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Dating: How do you know when it’s over?

When the novelty of a new relationship wears off, a lot of people start to realize the thrill is gone. Maybe the the weight of a real relationship gets too heavy. Or things go sour and it the fights become more frequent.

I think a lot of couples stay in relationships far longer than they should. How do you know when it’s over, though? How can you be sure it isn’t just a rough patch, or a typical growing pain that relationships go through.

Have you ever been surprised by a break up? Is there a way to notice they signs that things are headed to splitsville?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

218 comments Add your comment

Into the Light

July 19th, 2012
2:16 pm

@disco – That’s what we should do for our next directorial venture. Recast old television shows with current actors.

Ving = James Evans

SlimUno :-(

July 19th, 2012
2:17 pm

Dynamic – Totally understand the part about job write ups and faking going to work…

disco

July 19th, 2012
2:17 pm

well – we talked about the other side. I’ll try to think of when some fellas should have known it was over with me.

1. when I set money on fire in the street and told him I didn’t want it but no other chick would spend it

2. when I stood outside his momma’s house banging on the door, calling her names and daring her to come outside

3. when I stood outside his sister’s house banging on the door, calling her names and daring her to come outside.

4. when me and the other chick came to blows

5. when he showed up at my house and I had every thing he had ever bought stacked up neatly on the dining room table

SlimUno :-(

July 19th, 2012
2:23 pm

dayum disco, you gansta I see…

Leggs

July 19th, 2012
2:23 pm

No doubt it’s scary, Bluz. The alternative is less flattering.

Into the Light

July 19th, 2012
2:25 pm

Note to self: NEVER pi$$ off disco. :lol:

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

July 19th, 2012
2:25 pm

and scrappy called him “mr. man”.

And I don’t blame her either…remember the scene where she took him a cup of coffee and left him in the barn just a skip..skip..skippin along her merry way…too funny but truth be told I probably would’ve,too :oops: SassaFrass luvs a big strapping guy like that..

I’d call him Rumpelstilskin if he wanted me to.

:lol: :mrgreen: :lol:

a Good Times flashback and Ving was wearing James’ corduroys?

:shock:

!!!!!!!!!(@ the visual I just got)…damn…damn…DAAAAMN!!!!

disco

July 19th, 2012
2:27 pm

slim / ITL – that was the “young” me. well, the items on the dining room table was relatively recent but all that other mess was way back when.

sassy – she was skipping wasn’t she. and how about at the dance. what did they say “twirl that man scrappy” (twirl him, spin him or something).

Leggs

July 19th, 2012
2:28 pm

SlimUno ~ I know you ain’t surprised disco has gangsta qualities…that’s why she’s so charming on this blog (lol).

How much money did you burn?

Bluzgirl

July 19th, 2012
2:28 pm

disco…I love how hardcore you are! I feel like you could teach me some things!

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

July 19th, 2012
2:30 pm

when he showed up at my house and I had every thing he had ever bought stacked up neatly on the dining room table

Well I had a similar “you know it’s over with me” situation similar to that…

You know it’s over with me when I show up to your house(cause he ain’t ever crossing the threshold to my domicile ever again) with all of your isht in a black trash bag and proceed to decorate the lawn with it…and leave.

Into the Light

July 19th, 2012
2:33 pm

LOL@Sassy. Yeah, I don’t even care who else we cast in the show, so long as Ving is in those cords. (ITL now furiously fanning herself)…..mercy!

disco

July 19th, 2012
2:35 pm

leggs – I honestly don’t remember but dude was hustling and I’m sure it was plenty. he thought it was “hush money” but he learned you can’t hush me.

bluz – this is why my “handle business” personality and your “take all kinds of crap” personality would clash. you’d drive me crazy.

disco

July 19th, 2012
2:35 pm

here’s another flashback to the old old old days. you know it’s over when I come to visit you at county jail and your other chick is either still in her visit or the guard let me see the names on the visitor’s list. no more collect calls / letters / visits for you. (and it’s never happened to me but I’ve heard tales of chicks bumping into each other in the waiting room and nearly coming to blows).

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

July 19th, 2012
2:38 pm

Shyyd ITL I’ve been fanning…stopped and started again at the thought of Ving in those tight a$$ beige/brownish corduroys…ever noticed how they “hugged” James’ a$$ and…well you know ITL. Okay let me stop before I make a phone call :oops:

SlimUno :-(

July 19th, 2012
2:40 pm

Leggs – No, I’m not surprised at her ganstaness, but I was like whoa…she not just a lil baby gansta…she’s like gansta grillz gansta :lol: She’s the Shug Knight of blogsville..lol

Bluzgirl

July 19th, 2012
2:43 pm

disco…but, you could help me to get over the “take all kinds of crap” part of myself! I am working hard on it. I swear with the next man, I will NOT take crap anymore. Over all that! :-)

disco

July 19th, 2012
2:46 pm

sassy – who you gone call?

slim – no you didn’t say shug night. y’all funny.

Into the Light

July 19th, 2012
2:47 pm

LMAO@Sassy. Guuurrrrllll, either somebody turned up the heat in here, or my inner child is playing with matches. Ving+Corduroys= Clean-up, aisle nine. Better bring a mop. :oops:

disco coaching Bluz…..I’d pay to see that.

disco

July 19th, 2012
2:48 pm

bluz – you did mention one fight. tell us about that.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

July 19th, 2012
2:49 pm

Bluz…baby gurl…if you have to use disco’s kickassedness to help you then by all means do so but like the old folks say, “Baby, you’ll know when you’ve had your fill…only you’ll know”…

Ultimately it’s all up to yoU.

Leggs

July 19th, 2012
2:49 pm

disco ~ you said it.

SlimUno ~ I know you weren’t really “surprised.” I took it that you were talking about the rawness she exhibits (lol)…that’s why I like her. She as smooth as an emery board.

Leggs

July 19th, 2012
2:51 pm

disco…but, you could help me to get over the “take all kinds of crap” part of myself!

Just reading this line I immediately thought of the teacher choking the isht out of the student for their lack of understanding and execution.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

July 19th, 2012
2:51 pm

Ving+Corduroys= Clean-up, aisle nine. Better bring a mop.

:shock:

:lol: okay?!?

who you gone call?

My man…Mr. Bermuda ;-)

Into the Light

July 19th, 2012
2:53 pm

LOL@Leggs’ 2:51. I was thinking the same thing. On the top of the school supply list will be Kleenex and bandaids. :lol:

Into the Light

July 19th, 2012
2:54 pm

You know, though, i’m having a tough time with the rest of the cast. Florida, especially.

Leggs

July 19th, 2012
2:55 pm

Kleenix and bandaids. Guuurrrll, you better put a few ace bandages in that cart.

disco

July 19th, 2012
2:56 pm

leggs/ITL – again I say y’all crazy but y’all are about right. lol.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

July 19th, 2012
2:58 pm

On the top of the school supply list will be Kleenex and bandaids.

And on the bottom of the list in italic writing next to an asterisk will be the special supplies for the advanced level students…like a box cutter, pepper spray,running shoes with black laces..etc…

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

July 19th, 2012
3:00 pm

i’m having a tough time with the rest of the cast. Florida, especially.

Me,too…

Into the Light

July 19th, 2012
3:02 pm

like a box cutter, pepper spray,running shoes with black laces..etc……

black hoodie, night vision goggles, and a blowtorch. :lol: :lol:

Into the Light

July 19th, 2012
3:03 pm

How about Mo’Nique for Willona?

disco

July 19th, 2012
3:06 pm

wait a minute? are y’all having fun at my expense? should I be offended? lol.

sassy – my mom gave me my first box cutter when I started 6th grade. it was just one of those little yellow plastic ones with the slide. my mother had a metal one so I remember thinking mine was cheap at the time. lol.

Leggs

July 19th, 2012
3:14 pm

No, we’re not having fun at your expense. Those are tools for bluz.

Now, why the heck would your mother give you a plastic toy box cutter. Preparatation in practicing the slide??

Leggs

July 19th, 2012
3:15 pm

Mo’Nique for Wiona is perfect casting.

Bluzgirl

July 19th, 2012
3:18 pm

Here’s the details about the fight. I’ll try to make a long story short. The girl and I were friends years ago. My recent SO was in a relationship with her at the time. She started showing me a lot of craziness and I pulled back from her as a friend. In the meantime, she and loser had broken up (or so I thought) and he and I had relations. I fell for him back then (this was about 10-12 years ago). Once I found out they were still together, I felt horrible. He broke my heart back then. She and I had words and I just hated that I fell for his lies. Fast forward a few years…she and I rekindled our friendship and past mistakes were forgiven (or so I thought). I was going to sublet her apartment, but things were crazy at the time and she pulled it out from under me twice. After the second time, I stopped talking to her.

One night, I’m at Northside Tavern, just hanging out enjoying some great music. I was on the phone with my friend while my boyfriend at the time was in the bathroom. She came up to me fuming about something. I ignored her since I was on the phone and she grabbed my drink and threw it out. I hung up the phone right then. We exchanged a lot of words. She accused me of talking isht about her, which I honestly had not been doing. She said she wanted to hit me in my face and I told her to do it. She barely hit me and jumped up from my stool, grabbed her, and got at least 3 good licks in on her before someone pulled me off. My boyfriend had missed the whole thing. So many people hated her and I got a lot of congrats afterwards. Even the cop who worked there came up to get my statement and said he heard I had a mean right hook. I was known as Rocky for a long time there! She moved to FL the next day, so I have no idea if bruises were left!

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

July 19th, 2012
3:19 pm

my mom gave me my first box cutter when I started 6th grade.

Ahh a woman after my own heart :lol:

My mom told me I needed an equalizer(no lie that’s what she called it)…and gave me one,too but when I was in the ninth grade and entering high school. Before then I went to karate school and was one degree away from a black belt before the school closed.

I remember thinking mine was cheap at the time

No it wasn’t that…a plastic slider is just enough to get a mofo off of you but not too much for a then 6th grader to handle…

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

July 19th, 2012
3:21 pm

Mo’Nique for Wiona is perfect casting

Speaking of “Wiona”..Fred C. Davis could never get her name right..who’d play him?

Into the Light

July 19th, 2012
3:24 pm

@disco: Of course we’re not. But I am imagining your stocking at Christmas. I bet you were the only kid that got refills for your boxcutter and brass knuckles. Am I right?!?!? lol

disco

July 19th, 2012
3:24 pm

I can’t stand Monique. (not that anyone cares but she just annoys me).

sassy – “we here”, “we tracking” lol

bluz – YOU GO GIRL!!! in a full fledged bar fight.

Into the Light

July 19th, 2012
3:26 pm

So funny you said that, Sassy. I was thinking about Alderman Davis….it would have to be somebody that does “stuffy” really well. No one comes to mind so far.

But how about Terrence Howard for Sweet Daddy? Or Flava Flav. :lol:

Leggs

July 19th, 2012
3:32 pm

I’ll take Mo-Nique over that other loud mouth woman that plays in a lot of TPerry’s movies. The woman with the raspy voice who sometimes spit venom.

Bluzgirl

July 19th, 2012
3:34 pm

And…just so ya’ll know…I didn’t just sit back and take everything he did to me. Trust me that I did react…sometimes pretty harshly! I just stayed too long!!!

Bluzgirl

July 19th, 2012
3:36 pm

disco…see…I have some scrap in me! LOL

Into the Light

July 19th, 2012
3:37 pm

Anthony Anderson as Bookman?

i'm swiss

July 19th, 2012
3:43 pm

Afternoon, folks. Looks like I’m surrounded by women. Just the way I likes it. Good thing, thing I suppose, since it looks like I’m going to be surrounded by women for a while — little SwissMocha is a girl. :)

(I’m in trouble)

disco

July 19th, 2012
3:44 pm

Anthony Anderson is good. okay. I’ll play.

how about luenell as florida? Jennifer lewis as willona? katt Williams as sweet daddy? phil morris as the alderman? Orlando jones as JJ? who else do we need? Thelma, Michael, penny…

Swiss – pink bubble gum cigars for everyone!!!

Leggs

July 19th, 2012
3:45 pm

swiss ~ please listen. I know what ‘m talking about….CONGRATULATIONS! I’m ready to babysit when you need one.

Bluzgirl

July 19th, 2012
3:46 pm

Congrats Swiss!!!!

SlimUno :-(

July 19th, 2012
3:50 pm

swiss – Hate to say I told ya so….but….I told ya so. Let me know if you need help assembling the barbie doll house or the tea party table set. Oh and ya might wanna start wearing pink more often now, so by the time she gets here, you’ll be really comfy in it lol