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Dating: Coming on too strong?

I finally got a chance to watch Bravo’s new reality show, Miss Advised. The show features 3 dating/relationship experts who don’t always follow their own advice – hence the name.

One of the ladies – Julia, has show some pretty brave, albeit pushy dating tactics. She has practically begged for one guy to kiss her (he wouldn’t), and she tried to impress another guy with a limo ride. Of course, with cameras filming her every move, she probably upped the ante a bit. I literally cringed at her over the top behavior. Maybe my ego is way too big, but I don’t know if I would go to such lengths to get a man.

I rarely hear men complain about women coming on too strong. I am sure it happens from time to time, but how do men deal with it?

Ladies, have you ever come on too strong trying to impress a man? Could you tell you went too far?

What do you do when you are too eager and come across as a little pushy or desperate? Should you scale back and try to recover or cut your losses and learn from your mistakes going forward?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

226 comments Add your comment

Willie Dynamite

July 12th, 2012
4:01 pm

Dico – I doubt that it mattered whether it was Sunday or Tuesday afternoon. I am guessing it was a matter of time. Hahaha We need to find you a blog stalker. I’m like exiled now, you need to take the edge off. I’m a lil too shy and reserved for the task but I can coach someone up to handle you.

kimmie

July 12th, 2012
4:06 pm

disco – My former next-door neighbor, a woman, was kind of like that dude. I remember a dude I dated a few times had this really nice BMW. The 1st time he stayed over it was parked in my driveway. We had gone out and came in late the night before and were lazying around on a Saturday morning. I guess chick was dying to see what he looked like, cause she called and said in case we hadn’t noticed there was a really bad hail storm and the hail had messed up alot of folks cars, so maybe my friend should check on his! I thanked her and hung up and laughed! He didn’t leave for about 3 more hours so I know she was on pins and needles!LOL!!

HST

July 12th, 2012
4:08 pm

Celisea, that’s messed up, but I like your preparedness.

Dogs are a massive undertaking.

A gun is a few classes, a license, knowledge of usage, and that’s it.

I’ve always figured, you’re going to have to address my dogs, and when you do…it’s one to the cabbage. My K9s are registered with the state and DNR as protection dogs, so I’m afforded certain rights regarding them. It’s a felony to interfere with them performing their duties.

Exiled!

July 12th, 2012
4:09 pm

WD..if u don’t dable in Rough sex u can’t handle Disco! :lol:

Unless u like Domination in the cut! :lol:

Willie Dynamite

July 12th, 2012
4:10 pm

Speaking of Players club; I’m bored and feel like the Dude in the wheelchair. Somebody say or do something to make me feel better.

Into the Light

July 12th, 2012
4:10 pm

I’m back. Had to run a to quick meeting. Some folks in this building….smh.

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:10 pm

HST – Well, I’ll fight until the bitter end…and I’m serious

disco

July 12th, 2012
4:12 pm

WD – it was a matter of time. I talked to that man and talked to that man and talked to that man. he just didn’t get it until I went off. it’s funny, before the cuss out it was like he stood inside his house looking and waiting to time it so that he could be out when I or others were out. since the cuss out it’s almost the opposite. it’s like he makes sure he’s not outside at the same time I am. I joked with my son that I was going to get voted off the island (out of the neighborhood). between cursing him out, checking all the pet owners who weren’t picking up after their dogs and keeping my eye on ms. there goes the neighborhood. I tell you what. we may not like the stereotype of the angry black woman but the angry black woman gets results (at least when she’s not dealing with other angry black women). lol.

kimmie – your neighbor was a hot mess. really. she called to try to coax old boy outside? daggone shame.

ex – just to humor you. “if it ain’t rough, it ain’t right”

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:12 pm

Speaking of rough…..

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:13 pm

I’m kidding…seriously I’m kidding. Don’t want to open any cans

Into the Light

July 12th, 2012
4:13 pm

@Cel – If you are not comfortable with a gun, don’t let anybody talk you into one. I’m serious – for your own safety. :)

Blank stares, bad teeth, dirty finger nails…..we’ve gone from creepy to downright pitiful. :lol:

@WD – did I see you say you were shy?? HA HA HA HA!!!

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:14 pm

ITL – I’m not comfortable but I’m really leaning towards getting one

Tsunami

July 12th, 2012
4:16 pm

Celisea, what hood do you live in!?

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:17 pm

:) I should not be so damn fabulous :)

HST

July 12th, 2012
4:18 pm

Disco, that neighbor must be really lonely, I have one like that but it’s a she.

Celisea, I have no doubt that you would. Get some Pepper Spray off eBay, it’s cheap, and highly effective. At the least, it will give 30+ seconds to get away.

disco

July 12th, 2012
4:20 pm

HST – I’ve also heard a lot of folks say they use hornet spray as a “pest deterrent”. apparently the trigger is easy to use and it shoots a long distance. it’s relatively inexpensive and it will buy you some time.

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:20 pm

I’m giggling to myself

Willie Dynamite

July 12th, 2012
4:20 pm

Ex – naww budy no domination on this end. With Disco the rough part is just getting in the door. If/when you make it past that point you good.

Disco – I’d say angry black woman is a fitting description. I aint rough, buff or prison cut but I bet you have a pretty smile. It is ok to smile sometimes. Let me see it.

ITL- very, until you get to know me.

HST

July 12th, 2012
4:23 pm

Hornet Spray would make my *** run the other way, but Mace is concealable, and easy to carry everywhere. Mace/Pepper Spray also shoots 20 ft, and has a dye to identify the perpetrator if he washes off.

Bluzgirl

July 12th, 2012
4:28 pm

OMG! I just found that the bar I’m going to tonight has just lost their liquor license temporarily!!! Ugh! I’m still going, though, because of plans with a friend of mine. I texted him and hope he’ll be bringing at least beer!

HST

July 12th, 2012
4:29 pm

Holy crap, it’s 4:27, I’ve been out here since noon just about. Well, bye-bye boring day. I couldn’t play with the dogs today, because it’s wet and muddy. I don’t drive my sport cars in the rain unless I’m caught out. With the action at lunch, and the blog’s antics…not a bad day…

Willie Dynamite

July 12th, 2012
4:29 pm

Cel – ummm I think I’m beginning to see the common denominator. You attract a special bunch whether it be @work, home or this blog. I know I know shet it up.

HST

July 12th, 2012
4:30 pm

Bluz, what bar lost their Liqueur License?

disco

July 12th, 2012
4:31 pm

willie d – I must say you are pretty insightful. I don’t let most in my true circle but once you are in, I got you.

HST – some of your real hood, been there done that types have already developed a tolerance to pepper spray and mace.

willie d – did you just say that celisea is the weirdo? I’m sorry. did I just call you out after you’ve been all cool with me? my bad. I’m sorry man.

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:33 pm

WillieD – Like I said earlier, I shouldn’t be so damn fabulous :)

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:33 pm

WillieD – Would that include the beer and wings bunch…whoa, I went there :)

Into the Light

July 12th, 2012
4:35 pm

WillieD – Like I said earlier, I shouldn’t be so damn fabulous

LOL@Cel. Reminds me of what my bestie and I used to say. “Don’t hate us because we’re beautiful….hate us because you’re not!” LOLOLOL :lol:

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:36 pm

ITL – And THAT, is the comment for the day. I should make that my tagline on my moniker :)

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2012
4:38 pm

Celly Cel you want me to say a few words to your neighbor? “I’ll make him an offer he can’t refuse.” ;-)

disco where do you live? You seem to seriously underwhelmed with the caliber and look of dudes in your neck of the woods? lol

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:38 pm

HST – Did you leave?

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:39 pm

Dreams – If you will get him to shoo…lol I just try to steer clear of him

HST

July 12th, 2012
4:39 pm

Disco, that’s why I open or conceal carry a gun, but Mace was merely a stated alternative to a gun. I’ve had my CWP since I was 18, however, I take great delight in beating up gangsters. I’d much rather take the opportunity to beat them senseless like their disposition.

Into the Light

July 12th, 2012
4:39 pm

Look at Dreams stepping into the role of protector. That’s hot. ;)

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:40 pm

HST – What state do you live in, if I may? I’m asking because you mentioned the gun laws in your state.

Into the Light

July 12th, 2012
4:41 pm

Um, HST? Have you chosen to ignore the “First do no harm” portion of your oath? Or have you given up the practice of medicine to pursue race car driving full time?

HST

July 12th, 2012
4:41 pm

Right here enjoying myself – no double entendre intended.

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:41 pm

HST beating up folks is hot but I’m not going to go there. I’m still putting salve on from yesterday…lol

disco

July 12th, 2012
4:43 pm

dreams – I’m in NC. guess the men in the cackalacky are lacking. lol.

celisea – why did I think of “shoo fly don’t bother me”.

Into the Light

July 12th, 2012
4:44 pm

Do I need to go back and read yesterday’s blog?? You okay, Twink?

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:45 pm

disco – I dunno…maybe because that’s the feeling associated with creeps

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:46 pm

ITL – I’m good. I did have Sassy and Bluzy to jump in. Everybody else just gawked and picked a side…lol You know it goes :)

SlimUno

July 12th, 2012
4:46 pm

Cel – Beware if you see Dreams soon stalking you…what better way to get rid of one crazy than but to pickup another.

just kidding Dreams. You knows i luvvsss you ;-)

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:46 pm

ITL – Nooooooo, don’t go back and read. You might bring the evil spirits with you.

Into the Light

July 12th, 2012
4:46 pm

Pssssstttt…..WD – 51 days ’til FOOTBALL!!! :)

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:47 pm

Slim – I ain’t gonna lie, already thought it.

Still love you Dreams :)

HST

July 12th, 2012
4:47 pm

Lawrenceville, GA.

ITL, I have never ignored my oath. I retired at 31 – I work for free – I completely donate my time and education.

I do underground racing, I am a Modern Day Cannonballer. I do lots of track days, and mountain runs as well. I raced in my early 30s professionally, but it’s to time consuming.

Into the Light

July 12th, 2012
4:48 pm

Well if I was here, I woulda had your back, Twink. You know that! Shoot, we’re Zingers for life or cellblock C, whichever comes first. LOLOLOL :lol:

HST

July 12th, 2012
4:49 pm

“HST beating up folks is hot but I’m not going to go there. I’m still putting salve on from yesterday…lol” chuckle*snort…

Celisea

July 12th, 2012
4:51 pm

ITL – And you know this…zingers for life….or cellblock C. We might be doing the latter if folks don’t leave me alone :)

HST – Now you know how sexy that is. Putting down your gun and beating folks senseless. Stop fronting.

DreamsMaterialize

July 12th, 2012
4:54 pm

just kidding Dreams. You knows i luvvsss you
Dang slimmy like that? lol

Slim – I ain’t gonna lie, already thought it.

Still love you Dreams
Celly Et tu Brute? lol

Look at Dreams stepping into the role of protector. That’s hot.
ITL I knew I could count on you to have my back. ;-)

Good evening ya’ll.