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Dating: Is it lust or love?

One of the reasons I am so irrationally cautious at times with dating is the fear of confusing lust with love. You meet someone so great, you just want to rip their clothes off every time you see them? That’s lust. Not necessarily a bad thing, but definitely NOT love.

A lot of women make the mistake of confusing the two, and I suspect men do too. We are human, so it can be hard to determine when it is real or when it’s love. What do you think is the difference between lust and love?

When do you think you can know with certainty that it is more than lust?

Have you ever confused lust with love? What did you learn, in hindsight, and did it help you for the next time?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

141 comments Add your comment

lolalee

June 25th, 2012
4:30 pm

notice how freaky Randyt is when he posting? that is sexy. lol only admitting because he’s not here today :) get this girl a fan!

in blogland i’m 5′11, short sassy cut, washboard abs, and freaky and like being naked most of the time!

Single and Happy

June 25th, 2012
4:34 pm

Disco, most women like tall men so that counts me out

Lolalee, wouldn’t lie about it, I’m very happy with myself

SlimUno

June 25th, 2012
4:36 pm

lolalee – You’re funny…’likes being naked most of the time’ :lol:

Reminds me of when we all changed our monikers and tried to guess who was who. lol

Single and Happy

June 25th, 2012
4:36 pm

when it comes to internet dating I’ve never lied about anything. just left a few details out (LOL)

lolalee

June 25th, 2012
4:40 pm

@SlimUno, just adding a little spice to blogland :) guessing who is who sounds like fun!

@single and happy, what internet dating sites have you used? met any strange people?

Single and Happy

June 25th, 2012
4:40 pm

Lolalee I like being nekid all the time, (Hedonism here I come) LOL

lolalee

June 25th, 2012
4:41 pm

move over randyt, single and happy sit next to me! :)

Leggs

June 25th, 2012
4:42 pm

That’s right, you did say you were short (lol).

I was out Saturday and was amazed at all the Spanex talk women were doing in the restroom. The friend I took with me had on a nice strapless leopard print sundress. How about a few hours later this woman walked in with the exact same dress. I laughed so hard because I don’t remember ever being somewhere and someone showed up with the exact same dress. My friend rocked it better simply because the woman was 2 sizes too big for the dress. Sausage meat spewing from under her arms..not a pretty sight.

Single and Happy

June 25th, 2012
4:42 pm

Just meet a few people on black planet, an old chat site called wbs, and of course the freaky sex sites (LOL) no I can say I’ve never meet any strange ones

SlimUno

June 25th, 2012
4:43 pm

Single – Maybe the Pheremone Party would be good for you. That way a chick would be attracted to your smell at first and deal with the rest later…granted that you do smell good. lol

disco

June 25th, 2012
4:43 pm

slim – 5’10”, 125? when did we start letting crackheads in? lol. now you know that much height needs some weight on it.

lolalee – you want to be tall too? I’ve never wanted to be taller. even now i kind of feel sorry for tall chicks. i’m short and can’t find tall men, imagine the angst of the tall woman.

single and happy – one of my brothers is on the petite side. he’s been stuck on himself since he was a tot so the fact that he’s short didn’t slow him down any. now he’s mid 20s, got a couple of degrees under his belt, no children, excellent earning potential. he says it’s funny how a lot of chicks no longer seem to notice how short he is. lol.

Leggs

June 25th, 2012
4:44 pm

Too funny, first lolalee is pining for Randyt then quickly tosses him to the curb for 5′5” nekkid Single!

Fickle, fickle, fickle.

Elijah

June 25th, 2012
4:47 pm

@Disco- Da man will get you every time!

Lolalee— I must see a pic first before you can join the harem…. I like that word Harem…

Man Law number 855. Always get a picture of the women u meet on line…..Because you might get a description like Slimuno just described and get the Ulkrine woman body builder..

lolalee

June 25th, 2012
4:49 pm

@disco, just in blogland.

Single and Happy

June 25th, 2012
4:49 pm

disco I was wondering the same thing about slim with that big ole booty (LOL), yea it’s funny when they see what you have you seem to start to grow (LOL)

Slim I haven’t been to a party since bellbottoms were in style (LOL) oops giving away my age (LOL)

Single and Happy

June 25th, 2012
4:50 pm

Lolalee comon i’ve saved you a seat

SlimUno

June 25th, 2012
4:52 pm

disco – Oops, now you know i’m lost when it comes to the weight thing…maybe that should’ve read 135 :lol: I was trying to carry most of my weight in the booty area lol

Elijah :lol:

Leggs – Sausage meet hahahahaha Immediately made me think of those biscuits in a can busting open :lol:

lolalee

June 25th, 2012
4:52 pm

@Leggs, i got the hots for Randyt. only kidding with Elijah. he can’t make up his mind. like watching a tennis match. lol

@Elijah, have you passed out a pic of yourself? hope all the ladies collected a pic of him. even exchange? lol

i'm swiss

June 25th, 2012
4:53 pm

Elijah — You left out the amendment to Man Law 855 — section 3c, ammendment 4: “The photo must be a full color, full body photograph, standing next to a recognizable object or a measuring stick for perspective, and must either contain a digital timestamp or the subject must be holding up the front page of the current day’s New York Times with the date clearly visible.”

Single and Happy

June 25th, 2012
4:54 pm

uh oh, slim done gained 10lbs, must have went to rehab

lolalee

June 25th, 2012
4:55 pm

@i’m swiss, too funny don’t come aknocking if the dizzle ain’t rocking. lol

Single and Happy

June 25th, 2012
4:57 pm

I’m swiss -don’t do pictures, must have web cam!! digital time stamps can be changed, and it could be her bff with the paper :-D

i'm swiss

June 25th, 2012
4:57 pm

lolalee — Are you asking if my dizzle is rocking? lol

i'm swiss

June 25th, 2012
5:01 pm

Single — Good point. Although, technically, she could get her bff to sit in for her on the web cam, too. Then again, that could lead to both she *and* her bff getting freaky on said web cam if you play your cards right. I’m gonna have to co-sign on the web-cam, and make a motion that we amend the Man Laws accordingly.

Leggs

June 25th, 2012
5:01 pm

Web cams make your head look funny.

lolalee

June 25th, 2012
5:01 pm

@i’m swiss, i already know you rock!

lolalee

June 25th, 2012
5:02 pm

webcams make me tingly. :)

Elijah

June 25th, 2012
5:02 pm

@Swiss we must Amend man law 855 section 3c, ammendment 4: “Single made a good point , the ladies are tech savvy these days.. We are going to need in additional too “The photo must be a full color, full body photograph, standing next to a recognizable object or a measuring stick for perspective, and must either contain a digital timestamp or the subject must be holding up the front page of the current day’s New York Times with the date clearly visible.” Plus Web Cam video’s preferable in the NUDE…. Lolalee….

Single and Happy

June 25th, 2012
5:03 pm

legg, are you sure it’s the web cam??

i'm swiss

June 25th, 2012
5:03 pm

lolalee — I could tell you were a woman of vast intellect. ;-)

Single and Happy

June 25th, 2012
5:04 pm

lolalee, comon lets get nekid in front of the web cam

Leggs

June 25th, 2012
5:10 pm

:lol: :lol: Good one, Single. I have a peanut head. Ok, it may be my head after all.

lolalee

June 25th, 2012
5:11 pm

@Elijah, i’m tingling all over

Single and Happy

June 25th, 2012
5:12 pm

Leggs, mine makes my head looks big (yea that’s it)

lolalee

June 25th, 2012
5:12 pm

ready for my man now :) blog with you guys tomorrow. bring the webcam!

Leggs

June 25th, 2012
5:20 pm

Hope you’re referring to the other head….ba da bing!

Single and Happy

June 25th, 2012
5:23 pm

Okay, so I have 2 big heads :-D

Leggs

June 25th, 2012
5:23 pm

lolalee is virtually getting her swerve on….

Leggs

June 25th, 2012
5:24 pm

Row 125 seat 11b

June 25th, 2012
7:29 pm

Looks like I missed all the freaky free flow. Stepped away for a meeting and a little sumthin sumthin with my older lady coworker. I’ll be present tomorrow for action with lolalee! Webcam and tatas? Whew boy! Single and Happy, Elijah and I’m Swiss are some bad boys. Holding it down!

nelson

June 25th, 2012
8:54 pm

That is a great question I really like it. Love = wife lust = 4 week fling