Men of valor
Like many of you, I have been extremely saddened to hear about the tragedy in Aurora, Colorado this weekend. It is heartbreaking to hear about the lives that were lost and the families that are left with the huge loss of loved ones. My thoughts and prayers go out to all those who were affected.
I read that there were three men who shielded their girlfriends and lost their lives protecting them. True men of valor. I am sure it was an instinctive move to do so because men innately want to protect. At least, that is what my Father always told me.
He said that any man that does not show you he wants to protect you is not the man for you. He would say, “Pay attention to that kind of thing because it is always about their character.”
A lot of women overlook the importance of a man’s character. It’s not until they are faced with a particular situation that shows them a man’s true character. I believe the same holds true for men. They think that looks are enough until they realize the severe lack of character.
How do you think people show their character in the early stages of dating? What do you pay attention to?
Have you ever dated someone and realized how great their character was? What were the circumstances?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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HST
July 23rd, 2012
11:54 am
Do y’all realize that there was 500 years between the old and new testament? Surely, you have to question the validity of the stories in the Bible…it was written by man.
People in my ER always have some Jesus or God diatribe. Just so y’all know they had nothing to do with it – it was modern chemistry and science.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
July 23rd, 2012
11:57 am
I am a scientist (95% of scientists do not believe in God)
As am I…a microbiologist to be exact and I’m glad to be in the 5% minority that believe in GOD. However I’d like to know how you could possibly surmise that 95% of scientist don’t believe in God…you said that based on what knowledge/survey/report/article/journal….
Celisea....back at work and trying to be grateful I have a job rather than the dreaded feel I have for coming in today
July 23rd, 2012
11:58 am
MMeelloo – Anytime my man, anytime. You got other questions, you have my email addy
Robert –
Celisea....back at work and trying to be grateful I have a job rather than the dreaded feel I have for coming in today
July 23rd, 2012
11:59 am
sang
kimmie
July 23rd, 2012
12:06 pm
Morning All!!
Welcome back C!
I have told you all before about some years back when I got a call at work from one of my neighbors that my alarm had gone off and the police were at my house. My house was in College Park and I work in Alpharetta, so it was going to take some time for me to get home. I called the guy I was seeing at the time to meet me at the house. I had gotten assurance from the police & the alarm company that all seemed well. By the time I got home I knew it would be dark and I wanted boyfriend to walk around inside the house with me to be sure. He met me at the house and we went in. I proceeded to walk around the house, back to the bedrooms and kitchen. Where was he? Plopped on the couch in the greatroom watching tv. We had had problems, but that was the last straw. I realized then he really didn’t care about me or my well-being. I went off on him, then asked him to leave, never to return.
I agree, you really don’t know what you’ll do in an emergency. When you are given a chance to see a person’s true character, like I was given above, please take note. It will give you a clue of what’s to come in the future.
Exiled!
July 23rd, 2012
12:06 pm
Maybe Tazzee will walk in oday and give us a closing verse today..we need it in these trying times…
what do uall thing about gun control and the NRA…especially as it relates to the asault rifles….we have too many guns in the streets..
but then again,this dude was a model citizen, only one traffic ticket, i doubt if any law wld have prevented him from having a gun.
I just hate the fact that we walk around unprotected from folks who are hell bent on destroying the lives of innocent people….its a scary thought.
I can take an act of an accident,not some wanton,unprovoked and intentional killing of people.
HST
July 23rd, 2012
12:07 pm
‘However I’d like to know how you could possibly surmise that 95% of scientist don’t believe in God…” sorry it’s 91% and it was a study done my members of NAS.
Celisea....back at work and trying to be grateful I have a job rather than the dreaded feel I have for coming in today
July 23rd, 2012
12:09 pm
Kimmie – Thanks!!!
See dude sitting on the sofa….dern shame. I agree that we don’t know how anyone (even ourselves) will react, but you can best believe if he’s a buster in everyday life, non-emergencies, likely he’s be a buster under pressure…lol
disco
July 23rd, 2012
12:09 pm
Ex – security is an illusion. just try not to live in fear.
Celisea....back at work and trying to be grateful I have a job rather than the dreaded feel I have for coming in today
July 23rd, 2012
12:10 pm
he’ll be a buster
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
July 23rd, 2012
12:11 pm
I proceeded to walk around the house, back to the bedrooms and kitchen. Where was he? Plopped on the couch in the greatroom watching tv.
Good thing you gave him the boot Kimmie…
Celisea....back at work and trying to be grateful I have a job rather than the dreaded feel I have for coming in today
July 23rd, 2012
12:12 pm
If you’re not a protector and provider what else are you good for?
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
July 23rd, 2012
12:12 pm
Just like I thought…another broad,baseless generalization. Next…
disco
July 23rd, 2012
12:13 pm
C – or that might be when he shines. he’ll be like some kind of superhero. all run of the mill and work a day boring until disaster strikes and his super butt kicking alterego kicks in. alright. I know. I’m being silly. might be because I’m about ready to OD on altoids.
Celisea....back at work and trying to be grateful I have a job rather than the dreaded feel I have for coming in today
July 23rd, 2012
12:13 pm
Down to 22 emails
Celisea....back at work and trying to be grateful I have a job rather than the dreaded feel I have for coming in today
July 23rd, 2012
12:14 pm
disco – While I typed that I almost referenced. Eeeeeevery now and again, we get a surprise super hero. He’s been a bum and buster but danggit if he didn’t come through at the right time. I almost put it out there…lol Since you said it, I agree.
Celisea....back at work and trying to be grateful I have a job rather than the dreaded feel I have for coming in today
July 23rd, 2012
12:15 pm
While I typed my 12:09. It’s rare, but strange things do happen.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 23rd, 2012
12:17 pm
A man of valor is not out in the world looking for Titans to clash with. Sure no one knows what they will do in times of peril, a man of valor doesn’t know either what he does know is to react to a threat to him or people he care about. Any man that make claims he will do this and he’s capable of that is nothing more than a carpet bagger. I know guys that was suppose to be tough cower when it time came for action instead of words. The meek at times can be our best savior.
Exiled!
July 23rd, 2012
12:20 pm
U right Disco, when its time to go, its time to go..God will call U..
I need to read the bible more…understand it more..i been saying that for ages tho…need to make a commitment bout that….
Celisea....back at work and trying to be grateful I have a job rather than the dreaded feel I have for coming in today
July 23rd, 2012
12:23 pm
Mmeello – Me too. I use to be an avid reader. I’ve dropped off some. God talks and reveals to you when you read.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
12:24 pm
Cleaning my moniker
SlimUno
July 23rd, 2012
12:25 pm
Goes to show that ‘normal’ cannot be calculated by good grades, well-mannered behavior or accomplishments. Crazy comes in all uniforms…
disco
July 23rd, 2012
12:26 pm
ex – you can get one of those one year bibles. it breaks it up for you and makes it easier to commit to your daily reading.
re security – anyone else ever notice almost all of the home security commercials are marketed towards women? I think I saw one with a guy on there. those folks are really trying to play into folks’ fears. I’ve joked that for the monitoring fees they ought to send someone to break in every now and again.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
12:27 pm
I do agree, you cannot live your life in fear.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
12:27 pm
Slim – I agree there as well.
disco
July 23rd, 2012
12:30 pm
slim – you made me think of chris rock’s joke re all the security spent on inner city schools and most of the shootings taking place in suburban schools.
SlimUno
July 23rd, 2012
12:33 pm
disco – Yeah, I think the ‘inner city’ is as a result of some interaction gone wrong. When it comes to suburban, it could be for any reason and the result being many injured that had nothing to do with the act. Is Chris Rock the one that also said, AA’s commit homicides and WA commit suicides?
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 23rd, 2012
12:34 pm
I said earlier I’m not afraid to go in any section of town, go to a movie, or a stroll down the street. I could be in danger any turn I make but life isn’t meant to live that way in fear and fear of dying.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
12:38 pm
Blackfoote – You’re right. It just kills me when folks say on the news “this sort of thing never happens here.” I think in the times we’re living in, you’re ignorant if you think crime is limited to certain areas. I think you’re silly if you think you can altogether avoid. You can walk into a bank or store and there’s a robbery. You can go into a mall and someone there is shooting up the place. You can step on the sidewalk and get caught in the crossfire. It’s everywhere.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
12:39 pm
Years ago my (deceased) sister and my oldest sister rented a fairly new house together. Well, they stopped one night on the way home and walked in on a robbery. She said upon entering the store they realized and both turned and ran.
SlimUno
July 23rd, 2012
12:40 pm
BF – I have a family member that is always on edge and scary. If she’s in a place with too many ‘rough’ looking individuals, she’s locking her car doors. She’s scared to be home by herself and usually barricades her bedroom door with stuff at night.
HST
July 23rd, 2012
12:40 pm
Everyone have a great day, I’m off to the lake, I rotated all weekend long, and my dogs need an activity.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
12:42 pm
I will say though, I’m not frequenting places often, where there are people in groves. If it’s an event or venue and cannot be avoided, sure. But making a habit, not so much. I remember being downtown with a friend to watch the peach drop, some years ago and he almost got into it with someone because of the shoving and pushing. I told him it’s time to go. I mean folks getting offended because there’s a crowd and you’re getting touched?? Nope, I’m done with big crowds. I’m not being contradictory because again, you cannot live your life running scared. You can though limit being in those type places. Even so, that won’t guarantee a thing.
Leggs
July 23rd, 2012
12:43 pm
Ex ~ what made him a “model” citizen? No run ins with the law? Legitimate purchase of guns? Working on his Ph.D? Seemed to have a nice upbringing? What? Does model citizen also equate to a “well rounded” person?
No social life, no gf, probably a virgin. Ingredients for a mental breakdown somewhere along the way.
disco
July 23rd, 2012
12:44 pm
slim – I don’t know. if so, I missed that joke.
i’m not generally scary but I have been in some neighborhoods where I completely ignored traffic signals and stop signs. I figured if I ever got pulled over the cop would likely understand. if not, that’s a ticket I’d pay. I know for a fact that “predators” waited on folks to stop to run up and try to smash their windows.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
12:44 pm
HST – Bye. I did want to say earlier but changed my mind, that I never got my purse and neither did ITL…lol I went ahead and picked up a Coach bag for the low low. If you want to reimburse me, I’ll accept that in the place of you sending the bag to my POBox. Remember that? You told me to get a POBox for receiving? lolol I’m kidding.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 23rd, 2012
12:47 pm
Cely I went to see The Dark Knight to spite all people I heard were afraid to leave their front yard. The theater was over crowded with kids, adults, and everybody was being normal. It’ll blow over like the rest of the terrible things that happen in our society.
SlimUno
July 23rd, 2012
12:47 pm
OMG! I just heard on the radio that a 19 year old dude was arrested for raping his grandmother. ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME?!!
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
12:48 pm
Blackfoote – I think that’s what some of these crackheads want…. Folks to shut down and live in fear. Scared to come out, scared to live, scared to work. It’s crippling. We cannot give in to that kind of fear.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
July 23rd, 2012
12:48 pm
Damn Slim…
Exiled!
July 23rd, 2012
12:51 pm
@Leggs..”model citizen”?….dont know..just plucked that from the recycled cable news…
@Celesea….true,crime comes from any place at any time..i went to fill up gas at my local QT up the street some couple months back and there..in the parking lot of the QT,facing the store, some guy had come from behind and shot thru the back window of the Range Rover at the dude that was in the Range and he sped off…i got there just after it had happened and cops were on site..
and we never have shootings in these parts but BAM…there it is!
SlimUno
July 23rd, 2012
12:53 pm
Sassy – Apparently, she takes medicine that makes her sleepy/groggy so he took advantage of her while she was out.
Exiled!
July 23rd, 2012
12:54 pm
I dont do peach drop either or big crowds often outa security concerns but i guess its a mind thing coz i went to stone mtn on July 4..Huge crowds and had a ball!
Contradictory like Cel!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 23rd, 2012
12:56 pm
Slim1 help that family member barricading the door, I don’t know how her house is configured but she might block herself in the house during a real emergency like a fire.
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
12:56 pm
Mmello – Exactly. It’s getting so now, that we need to be on guard and watchful of our surroundings wherever we go. No place where we can be more lack and relaxed. I’m always looking around especially if I’m out and about alone. Most times, folks are watching you when you aren’t watching them. Too, I don’t let folks walk up on me. I’ve had several occasions where someone wants to walk up and “splain” something. Naw buddy, I can’t do it, I don’t have it, I ain’t got it.
I stopped at the gas station one morning a block from my job and I’m watching this dude get out of a plucker…can you say raggedy (not the point but I was watching), put on a jacket and bent over to get a book or something out of his car. Now I’m watching him. I turn to look at the pump for a sec and turn back, he’s heading towards me. I cut him off when he was within ear shot but nooooo, he keeps coming closer and selling whatever lie/line. I was busy saying no, no, no, nope, nuh uh. He started getting a bit heated because I wouldn’t listen to his scam. I said “dude, you see that cop right that? You need to move away from me or I’m gonna signal him.” He walked away but was heated I should say. It’s okay. I just needed to get the heck on.
Into the Light
July 23rd, 2012
12:58 pm
Afternoon, all!
Just got out of meetings and popping in for a quick “hey” and “WELCOME BACK, C!” before I dash out for lunch.
HST, I thought you were retired?!?!!?
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
1:00 pm
ITL – Heeeey there and thanks! See where I spoke up for your Birkin? I went ahead and bought my Coach bag to save HST the trouble of packing and shave off a few dollars. Got it from the Outlet
I was asking if he wanted to just reimburse. He can drop the Birkin in there too with my reimbursement…lol
No you didn’t drop the retirement line…lololol
Celisea
July 23rd, 2012
1:01 pm
Yeah, he did say he retired at 31.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
July 23rd, 2012
1:10 pm
she takes medicine that makes her sleepy/groggy so he took advantage of her while she was out.
Even still Slim that whole story is just appalling on so many levels…how do you apoligize to your family especially your mom or dad depending on whose mother it was…regardless of that how can he look anyone in the face after such an egregious act?
Leggs
July 23rd, 2012
1:23 pm
Ok, Ex. You’re off the hook.
That is a damn shame, SlimUno re: 19 year old.
Celisea ~ I think we are more closer to the phrase “this never happens in this neighborhood” being buried with other words like “dig it” and “right on!”