Sex on a first date?
If guys only knew how much women go back and forth in their head about whether or not to seal the deal on the first date. There is always worry about sending the wrong message or killing chances of anything serious from happening later on. There is no easy answer and a lot of times, we just want to not regret it afterwards!
One of our readers wants to know what she should do after hooking up on the first date. She does not regret it, but she does feel that the guy looks at her differently. Should she bring it up and let him know that she doesn’t want it to change things?
What do you do when you are in a new romance and things get physical? Should it change the dynamics of the relationship? Will your expectations change?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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154 comments Add your comment
SlimUno
June 22nd, 2012
2:18 pm
its a lot of f ugging going on and it is mutual.
WD – Yup yup lol
i'm swiss
June 22nd, 2012
2:19 pm
disco — I know you’re one baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad chick, but I didn’t realized it took the whole blog to service you.
lol
disco
June 22nd, 2012
2:21 pm
swiss – well if I’m cobwebbed up like the blog (well like ex) is trying to make me out to be things might just take a while. you know how cobwebs are sticky and hard to get off? lol. okay. I’m going to stop talking about myself. I do my share to entertain the blog but virtual trains is not my forte.
i'm swiss
June 22nd, 2012
2:25 pm
disco — Did you just say you were sticky and hard to get off? Sounds like a challenge to me… lol
Willie Dynamite
June 22nd, 2012
2:28 pm
Swiss – disco is one of those stats that throws off the bell curve. You can’t include her in the stat pool. Then again its some dude(s) that will say she full of isht. She’s our female version of Ex on the blog.
HST
June 22nd, 2012
2:31 pm
Hello Bloggers! My cumulative hang-over is finally gone.
OT: I would never consider a girl loose if she had sex with me on the first date. I also don’t kiss and tell, I learned early in life that girls do way more sexually when you don’t tell. As usual, this is a very subjective subject. I say, if you feel bad about it, you have to look at yourself, no one else does. I personally don’t have a set of rules for dating, I take each date differently, as I do each woman.
I leave judging for Judges, and if it’s not for me, I remove myself.
Willie Dynamite
June 22nd, 2012
2:33 pm
Disco – and I don’t say that as a jab to you so put the razor back in ya natural fro. Hahaha
disco
June 22nd, 2012
2:33 pm
willie d – I think I resent that remark. come on now, don’t do me like that. not that I’m denying that I probably would throw off the curve but ex is in a class all by himself.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2012
2:33 pm
I’m just glad no one (here) has EVER seen a slip, hem, panties, pantylines or a whiff of my cookies
I can’t control what anybody else think or believe…lololololol
Celisea
June 22nd, 2012
2:36 pm
I don’t knock wolves that know they’re wolves or busters that know they’re busters or even clowns that know they’re clowns. It’s the posers, fakers and all folks that hang out in that category that just kills me…
Celisea
June 22nd, 2012
2:36 pm
That hang in those categories but hanging out like sheep that just kiiiillls me
They’ve got fangs, whiskers, claws and stuff hanging out all over the place.
Willie Dynamite
June 22nd, 2012
2:39 pm
Disco – no fuss but you too are in a class by yourself.
Cel – I did see the skrippa shoes and the 440 legs. You can blame the old roommates but mine eyes have seen the glory. I know shet it up. Hahaha
disco
June 22nd, 2012
2:42 pm
touché willie. touché.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2012
2:42 pm
WillieD – LOLOLOL…That buster comment was not for you. I can dig a stand-up dude all day long… Heck I can dig a ho that’s a ho, owning a ho…all day long
Skrippa shoes and 440 leggs
Me likey!
HST
June 22nd, 2012
2:44 pm
What does 440 leggs mean?
kimmie
June 22nd, 2012
2:47 pm
Willie D – You are right. Sometimes, women too just want to get it done and go on. Not looking for a husband.
There were a few times I had a Mr Right Now. Wasn’t trying to really build a future with these dudes, for whatever reason, just wanted to hookup every now & then and hang out. I remember one guy in particular. I hadn’t too long gone thru the stress of losing my mother. He was a guy at work. I knew he had a girlfriend, though he tried to play that off. We had a secret thing going on that we kept outside the office for about 3 months. I had my fun, and then I just didn’t want to be bothered anymore. He came over one time and I basically ignored him. He was going off on me, asking how I could just cast him aside like that. I just shrugged my shoulders and went back to looking at the tv. He stormed out. Got mad as all get out when I got promoted at work too!LOL!!
Celisea
June 22nd, 2012
2:55 pm
MMeelloo – LOL…I ain’t saying nothing but what I said. Frankly I don’t really know too much outside of what the screen says daily about the other women here. Honest I don’t.
abc
June 22nd, 2012
3:08 pm
Testing a thing… this is how AJC is trying to make some dough off this news site, just like everyone on the Internet does.
You land on ajc.com, and it writes a cookie. A doubleclick ad comes up and write a cookie, and 20 others; meebo ad comes up, 20 more cookies; and so on. You surf to another site that advertising group has ads on, they read the cookies from your ajc.com visit and write some more. In that way they trace pretty much every click you ever make, keeping records. The records define you; they are your profile. Based on the profile, you become a targeted ad recipient; your loan-worthiness, employability, insurability, and so on are measured against your profile, kind of like a credit report.
There’s a Firefox add-on that demonstrates this in action while you surf, called Collusion. https://addons.mozilla.org/en-US/firefox/addon/collusion/
There’s one for Chrome somewhere, google it. Google will keep track that you searched for it and put it in your profile. No kiddin.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
3:10 pm
Ex, perhaps I do talk too much, but I’m not anyone’s spokesperson. You stated we were MIA because we may be out getting those nasty showers. Some things the joke is absent (at least for me).
HST
June 22nd, 2012
3:10 pm
Did anyone out here see the Gold Rush Rally cars take off out of Atlanta? I hired the police to escort us to the highway, it was nuts! Did anyone come down to the W to party or see the cars?
Still would like to know what 440 legs are, I goggled and used Urban Dictionary…
HST
June 22nd, 2012
3:16 pm
Exiled, I do like a MILF. I date age appropriate (what’s best for me), so soccer moms are always on the agenda, but I don’t single out. I am a serial dater, and basically a commitaphobe; however, I own it, and never act differently.
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
June 22nd, 2012
3:23 pm
Happy Friday Folks….Sex on the First Night, sure why not….If its right its right, I know I wore some thighmuffs a couple of times right off the bat…
HST
June 22nd, 2012
3:25 pm
abc, use CCleaner after every site and that won’t happen – tracking internet users is out of control. All my buddies who are Computer Scientists told me about CCleaner, and how to use it properly. It’s free to download, and when you see the amount of cookies you get from each site, you’ll be in awe. Everytime I close the internet, or iTunes I CClean, and sometimes I have to do it twice.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2012
3:31 pm
Leggs,everything I say here..99% is a joke coz I ain’t in anybody’s space like that to know ur lives and make a joke be something else..when its not a joke,I speak in generalities. It’s not targeted but yes it may stick.
I think most here that I blog with know that..well maybe except u…
I wll exude you from my jokes and if I say’ blogwomen,women or some such gender’ reference without ur name in it and the joke ain’t palatable to u,well take yourself out of it then…
How’s that? @ Leggs
HST
June 22nd, 2012
3:42 pm
Commitahole (hahaa) is the direct opposite of commitaphobe, but commitaphobe is in the Urban Dictionary, which seems to be the new Oxford. Keeping up with acronyms, and Urban words is an arduous task…
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
3:46 pm
Some of your posts don’t sound like jokes so I speak on some of it. Nevertheless, I’m cool
Celisea
June 22nd, 2012
3:46 pm
Nothing arduous or hard about “keeping up”…that is unless it’s a square peg getting forced in a round hole
Mmeello – You shole got a lot of time on your hands today
I’m glad to see you hanging out. Some days your appearance is rare. I guess though that’s what happens when you move on up and start balling and stomping with the big dogs…lol
HST
June 22nd, 2012
3:51 pm
Whatever Celisea, I see a new acronym at least once a week (was way more frequent), and see words that only exist in the Urban Dictionary often.
Square Peg…holy 80’s…
abc
June 22nd, 2012
3:54 pm
firefox and chrome can be configured to dump all the cookies everytime you close, or even moving between sites — course, chrome does tracking of its own, I think.
Celisea
June 22nd, 2012
3:56 pm
LOLOL…my reference like the 440 legs remark went over your head. Don’t sweat it…you can’t “study” urban
Celisea
June 22nd, 2012
3:56 pm
I’m out!
HST
June 22nd, 2012
3:57 pm
abc, it does, and even with those configurations set you will still be tracked. You get tracked even off-line, so that when you do get on-line info is already collected. Download CCleaner, and you’ll really see the extent of the tracking by search engines.
HST
June 22nd, 2012
4:00 pm
Celisea, I got the square to round reference, but the 440 leg I have no idea.
HST
June 22nd, 2012
4:01 pm
I’m out as well. Have a great weekend everyone!
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2012
4:05 pm
Hey blogettes and fellas.
How’s everyone doing? What’s the haps for the weekend?
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
4:09 pm
Hey DreamsM.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
June 22nd, 2012
4:11 pm
TGIF All!! Long time, no blog! Hope all is well in Blogsville!
So whats good party people? Hey Dreams!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
4:12 pm
Hey Mo. Glad you came on…Ok, what other old heads are about to surface!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
June 22nd, 2012
4:14 pm
Hey Leggs!
Im trying to speed read thru the last page and catch up (if you all are still on topic)
Man this day cannot be over with fast enough!! GEESH!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
4:17 pm
I’m going for lemon drop martini in one hour….
Mo (aka Moeisha)
June 22nd, 2012
4:20 pm
That sounds good Leggs!! I have some spirits already in the ‘fridge for when I get back to the Eastside!
Its been a crazy week!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
4:24 pm
I have spirits in the fridge too, just need to be outside people watching.
Mo (aka Moeisha)
June 22nd, 2012
4:26 pm
Ok so I see a few folks dropped in today! Wish I couldve stopped in earlier!
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2012
4:31 pm
Hey Dreams!
Mo what’s up. Good to read you. It’s been a while. You ready for the weekend?
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2012
4:32 pm
Leggs How are you? I see you on the lemon drop martini.
I have some spirits already in the ‘fridge for when I get back to the Eastside!
Mo Dang, you got one save for me? lol
Mo (aka Moeisha)
June 22nd, 2012
4:34 pm
Heeeey Dreams! Ready for the weekend? Since Monday, LOL! Its been one of THOSE weeks!
How are you? And yep, you know I got you on the spirits! LOL
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
4:37 pm
I’m good, DreamsM. No complaints…well I have some, but who really cares about them (lol).
This is the longest hour. My boss just called to tell me he’s stuck in traffic and don’t know when he’ll return to the office for me to have a great weekend and he’ll see me on Monday.
Yeah, right. I ain’t falling for the stuck in traffic trick and leave early…no no no!!
Mo (aka Moeisha)
June 22nd, 2012
4:42 pm
LOL, I hear you Leggs! Well I have an hour and 15 to go…..LAWD it cant go by fast enough!
DreamsMaterialize
June 22nd, 2012
4:50 pm
How are you? And yep, you know I got you on the spirits!
Mo Everything is good on my end. Just looking forward to relaxing this evening. Just a few more minutes left. Trying to decide if I want relax Tequila style or Blue Moon style. lol
Leggs Glad to hear things are going well. Don’t hurt ‘em this weekend.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
4:52 pm
I have a singles meetup tomorrow, and I definitely plan to hurt somebody (lol), visually that is.