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Ex-files: Should you apologize?

“I’m sorry if I ever caused you any pain”. These 8 words popped up on my text messages last week. I didn’t recognize the number, but I didn’t have to. I knew who it was from. I knew why he was saying I’m sorry. I knew that I was not going to reply back.

After years of holding animosity, the text message actually brought closure. Closure I didn’t even know I wanted. Maybe apologizing for your romantic crimes is a good idea? When break ups get messy, people get hurt. Would it be that hard to make amends and let the person know you really felt bad for the way you treated the?

Do you ever regret the way you ended things with someone? Do you feel bad about how you handled situations in the past? Do you think you should apologize to the person?

Has an ex ever reached out to you to apologize for hurting you? Do you think it is appropriate to respond? Would you forgive them?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

209 comments Add your comment

Lily

July 10th, 2012
7:12 am

Diva, yes. There had been many attempts to talk and reconcile. At that time, I couldn’t do it. I’d encountered people far worse, wrote them off and moved on. Not the same for him. I believe he came to realize attempting to reconcile only made things worse. So he grew silent too. I wouldn’t talk or respond to him, neither would I let it go like he wanted. I couldn’t. One fine snowy day about a year later, on his birthday, there it was. A text asking first if we could meet. A second text stating he didn’t want to lose me. A final text saying it was important that we at least remained friends. I still couldn’t. I didn’t respond but it sufficed. In spite of it all, he has been the most honorable man I know, yet. As evidenced by all of his efforts. At that point it was the unspoken thing that melted all the animosity and hurt. I didn’t respond because I didn’t exactly know how. I didn’t think it was wise to go back. But for a long, I yearned to.

No, he wasn’t perfect but truly honorable.

Lily

July 10th, 2012
7:23 am

And what the fallout was about? Nothing remotely close to actions we see skirted and displayed. Nothing along those lines.

Good day!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
7:32 am

Honest men will say I’m sorry I did you wrong and accept the fallout. Controlling men will hit you because they are cowards and can only relate to you this way. A rat (been here before) will duck and dodge until the heat has cooled. Blaming your actions on youth, inexperience, and the cards you were dealt is a bonafide cop out.

Do you ever regret the way you ended things with someone? Yes
Do you feel bad about how you handled situations in the past? Yes
Do you think you should apologize to the person? Depends who it is
Has an ex ever reached out to you to apologize for hurting you? No I didn’t need it.

Good Morning:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
7:35 am

Well dern Lily bested me again.

Lily

July 10th, 2012
7:37 am

@Blackfoote, I have to come back and say out, EXCELLENT EXCELLENT post! Yes, I beat you, again :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
7:47 am

Lily howdy Ms. Lady, one of these days I’m gonna get on first. That’ll probably be the day you’re on vacation……..LOL

Destiny

July 10th, 2012
8:08 am

It’s never the break up, its always the lies and deception. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Like Miss Lily said just be Honorable. I dated a man who pursued me for months and when we finally establish what I thought was real, I find out he is cheating. Don’t call me your girlfriend, dont say were are exclusive, don’t take me to meet your family and friends if its not real. My plan is to forgive someday, but until then Love is on Vacation.

Destiny

July 10th, 2012
8:12 am

One last thing, being the main is not all thats it’s cracked up to be. The other woman will know all about you, but you are kept in the dark. smdh

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
8:33 am

I was seeing a girl in High School and we dated 2.5 yrs but different Universities. The distance caused the relationship to not work out and I broke it off. She got me an early leather jacket for a Christmas Gift and I told her I’d give it back because I felt bad keeping it. She told me no, just keep it was this awkward scene with her crying in a restaurant. She did nothing wrong but it was circumstance. Was really the hardest breakup for me because it wasn’t anything she did wrong. I knew she was stressed with final exams and with the breakup so I got her a $100 massage from Spa Sydell as a Christmas Gift even though we broke up. Thats the only breakup I felt bad about and wanted the best for her

Mom's Words

July 10th, 2012
8:39 am

after an ugly falling out with a former and a distressed college semester, my mom advised, “a man will say he’s sorry, a boy won’t”. Never looked back!

Fred G. Sanford, Jr.

July 10th, 2012
9:14 am

Apologize to an ex? Probably not at this phase of my life. After years have passed, it’s probably best to leave things as they are. I think I’ve tried it once or twice in the past, only to get an “oh… ok… thanks” type of response.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
9:34 am

Good morning,

Yes I’ve been on the receiving end of an apology for previous mistakes made concerning a relationship. Many times, like BF said, during the ordeal, responsibility is not taken by the person(s) that committed the infractions(s). Receiving the apology does not erase the hurt, disappointment or anger but in some way it does provide a hint of closure because that person is finally, even in a small way, saying hey I messed up and i’m sorry for any hurt I caused you…It’s like finally accepting the fact that they had a hand in the demise of the situation.

GracieL

July 10th, 2012
9:34 am

It would have been nice if he had apologized. It was around that time that I realized he is a sociopath. Caught red handed in a multi-pronged lie, playing multiple women, (learn your pocket technology, dumb-azz — your own “smart” phone just blew your cover on FB), he quickly turned it around on ME, cussing me out like I was the evil one. He knew I had done nothing deceptive, misleading, or in any way unkind to him. I didn’t chase or stalk him in any way. He KNEW he was the bad guy, pursuing me, pretending to love me, then caught in all his lies, and he responded by viciously attacking me. (Not physically, but what he did was almost as bad.)

An apology wouldn’t have made it all okay, but it would have helped me heal, just a bit. But that will never happen, because that’s how sociopaths are: No conscience. No empathy. Plenty of game. Lots of charm, lots of lies. If this sounds like someone you’re involved with — if you’ve been ignoring that little voice inside you that knows something is wrong — please… run away NOW and ever look back.

You don’t need this kind of damage.

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
9:41 am

So I heard about the ‘For Love & Hip Hop’ show and watched some of it yesterday. Reading the responses above it just reminded me of that episode. Its probably the worst show I’ve ever seen because of the way it protrays the African American community in our City. Its Pathetic & I’m surprised I’m not hearing more of the black community speaking out against these shows where its almost accepted to be cheated on over and over again then continue to go back. Not to mention every woman on that show are single moms. How come V103 is promoting this trash and not condemning it ???

Single and Happy

July 10th, 2012
9:45 am

Once you have really moved on with your life, you don’t feel the need to apologize, nor are you thinking about them owing you and apology.

Blackfoote: I'm The Zinger With A Dinger

July 10th, 2012
9:53 am

In essence it is proper etiquette to apologize for any bad conduct or behavior not just in dating. Do people apologize every time for hurting you no they don’t, would it depress me if they didn’t no. Women it’s a little different in they would like some closure in some way or another.

disco

July 10th, 2012
9:53 am

good morning.

I’m all for sincere apologies but fake A apologies get no love from me. don’t apologize because you think it’s the right thing to do but you don’t really mean it. don’t apologize because you think somebody is weak and will melt and cave behind a daggone apology. don’t apology in an attempt to get sympathy sex. sometimes it’s best to just chalk things up and go your separate ways. no apologies necessary.

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
9:58 am

Agree – Apologize if its Legit over conversation. But, after that just keep it moving and cut ties. Its only fair to eachother to live life and find the true relationship that will be meaningful

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
10:00 am

AG – People have been speaking out against it…Did you hear Rickey Smiley ranting about it this morning saying he just can’t sell out for everything. When the show first aired, he had all the women come on the show but he admits that he had not watched it until last night. So now he’s apologizing for having them on the show because he does not support that.

Natasha

July 10th, 2012
10:01 am

@Mom’sWords This sums it up here>>>> “a man will say he’s sorry, a boy won’t”.

@Fred G. Sanford Jr. You apologize for yourself, not for their response. It doesn’t matter what their response is. You ask for forgiveness if you were in the wrong, therefore you’ve done your part.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
10:01 am

No conscience. No empathy. Plenty of game. Lots of charm, lots of lies.

Yup, pretty much sounds like Stevie J :lol:

Blackfoote: I'm The Zinger With A Dinger

July 10th, 2012
10:02 am

ATL GUY
I’ve never seen the show you’re talking about, though there is I’m assuming a large population of people that watches it. Looking at young girls who don’t have a clue about what’s going on in society besides the drama they create makes for a ratings bonanza. That’s all it is showman ship to make cash.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
10:08 am

Forgot to adjust my moniker.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
10:09 am

That’s it.

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
10:12 am

Haha Slim – Thats what made me think of that show!

Agree Blackfoot, but its setting an example none the less. I’m not sure how far off that stuff is from what I see on a day to day basis. I’ve made it a point for a long time to cut drama out of my life. Helps me focus on whats important and gives some perspective. I’m not black, but this kind of show upsets me because any positive step fwd this seems like two steps back. Its just a bad look and really sets a bad precedent

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
10:13 am

Morning!

I don’t think you should flip back through your rolodex, smart phone, black book or whatever your means for tracking contacts and hand out a grove of apologies. But on the scale of grand, being able to make amends for the wrong you caused, is commendable to say the least.

I like what Blackfoote said, stop blaming and take accountability for your own actions. Stop worrying about how it’s recieved. If you caused the demise, then own it. People make mistakes but people also grow and learn. Taking responsibility is not a sign of weakness but rather a step towards getting better. If you can display that kind of quality then that’s what life and living is all about.

To what GracieL said…..There are so many people that operate under counterfeit. When you see it before your very own eyes, that’s all that runs through their veins and apparently a way of being for them, leave it alone. There are plenty that sport in making fools out of women (or men) and feel good getting it done. But that’s them. As the good book says, leave them to their own devices. Leave those folks be and let them do what they do. You’re only obligated to take responsibility for you and what you do. If making amends is it, then you shouldn’t feel lesser of a person for doing so.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
10:21 am

ATL Guy it is upsetting to come this far only to see teenage girls put their stamp on a trashy thug life. Thank to the 90’s videos for what we are getting today.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
10:23 am

I don’t see how your man/woman getting another chick or getting preggo by another man, is not a dealbreaker. I guess love/stupidity is one helluva drug. lol

I actually personally know a chick that was pregnant at the same time her bf had another girl pregnant. They are still together too and have since had another kid after all that.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
10:27 am

Cely you’re leaveing for vacay enjoy lady, I need another one too.

Mike P

July 10th, 2012
10:27 am

Apologize for what? All the decisions, behaviors, experiences, and all of my interactions with others are all apart of what makes me, ME. If my words (stating what is true for me) or my decision to leave your sorry behind hurts you; that’s your problem, not mine. When I go ghost on you, I’m gone. There’s no point in going back.

Apologize for being me? NEVER!!!

disco

July 10th, 2012
10:29 am

slim – we call that phenomenon “project twins”. I won’t front. we’ve got several pair in our family. it is what it is. the babies get here regardless of how they got here but I’m with you. I wouldn’t be the woman that stuck around. dude, his other girl and his other baby could have at it.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
10:30 am

Blackfoote – Honey I’m so stoked right now that I could burst at the seams…lol I have stuff everywhere but I’m not packing until Sunday night. I NEVER pack days ahead. I have shopping bags and “stuff” everywhere. The place where staying is absolutely gorgeous. I cannot wait to eat myself into oblivion, spend myself into oblivion and all the other stuff that’s gonna take me into oblivion….lol It’s not the place, it’s getting away. Aaaaah yeah!

Where did you go for vacay?

Robert

July 10th, 2012
10:30 am

@SlimUno – “No conscience. No empathy. Plenty of game. Lots of charm, lots of lies.
Yup, pretty much sounds like Stevie J ”

I am embarrassed to watch that show. It depicts Black Men as opportunist, unfaithful
and irresponsible fathers. Real Black Men who has morales and values will not let a “Bama” like Stevie J near his daughter or sisters. ATL is typical for stereotyping Black Men and embarassing Black Women. Enough is Enough.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
10:35 am

disco – I knew there was a term for that but I just couldn’t remember what it was called lol. The other child comes to stay with them for periods at a time because the mom is a hot mess. She had like 5 other kids and is not sure who all the fathers are. Thats sad, too damn sad.

Robert – I would not just limit the embarrassment of Black women and men just to Atlanta. It happens all over…we just so happen to live here. Stevie J is playing up the role of the ‘playa pimp’ type dude and we all know that lots of sexploitation occurs here…Strip Club capital of the world no less.

GracieL

July 10th, 2012
10:36 am

Celisea @ 10:13,

Thanks for that! The sociopath slithered in and out of my life for years, always playing on my compassionate side with some new crisis or tragedy, always going the extra mile until he whittled away my skepticism with custom-crafted gestures of sincerity. You’re right, it’s a game to them. (Set ‘em up, knock ‘em down, laugh like he11.) If they can get you one more time, it adds to their score. The oxy addiction he developed caused his game to fall off a bit, and I was able to glimpse things the last time I hadn’t seen before — specifically, how truly sadistic he is.

The apology I really need is the one I give to myself. How can I do that? Letting him in one more time was unforgivable. I will never trust myself again, and hence… remain walled up behind intense shame and regret. I’m not a stupid kid; there was no excuse. There is no fix for this.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
10:38 am

I stayed home this time, the heat was just too much to bear going any where last week. When I heard it reached 106 I put everything down and out of the way and chilled on the sofa trying to stay cool.

Robert

July 10th, 2012
10:39 am

What is wrong with our Black Women who will allow “Stevie J” or anybody with the lure of $$$ to treat them this way because of money or fame? Gold diggers…ATL is full of women who want other peoples money and will do anything to get it.

I meet a lot of young men in ATL who have this desire to become a record producer, artist, performer or entertainer based on some false fantasy. It is not based on real life experiences. No one wants to put in the required work to be successful. Everybody wants the rewards regardless of how they get it.

kimmie

July 10th, 2012
10:45 am

Morning All!

The time to apologize is around the time the infraction took place. When years have passed, well it’s time for both parties to have moved on unless something requires you to still see this person, like a child you had together. I mean it’s nice that you finally got a conscience, and I’ll accept your apology but I’ve moved on. Sanford, that “oh okay thanks” response is about the best you can hope for. What do you want?

I’ve never had any to come back later and apologize. Most would never admit they were wrong anyway, but I’m one that really doesn’t need MORE closure. I claimed the closure for myself by moving on and living well!

Can we please not get into ANOTHER discussion about that TIRED show?

kimmie

July 10th, 2012
10:47 am

Robert – One thing THIS proud ATL woman, and every other ATL woman & man I know refuses to do is take responsibility for other folks negative behavior! Period! We are too busy out here getting it done and being about it, not just talking about it!!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
10:48 am

Robert
I can’t say the little A is full of gold diggers, what I will say is we have a ton of copy cats. I agree with you they want rewards but ignore what it takes to receive them, other than cracking somebody over the head.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
10:52 am

THANK YOU!!! Please change the topic. I’m not embarrassed at all for other folks behavior. It speaks nothing to who I am as a person. The same thing displayed on tv, exists all around us and in some of us. You want to fix society? Start with yourself.

GracieL – NEVER let them make you think your eyes are playing tricks on you. If you saw it, you saw it. Don’t beat yourself up for someone’s crazies and the fact that they played on your desire for them. Let it make you stronger the next go round :) We won’t EVER be free of mistakes because we’re human. That’s not the issue. Learning what to do or not, the next time is all that matters. You don’t need a apology for that :)

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
10:53 am

Mike P – I don’t think the topic is about apologizing for being YOU…we are all going to be ourselves but as you (generally speaking) get older, I’d like to think growth, responsibility and accountability aren’t beneath us. So if you did some unethical, harsh, ill-intented actions, there is nothing wrong with recognizing that fact and being big enough to apologize for it.

And just because someone from the past apologizes to you, does not mean you are accepting their behavior or have to get back with them trying to run off into the sunset. lol

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
10:53 am

And there’s bad in every race. It ain’t all the time black folks that need saving.

GracieL

July 10th, 2012
10:56 am

Robert,

Do you think maybe there’s a sense that, for some women, success IS defined as “winning” or “keeping” the man with the money? That is the traditional, old-school definition of success for women, before we became “liberated” and all. (Yay! Now I get to work all day, pay all the bills myself, cook, clean and raise kids with little or no help from anyone. Wooo-Hoooo!) It’s only in the last 50 years or so that the definition of success has changed for women. (Mad Men is a real eye-opener to just how close we are to a whole different reality.)

Do these women think of themselves as traditional?

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
10:56 am

aaaAAAAAMMMMMEEEENNNNN! ;-)

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
10:58 am

I didn’t think either the post was saying apologize for being who you are…unless of course…. lol I was touched by Diva’s post (shet up), because I’ve been there. When a dude knew you were the cat’s meow and took it for granted and lost you. Well, being the man you came to love and know, he came back to make amends. What’s wrong with that? Only a heartless person can go through life intentionally bringing harm and feel nothing for it. Heck you ain’t got to apologize but at least come to terms with how you’re living…if that’s the kind of person you are. I don’t think an apology is so much about the other person but about you and what you come to realize.

disco

July 10th, 2012
10:59 am

slim / mike p – I think I understand where both of you are coming from. like mike p I won’t apologize for being me and I know I rub a lot of folks the wrong way just in general. have I done some things that might warrant an apology? tons. will I apologize for them? likely not. even if my actions are wrong, if I think I’d do the same thing again there’s not much point to apologizing. I hear myself saying “I said it and I’ll say it again” or “I did it and I’ll do it again”. often people don’t want you to apologize for your actions so much as they want an apology for their reaction to your action. they want you to apologize because they feel bad. I’ve long held that I’m not responsible for anyone’s feelings. they better learn to check them at the door. lol. of course, that’s just me.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
11:06 am

Today is a new day….everyday is a new day. Yesterday (literally and figuratively) is gone. No point fretting over what you didn’t do or should have done or should not have done. Tomorrow never comes and all you can do with that is live in the now :)

Okay that was mushy but you can’t be held hostage to the mistakes of yesterday or yesteryear. Extract what you need and move it along.

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
11:08 am

Well its insecurity and being naive to think you’re going to change someone. Women think with their hearts and have this vision of how it’s gonna be, but it doesn’t happen that often. I tend to have paralysis by analysis, look at every angle before making a decision. If more people took a step back to look at the big picture … might save some future drama

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
11:10 am

I think its ok to Apologize at the moment if its deserved, but seeing an ex years later and trying to dwell back on it then it doesn’t make sense. Its so much easier to just cut ties with breakup so it doesn’t get messy and both sides just move on

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
11:11 am

disco – blog monster ate my post…dagnabit!

GracieL

July 10th, 2012
11:11 am

Celisea,

Trying, but PTRD (post traumatic relationship disorder) is not easy to overcome! Like trying to muster up the courage to eat sushi again after spending a week puking and squirting your guts out. ;)

kimmie

July 10th, 2012
11:12 am

Celisea – I agree. Or in other words Keep It Moving!

I have never wasted my time waiting on any past dude to apologize. I call that giving him power he certainly does not deserve. I get on with the living of this short life God gave me, to the best of my ability.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
11:17 am

GracieL – Overcoming is not always easy but it’s do-able :) If you let go, you’ll forget that other stuff. Not forget as in amnesia but forget as in healing and moving on. The further you move away from him and all his issues, the smaller the thing gets. Ever drive away and the further you got the smaller it becomes? THAT’S how you do it!! Not I won’t every forget the crazy unbelieve things that came out of his pores and actions but by the same token, I can forget about it.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
11:18 am

Kimmie – Exactly. I’m not even ashamed for the wrong I’ve done because I know moving forward means I’m moving on. Can’t move forward and backwards at the same time. Moving forward means progress.

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
11:20 am

So if you were going to see your g/f in another city for Valentines Day, but her personality started really changing, and her friend was this guy who lived next door to her in at her Apartment complex. Then she said, maybe we should just go separate ways. Then my response is , really, how long have you been emotionally or physically involved with your neighbor (who I would hang out with when visiting)? She’s like, its not like that, then I laugh and say if thats the guy you want who is lame and awkward, thats on you, c-ya. Then they married eachother. She apologized saying it was bad the way we broke it off, but I didn’t care. Was kinda surprised, but then found humor in it because I was so much better off. Oh, its her birthday today, lol!

Mike P

July 10th, 2012
11:26 am

@slim: A lot of this has to do with the way I was raised and where I grew up. I wasn’t raised in the U.S. In my circle, people tend to believe that I am too harsh or too strict in my judgement. I’ll admit, a lot of people feel that way but I’m not them, I am me, and I am going to go about my day being me. If for example I am dealing with a woman within my circle, they will say I am being too hard on her for this and that; but to me, in my mind, I am being caring, attentive, sincere, and concerned. If I didn’t care enough about what’s bothering me or about her, then I wouldn’t bother mentioning it to her at all. To me this is normal and I will continue behaving normally. If my behaving normally bothers her so much then she’s not the one for me. As you can tell from all my previous post; I am a pretty consistent dude, I don’t change up because of social pressures; that’s some weak zas ish if you ask me.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
11:46 am

I’m eating cherries :) I have a pear for my afternoon snack :)

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
11:49 am

Y’all remember the Cobb County Cop that tried to holler a year or so ago? The one I finally gave my number and told him I was relunctant to give it as I was not looking for a relationship. Remember I told y’all that I told him he could call, I’d be cool hanging out here and there but didn’t want anything….with him? And the moment I gave him my number he text me the next morning saying some bs about hello my beautiful queen….or something like that? Well well well, guess who I ran into yesterday? HIM!!! I so wanted to run the other way but I couldn’t…lol Soooo, I was a lady and chatted with him for a few minutes. He though sent me a message and walked off first…lol I thought it was funny. Sort of felt like, I’m only speaking and that’s all. I was fine with that :)

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
11:50 am

Saw him at Publix

i'm swiss

July 10th, 2012
11:50 am

“I’m eating cherries”

C — Awwwwwwwwwwww yeaaaaaah. I knew you’d come around eventually. Now, where’s my camera??? lol

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
11:51 am

Swiss! LOL…you make me spit a cherry…LOLOLOLOL

abc

July 10th, 2012
11:56 am

I don’t think I have anything to apologize for to any exes; if they want to apologize for anything, they’ll have to track me down first, and I think that’d be a bit creepy — but whatever, that’s fine too. I don’t think such apologies would have any effect on me, though, I’m not holding any grudges. Don’t necessarily need or want to have contact with them either, but hey, if it helps them out, then fine.

i'm swiss

July 10th, 2012
11:56 am

“you make me spit a cherry”

C — You almost made me bust a nut, so I guess we’re even. lol

DreamsMaterialize

July 10th, 2012
12:00 pm

Morning
I think sometimes people apologize with an expectation of being forgiven and then are upset if the response to the apology is not what they wanted. Your apology isn’t about you; it’s about offering genuine regret for the role you may have played in causing distress to someone who really cared about you. You can’t (and shouldn’t try) to control how someone receives that. Just as you made a choice to apologize, they must make the choice to forgive.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
12:03 pm

Swiss!!!!!!! LOLOLOLOLOL

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
12:03 pm

Cel – Your 11:51 did not make that any better lol

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
12:05 pm

Slim – I know right…lol Good thing I didn’t say split a cherry

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
12:10 pm

I must be missing something here cause it seem as if folks think a fling from the past need to be apologetic for some reason. If somebody from months to years done you wrong or vice versa and they missed an opportunity to say sorry that was then. It doesn’t make any sense for somebody to apologize for something that occured ten years prior. If you step on my foot accidently I’m gonna look for you to say something, if it happened ten or more years ago then what’s the use of it.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
12:15 pm

Blackfoote – That’s why I said if you can look back and learn about yourself, then do better with the next. Time won’t permit us to go back like that. Heck even God won’t require you giving a do-over. I will though say, if you live reckless and with no regard, somewhere in your life once you’ve healed, learned better…or however you want to term it, you’ll know yourself what you need to do for making amends. Making amends though is not about the other person, it’s about you. An acknowledgement is good but not necessary for doing better.

The dude that came back to me did it because he wanted to see if there was something left. In that case yeah, if anything is going to happen, it won’t be head of a talk. But I was gone by then. Still had feelings but I’d turned the page already.

Blackfoote – I saw where you hung out on the couch. Sometimes that is the best vacay. Hanging out and doing nothing. Keeping cool and getting fat :)

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
12:16 pm

Ahead of a talk..not head of a talk

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
12:25 pm

Exactly Cely we learn from past mistakes, I don’t ever need a person to say I’m sorry for something they did 15 years ago. I mesh with current issues and my past has set me up to deal responsibly with current events.

disco

July 10th, 2012
12:29 pm

re: old A apologies. an acquaintance of mine recently received an apology from a former tormentor. way back in high school and into their early 20s girl A was essentially bullied by girl B. naturally it was over some little old dusty boy (girl B’s boyfriend, girl A’s baby daddy). girl B eventually married the guy and they are still married now. I guess she got to feeling guilty re harassing the other girl all those years.

DJ Sniper

July 10th, 2012
12:31 pm

Years ago, an ex of mine tried to name me as her child’s father. We got a DNA test and the test proved that I wasn’t. Several years later, she found me on Facebook and asked if I would call her. I did, and she proceeded to apologize for all the drama she put me through. She told me about a lot of stuff that happened when she was younger that caused her to act out the way she did towards me and a few other people. That was very big of her, and her apology was accepted.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
12:33 pm

Blackfoote – Exactly. We don’t have the capacity to store all that stuff….lol

I will say, not too often have I encountered dudes that are rotten to the core. Not even my kid’s dad. He was trifling but I wouldn’t say rotten. I think maybe once or twice have a encountered rotten. I’m getting away from that and just sort of keep it recorded in my psyche…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
12:37 pm

Remember the story where I allowed this tramp to keep from going out with a lady friend I had been dating a while. I accepted full responsibility for my actions, it was wrong, distasteful, and not neccessary. I paid the price, but I also made ammends immediatley not days, weeks, and months later no right then. Although I lost her she said it made a world of difference of how she perceived me afterwards.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
12:37 pm

I don’t go through life waiting on people from the past to apologize to me, but if they take it upon themselves to reach out later to do so, then I would try to appreciate that act. Waiting in limbo on a person to ‘get it or have a light bulb moment’ keeps you anchored in that same spot…in the PAST. Now some apologies just won’t get as much as an eye wink from me….years ago my mothers ex-hubby pulled a gun out on me and that falls into the category of soldier girls rant, “GET OUT MY FACE!” lol

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
12:37 pm

DJ Sniper – That was good

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
12:39 pm

To Slim’s post….Exactly. If you’re rotten and have tried hand me rotten, that’s what you’ll always be to me….sorry. Once I know, I know. There are mistakes and then there’s the lowdown dirty.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
12:47 pm

Slim1 I can get with your 12:37.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
12:53 pm

Slim now singing, “you can get wit dis, or you can get wit dat. You can get wit dis, or you can get wit dat. You can get with this or you can get with that. You can get with this, cuz this is kinda phat” ;-)

kimmie

July 10th, 2012
1:27 pm

Okay, where is everybody?

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
1:28 pm

My daddy’s brother had a saying “life begins at forty”….anyone heard this? As a kid I would think, WTHeck? That’s old and you’ll be near death by that time….lol Silly little girl I was. I’m understanding it now :)

You’re on a new batch of mistakes, not the ones from your twenties…lol On this stretch in life, kids getting gone, creditors are no longer considered the boogie man, doing whatever the heck you want because it won’t be something reckless coupled with a ton of regret or backlash. When you don’t give a hoot what folks think, as you’ve come to understand they’re only people and keeping a standard is not for their sake anyway. Understanding the need to go to bed, not run the streets…lol Understanding and being okay in a 40 year old body and happy to let go of the training bra look. Understanding that it’s okay to look hot at 40 but with a different sexy to it. You can eat what you want but you have no desire to live off ff and honeybuns. Health moves to the forefront. Okay, I rarely cook now but I’m just saying. I’m not hanging out at drive-thrus either….lol And some other stuff………..

All in my opinion of course that unc was on to something. Just sitting here thinking.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
1:43 pm

Cely yes 40’s are a gift and women in or near that age are the pedals on a rose. I’m dazzled to see women at this age with perfect proportions and knowing the games that are played.

kimmie

July 10th, 2012
1:43 pm

Celisea – I’m so feeling that post. Every age range has it’s good & it’s not so great, but I would not go back. It’s incredibly freeing to not care what other think in the sense of living your life to please other people. I’m reading some of these posts saying “imma be me” and “I don’t care about anyone elses feelings”. I remember hearing that alot in my younger years from guys. They didn’t know any better. It’s not about that. You understand that while you don’t center your life around other folks opinions, you don’t go out here all reckless and think you can say what you want to say to people and treat them any kind of way because “that’s me being me”. And then expect people to blow it off and not be affected. Everyone really should strive to treat people like they want to be treated. Some people have a hard time doing that though.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
1:50 pm

Kimmie for girl strength, I know you can be counted on. Good post.

kimmie

July 10th, 2012
1:52 pm

Thanks Blackfoote! :)

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
1:52 pm

Blackfoote – This is a beautiful age and time. Yes it is.

Kimmie – I’m loving it. You know it’s not even about beating your chest and proving what you can and can’t do. It’s just how things flow at this time. IF you’re getting it together and getting things synched in life, then you get this picture overall.

I agree too, the realization of most of what we do is not about other folks looking on but you better believe it affects. I agree too that you CANNOT treat people any kind of way and just blow it off. No you don’t to go back, but age and time should move you along and change your way of thinking and your actions. Who still plays games at 40…heck during their 30s? My uncle would also say if you ain’t got it by now (40s), you won’t get it. I also get that. If you are still reckless and ruthless and unaccountable and blaming others, then the likelihood that you’ll change is slim to none. But again, we’re living our lives and not worrying about what others are doing :)

kimmie

July 10th, 2012
1:59 pm

My uncle would also say if you ain’t got it by now (40s), you won’t get it.

C – My mom used to say the same, about the 30’s! I hear alot of older people saying that though, and I am living to see it’s very true. I have little patience with folk at a certain age still trying to find themselves. Even if you don’t have it all together and figured out, you should at least be a good ways down the right path!

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
2:09 pm

Kimmie – “Trying to find themselves”…lol Who invented that? I don’t have much patience either. It’s not exactly rocket science

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
2:18 pm

kimmie – I guess my singing had scared everyone away. :-(

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
2:22 pm

Slim – what area of Atlanta do you live in?

kimmie

July 10th, 2012
2:31 pm

Slim, I like that song!LOL!!

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
2:31 pm

Me too….took me back a few years….lol

Where’s disco and one of her stories?

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
2:32 pm

Conyers, why?

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
2:35 pm

I don’t even know where Conyers is. Do you go out in Atlanta when you date? If so what areas? Just curious

Willie Dynamite

July 10th, 2012
2:43 pm

Afternoon All,

I have apologized to a few from my past. I didn’t and won’t seek any of them out. I have however acknowledged as I’ve gotten older that I may have misled (inadvertently) a few of them. Sometimes words are not enough to overcome the power of emotions. My actions at the time probably was more in line with there emotional expectations. I am now a big enough MAN to understand this. At the time, the puddy was good and I had my fill and K.I.M.
With that being said;
I apologize to any girl/woman that I may have misled or otherwise taken advantage of in my past. I honestly meant no ill will towards you as a person. My actions were not meant to deceive, manipulate and/or harm your emotional well being. Please accept this blanket apology as my attempt to personally acknowledge the hurt that I may have caused.

Sincurly,

Willie Dynamite

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
2:43 pm

LOLOLOLOLOL…..boy stop

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
2:46 pm

Conyers is down I-20W past Lithonia and yes I have been out in Atlanta. I’ve been to Atlantic Station, Buckhead, Two Urban Licks, Ecco, Straits, Pear, etc….

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
2:49 pm

Right on – I live in Brookhaven right next to Buckhead. That area as some good spots for dates, but for me Buckhead is more a bar scene with friends. Tend to go on dates more in the Virginia Highlands – Midtown – West End. Btw, Two Urban Licks is great! I would own you at some Bocce Ball ;)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

July 10th, 2012
2:58 pm

ATL Guy you’re angling at Slim1, can’t blame you. What takes you over to the West End area you like tan and brown bods? Can’t blame you for that either.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
3:00 pm

AG – I’ve gotten emails about their Bocce Ball events but i’ve never participated. From the enthusiasm in your post, I will assume that it must be fun.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
3:05 pm

BF – I was thinking the same thing…not sure what that’s about but ok. lol

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:07 pm

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:07 pm

Me no speakie the english :)

kimmie

July 10th, 2012
3:07 pm

I think someone slipped up!LOL!!

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:08 pm

HA!! Me no speakie the english

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
3:08 pm

Good afternoon.

I see ATL Guy is sashsaying over to SlimUno.

Tan and brown bods? Ok, my first laugh for the day.

Would you forgive them? – Why not forgive. That way they no longer have any power over your mind nor your emotions.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:08 pm

Me no speakie the english!

Y’all some smart women :)

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
3:09 pm

@Blackfoote – I like SlimOne’s style, what can I say!? I love the West End because its more of an industrial character and they have some of the best restaurants. Bacchanalia, JCT Kitchen, Ormsby’s, West Egg, Octane, Bone Garden Cantina, Antico Pizza, and Compound is over there. Tend to go out there on the weekends

@Slim – Bocce Ball is a simple game but fun with a group of friends over drinks. Starting to see it at more places around the city

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:09 pm

And in walks…………………

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
3:12 pm

kimmie/Cel – Did I miss something?

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:13 pm

Nooooo ma’am. You’re a pretty smart gal. Just keep watching :)

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:14 pm

Oh…and have fun. I’m not a salt shaker….lololol :)

kimmie

July 10th, 2012
3:14 pm

Slim – Not a thing! :cool:

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
3:15 pm

I meant to say I-20 EAST, not west…

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:16 pm

and (eventually) in walks……………..

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
3:17 pm

I like SlimOne’s style

AG – And what style would that be? Do I emit some sort of blog swag? lol

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
3:20 pm

Yeah – you go out to quality places and seem to be respectful. If thats called Blog Swag then so be it :) Check out Rathbun’s Steak, the chef won Iron Chef and the food is pretty amazing

cba

July 10th, 2012
3:20 pm

Slim-I live in Conyers….I was gonna correct you but he probably has gps anyway (LoL)

Celisea- not tiptoeing….I only have one good ear :lol:

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:21 pm

cba – LOLOLOL :) :)

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
3:21 pm

ATL – you go to Compound???

Aren’t the attendees’ age there starting around 20+, usually ending with 30+?

This is hysterical.

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
3:26 pm

Leggs where do you frequent the Sinatra Room at Johnny’s Hideaway? Place hasn’t changed since 1970 so might feel more in your element

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:27 pm

Well, at least there was some sort of metamorphoses and I no longer have to worry about Elijah. I guess the transition is now complete!

Slim – Just don’t go getting yourself destroyed or threatened with such. Remember that was what a week ago? And make sure he’s understanding of you so he won’t have to turn over a new leaf. At least that’s what he said. He was turning over a new leaf to be more understanding of me. Not sure what that’s about. He said we’ve never met????

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
3:32 pm

Celisea – I’ve never met you so I don’t know why you keep saying that. Maybe you want to meet up, thats cool :)

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
3:37 pm

cba – I guess I’m hardly at home so I’m mostly traveling west as opposed to east towards home lol

AG – I will definitely put Rathbun’s on my list of places to try. I love exploring new things, within reason. ;-)

Cel :lol: I did not forget all that ruckus…I was leaning side ways to see what the line of questioning was about. It’s all good in my neck of the woods.

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
3:40 pm

ATL ~ please don’t get it twisted. You may know my age, that doesn’t make me a relic. I probably party better and harder than you when I party. Now, I’m not coming at you with any jabs so don’t jab me.

I was merely asking the age of the Compound because I’ve heard its a younger clientele.

Willie Dynamite

July 10th, 2012
3:40 pm

This is like Day time soaps. Where is Victor Newman when you need him.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:42 pm

Slim – Oh, I already picked up on where you was going. You can hold your own. I just didn’t want somebody to think I was tryna block…lol Like I said, I’m not salt shaker. I have my own thing going :)

WillieD – Stop it!! And what do you know bout Vic?

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
3:43 pm

Leggs – we should party this weekend and see who can keep up with who ;) You’ll Get Served! Take an honest guess how old I am Leggs and I’ll give you a + or – to the direction of your number

disco

July 10th, 2012
3:44 pm

okay. i’m back.

Kimmie – it was me. I said it. LOL. (re the not caring about people’s feelings). Like I said, I don’t go around aiming to hurt folks but if I do – especially if I do on purpose – I sure as heck don’t intend to apologize.

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
3:46 pm

I could give a rat’s ass your age!

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:46 pm

LOLOLOLOL….I ain’t lying, I almost died at your 3:46….LOLOLOL I was NOT expecting that.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
3:48 pm

I’ve been to the Compound once a few years ago and it was super crowded. I’m not sure if they usually have celebs there but it was a multiple celebrity night when I went. (T.I, Keyshia Cole, Diddy, the 106 & Park hosts)

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
3:49 pm

:shock: :lol: :lol: Slim now singing, “it’s getting hot in herrr, so take off all your clothes….

Willie Dynamite

July 10th, 2012
3:50 pm

Yall are funny funny funny

Cel – get my email addy and hit me up or post yours. I got something for you (no not like that). Unless you gon do it – said in my Nelly voice. Hahaha

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:52 pm

WilliiiiiiiiieD – What’s up mayne??

beacea95@yahoo.com

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:53 pm

WillieD – I got something for you (no not like that).

Chile, I’m not even worried about that :)

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:54 pm

This should cue up some of the others. What others you ask? Hmmmm

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
3:55 pm

You seemed to care about the age of the clientele where I go … now you don’t care about age. Quit being Bi-Polar & just love me :)

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
3:57 pm

Cel – yeah, I don’t see anyone being in a mood to play ‘Guess My Age’, after being told they should hang out in the Sinatra Lounge :lol:

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
3:57 pm

I can appreciate anyone’s confidence, Celisea, but how you going to tell someone they will “get served” and they’ve never partied with you, seen you, let alone danced with you!

We’ve all been the server or the servee at some point!

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
3:58 pm

Slim – Annnnd I wasn’t expecting that…lol Y’all are funny as heck. But yeah, you’re right :)

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
3:58 pm

Hmmm, Just love me???? My ex would always say JLM for Just love me :???:

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
3:59 pm

ATL ~ it wasn’t a “care” it was a question. We ask them here all day everyday!

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:00 pm

I can be your Ex too Slim if you let me take you out then you dump me 30 mins later :)

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:01 pm

@Leggs – you ‘cared’ enough to ask the ‘question’

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:01 pm

Leggs – Exactly and there you have it. I guess I’m just blown away at ATL Guy’s confidence that he can change faces and personalities a million times, oh and change stories and believe none of us are watching??? Who does that?

ATL Guy – I will take the high road and call a truce (I guess, since you don’t know me). I will ask that you pick one name and stay with it. No matter if you been blogging under that name and are changing them like you’re changing clothes. I read VERY well in between the lines. That may have been your name but…..oh never mind. Pick a name, a girl you want to have a crush on and don’t be sloppy and disrespectful. And don’t think you’re THAT smart. Like I said I know it’s all virtual but we can see the scene when you type. Kill the shenanigans and go straight.

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:01 pm

You funny, ATL. Nothing bipolar about me. I could give a rat’s ass about finding out your age because I already know your age! Your + or – scale means nothing to me.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:04 pm

We can see the scene. TRRRRRUST me, no one is fighting over you. It’s like you’re doing a monologue. You’ll speak as one person and then run to the other side and answer back. Some of this seems to be strongly derived from your wicked little imagination…I guess…since we don’t know each. Unless, I know you under another name?

It’s not important. Get in line dude.

Willie Dynamite

July 10th, 2012
4:06 pm

Cel – wait a min. Don’t dismiss me like that. I been taking notes and my sheeps clothing has become quite an ensemble. Hahaha

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:06 pm

ATL ~ what can i say, you caught me. I wanted to know if young chicks with milk behind their ears still frequent the place. Now, old wannabe mack daddy’s trying to mack in that environment is another story. If it ain’t you, good for you!!! Perhaps, you might need to frequent the Frank Sinatra lounge a little so you can stay grounded. IJS…

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:06 pm

@Cel – I will stay with this name because its the only one I used (like 2 yrs ago) then just found this blog again last week. Again, first time I talked to you was last week so I’m not sure what this truce thing is about. Whoever did you wrong before, it wasn’t me so lets make that clear.

@Leggs – Relax a little bit. You already know my age? Thats cool then

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:07 pm

kimmie

July 10th, 2012
4:07 pm

Work it, Willie!! :lol:

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:08 pm

ATL Guy – You’ve been on this blog since 2008…at least the name. I googled it. Like Leggs said, don’t come on here thinking you’re THAT slick. WE ARE NOT STUPID OTAY???

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:11 pm

I’m a SMART gal. If you pop on here OUT OF THE BLUE, making threats, I take them seriously. It’s better and more manly to own it than to back pedal. You was going with it until I dropped names. You wouldn’t be worried about your “real person” being tarnished would you?

Willie – Stop it…lolol Check emails.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

July 10th, 2012
4:11 pm

It’s like you’re doing a monologue. You’ll speak as one person and then run to the other side and answer back.

:lol:

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:11 pm

And if you’d like, I can send you the link in private. Shall I use the address I have on record? Or, is there one under ATL Guy or should I use the addy for Elijah?

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:12 pm

I have the link to where you were blogging in 2008

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:14 pm

And if you want to go after someone else, when it was a bust with me, I’m okay with that. What you didn’t know is that you ain’t gotta sneak. I’m a big girl.

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:14 pm

I’m relaxed, ATL. Really, I am. I just don’t take kindly to somone trying to “jones” me and think I’ll cower…not my style.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
4:16 pm

Ohhh weeee, post it, post it, post it for all to read :-D

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:17 pm

WE ARE NOT STUPID OTAY???

I HOLLERED…

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:18 pm

Elijah? What are you talking about??? I thought we cleared this up last week that you had the wrong person. Maybe its the same name someone else used, I have no idea. You’re kind of looking crazy talking about being smart but being totally off base.

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:18 pm

SlimUno ~ sit down and stop instigating (lol).

kimmie

July 10th, 2012
4:19 pm

:lol:

Mess always seems to resurface!!

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:19 pm

Post what you have, I want to read it too because you’re confusing the hell out of me

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:20 pm

I still like Slim because she is respectful & classy :)

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:22 pm

ATL Guy – All I will say is this, I’m a match for you….and you know it. If you threatened me again, I will post it all verbatim. Pick a woman under your real person and stay with that….ut, unless you can’t??? Like I said, you don’t fool me. You are dangerous to say the least. People walking around threatening, baiting (which you did all day yesterday), pretending, outslicking (so you think), misleading….you my friend are dangerous.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

July 10th, 2012
4:23 pm

Shall I use the address I have on record? Or, is there one under ATL Guy or should I use the addy for Elijah?

:shock:

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:26 pm

I didn’t Threaten anyone, stop making stuff up or getting me mixed for someone else. Can you post what you have so I know what you’re talking about (again it wasn’t me). I’m not sure why you can’t understand this since you’re so smart and everything. Tired of repeating myself

DreamsMaterialize

July 10th, 2012
4:26 pm

Man this is Dallas meets CSI on the blog.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
4:26 pm

Leggs – lol, the proof is in the pudding so I say bring it on. This maybe just the thing we need to make these last few minutes go by. ;-) Somebody is going to go Stevie J up in here. lol

DreamsMaterialize

July 10th, 2012
4:28 pm

Yeah go ‘head and post it Celly Cel! Willie D you got any ‘popcone’ fa sale?

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:28 pm

I want her to send something to some guy’s address she has and that guy will be like “huh?” LoL Hysterical

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:29 pm

Post It Post It Post It !

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:33 pm

Slim – also check out ‘4th & Swift’ on N. Ave that place has some excellent food. They tend to have specials on Sundays

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:33 pm

ATL Guy – I’ll just defer you to YOUR post on 6/29, page 3. You could destroy me. Riiiight that was a DIFFERENT ATL Guy. Where’s your alter ego (for this week), Single and Happy? He’s on here asking about what suncreen is best for blacks (as if he’s black). Leggs said she didn’t know and (you know me), asked you’re 50 (per his posting) and asking about sun screen after all these years? So he give some cockamamie (sp)story pretty much, that he’s black and don’t worry about that kind of stuff. BUT mind you, he didn’t remember the week before he said he was heading on vacay and all he was concerned about was working on his tan.

Dude you gonna drive yourself crazy and eat us all up.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:33 pm

He said he NEVER tans.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:35 pm

I want her to send something to some guy’s address she has and that guy will be like “huh?” LoL Hysterical

Reverse psychology….please I wish I would. That’s all you want me to do. Sitting here watching and following my every move. And out of spite (I won’t tell it), you hanging on to Slim. Call me a lie??

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:37 pm

DreamsM ~ Celisea is the female version of Vincent D’Ofinio (sp?) on Law and Order, SV

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:38 pm

Are you making this stuff about about the sunscreen? I did say I would destroy you on this blog if you wanted to battle cause you were fronting and now I know why, you thought I was someone else! I was going on Vacation to the North-East last week so working on my tan doesn’t make sense. You’re about 50% correct, I’ll give you that

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:41 pm

There’s no reverse pyschology, you’re making this stuff up because I want to see what post you have because no one in here knows what you’re talking about with Ellijay or whatever you’re saying. You can’t seem to admit that you have me confused with someone else. Stubbornness will be your downfall

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:41 pm

Atl Guy – Just stop it okay? Get in line. EVERYONE HERE CAN SEE THROUGH YOUR SHENANIGANS. Did you hear that? Apparently something keeps slipping through so I yelled it that time…lol

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:41 pm

New phrase “someone is going to go StevieJ” up in here….that was very funny.

Now, that’s one punk a$$, egotistical short dude. Someone blew on his ding-a-ling and he SNAPPED!

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:44 pm

I’m good – you’re the one that keeps Squawking and acting like a Clown. Didn’t you say you were taking the high road or calling a truce? I have no issue with you, I don’t even know who you are so its all gravy

cba

July 10th, 2012
4:44 pm

Cel-you telling me S&H isn’t legit?? Say it ain’t so LOL
Why do I read a tad bit of HIST in all of this…

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:46 pm

cba – Yeah, but you already know….lololol

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:48 pm

tsk, tsk, tsk….

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:52 pm

I must remain a lady. Don’t get it twisted, pushing back don’t mean I’m not one. No doormat here. Be respectful and you’ll get it in return. Show your ass and get that in return as well.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
4:53 pm

The beau called up to the job a few hours ago trying to get dinner plans in order. So I eventually told him I had some stuff to do so i had to cut the convo short. This fool sends me a text saying, “Imma Stevie J yo arse for rushing me off the phone”….So I told him If he keeps talking crazy, I’ll go Mimi on his arse and take 20% :lol:

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:53 pm

cba – HST…and others. Y’all ain’t ever wonder why so much angst from me? Y’all ain’t ever wondered why I’m always targeted by “newbies” and why there’s so much disdain if I call someone a troll??? Now you know why. I’m not uptight all the time. That’s what’s been going on the whole time.

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:56 pm

Cel – you aren’t a lady … you are a certified psychopath. Don’t get THAT Twisted

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:57 pm

Don’t you just hate it when someone gets it twisted…..

DreamsMaterialize

July 10th, 2012
4:57 pm

DreamsM ~ Celisea is the female version of Vincent D’Ofinio (sp?) on Law and Order, SV
Leggs I know. I’m just waiting for her to unravel the story at the end so we can all see how it’s going to play out. lol Get to it already Celly Cel!

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:57 pm

OMG, I am cracking up, SlimUno. Now, that was hilarious!

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
5:00 pm

Stop that damn tip toeing and bring the heat. :lol:

Had to go there with your moniker (lol).

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
5:01 pm

Yall be easy…have a good relaxed evening

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
5:01 pm

Dreams – Said in the voice of She nae nae….I’m a laaaady…lololol

I ain’t thinking about that crackpot. As long as he stays in his lane. Holler at the paint on the walls for all I can…lol…just move over and do it.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
5:02 pm

Leggs – LOLOLOL…I’ll play nice if “he” plays nice. He should just move on past me when he sees me and I’ll do the same and we’re good :)

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
5:03 pm

Atl Guy – I am a lady, just not yours.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
5:04 pm

Oh and I’m not “acting” hard. Remember you said “Acting hard – We know better” Not at all, just not scared or intimidated by you. And with that I’m out.

Night folks. Post what you wanna, I’m good :)

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
5:04 pm

Oh, I forgot that was the “other” ATL Guy that said that because you don’t know me.

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
5:11 pm

Ok everybody, show is over…please gather your items and leave…this joint is closing for the day!

Note to Maintenance: Need a fresh coat of paint on these walls….too much spittle dripping

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
5:12 pm

LOLOLOL….Leggs!!! Night for real

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
5:15 pm

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
5:16 pm

SlimUno

July 11th, 2012
8:14 am

GOOD MORNING! Will we be bootleg blogging today??