Best way to approach men
I get emails all the time from single women who are tired of sitting by waiting to get approached. It seems that more single women are becoming comfortable with making that first move.
There can be an art form to the cold approach …for men. Ladies may need a little help in this department, though. We aren’t built for rejection. Our egos don’t like it..at ALL. So what is the best way to approach men? A lot of guys I’ve talked to said they like the subtle, confident approach. For instance, have a legitimate question for them or asking their opinion on something.
I always wonder if the guy can tell when a woman approaches him to flirt with him, though. Do most men know when a woman is giving him signs of interest?
Ladies, what is your best approach tactic for men you find too good to bypass?
I would love to know the most creative way a woman has approached a man – what did she do? What did she say? What did you think when she first spoke to you?
If a woman approaches a man first, is she at risk for appearing to overbearing?
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134 comments Add your comment
Lily
July 18th, 2012
6:53 am
If approaching men is something you’re comfortable doing, I would suggest doing so with class and tack. Be subtle but clear. Whatever the perception, as a result of your direct approach could determine if it’s a bust or not. Some men may receive it well while others may not.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
7:01 am
“If a woman approaches a man first, is she at risk for appearing to overbearing?”
Hell No! That doesn’t mean I’m lazy, I appreciate the effort and it’s flattering to be noticed and that’s all.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
7:03 am
Lily I thought I had this one in the bag, I put up the surrender flag.
Lily
July 18th, 2012
7:36 am
LeeH1
July 18th, 2012
8:35 am
Best pick-up line for women to use on men- “Hey, guy, I’m rich.”
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
July 18th, 2012
8:36 am
Personally, I love(d) it when a woman approaches…
There’s the subtle [direct stare into the eyes and]‘hey’;
The even more subtle ‘touching game’;
But the direct approach “hi, my name is…” works best IMO
Celisea
July 18th, 2012
9:03 am
Morning!!! I’m headed to Sea World but wanted to comment on For Real’s statement yesterday regarding women 40 doing what feels good and blah to what folks think. Soo true and spot on…lol Of course, you don’t have to wait that long…lol Whatevs to folks that judge
Now, tie this into the topic. Do what works for you. If that’s the skin you’re in, rock it! By no means now am I suggesting reckless behavior.
Roberta
July 18th, 2012
9:15 am
I’ve put a lot of thought into this, and believe I just may have come up with the best approach tactic for a woman who wants to meet a man.
Now follow me here – it may be complicated to some:
1. Walk up to the man.
2. Say “Hi, my name is ……..”
Why do some people insist on making things so complicated? “We aren’t built for rejection.” Oh really? Maybe you’re not. Rejection is a part of life. A healthy dose of self-confidence and self-esteem will take the sting out of rejection.
disco
July 18th, 2012
9:27 am
dan/Roberta – LOL. on one hand, sure “hi my name is” is as basic, simple, no pressure as it gets. on the other hand, “hi my name is” is very grade schoolish. you are trying to make a connection not find someone to play with at recess. personally, unless I was already eyeballing you or you happen to look presentable/acceptable enough (to me) I probably don’t care what your name is. I might just look at you like “and??? you’re telling me this because why?”. I guess the point is beyond introducing yourself, what else you got? after I say “hi whatever your name is” (and note, I may or may not share my own name), what’s next?
by the way, good morning all.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
July 18th, 2012
9:57 am
@disco
The HMIS technique is employed when you’re interested. Coming from a woman to a man, it would come off…differently.
From the man to a woman, though. it’s just an opening line; not cheesy, or sleazy, or off putting
disco
July 18th, 2012
10:14 am
well… right about now I wish a brother would waltz in here, say hi, tell me his name, and escort me right on up out of here. okay. I should probably be more specific. with my luck the sheriff would come and take me away.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
10:14 am
Good morning, all.
dang, disco. Meanie.
Natasha
July 18th, 2012
10:21 am
I don’t approach men. The end. If I smile at you to show interest and he does not approach then he is either not interested or shy. And I don’t want either.
My theory is: Be a man! And man up. Go after what you want! What happened to the thrill of the chase for God sake?
disco
July 18th, 2012
10:21 am
ITL – like I’m the only one.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
10:35 am
@disco: Well, compared to sweet, angelic, never raise my voice, never lose my cool me….. LOL
Dang! I couldn’t even type that with a straight face.
DJ Sniper
July 18th, 2012
10:47 am
Maybe I’m in the minority, but the “thrill of the chase” has never been a big deal for me. I’ve always been dumbfounded as to why some women can be such go-getters when it comes to education, career, travel, etc, yet revert back to passive wallflowers when it comes to dating and making the first move. Being turned down by a man is not the end of the world.
I actually have heard a few women say “if he didn’t notice me, then he wasn’t interested.” Um, that statement has no logic at all. If a man isn’t even aware of your prescence, then how can you say he wasn’t interested.
disco
July 18th, 2012
10:50 am
I just walked down (and back up) 3 flights of stairs to get to a vending machine that had nothing in it. I swear I could just stomp my foot.
DJ Sniper – personally I don’t have a problem making the first move. I’m just not going to make all of the subsequent moves.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
11:07 am
I see we’ve got another slow day on the blog…..
Somebody do a little song and dance – I need to be entertained.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
11:09 am
“Ladies, what is your best approach tactic for men you find too good to bypass?” – Ummm, in that case, I would take offer up some type of sincere compliment to break the ice. Pretty sure it wouldn’t be difficult to find something I could compliment him on.
I remember being at a bar way back in the day and this handsome, I mean handsome man was sitting at the end by himself. I walked up to him, introduced myself and offered to buy him a drink. He was smiling from ear to ear saying how refreshing it was for a woman to walk up to him. He said that he doesn’t get that often. This man was gorgeous and we became good friends.
“If a woman approaches a man first, is she at risk for appearing to overbearing?” – One is overbearing when forceful/demanding with their approach. No one wants that. If a woman is doing that, she needs to date herself. Or get a blowup doll.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
11:12 am
Did anyone hear The Bert Show this morning? Yesterday, they were talking about if people truly want to know the reason for a breakup. So, this girl calls in and says she wants to know. They call the guy and he says she dropped the “boyfriend” tag too early. But this morning? She’s making excuses, “I think he just got scared because things were going so well, blah blah blah.”
I was thinking that I wish the WLB and MLB would call in and ’splain it to her.
DJ Sniper
July 18th, 2012
11:14 am
Disco, I can totally get with that. If a guy is feeling you after you approach, he will definitely grab the ball and run with.
DreamsMaterialize
July 18th, 2012
11:16 am
Morning
I love to see a woman show initiative and go after what she wants. I’ve always been flattered when a woman has approached me. If you’re sitting around waiting for someone to approach you, then you can’t be upset with what you get.
I guess the point is beyond introducing yourself, what else you got?
disco Dang dude gotta swing in on a chandalier with his Iron Man suit on, do a break dance move, transition into a Dave Chappelle worthy standup, and end with jazz hands? lol
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
11:18 am
I heard that ITL! I laughed when Bert said women want closure but it’s not true because women don’t really hear what the guy is saying. He told the woman where she went wrong, and she countered his claim with him being all into her with all his sweet words. Saying something while nekkid is not same as saying the same thing fully clothed. That was comical.
DreamsMaterialize
July 18th, 2012
11:19 am
Did anyone hear The Bert Show this morning?
ITL I heard that this morning. It turned out EXACTLY the way Bert and Jeff said it would. The guy said what his reasons were, and she refused to accept that. I knew that was going to happen though. How are you this morning?
Dynamic
July 18th, 2012
11:20 am
Did anyone hear the reason why the 50 shades books have become so popular? On the Bert show he was talking about how his neighbor theorizes that on a instinctual level that all women want to be dominated. Since the book is about bondage and the man being the DOM, it reinforces this biological need, thus it’s success. I would be interested how many women would agree or disagree with his thoughts?
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
11:23 am
It was frustrating and sad to hear her go on and on with excuses.
Are we (people in general) so egocentric that we cannot take someone’s words at face value and move on? Do we always have to search for the “subtext”??
Welcome, Leggs! Glad you finally popped in.
Good morning, Dreams. I’m well. And you?
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
11:24 am
Dynamic ~ I think Bert used the term “Bottom on top?” Something like that. He’s dominate in the bedroom and she’s all submissive to him and his demands, but outside the bedroom, she’s the dominate one because he’s soft. Something like that.
disco
July 18th, 2012
11:24 am
dreams – well, I must say all of that would get my attention. still, I have to ask what else is there after “hi my name is”. it’s no secret some folks have no talk game or conversation skills. some folks can take a simple introduction to mean we go together. okay, that might be extreme but you know what I mean. they take up space but ain’t talking bout nothing.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
11:27 am
A bunch of boneheads. And, the people at the front desk need to get a damn personality! I can’t stand people in jobs where they truly need to be people friendly frowning all the time. Ok, I’m done venting…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
11:29 am
disco re:(subsequent moves)I should add after she moves on me, I let her know I’m impressed by her confidence and make the next moves from that instant on.
Women that like the thrill of the chase wants to be cuddled and comforted. Understand for some women the chase is annoying, intrusive, and could be mistaken for a creepy dude.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
11:32 am
wants to be cuddled and comforted
I wouldn’t mind a little cuddling and comforting today.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
11:35 am
I’m giving a big blog hug to my sis Flo-Light.
disco
July 18th, 2012
11:35 am
ITL – my first thought was to say I second that but on second thought I’m thinking that ain’t it. I need the bottom knocked out. (I know I put that out there but it’s okay if the gutter-minded blog gents stay in the shadows and keep their comments to themselves). lol.
BF – I met a guy recently. I initiated contact and carried the conversation. he didn’t understand the premise of “tag, you’re it”.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
11:37 am
Leggs do they have a will call window at the venue where you can pick up the tickets.
GracieL
July 18th, 2012
11:40 am
Dynamic @ 11:20,
I’ll answer this one! Traditionally and historically, women WERE dominated, so I’m guessing it wasn’t that big of a thrill. The biological attraction to a strong man is an early evolutionary thing. The stronger and more assertive/dominating the man, the better her chances of survival for her and their offspring. The hard-coding still exists deep in the brain.
Fast forward to modern generations of “liberated” women: women not only have the opportunity to do it all, we’re often expected to do it all. Bring home the bacon, fry it up in the pan, yadda yadda… and in many cases (i.e., 9 out of 10 divorces I’ve had the misfortune of listening to in great detail) the woman is forced to assume a more assertive role (Mommy!) in the relationship and handle/delegate the day to day management of the family, or it simply does not get done (while Brutus is attached to his joy stick for or mouse for nine hours straight).
These are the women who find “Fifty Shades” to be delightful fantasy reading. They long to let go of the reins. They fantasize about a strong man who not only makes decisions, but makes decisions that focus on her and her pleasure. The pain? Oh, they have pain now; it’s just a different kind of pain in the fantasy.
Hope that helps!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
11:45 am
LOL……..@disco
The bottom needing knocking out, music to a man’s ears.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
11:45 am
@BF: Awww, thanks Big Bro.
@disco: If they do, that’s on them.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
11:47 am
I misread your comment, disco. I thought you said if the MLB have their minds in the gutter and comment.
Maybe I need more cuddles than I thought. Or more caffeine.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
11:49 am
@BF ~ I would prefer not to wait until the last min. to pick up tix. I will go back downtown and get them. She said if there’s a line when I return, I can come right up to the desk. I’ve been to that station many, many times and there has never been a line…who she kidding. Guess she wanted to appease me somehow, even with a lie.
DreamsMaterialize
July 18th, 2012
11:54 am
Good morning, Dreams. I’m well. And you?
ITL Everything is great. Life is good, and I’m thankful for that. I’ll be thankful when Friday gets here too. lol
they take up space but ain’t talking bout nothing.
disco Nah I get it, I do. Had to mess with you a little bit though. Seems like a slow blog day. lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
11:55 am
Shoot Leggs you ought to take all that good luck you have and go to the Price Is Right show at the Fox in October. I’m thinking about going, you never know you might step out of there with the grand prize.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
11:57 am
Coming to the Fox theater in October.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
11:57 am
Didn’t know anything about it. Let me go check that out!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
11:58 am
go to foxatltix.com
disco
July 18th, 2012
12:01 pm
dreams – I’m sure you get it. heck, I think I was having a mental flashback of all the busters over all the years and all the tired A lines I heard attached to the back of “hi my name is”. the “do I know you”, “have I seen you before”, “do you come here often” for laughs I’ll throw in “you remind me of my jeep”. I had a party once and one of my raggedy A cousins tried to holler at a friend of mine. she’s Hispanic. she told me after the fact that my cousin introduced himself to her and then asked her if she wanted a black baby. I couldn’t believe it. I know he’s rude/crude/ignorant and all but who does that??? “hey girl. what’s up? I’m so and so. you wanna have my baby?”. I swear it takes all kinds.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
12:03 pm
These are more affordable tickets than The Immortal World Tour were. They’re about the same as a concert ticket around 57.00 bucks.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
12:04 pm
Tix $52.00-$29.00. Heck the tix to actual show in Los Angeles are free.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
12:04 pm
And for those in the balcony ($29.00) you think you’re name will be called and they’re going to wait for you to make your way down to the front???
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
12:06 pm
@DM: Glad to hear it. I presume the little miss is enjoying a busy, fun-filled summer?
@Leggs/BF: I would LOVE to be on TPIR! I’m gonna check out the details….
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
12:07 pm
Morning All!!
Blackfoote – How was Immortal? I’m dying to know what I missed!!
What are we talking about gang? I heard that “closure” discussion on Bert yesterday and today. Yawn. Those flaky chicks need to get a clue, not closure! Throwing around the “boyfriend” title before you even get the “girlfriend” title – who does that??? And the only closure I’ve ever needed is that you’ve decided you don’t want me anymore. That’s all I need to K.I.M!!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
12:08 pm
LOL……..@Leggs you know the folks in the balcony can forget about their name being called. They do have in the mice type that people in the audience names will be randomly called to win prizes aside from the regular contestants.
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
12:08 pm
No way I’m buying tickets to a game show!!!
GracieL
July 18th, 2012
12:09 pm
disco,
My fave line: “How do you like your eggs in the morning?”
Best response: “Unfertilized.”
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
12:10 pm
@Leggs: According to the info, you don’t have to “Come on down!” to win:
To mark our 40th year on TV, we’ve created a touring version of the studio show with even more audience interaction! It has the same excitement, games, cash and merchandise prizes, name tags and even the famous Price is Right microphone! Many audience members win right from their seat. From Plinko, to Cliffhangers to the Big Wheel, to the fabulous Showcase, The Price Is Right, Live! is the only experience that allows you to be the star of the show! Hosted by Todd Newton!
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
12:11 pm
@kimmie: Did you see Chopped last night? Three Atlanta chefs were competing.
DreamsMaterialize
July 18th, 2012
12:12 pm
“you remind me of my jeep”.
disco Ok this one was just a joke right. Tell me no one was actually lame enough to say that. lol
@DM: Glad to hear it. I presume the little miss is enjoying a busy, fun-filled summer?
disco Presumption correct. Of course a busy, fun-filled summer equates to my pockets being violated. lol I wouldn’t have it any other way though. We’re very happy.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
12:14 pm
Kimmie:
I’ve been to a lot of shows, concerts, and plays. This was by far the best show production I have ever seen and attended. You were ooohed and awwwed on three different stages, I would recommend it to anybody to see that show. It was worth the price of the ticket.
DreamsMaterialize
July 18th, 2012
12:17 pm
And the only closure I’ve ever needed is that you’ve decided you don’t want me anymore. That’s all I need to K.I.M!!!!
kimmie Gimme a pound on that one please.
disco
July 18th, 2012
12:22 pm
dreams – yeah. the jeep line was a joke but just because no one ever used it on me doesn’t mean some okey doke somewhere didn’t use it. I mean guys really do say stuff like “I wanna drink your bathwater”.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
12:27 pm
I know two people who went to see Immortal and nothing but rave reviews from each.
DreamsMaterialize
July 18th, 2012
12:36 pm
I mean guys really do say stuff like “I wanna drink your bathwater”.
disco Normal guys? I mean not the 75 year old dude ’cause old people say whatever they want. But regular dudes are saying this stuff? Wow, it really is a jungle out there. lol
disco
July 18th, 2012
12:45 pm
dreams – I laughed because you said “normal” and “regular”. trust me when I say young men, middle aged men, old men – they all have some unbelievable words coming out of their mouths. some are testing out new lines but often they stick with their version of “tried and true”.
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
1:15 pm
Light – I did not see it. I usually catch it on reruns.
Any of you all seen that show NYMED? It’s a documentary-type show that follows drs & nurses and their patients at NY Presbyterian hospital. Dr Oz is on staff there and performs 1 heart operation a week. There will be 8 shows this summer. It is an excellent show.
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
1:17 pm
Blackfoote – If I had been better prepared and planned better, I would have gotten tickets for the family. The kids really wanted to go see MJ before he passed. They also want to see Cirque.
Robert
July 18th, 2012
1:23 pm
“Best Way to Approach Men”
Robert’s Rules of Dating – Top 10
1. Let him find you – “A Man that finds a wife finds a good thing.” Bible – Kings James Version
2. Dress for success – No hair rollers, face paint, etc. worn out in public.
3. Maturity – Act like a lady -BUT- think like a woman who knows what she wants.
4. Confidence – Say what you mean-AND- mean what you say.
5. Independence – Drive your own car. Never travel with the girls more than 2 people deep.
6. Sex Apeal – Demonstrate you have what it takes to capture your man’s attention and keep it.
7. Eye Contact – Make eye contact. The eyes are the windows into any man’s soul.
8. Communication – Talk about things of interest to Men (sports, etc.).
9. Social Media – Indicate where you can be found on social media sites (facebook, etc.).
10 Close the Deal – 1-thru-9. If he is smart he will have already closed the deal for you.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
1:45 pm
lol@disco and the bathwater comment. I’ve heard that one and have always thought it was so disgusting.
Him: Heeeey, girl!
Her: Hey yourself.
Him: Baby, you’re so hot, I wanna make a cocktail of soap scum, dead skin cells, and dirt and drink it all up!
Her: (gagging and retching) POLICE!
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
1:47 pm
WOW, I leave and only come back to a handful of posts.
Robert ~ your lists reminds me of the caller on The Bert Show looking for closure. Put on your list, don’t sleep with dude after 4 weeks and you haven’t even discussed being exclusive if that’s your end result.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
1:52 pm
It’s a slow day, Leggs. Slow week, really.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
1:52 pm
I’m not trying to be a smart aleck and brag about a show, Kimmie your family wouldn’t have been dissapointed. They even had an 20 to 30 minute intermission where people could grab their bearings from being wowed so intensly. It was amazing to see so many people dancing and swinging on ropes all in synch. There was this one legged guy, he was a show all by himself.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
1:55 pm
I heard that one legged guy got down doing the moonwalk…
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
1:58 pm
Blackfoote – Hey, not smart aleck, just giving credit where it is due!! Sorry I missed it, but glad to hear it was such a fitting tribute to MJ!!
Exiled!
July 18th, 2012
2:03 pm
Robert?
Disco boldly stated she wants her bottom knocked out/up right about now…a bold informercal to the blog men.
Whats ur advice to her right about now..she cant take it no more
disco
July 18th, 2012
2:11 pm
robert – my initial thoughts. 1) not every man is seeking a wife. not every woman is looking to be a wife. 5) I’m told you should travel in 3s so that if someone lucks up the other one isn’t left lonely.
what if the things that interest the man don’t interest you? I don’t see the point in starting off with a front. 9) I don’t do social media but I still don’t think this info to share right off the bat.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
2:12 pm
Leggs when they did the moon walk, it was choreographed to the extreme. In pitch darkness they started with the socks lighting up and all you saw was the socks doing the moonwalk, then the glove, the pants and the hat in different colors.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
2:19 pm
See Ex, that’s where you miss the obvious. A person can want the bottom knocked out and remain a functioning adult. No sweat on the brow (lol). Not everyone walking around lusting fall apart (lol).
For Real
July 18th, 2012
2:21 pm
What up blog fam!
On topic: Pick lines by ladies:
I’m sooooo drunk
All 4 of my tires are flat
I just want to have sex
My husband is out of town
The kids are sleep
I can suck a golf ball thru a 35ft hose
For Real is now squeezing past Disco with a semi.
disco
July 18th, 2012
2:25 pm
leggs – you see I refrained from commenting. just didn’t see the point.
for real – I’ve only ever used one of your lines (or a version of it anyway).
For Real
July 18th, 2012
2:28 pm
“I’ve only ever used one of your lines (or a version of it anyway)” – Shall guess which one? Nevermind.
For Real now searching for his 122oz bottle of vanila scented lotion with anti-slip design.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
2:39 pm
MervTheTerrible
July 18th, 2012
2:53 pm
Honestly I really think women who want to be head of the relationship and/or marriage SHOULD step up to the plate and do the courtly things. It’s like the last women I dated, I told her before I broke up with her, I did not ask you out and do nice things for you, for you control every aspect of my life and dictate to me, you’re going to be beating a dead horse. I think the fact she is a hardcore Feminist had allot to do with it. When I am doing all the work and someone tries to break me like that, it’s going to end ugly like it did. It was funny and cute at first, I thought she was testing me or messing with me but when I realized she was serious, I knew it was going to end bad.
disco
July 18th, 2012
2:54 pm
well geez folks. where’d y’all go? to see what for real was going to do with all that lotion?
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
2:55 pm
Good news. The guy I always talk about with the penis pump and blue pill just told me he’s now dating and for me not to come running after him…that was my laugh for the entire week.
disco
July 18th, 2012
2:59 pm
leggs – thanks. and now I’m laughing too. he really told you not to come running after him anymore? do you think it’s real or do you think it’s a ploy? maybe he’s trying reverse psychology. he might think that if you think he’s unavailable he’ll be more desirable. lol.
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
2:59 pm
Leggs – That is hilarious!!!!
MervTheTerrible
July 18th, 2012
2:59 pm
“last woman I dated”, oh god don’t sue me for a typo heaven forbid.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
July 18th, 2012
3:01 pm
Shenanigans on Leggs 2:19!!
Once that fillin hits….’functioning’ is a relative term; that is unless you got the pull start motor BOB….
jussayin
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
3:05 pm
Anything is possible, disco. But I think he’s dating. Won’t make him more desirable. Not all men become better looking or more marketable once they become involved with someone else…he’s one of them. No sleepless nights on my end.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
3:09 pm
Shenanigan’s on my 2:19? I think not. Some are sweating and some are not.
Willie Dynamite
July 18th, 2012
3:09 pm
Afternonn All,
What’s going on in here? I know the topic has changed because only a few of the blog ladies would even think about approaching a man.
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
3:11 pm
You know us well, Willie!!
disco
July 18th, 2012
3:13 pm
willie d – not only will I approach a man but I’ll club him over the head and drag him off by the ankles. don’t you know times are hard? it’s a mancession right now. lol.
Willie Dynamite
July 18th, 2012
3:20 pm
I can not see Disco making the 1st move on a dude at all.
Willie Dynamite
July 18th, 2012
3:20 pm
I can not see Disco making the 1st move on a dude at all.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
3:21 pm
Mancession. Nice term.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
3:23 pm
“Not all men become better looking or more marketable once they become involved with someone else…he’s one of them”
He’s NOT one of them….
disco
July 18th, 2012
3:27 pm
leggs – as far as I’m concerned, no man really gets more attractive or appealing just because he hooks up with someone else. if I didn’t want you before, I likely don’t want you after. I think men feed into that because married men tell their single friends how much play they get when they wear their wedding bands. I think that’s more of a matter of chicks fishing for “no strings attached” than it is about a man having all of this newfound sex appeal. just my take though.
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
3:39 pm
disco – You said in your 3:27 what I was going to say. No guy has EVER made himself MORE attractive to me by becoming attached. He basically ceases to exist in my mind if I found him remotely attractive before and thought I might want to get with him.
But I recognize that’s different for the “no strings” seekers out there. Nothing for a married dude to brag about really – some chick that didn’t want him when he was free & single now wants to creep. But whatever floats your boat!
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
3:44 pm
These idiots are STILL clowning about that birth certificate!!!
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
3:51 pm
The world seemed to have turned topsy turvy when a black man was named POTUS. Many still can’t reconcile with that fact. Many wanted to move away like they promised but had to eat their own crow. Everything and anything is going to be done to hamper the black vote. New obstacles every day. It’s unbelieveable.
disco
July 18th, 2012
3:53 pm
dang kimmie – ceases to exist. those are strong words.
leggs – move away??? is that a threat? LOL. go ahead and move why don’t they.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
3:56 pm
Shouldn’t the entire Baldwin clan be gone by now??
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
July 18th, 2012
3:58 pm
Shouldn’t the entire Baldwin clan be gone by now??
All except the youngest one,Billy…he’s hawt.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
4:01 pm
I’m baaaaack.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
4:05 pm
smh @ For Real and his Costco-sized lotion.
@Kimmie: I read that article earlier and was like, “Deja vu. Haven’t we already settled this??”
disco
July 18th, 2012
4:08 pm
settled this? please. by the time they get finished with the birth certificate situation obama will have been a figment of all our collective imaginations.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
4:10 pm
@disco: Who?!?!?
(Tommy Lee Jones and Will Smith exiting stage left)
disco
July 18th, 2012
4:12 pm
ITL – you’ve got a producer’s eye. lol. can you see it? we’re all thinking obama is running things only to find out it was a dream sequence (for some of us) and a nightmare (for others). everybody wakes up and realization slowly sets in.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
4:14 pm
But when we wake up, who will be president? Bush? Clinton? Reagan?? How long have we been “glamoured” as they say on True Blood?
disco
July 18th, 2012
4:17 pm
ITL – come on. it’s too soon for an unveiling of the president. we have to let things run amuck for awhile. the folks who thought they got cash for clunkers will go outside and still have clunkers.
abc
July 18th, 2012
4:17 pm
People who don’t drive can still go to the DMV and get a photo ID. No biggie. If someone wants to vote, they can.
I agree that many people resent the President’s color. But, many more (moderates, middle-of-the-road types) resent his actions and inactions. It all depends on who Romney picks for VP, in my opinion. If not for the sex scandal, Herman Cain would be a pretty good choice. As it is, it seems pretty much up in the air.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
4:33 pm
tick……tick……tick…….
disco
July 18th, 2012
4:37 pm
boom dynamite!!! I thought we were going to continue working on our screenplay. I’ve got a long hour to go. folks talk about a new York minute and a country mile. wonder what kind of hour I’m up against.
DreamsMaterialize
July 18th, 2012
4:38 pm
Herm the Sperm…
SlimUno
July 18th, 2012
4:40 pm
Well howdy doody folks…I see yall had a fairly chill day today. Been busy today so I’m just now getting a chance to pop in for a short few.
DreamsMaterialize
July 18th, 2012
4:40 pm
You all talking about Presidential version of The Matrix? Or Inception? lol
disco
July 18th, 2012
4:46 pm
dreams – I don’t know. I was just running off at the mouth. I saw matrix once (didn’t get it). never saw inception.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
4:53 pm
Ummmm, any of you ever hear of this?
Someone in the news accused a cop of a racial slur. He called the man a Monday. That shows up in the urban dictionary as a sly way of calling somebody the N word. The officer got fined. Never heard this term.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
4:55 pm
Sorry, disco.
(scene opens on Edna walking out her front door….fade in)
Herman! Herman! Come quick! The Gremlin is back….it was all a dream!!!
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
4:56 pm
@DM: Here….take this red pill….it won’t hurt at all, I promise. Oh, and loan me your voter registration card…..
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
4:56 pm
@Leggs: Never heard that. Never.
disco
July 18th, 2012
4:58 pm
leggs – apparently it’s because no one likes Mondays.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
4:59 pm
Thanks bloggers for making this rainy afternoon even more unbearable. Where is the escapism of yesteryear (lolol)?
disco
July 18th, 2012
5:01 pm
leggs – Russell peters (comedian) is being given credit for starting it. his Monday skit is on youtube.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
5:07 pm
@Leggs: I know, right?? I need WD or For Real or Slim to write a little afternoon skit for us. Something to end the day on an upbeat.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
5:14 pm
Looks like that’s not going to happen, ITL.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
5:18 pm
i'm swiss
July 18th, 2012
5:31 pm
Goooooooooooooooooooooood afternoon, blogville!!!!
(sitting in an airport bar in Cincy, doing the only thing I can do for entertainment in this sh!thole: drunk blogging)
Anybody still here?
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
5:38 pm
I’m here, Swissykins.
i'm swiss
July 18th, 2012
5:49 pm
Hey there @ITL. Soooo… it’s just the two of us, eh? I wonder what we could do to entertain ourselves…?
Lol
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
6:04 pm
Ummmmm, play hangman?
i'm swiss
July 18th, 2012
6:25 pm
Why, yes, I am hung, if that’s what you’re asking. Lol
Aeryn
July 18th, 2012
8:58 pm
Great article, thanks.. It’s hard everywhere and indeed us women aren’t built for rejection!:) I was hoping San Francisco might be an exception, but apparently Atlanta is no better. If you want to check out a few silly ways of approaching men in SF, maybe that will give you tips..! http://wonder-girls.org/2012/03/29/where-to-find-hot-non-gay-guys-san-francisco-part-1/
Captain Jack Sparrow
July 18th, 2012
10:45 pm
Is this a forum or a site for connecting?
Honey
July 20th, 2012
12:53 am
I had a good guy friend tell me recently that if a woman approaches a man at a club or bar, he knows she’s interested. She doesn’t have to really say or do anything specific. At that point, he knows that all he has to do is not screw it up. So I guess its all in the approach?