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Date night: Solid plans required

There are few things more annoying than showing up to a date with absolutely no plans. Being spontaneous is fun, but you don’t want to spent a lot of date time “figuring out” what to do, where to go, how it will all go down.

So what is the best way to make solid plans so that you aren’t stuck doing something you both want to do? Research! It’s one of those cases where a little goes a long way. Asking important questions about what your date is into, finding out what events are happening in the city, can make things a bit easier.

I know the spontaneous ones like to “see how things unfold” and all the fun that comes with it. There are some perks to that, but there will come a time when spontaneous starts to resemble unorganized.

Do you plan out date nights in advance? Is it a good idea for women to let men know what activities they want to do? Would it be a turn off if a woman gave a list of things she likes to do for a date?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Lily

June 27th, 2012
7:25 am

Sometimes I plan sometimes he plan sometimes we get in the car and just go and sometimes we stay and get cozy… :)

Lily

June 27th, 2012
7:27 am

Yesterday was an amusement park ride!. I read all the action once my shift ended. WOW!!!

Single and Happy

June 27th, 2012
7:28 am

Dang Lily you fast, I think you and dive are the same person (LOL)

In the beginning I plan things around what may date my like and what I like. If you listen to people when you’re getting to know them you can tell the thing they don’t like and what they like, you don’t need a list. As the relationship grow you can be more spontaneous about things with out it spoiling the evening.

Lily

June 27th, 2012
7:34 am

@ Exiled and Blackfoote what’s y’alls excuse today?? lol :)

see ya!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 27th, 2012
7:55 am

Hey there Lily:
If you hadn’t said anything about reading yesterday evening I wouldn’t have had a good laugh this morning.

What the hell happened in here last night…..LOLOLOLOL

Lily

June 27th, 2012
8:08 am

Blackfoote seems like this imposter was put on blast. I wish pictures would show up to reveal identities. How’s that for being a liar. Don’t you just hate liars? They can’t EVER be trusted.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 27th, 2012
8:14 am

I ask what are the things she likes to do then make attempts to hit those points of interest. I don’t make plans or a list unless it’s a movie or a trip out of town, and if she have something in mind I’m for that too. Doesn’t matter to me who makes the plans as long as they get carried out.

Good Morning:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 27th, 2012
8:17 am

Lily another Wow moment for the blog…………LOL

Lily

June 27th, 2012
8:23 am

Yes yes….alright I have to run. Have fun!

MissMoni

June 27th, 2012
8:25 am

GOOD Wednesday Morning MIA!

I can be a little OCD at times, especially when it comes to how I am going to spend MY time, which I consider to be very valuable and precious. Therefore, I would like to know ahead of time what we are doing for date night. At least tell me the atmosphere so that I can dress accordingly.

@Single and Happy: I agree, listening makes a BIG & IMPORTANT difference. :-)

Into the Light - Celisea's Twinkie

June 27th, 2012
8:55 am

Good morning, all!

I think plans are fine and necessary when there is travel or a time obligation (i.e. a wedding or reservations, etc) but I like some spontaneity, too! Sometimes it’s fun to just get in the car and drive. :)

BF, I haven’t seen my money or my breakfast! I’m just sayin’…..

disco

June 27th, 2012
9:00 am

good morning. like moni I’m a bit on the OCD side. I like plans/order/structure. I can be a bit flexible in whether or not we follow the itinerary to the letter but I much prefer having a plan in place than winging it.

czBrat

June 27th, 2012
9:02 am

lol @ moni. ocd is a great way to put it. throw in my a.d.d. and it’s a recipe for disaster if a dude steps to me with no sense of direction. he don’t have to have an absolute itinerary, but please lay out a general plan that i can get with.

morning, all.

czBrat

June 27th, 2012
9:05 am

HiYa, light.

that’s pretty much the groove we’ve fallen into. i make all travel arrangements so there’s little chance anything vital gets missed. s/o plans out our local adventures, where it doesn’t much matter if things don’t go “just so”.

Leggs

June 27th, 2012
9:06 am

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪HAPPY BIRTHDAY, WDIVA, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪ Hope your day is as fabulous as you are!

Good morning.

Randyt (back in the office and not liking it).

June 27th, 2012
9:07 am

mea culpa…I make my living planning other peoples lives but hate to plan my own. Caught a rash of you know what a few times over this one.

Celisea....ITL's twinkie

June 27th, 2012
9:10 am

Goooooood morning folks!

ITL – Glad to see we were able to recover you….you went missing yesterday :)

Sometimes we have something solid and sometimes it’s spontaneous. Most times, he does the planning. It’s not a big deal :)

Leggs

June 27th, 2012
9:10 am

I see Elijah attempted to call me out by my slave name. Dude, I simply asked if I gave your initials would you tell me if I was right or wrong. It was that simple. PUNK. BTW, Charmaine is not my name!

Leggs

June 27th, 2012
9:15 am

I apologize, should have said PUNK MOVE! But, glad you did some research.

Randyt (back in the office and not liking it).

June 27th, 2012
9:17 am

I plan trips, I plan itineraries, but to just make date plans…okay, I’m a little lazy.

disco

June 27th, 2012
9:19 am

whew. I see we’ve got a lot of residual angst this morning. I had to go back and re-read yesterday. to keep it on topic I suppose the OCD types among us could attempt to plan out the blog day. we could dictate how many jokes, how many flirtatious comments, how many tough love sessions etc.

Randyt (back in the office and not liking it).

June 27th, 2012
9:20 am

MissMoni

June 27th, 2012
9:21 am

@Disco: EXACTLY, I like plans/order/structure. I am flexible but I don’t do well with DISORGANIZATION & CHAOS. That makes ME nervous & uncomfortable.

Into the Light - Celisea's Twinkie

June 27th, 2012
9:23 am

LOL@C. My one hour meeting turned into 3 hours. Ugh. I gave the coordinator some “feedback.” :lol:

@disco: Don’t forget innuendo….I love me some innuendo. :lol: :lol: Oh Swisss……..

disco

June 27th, 2012
9:25 am

itl – innuendo falls under “etc.”

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 27th, 2012
9:30 am

Light here you are sweety, 20k is in your bank acct. and here’s a fresh and hot Chic-fil-a burrito with a latte.

Sassy Me and Cely I’m still cracking up after reading y’all yesterday evening. It’s too early in the morning to be laughing this hard, folks thinking I’ve been smoking or drinking something.

Leggs where do you come into all this? I missed you in the fray somehow.

Celisea....ITL's twinkie

June 27th, 2012
9:31 am

ITL – Glad to see it was work related not the cookie monster…lol

czBrat

June 27th, 2012
9:36 am

disco, don’t forget to limit the length and scope of each post. i mean, if you’re gonna ocd the blog …

moni, you’re right, but that’s where perception come in. for me, just having him drive in a general direction and trust that we’ll find a good place to eat is a touch of “chaos”. lol

DreamsMaterialize

June 27th, 2012
9:36 am

Morning
I always have a plan A, B, and C. I don’t like to be caught out there, trying to wing it, wasting time and patience trying to get our date in motion. Now, there was a date where EVERYTHING seemed to go wrong (on plans A, B, and C!), but it turned out to be a real good time because she rolled with the punches and it was just fun experiencing that together.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 27th, 2012
9:36 am

Randyt we have some lady’s here that can smell a rat 50 miles away. Very keen and attentive with no problem calling you out I love it……..LOL

Leggs

June 27th, 2012
9:36 am

I asked Elijah if I gave his initials would he tell me if I was right or wrong. Apparently, I was wrong. That’s all he had to say. And, if you want to put my name out (WHICH EVERYONE KNOWS), SPELL IT CORRECTLY!!!

disco ~ I don’t have any residual angst (lol). Just surprised he tried to call me out. It was a harmless request. I just don’t appreciate him trying to put me on blast because he was blasted. Sheesh….

Celisea....ITL's twinkie

June 27th, 2012
9:38 am

Blackfoote – LOL…Elijah the buster was put on the front page. I did go back and read because during the time of W8 I didn’t really pay him too much attention. Mainly because he came off as pretty filthy and filthy mouthed. Well, it only confirmed my suspicions of what I think it is. He’s never left. He’s just changed his moniker. The tone and weight and writing style is the same of a current blogger.

Where is Jake? I did laugh at him posting “un un un un”….that was funny as heck.

Actually Blackfoote, I had a late last minute call so I missed Sassy landing the last and final blow…lololol But I ca-racked up when I read it.

Celisea....ITL's twinkie

June 27th, 2012
9:40 am

“who” not what it is

Into the Light - Celisea's Twinkie

June 27th, 2012
9:46 am

@C – Oh, no. No Cookie Monster for me. I told you, Twinkies before Dinkies. :)

Honestly, I am lost on the Elijah/W8/Real Eljah/New Elijah/LP stuff. I know some of it was before my time, but I am confruzed!

Elijah

June 27th, 2012
9:55 am

Okay so I switched my name to W8 yesterday but we are two different people. I admit it, it was all in fun. Celisea can you admit to having multiple names?

Randyt (back in the office and not liking it).

June 27th, 2012
9:55 am

ITL…we’ve been missing each other for awhile…how are ya. Are you already buying tickets to the new NCAA football playoffs with red and black on the tickets? If my Big Orange doesn’t show improvement soon, I might go back to focussing my sports attention on World Cup soccer again, and write off college football as a lost cause.

czBrat

June 27th, 2012
9:56 am

btw, any fans of bally fitness gear? tuesday morning’s sale starts today (half off clearance priced items). great time to snag great workout wear.

Randyt (back in the office and not liking it).

June 27th, 2012
9:57 am

(I think today should be cancelled due to a lack of interest).

Celisea....ITL's twinkie

June 27th, 2012
9:59 am

Elijah – Huh? Nope I’m me. :)

Elijah – You switched to two names yesterday but W8 ain’t your other moniker. Can you admit to that??!!

Celisea....ITL's twinkie

June 27th, 2012
10:00 am

And from you asking me that, you confirmed my suspicions. I know who you are…all of your names. Let the others figure it out. I’ve been on to you.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 27th, 2012
10:01 am

LOL…………@Randyt
Hold on Randyt.

Celisea....ITL's twinkie

June 27th, 2012
10:02 am

Annnnnd you’ve been here since 2009. You just reinvent yourself.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

June 27th, 2012
10:02 am

I’m still cracking up after reading y’all yesterday evening. It’s too early in the morning to be laughing this hard, folks thinking I’ve been smoking or drinking something.

Blackfoote…I don’t know wha had happened:mrgreen: :lol:

I missed Sassy landing the last and final blow…

Don’t worry Celi…I had you and Leggs in mind. :lol:

He tried to come for me afterward but chile puhleaze…miss me with that.

Celisea....ITL's twinkie

June 27th, 2012
10:03 am

Sassy – That was the cream on top :) LOVED IT!!

Elijah

June 27th, 2012
10:03 am

:( Just W8 yesterday.

Celisea....ITL's twinkie

June 27th, 2012
10:04 am

Alright then player. We’ll leave it at that but you know that I know who you are. That’s our little secret…k?

Celisea....ITL's twinkie

June 27th, 2012
10:04 am

Wait…playa

disco

June 27th, 2012
10:06 am

I’ve stayed in my lane during all of this moniker calling out stuff but really – I have to ask all of those who try to run “name game”. what really is the point? I understand changing your moniker for a valid reason. maybe someone else’s is too close, maybe you had a circumstance change and wanted to update, whatever. but to be changing your name just because you are trying to weasel in and trick somebody… I just don’t get it. heck, the beauty of the blog is anonymity (barring those who have actually met one another). what difference does it make if you are anonymous as moniker1 or anonymous as moniker2? really, this post isn’t an attempt to be comical. this post is an attempt to understand. can somebody make me understand?

Leggs

June 27th, 2012
10:06 am

Celisea ~ he also gave himself away yesterday saying I emailed him in 2009 about a blog meetup! That only went to a select few!

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

June 27th, 2012
10:06 am

I know who you are…all of your names. Let the others figure it out. I’ve been on to you.

:shock: