality. Enough is Enough. Guns don’t kill people. People kill people.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
1:26 pm
Leggs – So true.
Willie Dynamite
July 23rd, 2012
1:31 pm
Afternoon All,
On Topic – I would do everything I possibly could to protect mines. I am no hero but I would probably help whomever needed helping. I have been told that I tend to step in and help on occasion. I also understand the dynamic of thinking before leaping. I will not get involved in family or domestic disputes. Just not gonna do it.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
1:31 pm
Since it’s grown cold and silent (okay that’s a bit exaggerated…lol), I’m heading down to grab a bit.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
1:32 pm
bite.
Leggs
July 23rd, 2012
1:34 pm
How does one even look at a family member with lust. GROSS!!!
I don’t like big crowds simply because of how easy one can be picked pocket. I found myself stranded on Times Square during the NYE countdown waiting on my sister. I will freely admit I was scared. Too many people crammed in together. I just wanted to find the nearest train station. Never met up with my sister because I became paranoid and had to get the heck out of dodge.
SlimUno
July 23rd, 2012
1:36 pm
It appears people who live in the suburbs have more guns than everybody else
I can’t say I agree with this statement…plenty of folks in rural/nonsuburban areas are heavy in weaponry
Willie Dynamite
July 23rd, 2012
1:49 pm
I think folks in the surburbs have a false sense of security, almost naive. I think they are genuinely surprised to find out when crime happens in their neighborhood.
Willie Dynamite
July 23rd, 2012
1:50 pm
Let me rephrase; instead of they it should read WE. Its not like I live in the hood.
Leggs
July 23rd, 2012
1:54 pm
I think those in rural areas have been accustomed to leaving their doors open, car keys on seat, windows open at night for so long that when some monster comes to their neck of the woods, they are truly taken aback. Sometimes, it takes one heinous crime to open up the eyes in the neighborhood for good.
SlimUno
July 23rd, 2012
1:55 pm
WD
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
1:56 pm
That’s what I said earlier. When folks are on the news saying, “this sort of thing NEVER happens here”….I’m wondering what planet they living on. “This sort of thing” is happening everywhere.
Willie Dynamite
July 23rd, 2012
1:56 pm
Slim – Conyers IS the hood. j/k j/k
SlimUno
July 23rd, 2012
1:57 pm
Surely this is not happening in my nicely manicured, clean, suburban, middle class neighborhood.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
1:58 pm
It shouldn’t be thought that if you aren’t in the suburbs, everything else defaults to “ghetto” or the hood.” There are swanky neighborhoods in the rural area.
SlimUno
July 23rd, 2012
1:59 pm
WD – As with every city, they all have their ‘areas’ of interest if you will. Back in the day, you’d harldy ever hear about too many things happening out there. Now you just never know. I recall not too long ago that a dude got stabbed and shot up at the Ingles parking lot, not too far from where i live. Then folks started breaking houses in the neighborhood…not to mention a chicks exboyfriend set her garage and house on fire after the break-up..So we have it all lol
Leggs
July 23rd, 2012
2:06 pm
No slight intended, but is Bankhead Highway still as rough as it was in the 80’s and 90’s? Not too rough for me not go get my fish sammich, but rough enuf for me to get it and scram….
SlimUno
July 23rd, 2012
2:08 pm
Exiled!
July 23rd, 2012
2:08 pm
speaking of domestic disputes, i was getting a birf for my son at the birf registry in Atlanta off bufford Hwy last week..and im there in line behind a middle aged couple..dude proly about my age..he is on the counter talking to the clerk about some and the wife is right behind…..
there was some sort of compliicationwith his records..dont know what but the wife gets all feisty in his face…yep yep yep….telling him,really..then she checks back to look at the folks sitting down and behind..as if to seek approval for what she is saying…..the lady sitting down kinda smiles….then she does it again..ripping itno dude……i couldnt really make out exaclty what the issue was but it was annoying me Big time when she looked back at my blacn face…..
Finally..Mmeeeelo wldnt tak it so i checked her and asked her:
Is that ur man? she says “yea!” so i say, why are u saying All that with ALL these folks looking at U? Why?
Dont do that to ur man…sort it out in pvt..DONT DO THAT…
Men, she zipped that Mouth real Quick!
Im sure the man thanked me pvtely!
Cant stand folks who want to sho Out!
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
July 23rd, 2012
2:09 pm
but is Bankhead Highway still as rough as it was in the 80’s and 90’s?
Yes…
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
2:11 pm
MMeello – That was ballsy. I don’t think I would have said anything. You know folks will turn on you for inviting yourself in. Maybe he was appreciative….lol Maybe he couldn’t check her.
I know it seems retarded to say this but:
I have a fiesty nature…not disagreeable though with a mate. I’m much easier with a mate. I cannot though, CANNOT be with a dude that can’t handle a woman. I cannot. I don’t mean beating up on her and yanking her by the leg. That dude was moist.
THE INFAMOUS DK
July 23rd, 2012
2:12 pm
Well well well.. Look who done kicked down the door.. Waving this thang around and hijacking the blog.. What the Feezy is gwoin on in this piece.
disco
July 23rd, 2012
2:13 pm
leggs – you funny. not that you’ll risk a minimal amount of danger to get a fish sandwich. guess it be like that sometimes.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
2:14 pm
What thang?
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
2:14 pm
Ohhhhh, a gun.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
2:15 pm
Hey, I didn’t know…honest
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
2:16 pm
Why am I irked that the dude downstairs act as though he’s scared to hand out a full order of fries???
disco
July 23rd, 2012
2:17 pm
and disco walked in, noticed the waving of the thang and immediately heel-toed and about faced up out of there leaving her fellow bloggers to fend for themselves. once I’m up the street and around the corner I’ll call for help. I’ll go home and put my head scarf on before conducting any tv interviews.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
2:18 pm
And shakes some back in (from the tongue) to make sure you’re not getting too many???
Mr. Unknown..
July 23rd, 2012
2:18 pm
Afternoon Ya’ll
On topic: Valor is something that is taught, its through life experiences and examples that hone a mans protective instincts.Afternoon Ya’ll
On topic: Valor is something that is taught, its through life experiences and examples that hone a mans protective instincts.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 23rd, 2012
2:19 pm
Bankhead always been a rough spot to go in, Decatur used to be considered the country in past years.
Leggs
July 23rd, 2012
2:21 pm
Celisea ~ I read it and didn’t think of gun either. I was salivating with the memories of those fish sandwiches.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 23rd, 2012
2:23 pm
Leggs get your fish sammiches, it’s not too bad around the area where the fish market is located. You never can tell what will pop off at any time.
SlimUno
July 23rd, 2012
2:25 pm
disco – You’ve got to take a few of your teeth out too before being interviewed.
Exiled!
July 23rd, 2012
2:25 pm
Bankhead?
security wldnt be the issue…the issue is,is the Fish clean?
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
2:26 pm
Decatur, East Point, Bankhead, East Lake Meadows (use to be)…
Much of these areas were considered hardcore ghetto. I know I was deathly afraid to go to East Lake Meadows. I’ve only gone out there since it’s been renovated and the golf course built. I use to hang out with a guy that played golf out there.
Leggs – I didn’t know if it was some sort of tricky thing going on…lol Then I remembered we were talking weapons and crimes…lol
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
2:27 pm
Mmeello – Sho nuff. I stopped getting fish there years ago because I heard rumors of it being an unclean place.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 23rd, 2012
2:27 pm
LOL………@Ex
Leggs
July 23rd, 2012
2:28 pm
Let’s not get it twisted, Decatur is still the country. Just getting all the highway as I20 and Candler yesterday, this dude walks past the car and all I could say was “I don’t get the fashion statements these bumpkins are trying to convey.” Sorry, but yeah I used the word “bumpkin.”
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
2:30 pm
I worked for AT&T waaaaaaay back when (before D&Bradstreet), back in the day and worked with a chick that declared the owner was her MIL. I think it was more so a case of a girlfriend wishing…lol Anyhoo, she would take orders on Fridays and come back with big boxes of fish plates because everybody and their baby sister wanted a dinner. She claimed she gave us the hookup but buying fish there on my own, it was never more than 3.00
disco
July 23rd, 2012
2:32 pm
slim – I can’t take my teeth out but I’m willing to do my interview in a robe, head scarf and slippers. I’ll even get a Newport as a prop.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 23rd, 2012
2:33 pm
Cely I know you felt, when I would drive through East Lake Meadows the people there seemed like they never seen anybody from outside the compound. They knew you didn’t belong and would stare you down all the way out the complex some of them would be bold to follow you out.
THE INFAMOUS DK
July 23rd, 2012
2:33 pm
Dont worry all these “Ghettos” will be a thing of the past as soon as they pass this referendum at the end of the month. People are gonna be flocking to move inside the perimeter. And yeah every Hood has its points.. Decatur has nice areas as well as Bankhead. With random outbreaks of foolishness here and there. But mark my work. ISP is going to be where everyone will be clamoring to be.. And if you cant pay the taxes.. You will have to move outside the perimeter..
Leggs
July 23rd, 2012
2:34 pm
BF ~ I know nothing about a fish market in Bankhead. We went to a mom and pop fish joint and stood in line with a bunch, I mean a bunch, of unsavory characters. Knew any minute a fight was going to break out or someone was going to get stabbed just for being cross-eyed.
THE INFAMOUS DK
July 23rd, 2012
2:36 pm
East Lake at night you prolly wasnt getting stared down you were checkin it in.. Bankhead too.. I remember those days.. Im from Atlanta so the crazy part I had family in all the “public housing” tenaments and I used that word lightly.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
2:36 pm
Blackfoote – I’m serious when I say I’d never gone out there…just heard rumors. I always thought it was the worst of all the hood spots. I could be wrong. It could have been me and the fact that I’m a chicken…lol
Herndon Homes was another. I remember being in what elementary (when it went to the 7th grade) with a cousin. Her mom dropped us off to a friend’s house. I was only about 12 but I was scared the entire time…lol I didn’t tell my mama for years. Her mom was trusting like that. When she got a bit older, her mom “turned her head”, on a bunch of stuff she was doing. Keep her daddy’s blood pressure spiked allll the time.
Willie Dynamite
July 23rd, 2012
2:37 pm
Cel – how was your vacay? glad to have you back.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
2:37 pm
IDK – Spot on with your 2:23.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 23rd, 2012
2:38 pm
Leggs you’re on Bankhead when you see that happening. Dudes want to fight instead of trying to make a bad situation good they’re angry at the world and people in general.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
2:39 pm
WillieD – Heeey there…it was well needed, well planned and well lived
Glad to be back…I think You didn’t see me this morning? I called your name. I did happy hour a couple of days 