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Dating: Faking it?

One of the many challenges of a new relationship is figuring out the other person’s quirks. You can only put your best foot forward so long before you have to let it all hang out. This can be a great thing, though! Well, until you start to wonder what was real and what was fake.

You know I always say that you meet the person’s “dating representative” in the first couple of weeks of dating them. The dating rep is supposed to reel you in, but what happens when the rep leaves?

A friend of mine is trying to determine how much was real and how much is fake in his new woman. Specifically, he is wondering if she was faking the Big O – early in the relationship, or is she faking it now. Apparently, there are stark differences and he doesn’t know what to make of it.

Would you want to know if someone was faking it in bed? Do you think you would come out and ask if they were?

When it comes to sex and dating, where does the real vs. fake come into play before you know the real person? How do you know when someone is being authentic or fake with you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta.

P.S. I am officially spinsterlicious!! It’s my birthday! Thanks for all the wonderful birthday wishes, you guys are the best!

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Leggs

June 28th, 2012
2:13 pm

SlimUno ~ no dollar bills, but may have a few wet wipes in my purse. Gotta be careful. :wink: Matthew is very sexy. While watching will determine who deserved those dollar bills if I were in person (besides Matthew).

@ITL ~ I laughed when I read BF’s love msg saying.

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:14 pm

A couple of folks in my office go crazy over Sublime Donuts. :)

i'm swiss

June 28th, 2012
2:15 pm

Bluz — You should heed ITL’s advice. She’s right, she was very much like you when she first joined. And now she’s gone from making me exhausted to making me h0rny, baby, YEAAAAAAH! lol

Blackfoote: I'm The Zinger With A Dinger

June 28th, 2012
2:15 pm

Damn Randyt lucky you I wish a lady would wave red panties and a cape at me but that’s my sis so be easy.

Leggs

June 28th, 2012
2:16 pm

disco ~ thank goodness there are so many hues of men, body types, hair styles, etc. cuz Matthew is pleasing to my eye.

Leggs

June 28th, 2012
2:17 pm

disco ~ you and ex going to do any bartering?

Willie Dynamite

June 28th, 2012
2:18 pm

Slim – to answer your ? To me. No I don’t scream or wear mantys none of that. I will admit to getting bested on occasion. Without giving TMI, we were just on vacay and one night she literally put it on me. I was half azzing trying to be all romantic while she had her game face on. I couldn’t match her intensity and man she clowned me the next day. She was walking round the resort asking the workers if they had any gatorade. I had to get back right real quick.

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:21 pm

ITL – I will say Sublime is no match for KK

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

June 28th, 2012
2:23 pm

she had her game face on… She was walking round the resort asking the workers if they had any gatorade.

That’s what I’m tawkin about :lol:

It happens to the best of us Willie but I’m sure you got plenty of ummm…redemption later.

Are we on the second round of O’s yet?…

disco

June 28th, 2012
2:23 pm

leggs – your eye and a lot of other eyes let the media tell it. he consistently makes the “hot” lists. I like him as an actor and all but he looks like he smells funny. I also say that about rick fox. just eww.

as for the ex and I bartering – HA – he wishes. I already told him my price (a literal dollar figure). he can pay up or go sniff elsewhere. lol.

Blackfoote: I'm The Zinger With A Dinger

June 28th, 2012
2:24 pm

LOL…….2:18 @WD that can happen some times you know. She asked for Gatorade that’s funny, WD you have something to get those electrolytes working.

Leggs

June 28th, 2012
2:25 pm

Now, I can get with you on Rick Fox…he’s just too greasy and slimy looking. Always looks like he’s conniving someone out of something.

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:27 pm

Awww, Swiss. You’re so sweet, I just wanna give you a big kiss. You pick where. :wink:

BF, I think I scared Randy away…. *sigh*

What’s a girl to do when she’s feeling frisky and no one wants to come out and play…. :(

Single and Happy

June 28th, 2012
2:28 pm

Wow, you guys are hard on a blogger (LOL)

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:28 pm

ITL…mail call

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:30 pm

@C – to hear folks here tell it, they are all the rage. Me personally, I’ve been craving a salted caramel cupcake from Cami Cakes. I’m forcing myself to avoid Vinings. Must.Resist.Sugar.Cravings. :lol:

I’m drinking some lemonade right now, thinking how much better it would be if it were Firefly Lemonade Vodka. :)

Blackfoote: I'm The Zinger With A Dinger

June 28th, 2012
2:31 pm

Light I can’t imagine Randyt being scared of anything, maybe he has the panties stuck in his mouth and can’t speak………LOL

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:31 pm

ITL – Cami Cakes are delish but nothing (for me) tops Piece of Cake. They have cupcakes to die for :) Mmmmm

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:32 pm

C- mail call.

Blackfoote: I'm The Zinger With A Dinger

June 28th, 2012
2:34 pm

Cely we may have to corral our sis in did you read the last paragraph on her 2:27. An Intervention you think?……..LOL

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:35 pm

ITL – Got it…check yours

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:36 pm

Blackfoote – We may need to put our heads together and help a sista out. She’s getting way too caught up. lol You see me hanging from the sidelines right? lol

SlimUno

June 28th, 2012
2:36 pm

WD – It’s good as a woman to be able to carry the Champ belt errrry now and then lol

SlimUno

June 28th, 2012
2:37 pm

Leggs – I think Matthew is sexy too…I think he recently got married or something too so i’m sure he isn’t too stinky

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

June 28th, 2012
2:38 pm

I also say that about rick fox. just eww

Ditto…although must admit Rick has a very nice smile

Matthew is nice but I like Channing Tatum mooore!!

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

June 28th, 2012
2:39 pm

It’s good as a woman to be able to carry the Champ belt errrry now and then

Cosign… :mrgreen:

Leggs

June 28th, 2012
2:41 pm

Yep, he recently go married. That’s one thing I like about Matthew, his devilish smile and his voice.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

June 28th, 2012
2:42 pm

I think it’s sexy when he talks in that southern drawl…and that come hither smile makes it even better..

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:42 pm

LOL@My Zinger co-horts. I think I might need an intervention….. or at least a timeout on the sidelines. :lol:

kimmie

June 28th, 2012
2:44 pm

Sup gang!

Count me in the “Rick Foxx is greasy” club!LOL!!!

Bluz – Ig the Brit. He’s playing games. And I’m not telling you to be something other than yourself, but like a few of the blog fellas said earlier, girl, master the art of being the Ice Princess. Don’t ever let NOBODY see you sweat! When folks have called me a beyotch for being so cool, I tell them I wear the crown proudly! When you have a completely cool and unexpected reaction to something, most folks CANNOT handle it! I LOVE IT!!!!

As for this blog, you DO have to have a thick skin. But you know what? I’ve been on other blogs that are straight up cruel! This is the only one I would ever venture to share anything with! We are not going to tell you what you want to hear. That will be doing you an injustice. At the same time, work on that air of mystery by keeping some things to yourself. I do, cause as strong as I am there are days I just don’t want to hear and don’t care what anyone on this blog has to say!

You are kind and trusting and alot of people take kindness for weakness. You are not as gullible as people try to credit you with, you have good instincts. You know when stunts these dudes pull are not right. You just need to work at trusting and acting on your instincts!

Don’t even dignify the Brit with a response. If he calls and you feel like answering, be pleasant but don’t let him take up much of your time. After all, you’re BUSY too!! :cool:

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:44 pm

I’m glad Leggs, Sassy, and I can go to Magic Mike and not have to fight over the men. I’m Team Joe all the way!! :)

i'm swiss

June 28th, 2012
2:44 pm

“You’re so sweet, I just wanna give you a big kiss. You pick where.”

ITL — How about on Mrs.Swiss’s hoo-ha while I watch? (Don’t mind the phone, I’m not recording this, I promise…) lol

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:46 pm

ITL – Not “you need a time out”…lol That is way too funny.

I feel like I’m getting the pink eye or something. I’ve never had it (so not sure) but my eyes are irritated, feels funny and I’m having to constantly wipe.

Bluzgirl

June 28th, 2012
2:46 pm

My mom and her best friend are going to see Magic Mike. I could go with them, but think that would just be awkward!!!

Willie Dynamite

June 28th, 2012
2:47 pm

Sassy/Slim – I can’t even front, she was the champ that night. Press conference and all, hahaha
We both are isht talkers so she had a 1/2 day before she ate her words. Literally. Think its a game? Shiiiiiiid I play to win. Even swap aint no swindle..

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:48 pm

I don’t say write the Brit off because we’re only getting Bluz’s side of things. He could very well be nice. Sometimes it takes a minute. Sometimes it a go and sometimes not. She’s gonna have to learn to let her instincts and gut drive her…not her emotions and overly reacting. Right now I think we’re getting a reaction because she’s not hearing what she wants to hear.

disco

June 28th, 2012
2:49 pm

celisea – and another my momma and other people’s momma-ism – “people in hell want ice water”

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:50 pm

If y’all tryna get a second round of O’s going Imma have to take a pass. I gotta work. booooo

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:51 pm

disco – lololol…BE NICE

Blackfoote: I'm The Zinger With A Dinger

June 28th, 2012
2:51 pm

Another happy day y’all have a great evening.

Willie Dynamite

June 28th, 2012
2:51 pm

And for the record, I have a Southern drawl and a (sneaky) come hither smile. IJS

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:51 pm

Blackfoote – See ya…oh big blog brother :)

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:53 pm

@Swiss: On second thought, you qualify for the consolation prize. Where shall have them send your year’s supply of Turtle Wax?!?!?

@C – I was that way yesterday. My right eye kept watering and felt like I had something in it. It’s still a little watery today, but not as itchy/hurty (yes, hurty) as it was yesterday.

disco

June 28th, 2012
2:53 pm

celisea – just letting loose the momma-isms. they come to me at the darnedest times.

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:55 pm

Bye Zang Dang! Muah!!

kimmie

June 28th, 2012
2:55 pm

disco – That ice water saying was one of my mom’s staples!LOL!!

Celisea – Bluz side is the only side we’re ever going to get. I didn’t say write him off, I said ig or IGNORE him. Personally, if it were me and with all that’s gone down, heck yeah, I see game a mile away. But she’s not there yet. You’re right, he could very well be a nice person, just not nice for her. She’ll have to figure that out for herself.

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:56 pm

ITL – I may have to call my eye doctor. I was trying to see if this would clear up with drops. Are you having the same today?

disco – You are bad bad bad.

Into the Light....Celisea and Blackfoote - the Zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:56 pm

And for the record, I have a Southern drawl and a (sneaky) come hither smile

AND you give a shoe allowance.

Leggs

June 28th, 2012
2:58 pm

Celisea ~ your eyes will be very red, eye boogers and may feel like you have grains of sand in your eye. That’s what pink eye feels like for me.

ITL ~ they would love us 3 women on the same team putting dollars in different jock straps. They have got to have some type of hustle going on in the back and they divvy up the $$.

Celisea....ITL and Blackfoote...the zinger triplets

June 28th, 2012
2:59 pm

Kimmie – Frankly I think he’s not giving her want she was hoping for. That being said, she could have overhoped and saw more into than intially there. If there’s a slight of interest it’s gonna be all in how she plays it. Then again it could be what disco said…lol

Yes, I think most of us have our “recognize games” skills quite sharpened.