I am unofficially calling dating paranoia a legitimate condition that many singles suffer. It is the unreasonable, unhealthy fear that everyone you meet is a murderer, psycho, or sexually confused individual that is out to get you. Newsflash: There are normal people out there and they usually find a way to find one another.

If you are paranoid about everyone one you meet and date, perhaps the issue is you. I’m just saying. At what point do you decide to trust your own instincts? All of us have made stupid decisions in the selection process of dating, but aren’t we supposed to learn from them?

Have you ever dated someone who just seemed too good to be true? Do you get paranoid that they will turn out to be someone else?

Do you get the sense that sometimes we look for things to be wrong with people to avoid getting too close?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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A recent study at the University of Michigan revealed that sexting has “become a normal part of the dating process for young adults.” That means it’s not shocking, unexpected, or inappropriate for men and women aged 18-24. So our smartphones are now turned into xxx-phones, that apparently is a part of the wooing process, umm does this news bother anyone?

I wonder about the fine line between sexting responsibly – and sexting irresponsibly i.e. Congressman Weiner style.

When do you think it is appropriate to send a dirty text message or picture? Guys, if a woman sent one without you asking her first, would you judge her? What if you had just met her?

Do you think that there is a way to pull off sexting so that it intensifies the attraction instead of kills it?

Have you ever received a racy text or picture that you did not want?

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What would you do if you fell in love with a co-worker? I have heard it time and time again. Never date people from work – Ignore this advice at your own peril. I have to consider the amount of time we spend at the office. A lot of us see our co-workers more than our family members. It is easy to see how a relationship can start at work.

Of course, this does not mean it is a good idea, nor should it be recommended for everyone. There are situations that can arise that could lead to putting added strain on your work life and love life at the same time. Is it worth it to take risk and listen to your heart?

Do you think it is possible to find love at the office? Have you ever dated a co-worker?

Do you know your company policy for dating at work?

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I wish there was a way to corral all the bad girls in Atlanta together and make them face the trail of broken hearts they left behind. There are so any wounded men walking around this city. Talk about The Walking Dead – dead inside!

I have heard a lot of horror stories from men who are left bitter, scorned, gun-shy. They tell me they are in no hurry to take a leap of faith on another “pathetic broad” – (That’s right, women often become broads or females post bad breakups).

I have personally had to listen to a man call his ex Satan on our first date. Another, said his ex-wife had no soul. Of course, I sympathize and empathize with broken-hearted men. I have been there before too! I just don’t know if I can handle the challenge of un-breaking a guy’s heart, restoring his faith in women again. It just sounds exhausting! (I’m lazy, I know)

What can you do when you meet someone great but they are not open to anything meaningful because of what the last person did to them? …

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I am stumped on this latest dating misadventure. I am lucky enough not to have experienced this one:

One of our readers is slightly freaking out since her ex ?? (um ex-fling/hook up/random guy to past the time with just befriended her new man. At this point, she is unsure if it was deliberate or if they simply met each other through friends innocently. To make matters worse, he has a little dirt on her. Just enough to make the new man’s opinion of her change. (She won’t say what it is, specifically but my imagination is working overtime).

I can say that if an ex of mine met my new beau, I’d probably freak out a little bit too. I just don’t know what my exes could say or do to wreck things. Why would the want to?

What would you do if your ex and your new mate became buddies or BFFs. Would you worry about what would be revealed about you?

Is this good reason to have full disclosures in a new relationship. That way, you won’t worry about something coming out before you want …

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I did a quick mental scan of my exes and former beaus and you want to know what I realized? They are NOTHING alike. They vary in looks, income, background, race – you name it, they differ. While I always believed I had a type, the reality is who I am attracted to and who I end up dating are remarkably dissimilar.

I believe that attraction is the inexplicable, totally random, sometimes downright confusing part of dating. It jams us up and leads us astray but it also adds excitement and thrill. Talk about a double edged sword!

Do you think is smart to date a wide variety of people? Do you prefer to stick to the same type of person because that seems to work out better? You know that saying, variety is the spice of life – does that mean dating the same type over and over gets boring?

Have you ever thought of what would happen if you dated someone totally opposite to what you are normally drawn to? What do you think would happen?

How similar are your exes? How do they …

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Like many of you, I have been extremely saddened to hear about the tragedy in Aurora, Colorado this weekend. It is heartbreaking to hear about the lives that were lost and the families that are left with the huge loss of loved ones. My thoughts and prayers go out to all those who were affected.

I read that there were three men who shielded their girlfriends and lost their lives protecting them. True men of valor. I am sure it was an instinctive move to do so because men innately want to protect. At least, that is what my Father always told me.

He said that any man that does not show you he wants to protect you is not the man for you. He would say, “Pay attention to that kind of thing because it is always about their character.”

A lot of women overlook the importance of a man’s character. It’s not until they are faced with a particular situation that shows them a man’s true character. I believe the same holds true for men. They think that looks are enough until they …

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We all have certain dating preferences and types that we are drawn to. We may even visualize what an ideal match would look like. I think this becomes a bit of a crutch, though. What happens when we are so focused on this image in our heads that we forget about the other great potentials?

I think a lot of single people have become caught up in what we think we want. I have heard people pick a apart someone down to their choice in shoes. Why do you think so many of us are so picky? Is it delusion? Shallowness?

Have you ever stopped to think about how being picky impacts your love life? Maybe having unrealistic expectation adds to this problem. How do we avoid being too picky or shallow?

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When the novelty of a new relationship wears off, a lot of people start to realize the thrill is gone. Maybe the the weight of a real relationship gets too heavy. Or things go sour and it the fights become more frequent.

I think a lot of couples stay in relationships far longer than they should. How do you know when it’s over, though? How can you be sure it isn’t just a rough patch, or a typical growing pain that relationships go through.

Have you ever been surprised by a break up? Is there a way to notice they signs that things are headed to splitsville?

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I get emails all the time from single women who are tired of sitting by waiting to get approached. It seems that more single women are becoming comfortable with making that first move.

There can be an art form to the cold approach …for men. Ladies may need a little help in this department, though. We aren’t built for rejection. Our egos don’t like it..at ALL. So what is the best way to approach men? A lot of guys I’ve talked to said they like the subtle, confident approach. For instance, have a legitimate question for them or asking their opinion on something.

I always wonder if the guy can tell when a woman approaches him to flirt with him, though. Do most men know when a woman is giving him signs of interest?

Ladies, what is your best approach tactic for men you find too good to bypass?

I would love to know the most creative way a woman has approached a man – what did she do? What did she say? What did you think when she first spoke to you?

If a woman …

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