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Dating: Faking it?

One of the many challenges of a new relationship is figuring out the other person’s quirks. You can only put your best foot forward so long before you have to let it all hang out. This can be a great thing, though! Well, until you start to wonder what was real and what was fake.

You know I always say that you meet the person’s “dating representative” in the first couple of weeks of dating them. The dating rep is supposed to reel you in, but what happens when the rep leaves?

A friend of mine is trying to determine how much was real and how much is fake in his new woman. Specifically, he is wondering if she was faking the Big O – early in the relationship, or is she faking it now. Apparently, there are stark differences and he doesn’t know what to make of it.

Would you want to know if someone was faking it in bed? Do you think you would come out and ask if they were?

When it comes to sex and dating, where does the real vs. fake come into play before you know the real person? How do you know when someone is being authentic or fake with you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta.

P.S. I am officially spinsterlicious!! It’s my birthday! Thanks for all the wonderful birthday wishes, you guys are the best!

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Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:16 pm

disco – LOLOLOLOL

Three days in a row of funning….whew stop it I say

Single and Happy

June 28th, 2012
4:16 pm

celisea I might be, just want to make sure I’m the best at it (LOL)

Bluz just going by your words, you don’t think about him that much, but you mention him almost everyday, no matter what the topic is.

kimmie

June 28th, 2012
4:16 pm

Bluz – If he’s as good-looking and intelligent as you say he is, do you think you’re the only person that’s noticed? Don’t you think some local women are looking at him too? Shoot, even an ugly doctor can pull women – doctors are chick-magnets! If he’s attractive and got an accent – let’s just say he doesn’t have any shortage of attention hon! He may be very nice, and you may be very attractive yourself, but “out of sight, out of mind”. I think he may be continuing to correspond with you, as little as he does, just to be nice since your friend did the intro.

But that’s just my opinion from cyberspace!

Dynamic

June 28th, 2012
4:17 pm

@ Leggs….in my Kaye West voice “I’m about to go HAM” ! yes ma’am you did …

MervTheTerrible

June 28th, 2012
4:17 pm

Ah yes I can always tell if a woman is a faker, I’ll give you a hint it’s all in the squeeze, and certain type of squeeze at that. But I have a guilty of faking it too, since how long you last (for a guy) is a break up offense or being Humiliated in front of your peers, holding back too much can cause damage to the internal muscles and can make it very hard to climax for a guy and in some severe cases even functionality. There have been many times where I have been asked “did you get yours” and I say yes just we can stop because once you get so desensitized it doesn’t matter what you do it isn’t happening. It must be nice to just have a hole, even if the oven isn’t pre-baked, slap some lube on there and your ready to go.

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:19 pm

I mean this with love….

I don’t want it to ever go quiet here or folks call me mean or over the top or too blunt. I’ve heard things today that I know only a straight shooter will say…lolololol

SlimUno

June 28th, 2012
4:19 pm

And I’m the bad guy, hmph :lol: I just love all yall :D

Bluzgirl

June 28th, 2012
4:19 pm

Ok…whatever. I’m just trying to talk it out and answer some questions that have been asked. I’m not sweating him anymore. If he wants me, he’ll chase me. If not, then NEXT!

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:20 pm

Slim – Exactly. That’s what I was thinking…lololol

Bluzgirl

June 28th, 2012
4:20 pm

Single…the other day was the first time I’ve mentioned him in at least a couple of weeks!!! I do NOT bring him up every day! I don’t even think about him every day. Jeez!

disco

June 28th, 2012
4:21 pm

slim/celisea – are y’all talking about me behind my back? lol.

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:21 pm

Bluzy – You’re doing it again…just roll with the tide. It makes swimming easier.

MervTheTerrible

June 28th, 2012
4:22 pm

+have been guilty

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:22 pm

disco – Everybody (almost) has fired off today…lol Rightfully so of course

Bluzy – You don’t show up tomorrow, we’re coming for you…you hear?

Single and Happy

June 28th, 2012
4:23 pm

Bluz I’ve only been here a few weeks, and I’ve seen more than enough about him, but I could be wrong.

disco

June 28th, 2012
4:24 pm

okay. just checking. I’m like slim – “and I’M the bad guy”. lol.

Willie Dynamite

June 28th, 2012
4:26 pm

You ever see Nature channel when they show a zebra or gazelle limping around? Then they show a Lion creeping through the grass? You know what’s about to happen next right? Nature takes its course.

Bluz is a gazelle. Stay tuned.

Really not trying to be mean just doing play by play. Nite folks.

Bluzgirl

June 28th, 2012
4:26 pm

Cel…no promises about tomorrow…depends on the day. I may be pretty busy tomorrow. Then again, the boss is off, so it might be a little slack.

Bluzgirl

June 28th, 2012
4:27 pm

I’m gonna come out on top…I’m no gazelle. I’ll show you! :-)

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:28 pm

WillieD saying stuff and then running…lol

Bluzy – You’re going to be okay.

disco

June 28th, 2012
4:29 pm

WD – the other day on national geographic there was a show where the lions were getting tore up. the elephants had a go at them. the buffalo had a go at them. a giraffe took one out with a good swift kick. the poor lions went through it. lol.

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:30 pm

WillieD: Why did I hear you narrating that with the British accent?

WD: Oh, blimey. The king of the jungle has spotted the injured gazelle. It’s only a matter of time now that he’s spotted her. Oh so carefully he creeps. AND THERE HE GOES!! Even sitting in the lorry and from this great distance, it’s obvious the gazelle never knew what hit her.

SlimUno

June 28th, 2012
4:30 pm

How does that saying go…the coin has two faces…or card or something to that effect?

WD – I want to make a comment about your gazelle and lion reference but I see you’re shooting us the deuces so i’ll K.I.M lol

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:31 pm

I’m gonna come out on top…I’m no gazelle. I’ll show you!

Atta girl!!! :)

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:31 pm

ITL – OMG!!! That was funny as heck. I can hear the accent now…lol

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:32 pm

LOL@C. All the guys who narrate those shows have the same voice. And they’re always whispering…

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:33 pm

Now I gotta dang work at home tonight fooling around with y’all…lol

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:34 pm

ITL – LOLOLOL…Yep, they do Rorben (Robin) Leech (Leach)

I know the chip girl is wondering what the heck I’ve been laughing at all day.

SlimUno

June 28th, 2012
4:34 pm

Cel – I see we calling WD out on his Commenting Drive By lol

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:35 pm

Slim – Okaaaay. How you gonna toss out a comment (i.e. bullet) like that and run? It was funny though…lol

Single and Happy

June 28th, 2012
4:35 pm

Bluz I know what you mean by that British accent, I love my girls Jamaican accent, but it trips me out when I’m there and people are telling the love my accent (LOL) and i’m like what accent (LOL)

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:36 pm

Single and Happy – You have Jamaican girls kids? Oooohhh, you meant “giiiirls”

SlimUno

June 28th, 2012
4:37 pm

ITL – Now that you mentioned the whispering narrators, I don’t know why they whisper on the shows where the narrator isn’t actually at the physical loction. Some of those are just voice overs in a studio but yet buddy still acting like the Ying Yang twins lol

Leggs

June 28th, 2012
4:38 pm

Celisea ~ you heard things only a straight shooter would say, that’s funny!

i'm swiss

June 28th, 2012
4:38 pm

At least he used gazelle and not wildebeest. lol

Single and Happy

June 28th, 2012
4:38 pm

Yea my girrrlllssss (wink wink)

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:39 pm

Leggs – I know it when I hear it cause I do it (too). LOLOLOL

DreamsMaterialize

June 28th, 2012
4:39 pm

acting like the Ying Yang twins
“wait til ya see my…”

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:39 pm

@Slim: I know, right? I’m thinking…um yeah..Simba can’t hear you all the way in LA. Speak up!!!

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:40 pm

ITL – Did you just say Simba? LOLOL

Single and Happy

June 28th, 2012
4:40 pm

man i’m so ready for vacay, I need to work on my tan, just hope I don’t get burned again (LOL)

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:40 pm

Hey, Swissie!!! Welcome back. :) Tell the truth, were you in the man cave?

Bluzgirl

June 28th, 2012
4:41 pm

I’m a sucker for a European accent!!! Also, it’s always been a dream of mine to visit London…maybe that’s why I was hoping for things to work out with him! LOL!!! (Not at all trying to bring up more conversation about this…making a joke)

Leggs

June 28th, 2012
4:42 pm

I’m gonna come out on top…I’m no gazelle. I’ll show you!

Finally! Finally, some positive vibes…me likes!

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:42 pm

Leggs – Not too quick…see that 4:41

Bluzgirl

June 28th, 2012
4:43 pm

Cel…did you see where I said I was making a joke?

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:44 pm

Bluzy – I did sug but I wasn’t really convinced. Love you :)

i'm swiss

June 28th, 2012
4:44 pm

ITL — I’m always in the Man Cave. My office has been relegated to our (unfinished) basement in prep for the baby’s room. (SwissMocha’s not even born yet and he/she is already crowding me out of my own d@mn house!) :lol:

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:44 pm

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
4:44 pm

Nah, C – I think the 4:41 is a joke. I think she’s poking fun at the situation, which means the understanding might be coming around