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Ex-files: Should you apologize?

“I’m sorry if I ever caused you any pain”. These 8 words popped up on my text messages last week. I didn’t recognize the number, but I didn’t have to. I knew who it was from. I knew why he was saying I’m sorry. I knew that I was not going to reply back.

After years of holding animosity, the text message actually brought closure. Closure I didn’t even know I wanted. Maybe apologizing for your romantic crimes is a good idea? When break ups get messy, people get hurt. Would it be that hard to make amends and let the person know you really felt bad for the way you treated the?

Do you ever regret the way you ended things with someone? Do you feel bad about how you handled situations in the past? Do you think you should apologize to the person?

Has an ex ever reached out to you to apologize for hurting you? Do you think it is appropriate to respond? Would you forgive them?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

209 comments Add your comment

Willie Dynamite

July 10th, 2012
4:06 pm

Cel – wait a min. Don’t dismiss me like that. I been taking notes and my sheeps clothing has become quite an ensemble. Hahaha

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:06 pm

ATL ~ what can i say, you caught me. I wanted to know if young chicks with milk behind their ears still frequent the place. Now, old wannabe mack daddy’s trying to mack in that environment is another story. If it ain’t you, good for you!!! Perhaps, you might need to frequent the Frank Sinatra lounge a little so you can stay grounded. IJS…

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:06 pm

@Cel – I will stay with this name because its the only one I used (like 2 yrs ago) then just found this blog again last week. Again, first time I talked to you was last week so I’m not sure what this truce thing is about. Whoever did you wrong before, it wasn’t me so lets make that clear.

@Leggs – Relax a little bit. You already know my age? Thats cool then

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:07 pm

kimmie

July 10th, 2012
4:07 pm

Work it, Willie!! :lol:

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:08 pm

ATL Guy – You’ve been on this blog since 2008…at least the name. I googled it. Like Leggs said, don’t come on here thinking you’re THAT slick. WE ARE NOT STUPID OTAY???

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:11 pm

I’m a SMART gal. If you pop on here OUT OF THE BLUE, making threats, I take them seriously. It’s better and more manly to own it than to back pedal. You was going with it until I dropped names. You wouldn’t be worried about your “real person” being tarnished would you?

Willie – Stop it…lolol Check emails.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

July 10th, 2012
4:11 pm

It’s like you’re doing a monologue. You’ll speak as one person and then run to the other side and answer back.

:lol:

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:11 pm

And if you’d like, I can send you the link in private. Shall I use the address I have on record? Or, is there one under ATL Guy or should I use the addy for Elijah?

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:12 pm

I have the link to where you were blogging in 2008

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:14 pm

And if you want to go after someone else, when it was a bust with me, I’m okay with that. What you didn’t know is that you ain’t gotta sneak. I’m a big girl.

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:14 pm

I’m relaxed, ATL. Really, I am. I just don’t take kindly to somone trying to “jones” me and think I’ll cower…not my style.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
4:16 pm

Ohhh weeee, post it, post it, post it for all to read :-D

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:17 pm

WE ARE NOT STUPID OTAY???

I HOLLERED…

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:18 pm

Elijah? What are you talking about??? I thought we cleared this up last week that you had the wrong person. Maybe its the same name someone else used, I have no idea. You’re kind of looking crazy talking about being smart but being totally off base.

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:18 pm

SlimUno ~ sit down and stop instigating (lol).

kimmie

July 10th, 2012
4:19 pm

:lol:

Mess always seems to resurface!!

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:19 pm

Post what you have, I want to read it too because you’re confusing the hell out of me

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:20 pm

I still like Slim because she is respectful & classy :)

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:22 pm

ATL Guy – All I will say is this, I’m a match for you….and you know it. If you threatened me again, I will post it all verbatim. Pick a woman under your real person and stay with that….ut, unless you can’t??? Like I said, you don’t fool me. You are dangerous to say the least. People walking around threatening, baiting (which you did all day yesterday), pretending, outslicking (so you think), misleading….you my friend are dangerous.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

July 10th, 2012
4:23 pm

Shall I use the address I have on record? Or, is there one under ATL Guy or should I use the addy for Elijah?

:shock:

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:26 pm

I didn’t Threaten anyone, stop making stuff up or getting me mixed for someone else. Can you post what you have so I know what you’re talking about (again it wasn’t me). I’m not sure why you can’t understand this since you’re so smart and everything. Tired of repeating myself

DreamsMaterialize

July 10th, 2012
4:26 pm

Man this is Dallas meets CSI on the blog.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
4:26 pm

Leggs – lol, the proof is in the pudding so I say bring it on. This maybe just the thing we need to make these last few minutes go by. ;-) Somebody is going to go Stevie J up in here. lol

DreamsMaterialize

July 10th, 2012
4:28 pm

Yeah go ‘head and post it Celly Cel! Willie D you got any ‘popcone’ fa sale?

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:28 pm

I want her to send something to some guy’s address she has and that guy will be like “huh?” LoL Hysterical

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:29 pm

Post It Post It Post It !

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:33 pm

Slim – also check out ‘4th & Swift’ on N. Ave that place has some excellent food. They tend to have specials on Sundays

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:33 pm

ATL Guy – I’ll just defer you to YOUR post on 6/29, page 3. You could destroy me. Riiiight that was a DIFFERENT ATL Guy. Where’s your alter ego (for this week), Single and Happy? He’s on here asking about what suncreen is best for blacks (as if he’s black). Leggs said she didn’t know and (you know me), asked you’re 50 (per his posting) and asking about sun screen after all these years? So he give some cockamamie (sp)story pretty much, that he’s black and don’t worry about that kind of stuff. BUT mind you, he didn’t remember the week before he said he was heading on vacay and all he was concerned about was working on his tan.

Dude you gonna drive yourself crazy and eat us all up.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:33 pm

He said he NEVER tans.

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:35 pm

I want her to send something to some guy’s address she has and that guy will be like “huh?” LoL Hysterical

Reverse psychology….please I wish I would. That’s all you want me to do. Sitting here watching and following my every move. And out of spite (I won’t tell it), you hanging on to Slim. Call me a lie??

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:37 pm

DreamsM ~ Celisea is the female version of Vincent D’Ofinio (sp?) on Law and Order, SV

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:38 pm

Are you making this stuff about about the sunscreen? I did say I would destroy you on this blog if you wanted to battle cause you were fronting and now I know why, you thought I was someone else! I was going on Vacation to the North-East last week so working on my tan doesn’t make sense. You’re about 50% correct, I’ll give you that

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:41 pm

There’s no reverse pyschology, you’re making this stuff up because I want to see what post you have because no one in here knows what you’re talking about with Ellijay or whatever you’re saying. You can’t seem to admit that you have me confused with someone else. Stubbornness will be your downfall

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:41 pm

Atl Guy – Just stop it okay? Get in line. EVERYONE HERE CAN SEE THROUGH YOUR SHENANIGANS. Did you hear that? Apparently something keeps slipping through so I yelled it that time…lol

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:41 pm

New phrase “someone is going to go StevieJ” up in here….that was very funny.

Now, that’s one punk a$$, egotistical short dude. Someone blew on his ding-a-ling and he SNAPPED!

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:44 pm

I’m good – you’re the one that keeps Squawking and acting like a Clown. Didn’t you say you were taking the high road or calling a truce? I have no issue with you, I don’t even know who you are so its all gravy

cba

July 10th, 2012
4:44 pm

Cel-you telling me S&H isn’t legit?? Say it ain’t so LOL
Why do I read a tad bit of HIST in all of this…

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:46 pm

cba – Yeah, but you already know….lololol

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:48 pm

tsk, tsk, tsk….

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:52 pm

I must remain a lady. Don’t get it twisted, pushing back don’t mean I’m not one. No doormat here. Be respectful and you’ll get it in return. Show your ass and get that in return as well.

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
4:53 pm

The beau called up to the job a few hours ago trying to get dinner plans in order. So I eventually told him I had some stuff to do so i had to cut the convo short. This fool sends me a text saying, “Imma Stevie J yo arse for rushing me off the phone”….So I told him If he keeps talking crazy, I’ll go Mimi on his arse and take 20% :lol:

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
4:53 pm

cba – HST…and others. Y’all ain’t ever wonder why so much angst from me? Y’all ain’t ever wondered why I’m always targeted by “newbies” and why there’s so much disdain if I call someone a troll??? Now you know why. I’m not uptight all the time. That’s what’s been going on the whole time.

ATL Guy

July 10th, 2012
4:56 pm

Cel – you aren’t a lady … you are a certified psychopath. Don’t get THAT Twisted

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:57 pm

Don’t you just hate it when someone gets it twisted…..

DreamsMaterialize

July 10th, 2012
4:57 pm

DreamsM ~ Celisea is the female version of Vincent D’Ofinio (sp?) on Law and Order, SV
Leggs I know. I’m just waiting for her to unravel the story at the end so we can all see how it’s going to play out. lol Get to it already Celly Cel!

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
4:57 pm

OMG, I am cracking up, SlimUno. Now, that was hilarious!

Leggs

July 10th, 2012
5:00 pm

Stop that damn tip toeing and bring the heat. :lol:

Had to go there with your moniker (lol).

SlimUno

July 10th, 2012
5:01 pm

Yall be easy…have a good relaxed evening

Celisea...tiptoeing through the tulips headed for vacay!!

July 10th, 2012
5:01 pm

Dreams – Said in the voice of She nae nae….I’m a laaaady…lololol

I ain’t thinking about that crackpot. As long as he stays in his lane. Holler at the paint on the walls for all I can…lol…just move over and do it.