Best way to approach men
I get emails all the time from single women who are tired of sitting by waiting to get approached. It seems that more single women are becoming comfortable with making that first move.
There can be an art form to the cold approach …for men. Ladies may need a little help in this department, though. We aren’t built for rejection. Our egos don’t like it..at ALL. So what is the best way to approach men? A lot of guys I’ve talked to said they like the subtle, confident approach. For instance, have a legitimate question for them or asking their opinion on something.
I always wonder if the guy can tell when a woman approaches him to flirt with him, though. Do most men know when a woman is giving him signs of interest?
Ladies, what is your best approach tactic for men you find too good to bypass?
I would love to know the most creative way a woman has approached a man – what did she do? What did she say? What did you think when she first spoke to you?
If a woman approaches a man first, is she at risk for appearing to overbearing?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Bog
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Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
12:08 pm
LOL……..@Leggs you know the folks in the balcony can forget about their name being called. They do have in the mice type that people in the audience names will be randomly called to win prizes aside from the regular contestants.
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
12:08 pm
No way I’m buying tickets to a game show!!!
GracieL
July 18th, 2012
12:09 pm
disco,
My fave line: “How do you like your eggs in the morning?”
Best response: “Unfertilized.”
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
12:10 pm
@Leggs: According to the info, you don’t have to “Come on down!” to win:
To mark our 40th year on TV, we’ve created a touring version of the studio show with even more audience interaction! It has the same excitement, games, cash and merchandise prizes, name tags and even the famous Price is Right microphone! Many audience members win right from their seat. From Plinko, to Cliffhangers to the Big Wheel, to the fabulous Showcase, The Price Is Right, Live! is the only experience that allows you to be the star of the show! Hosted by Todd Newton!
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
12:11 pm
@kimmie: Did you see Chopped last night? Three Atlanta chefs were competing.
DreamsMaterialize
July 18th, 2012
12:12 pm
“you remind me of my jeep”.
disco Ok this one was just a joke right. Tell me no one was actually lame enough to say that. lol
@DM: Glad to hear it. I presume the little miss is enjoying a busy, fun-filled summer?
disco Presumption correct. Of course a busy, fun-filled summer equates to my pockets being violated. lol I wouldn’t have it any other way though. We’re very happy.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
12:14 pm
Kimmie:
I’ve been to a lot of shows, concerts, and plays. This was by far the best show production I have ever seen and attended. You were ooohed and awwwed on three different stages, I would recommend it to anybody to see that show. It was worth the price of the ticket.
DreamsMaterialize
July 18th, 2012
12:17 pm
And the only closure I’ve ever needed is that you’ve decided you don’t want me anymore. That’s all I need to K.I.M!!!!
kimmie Gimme a pound on that one please.
disco
July 18th, 2012
12:22 pm
dreams – yeah. the jeep line was a joke but just because no one ever used it on me doesn’t mean some okey doke somewhere didn’t use it. I mean guys really do say stuff like “I wanna drink your bathwater”.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
12:27 pm
I know two people who went to see Immortal and nothing but rave reviews from each.
DreamsMaterialize
July 18th, 2012
12:36 pm
I mean guys really do say stuff like “I wanna drink your bathwater”.
disco Normal guys? I mean not the 75 year old dude ’cause old people say whatever they want. But regular dudes are saying this stuff? Wow, it really is a jungle out there. lol
disco
July 18th, 2012
12:45 pm
dreams – I laughed because you said “normal” and “regular”. trust me when I say young men, middle aged men, old men – they all have some unbelievable words coming out of their mouths. some are testing out new lines but often they stick with their version of “tried and true”.
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
1:15 pm
Light – I did not see it. I usually catch it on reruns.
Any of you all seen that show NYMED? It’s a documentary-type show that follows drs & nurses and their patients at NY Presbyterian hospital. Dr Oz is on staff there and performs 1 heart operation a week. There will be 8 shows this summer. It is an excellent show.
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
1:17 pm
Blackfoote – If I had been better prepared and planned better, I would have gotten tickets for the family. The kids really wanted to go see MJ before he passed. They also want to see Cirque.
Robert
July 18th, 2012
1:23 pm
“Best Way to Approach Men”
Robert’s Rules of Dating – Top 10
1. Let him find you – “A Man that finds a wife finds a good thing.” Bible – Kings James Version
2. Dress for success – No hair rollers, face paint, etc. worn out in public.
3. Maturity – Act like a lady -BUT- think like a woman who knows what she wants.
4. Confidence – Say what you mean-AND- mean what you say.
5. Independence – Drive your own car. Never travel with the girls more than 2 people deep.
6. Sex Apeal – Demonstrate you have what it takes to capture your man’s attention and keep it.
7. Eye Contact – Make eye contact. The eyes are the windows into any man’s soul.
8. Communication – Talk about things of interest to Men (sports, etc.).
9. Social Media – Indicate where you can be found on social media sites (facebook, etc.).
10 Close the Deal – 1-thru-9. If he is smart he will have already closed the deal for you.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
1:45 pm
lol@disco and the bathwater comment. I’ve heard that one and have always thought it was so disgusting.
Him: Heeeey, girl!
Her: Hey yourself.
Him: Baby, you’re so hot, I wanna make a cocktail of soap scum, dead skin cells, and dirt and drink it all up!
Her: (gagging and retching) POLICE!
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
1:47 pm
WOW, I leave and only come back to a handful of posts.
Robert ~ your lists reminds me of the caller on The Bert Show looking for closure. Put on your list, don’t sleep with dude after 4 weeks and you haven’t even discussed being exclusive if that’s your end result.
Into the Light
July 18th, 2012
1:52 pm
It’s a slow day, Leggs. Slow week, really.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
1:52 pm
I’m not trying to be a smart aleck and brag about a show, Kimmie your family wouldn’t have been dissapointed. They even had an 20 to 30 minute intermission where people could grab their bearings from being wowed so intensly. It was amazing to see so many people dancing and swinging on ropes all in synch. There was this one legged guy, he was a show all by himself.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
1:55 pm
I heard that one legged guy got down doing the moonwalk…
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
1:58 pm
Blackfoote – Hey, not smart aleck, just giving credit where it is due!! Sorry I missed it, but glad to hear it was such a fitting tribute to MJ!!
Exiled!
July 18th, 2012
2:03 pm
Robert?
Disco boldly stated she wants her bottom knocked out/up right about now…a bold informercal to the blog men.
Whats ur advice to her right about now..she cant take it no more
disco
July 18th, 2012
2:11 pm
robert – my initial thoughts. 1) not every man is seeking a wife. not every woman is looking to be a wife. 5) I’m told you should travel in 3s so that if someone lucks up the other one isn’t left lonely.
what if the things that interest the man don’t interest you? I don’t see the point in starting off with a front. 9) I don’t do social media but I still don’t think this info to share right off the bat.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
July 18th, 2012
2:12 pm
Leggs when they did the moon walk, it was choreographed to the extreme. In pitch darkness they started with the socks lighting up and all you saw was the socks doing the moonwalk, then the glove, the pants and the hat in different colors.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
2:19 pm
See Ex, that’s where you miss the obvious. A person can want the bottom knocked out and remain a functioning adult. No sweat on the brow (lol). Not everyone walking around lusting fall apart (lol).
For Real
July 18th, 2012
2:21 pm
What up blog fam!
On topic: Pick lines by ladies:
I’m sooooo drunk
All 4 of my tires are flat
I just want to have sex
My husband is out of town
The kids are sleep
I can suck a golf ball thru a 35ft hose
For Real is now squeezing past Disco with a semi.
disco
July 18th, 2012
2:25 pm
leggs – you see I refrained from commenting. just didn’t see the point.
for real – I’ve only ever used one of your lines (or a version of it anyway).
For Real
July 18th, 2012
2:28 pm
“I’ve only ever used one of your lines (or a version of it anyway)” – Shall guess which one? Nevermind.
For Real now searching for his 122oz bottle of vanila scented lotion with anti-slip design.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
2:39 pm
MervTheTerrible
July 18th, 2012
2:53 pm
Honestly I really think women who want to be head of the relationship and/or marriage SHOULD step up to the plate and do the courtly things. It’s like the last women I dated, I told her before I broke up with her, I did not ask you out and do nice things for you, for you control every aspect of my life and dictate to me, you’re going to be beating a dead horse. I think the fact she is a hardcore Feminist had allot to do with it. When I am doing all the work and someone tries to break me like that, it’s going to end ugly like it did. It was funny and cute at first, I thought she was testing me or messing with me but when I realized she was serious, I knew it was going to end bad.
disco
July 18th, 2012
2:54 pm
well geez folks. where’d y’all go? to see what for real was going to do with all that lotion?
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
2:55 pm
Good news. The guy I always talk about with the penis pump and blue pill just told me he’s now dating and for me not to come running after him…that was my laugh for the entire week.
disco
July 18th, 2012
2:59 pm
leggs – thanks. and now I’m laughing too. he really told you not to come running after him anymore? do you think it’s real or do you think it’s a ploy? maybe he’s trying reverse psychology. he might think that if you think he’s unavailable he’ll be more desirable. lol.
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
2:59 pm
Leggs – That is hilarious!!!!
MervTheTerrible
July 18th, 2012
2:59 pm
“last woman I dated”, oh god don’t sue me for a typo heaven forbid.
The man formerly know as Dan - still...Superior
July 18th, 2012
3:01 pm
Shenanigans on Leggs 2:19!!
Once that fillin hits….’functioning’ is a relative term; that is unless you got the pull start motor BOB….
jussayin
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
3:05 pm
Anything is possible, disco. But I think he’s dating. Won’t make him more desirable. Not all men become better looking or more marketable once they become involved with someone else…he’s one of them. No sleepless nights on my end.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
3:09 pm
Shenanigan’s on my 2:19? I think not. Some are sweating and some are not.
Willie Dynamite
July 18th, 2012
3:09 pm
Afternonn All,
What’s going on in here? I know the topic has changed because only a few of the blog ladies would even think about approaching a man.
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
3:11 pm
You know us well, Willie!!
disco
July 18th, 2012
3:13 pm
willie d – not only will I approach a man but I’ll club him over the head and drag him off by the ankles. don’t you know times are hard? it’s a mancession right now. lol.
Willie Dynamite
July 18th, 2012
3:20 pm
I can not see Disco making the 1st move on a dude at all.
Willie Dynamite
July 18th, 2012
3:20 pm
I can not see Disco making the 1st move on a dude at all.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
3:21 pm
Mancession. Nice term.
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
3:23 pm
“Not all men become better looking or more marketable once they become involved with someone else…he’s one of them”
He’s NOT one of them….
disco
July 18th, 2012
3:27 pm
leggs – as far as I’m concerned, no man really gets more attractive or appealing just because he hooks up with someone else. if I didn’t want you before, I likely don’t want you after. I think men feed into that because married men tell their single friends how much play they get when they wear their wedding bands. I think that’s more of a matter of chicks fishing for “no strings attached” than it is about a man having all of this newfound sex appeal. just my take though.
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
3:39 pm
disco – You said in your 3:27 what I was going to say. No guy has EVER made himself MORE attractive to me by becoming attached. He basically ceases to exist in my mind if I found him remotely attractive before and thought I might want to get with him.
But I recognize that’s different for the “no strings” seekers out there. Nothing for a married dude to brag about really – some chick that didn’t want him when he was free & single now wants to creep. But whatever floats your boat!
kimmie
July 18th, 2012
3:44 pm
These idiots are STILL clowning about that birth certificate!!!
Leggs
July 18th, 2012
3:51 pm
The world seemed to have turned topsy turvy when a black man was named POTUS. Many still can’t reconcile with that fact. Many wanted to move away like they promised but had to eat their own crow. Everything and anything is going to be done to hamper the black vote. New obstacles every day. It’s unbelieveable.
disco
July 18th, 2012
3:53 pm
dang kimmie – ceases to exist. those are strong words.
leggs – move away??? is that a threat? LOL. go ahead and move why don’t they.