Dating without a job?
The unemployment numbers are bleak, so logic dictates the dating numbers of the unemployed are equally sad. According to a recent survey conducted by It’s Just Lunch, most women are not willing to date a man without a job.
Now, this does not mean that women are gold diggers. I think it is a reflection of how women view men as providers. Aside from that, have you ever dated someone who didn’t have a job? They often have a lot of internal issues going on, understandably. They may not be able to focus on which restaurant their date may want to try.
One thing I found interesting is the double standard involved. Men don’t mind dating unemployed women! I suppose that makes sense:
“Though joblessness is a social stigma for men, unemployed women have much better odds of meeting someone. Almost two out of every three men are open to dating a woman who is out of work. 19% say they have no reservations at all and 46% were positive, but interested in knowing how unemployed women spend their time.”
How difficult would it be to date someone who was in between jobs, or out of work for extended amounts of time?
Have you ever been out of work and continued to date? How did you make it work? When do you tell your date that you are jobless?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
accessAtlanta Partner Sites
Sections
Advertise on accessAtlanta.com »
Reach the audience you want by advertising on accessAtlanta.com
Join the Access Atlanta Network »
Advertisers and Publishers, expand your reach by joining the Access Atlanta Network.
Tell us what you think about the site
Visitor Agreement | Privacy Statement | About our ads
© 2013 The Atlanta Journal-Constitution
126 comments Add your comment
I'Mjustsaying
July 6th, 2012
12:25 pm
If the shoe was on the other foot……..and you say women are not diggers. I could think of some other words, “high maintenance”, etc., fill in the blank___________.
Leggs
July 6th, 2012
12:31 pm
What is I’Mjustsaying saying???
disco
July 6th, 2012
12:33 pm
something about somebody or other’s shoe is on the wrong foot?
Leggs
July 6th, 2012
12:34 pm
Oh, I thought he needed some type of maintenance done on something he didn’t have (perhaps a woman)
disco
July 6th, 2012
12:38 pm
or maybe something about digging up some plants and getting high. i can’t quite make it out.
SlimUno
July 6th, 2012
12:40 pm
I’MS – Well if a dude would knowingly date a chick without a job, how then does she get branded “gold digger” or whatever else you can think of? Then if she chooses not to date a guy with no job, still considered a gd
i'm swiss
July 6th, 2012
12:49 pm
“In choosing between a successful businesswoman, a retail sales clerk and an unemployed woman, a man is overwhelmingly most likely to pick the one with the biggest teeots.”
Speak for yourself, abc. Personally, I’d go for the one with the nicest booty.
SlimUno
July 6th, 2012
12:54 pm
swissie – When do you find out if you’ll be buying ballerina shoes or a football?
i'm swiss
July 6th, 2012
12:58 pm
Hi Slim. We’re still about a month away from finding out it’s a boy. Er, I mean, whether it’s a boy or girl. lol
Leggs
July 6th, 2012
1:03 pm
That was a good one, disco!
Leggs
July 6th, 2012
1:10 pm
swiss ~ give it up, you’re having a girl….
SlimUno
July 6th, 2012
1:12 pm
swiss – Leggs has spoken…have you started clearing out your man cave area yet? lol
SlimUno
July 6th, 2012
1:15 pm
Yall check this out….I think i’ll start saving my change..
http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/sideshow/man-makes-final-house-payment-pennies-144051687.html
Exiled!
July 6th, 2012
1:21 pm
I would think a dude will date or go for a jobless chic becoz the puddy comes quicker…shes down,she likes to be dined,she got no money herself, so simple spoiling,like dining her,buying her lil this or little that seems like a guy is going extra mile when infact its not a whole lot..but the perception in the jobless girl..is,the guy is doing real good for her…but its quick puddy for him…
But let me say this..I have always believed that treating a chic well…with targeted spendings..flowers,dining,buying her complimentary stuff she likes…Always peels the panties faster in my book…
Let me wait and see if Swiss agree!
Exiled!
July 6th, 2012
1:22 pm
perception, in the jobless girl’s mind
Exiled!
July 6th, 2012
1:25 pm
nicest body with ample(not Bazzooka big) but enough size big teetos for me Swiss!
if theyre big enough for u to sit on them lightly while she gives the hammer oral arguments…….well and good then
(under the stairs i go)
i'm swiss
July 6th, 2012
1:27 pm
Leggs / Slim — Actually, girl or boy is fine for me. Either way, I’m going to be grooming the next Wimbledon champion.
Leggs
July 6th, 2012
1:27 pm
Dang, Ex, you making it sound like a jobless chick is a dumb chick.
kimmie
July 6th, 2012
1:28 pm
Exiled – That could also be twisted around to fit a jobless dude. If it’s a chick that likes to be in control and just needs stud service, when she wants, where she wants it. Dude won’t have much to say, cause it’s not like he has to get up to go to a job the next morning!
Leggs
July 6th, 2012
1:32 pm
That’s great swiss..I guarantee you’ll get one or the other (lol).
Tancred
July 6th, 2012
1:39 pm
…most women are not willing to date a man without a job.
No surprise here. Women are selfish, vain, and unable to develop any sense of free will. They are not worth the time or effort. That’s why I stay single.
kimmie
July 6th, 2012
1:40 pm
Leggs
July 6th, 2012
1:44 pm
and probably sexless….
Natasha
July 6th, 2012
1:50 pm
Just recently I found myself in this situation (this week actually).
I met a really nice guy, who just lost his job last Friday. We met one week before he lost his job. I proceeded with caution right from the beginning (but obviously not enough) because there were alot of meetings going on about his job when I met him. Luckily feelings weren’t involved, but it was a shame! What a good guy! But I think what bother’s me the most about it now is that he’s 37! And that it wasn’t a stable job to begin with.. I have also dated someone who was “underemployed” and I use that term loosely. I didn’t care, but now I do. It creates too many problems. I am now at a point where I really don’t care if I’m considered a gold digger or not, because I went to school, got a good job, and now have a really good life. And if I can do it as a woman, my man should be able to as well.
Conclusion: I agree with @Stonethrower “No Romance without finance.”
MsML5
July 6th, 2012
1:54 pm
@Natasha…And if I can do it as a woman, my man should be able to as well. …..completely agree!!!!
Just Saying
July 6th, 2012
1:55 pm
Tancred – that is so sexist of you. common have a little respect
SlimUno
July 6th, 2012
2:01 pm
Just Saying – Are you in anyway related to I’Mjustsaying
Leggs
July 6th, 2012
2:05 pm
kimmie
July 6th, 2012
2:10 pm
Natasha – I know what you mean by underemployed. It’s one thing to bag groceries at Publix just to bring in some money until you get another career position. It’s another when, YEARS down the road, at age 40, he’s STILL bagging groceries. That’s called no drive to me.
Most folks that shout out golddigger really don’t know the definition, I think. A golddigger is just that, digging for gold, not Joe Blow the postman or high school football coach. She’s going after the ballers and shot callers, not even the low-end 6 figures. Just wanting a dude with a regular job that can support himself like a productive adult isn’t the definition, not in my book anyway!
Just Saying
July 6th, 2012
2:11 pm
No i am not I’MjustSaying
Just Saying
July 6th, 2012
2:14 pm
this topic is very tricky so i will not comment, i will not want my sisters to date a jobless guy and at the same time i will not want a woman to leave me because I lost my job.
Leggs
July 6th, 2012
2:16 pm
she was asking if you guys were related (not if you have two monikers…lol).
Well, that joke fell flat.
Just Saying
July 6th, 2012
2:17 pm
What was the Joke supposed to be?
SlimUno
July 6th, 2012
2:19 pm
Leggs – Now I feel like saying, I’m just sayin
kimmie
July 6th, 2012
2:19 pm
Just Saying – Most of the ladies are saying they would not START OUT with a jobless guy. Sounds like most would try to stick by a good guy if he ran into some bad luck after there is an established relationship and is making every effort possible to get back on his feet. If he started slacking off, it’s 2 years down the road and he’s not even trying and gotten comfortable living off his woman – Houston we have a problem!
While I wouldn’t want to see anyone lose their job, I do think it shows much about the person that’s able to bounce back and handle adversity.
disco
July 6th, 2012
2:19 pm
I am having my “ally mcbeal” moments again. I swear I see myself swinging a 3 hole punch at someone’s head.
SlimUno
July 6th, 2012
2:21 pm
Just wanting a dude with a regular job that can support himself like a productive adult isn’t the definition, not in my book anyway!
kimmie – I’m sure you don’t need me to co-sign but I will anyway. lol Now if you are scoping out Sugar Daddy For Me websites then that may qualify you to be a GD.
kimmie
July 6th, 2012
2:23 pm
Slim- Hey, if it quacks like a duck………
SlimUno
July 6th, 2012
2:27 pm
I was out of work for 13 months when I got laid off from a previous employer and I was so stressed and felt like a fish out of water. I had never gone that amount of time without working so I can only imagine the toll it would take on a man who is also still trying to date. I’m not out here looking for a dude to take care of me in the sense i can’t handle regular adult things. I want his love, support, understanding and life experiences. I don’t see guys for their wallet size
SlimUno
July 6th, 2012
2:31 pm
Just because a chick dates a successful man doesnt make her a golddigger either…how about all the successful women out here dating slackerass men…only thing they are doing is slanging some vitamin D. But I guess that’s alright though because that makes him a ‘pimp’
Celisea
July 6th, 2012
2:39 pm
Never a blog day passes where someone is not in need of manties…gheesh
Celisea
July 6th, 2012
2:42 pm
Just saying
SlimUno
July 6th, 2012
2:43 pm
We should have a blog field day…the Manties versus the Vests
SlimUno
July 6th, 2012
2:44 pm
Or we could issue a daily Manty of the day award
kimmie
July 6th, 2012
2:44 pm
Slim – I dated a guy once that labeled EVERY woman he knew dating a successful guy a golddigger. I’m not just talking women that dated athletes or entertainers either. One of my good friends dated this basketball player, but they were high school sweethearts from a small GA town and then went on to the same college! GOLDDIGGER!! Another friend dated a guy she met that was WORKING ON his MBA in accounting. GOLDDIGGER!! I finally asked him just what his problem was!!!
disco
July 6th, 2012
2:46 pm
kimmie – his problem was he was a broke joker with no game who was simply jealous. lol.
Celisea
July 6th, 2012
2:46 pm
LOLOLOL – Manty of the Day Award….yeah
And for those that keep whining, you won’t get that extra give of material for you ahems….you get panties.
Leggs
July 6th, 2012
2:47 pm
Wasn’t really a joke, just a teeny tiny funny…it has passed (lol).
Hey, I won. Jazz tickets to see Michael Franks, Rachelle Ferrell, Jonathan Butler, etc. WOO HOO!!! Carol Blackmon said, “girl you never give up!”
SlimUno
July 6th, 2012
2:51 pm
Leggs – I might have to have you call in on my behalf during the periods you cannot win lol
kimmie
July 6th, 2012
2:54 pm
Leggs – That’s a great lineup! Cool!!