Sex on a first date?
If guys only knew how much women go back and forth in their head about whether or not to seal the deal on the first date. There is always worry about sending the wrong message or killing chances of anything serious from happening later on. There is no easy answer and a lot of times, we just want to not regret it afterwards!
One of our readers wants to know what she should do after hooking up on the first date. She does not regret it, but she does feel that the guy looks at her differently. Should she bring it up and let him know that she doesn’t want it to change things?
What do you do when you are in a new romance and things get physical? Should it change the dynamics of the relationship? Will your expectations change?
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Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
10:21 am
Good point, Single. Stranger things have happened.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
10:43 am
Ex ~ I was at a fight party at my neighbor’s home! Jeans and a nice summer top!
For the record, Ex, I’ve never stopped feeling good about myself.
SlimUno
June 22nd, 2012
10:50 am
My mind is soooo not here today. I’m already counting down the time until I can dip up out of this camp!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
10:57 am
I’ve decided, at11:00 a.m., to stop and grab a couple of lemon drop martinis after work…yummy!
SlimUno
June 22nd, 2012
11:02 am
Leggs – I love lemon drop martinis…there’s this place that is near my job that makes them really good. Some places need to work on their mixology skills. Have one for me though and don’t let Ex get up under your skin (even though he’d really love to literally lol)
abc
June 22nd, 2012
11:05 am
On our first date, my ex-wife said I wouldn’t respect her if we hit it. I told her “I don’t respect you now”. Big hit, we were married 20 years. I never met a woman who wanted to hold out.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
11:09 am
SlimUno ~ I don’t believe there is much Ex can say to me that would get under my skin. I know the dude and let’s say his alter ego is just that.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
11:10 am
“On our first date, my ex-wife said I wouldn’t respect her if we hit it. I told her “I don’t respect you now”. – Did anyone else laugh at this. WTH?
kimmie
June 22nd, 2012
11:10 am
A martini of any sort sounds good to me right about now. I’m so ready for the weekend!!!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2012
11:15 am
Lemon Martinis sounds like a winner Leggs.
Just got tickets to the Michael Jackson Immortal World Tour. That show should be hot next Friday night.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
11:15 am
Cold Cut Artist = Cheryl Lynn (404) 741-1075 = Jackson tix
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
11:20 am
Enjoy, BF.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2012
11:20 am
Where and when will the brothers be here?
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
11:23 am
Turn it freaky, BF, and they’ll come…literally.
kimmie
June 22nd, 2012
11:23 am
BF – That’s the Cirque de Soliel show isn’t it? I wanted to go & take the kids. I heard it was awesome!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2012
11:25 am
Kimmie yes, it’s been receiving good solid reviews all over the country.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
11:26 am
I know you just as much as you my tatas ain’t all that…
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2012
11:28 am
Leggs what? @11:23
You mean I should dangle the tickets, to see who bites first……LOL
kimmie
June 22nd, 2012
11:30 am
BF – I still may try to find a way to take the kids, because I think they will love it. They were sad they never got a chance to see MJ in concert. And I know they will love the acrobatics.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2012
11:32 am
Leggs you’ve gotten started on the Martinis early haven’t you……..LOL
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
11:32 am
BF ~ meaning it’s Freaky Friday. The guys usually come out to play when craziness starts, not necessarily Ex’s craziness, just you know, fun on the rooftop type of stuff (lol).
disco
June 22nd, 2012
11:36 am
leggs – I actually get abc’s first date/respect joke. to me, it is kind of funny. if a guy had said it to me I would have laughed.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2012
11:39 am
Kimmie they extended a second show for Saturday night and when it’s over they’re headed to Canada I beleive Montreal. Yeah I heard it’s a must see show from friends that saw it in Nashville.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
11:40 am
I get it too, still WTH. I don’t respect you now so nothing will change. That’s why I laughed.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2012
11:43 am
Ok Leggs I need a bop on the head for not catching on to that.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2012
11:43 am
Ex at Phillips Arena.
Bluzgirl
June 22nd, 2012
11:43 am
I don’t understand why a woman is looked down upon for having sex on the first date, but a man is a stud if he hits it on the first date. I think it’s an awful double standard.
Now, my last two serious relationships started out as just booty and turned to more. Granted…I already was friends with them, so it wasn’t like hooking up with a stranger. I wanted a friend with benefits and so did they, but it ended up turning into a relationship. Now, they both were not very good relationships, so I don’t think I’ll be starting off another one that way…
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
11:48 am
BF ~ I understand how you think for the most part (lol) so no need to bop you…just a teeny tiny nudge and BAM, you got it (lololol).
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2012
11:49 am
A couple of reviews from other city’s it was in.
Review 2 for Michael Jackson THE IMMORTAL World Tour by Cirque du Soleil
5 / 5 Cirque du Soleil!!!!!! Sprint Center @ – Kansas City @ , MO @ – Tue, Feb 21, 2012 @
Posted 02/23/2012by Deereesoso77 Location:KansasFeatured Review
If you get the chance to see this show, do NOT pass it up!!!! It was amazing! I have seen many of their shows over the years and this was definitely at the top of the list!!!
Sprint Center @
– Kansas City @
, MO @
– Tue, Feb 21, 2012 @
2 of 3 found this review helpful.
Share this review: Review 3 for Michael Jackson THE IMMORTAL World Tour by Cirque du Soleil
5 / 5 STAPLES Center @ – Los Angeles @ , CA @ – Sun, Jan 29, 2012 @
Favorite moment: MICHAELS LARGE GLOVE AND SHOES ON STAGE @
Posted 02/07/2012by Aishah Location:LONG BEACH, CAFeatured Review
THE SHOW WAS ABSOLUTELY AWEEEEESOMMMMME! THANK YOU FOR SUCH A GREAT TRUBUTE TO A WONDERFUL AND TALENTED PERSON WHOM WE LOVE SO DEARLY.
STAPLES Center @
– Los Angeles @
, CA @
– Sun, Jan 29, 2012 @
Favorite moment: MICHAELS LARGE GLOVE AND SHOES ON STAGE @
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Share this review: Review 4 for Michael Jackson THE IMMORTAL World Tour by Cirque du Soleil
5 / 5 This is Perfection merges with perfection HP Pavilion At San Jose @ – San Jose @ , CA @ – Fri, Jan 13, 2012 @
Favorite moment: The translation of his music @
Posted 01/20/2012by KittyKatz1969 Location:san jose californiaFeatured Review
I’m speechless about this show. The perfection of Michael Jackson meets the perfection of Cirque choreographers.
It was moving, thought provoking and a brilliant homage to the late great Michael Jackson.
I want
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
11:49 am
Bluz ~ yes ma’am it’s an awful double standard, but it’s one that will never go away. Women are supposed to carry themselves on a higher, more respectful plane than men and that means not jumping on any weenie as soon as you’re taking a liking to it (lol).
SlimUno
June 22nd, 2012
11:52 am
I would love to see that show but the tix are so expensive
Bluzgirl
June 22nd, 2012
11:59 am
Not that I want to be a studeddess (lol), but if I wanted to, I should be considered a s l u t while the man gets high fives for all of his conquests!
disco
June 22nd, 2012
12:01 pm
bluz – easy solution. change the company you keep. there are some circles that would high five a chick for getting it in. you can even flip the scrip and start treating the fellows like the man-whores that some of them are. lol.
Bluzgirl
June 22nd, 2012
12:07 pm
“should NOT”
Bluzgirl
June 22nd, 2012
12:08 pm
True dat disco! I don’t really care what people think about me and how many people I may or may not have slept with. They can think what they want. I’ll just continue to be me!
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 22nd, 2012
12:09 pm
LOL…..@Ex’s studeddess
Slim1 get the beau to do a security detail down there and y’all can get in for free. I used to pull that trick all the time at concerts I wanted to see and it worked. But we had fewer maniacs back then than we do now. What they’re asking, for some of these tix you could buy a small car engine.
i'm swiss
June 22nd, 2012
12:10 pm
Double standards are a fact of life. Some work in your favor, some don’t. It is what it is.
As for women giving it up on the first date, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that — if you feel like hitting it, more power to you. However, I think most guys (myself included) would not think of you as wifey material if you give it up on the first date. Is that fair? No. But that’s life.
MorningAfternoon, folks!disco
June 22nd, 2012
12:15 pm
swiss – true true but the real is that some guys should just be happy they are getting some and most certainly can’t pass much judgment on any chick that breaks down and gives him some. some guys out there would have a hard time even paying for some. beggars can’t be choosers. lol. any of y’all ever look at a person and wonder if they’ve ever even had any or wonder who in the world is doing that person? okay, I’m sorry. I’m being bad.
Jarred Schenke
June 22nd, 2012
12:21 pm
I’m married. What’s this sex thing you are all talking about?
i'm swiss
June 22nd, 2012
12:33 pm
“any of y’all ever look at a person and wonder if they’ve ever even had any or wonder who in the world is doing that person?”
disco — I feel that way whenever I look at pretty much any ultra right-wing, stick-up-their-azz blow hard.
Like this fat piece of sh!t, or this orange m___f____r, or this over-inflated douchebag.
disco
June 22nd, 2012
12:34 pm
ex – lol. last time I called him to change a light bulb I couldn’t reach. it might just be time to give him a call and ask him to swap out the air filters. thanks for the reminder. am I thinking about giving him some? naw. but of course we just had the conversation about negotiating earlier this week. if he makes me an offer I can’t refuse I’ll see what I can do. lol. as I previously stated, no shame in my game.
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
12:45 pm
With the title of orange m____f___r, I thought there would be a picture of the crispy looking tanning woman.
Exiled!
June 22nd, 2012
12:47 pm
Indeed Disco..his issues got nothing to do with the fact that u got cobwebs that need some dusting!
eve now and then…
i'm swiss
June 22nd, 2012
1:15 pm
What happened? Did the whole blog shut down to dust disco’s cobwebs & I wasn’t invited???
Willie Dynamite
June 22nd, 2012
1:18 pm
Afternoon All,
Good topic for debate, where do I start? My Opinion only. For me getting puddy has never ever been an issue that I had to fret over. The goal was always get to a point of knowing I could get it (ego) preferrably asap. Whether I acted on that or not mattered not to the womans perspective. At the end of the day if I want to act on it or not depended on the situation. If not I could always make a ph call to take care of any needs I had. For me the goal wasn’t trying to get the puddy moreso getting to the point of her giving me the puddy. I always thought it amazing that when you take away the full court press to get the puddy that it was easier to be given.
Yeah I’ve been a wolf, coochie snatcher, good guy and all of the above depending on the day/chick.
kimmie
June 22nd, 2012
1:56 pm
disco – I so agree, some should just be happy they got some!
Leggs
June 22nd, 2012
2:03 pm
Ex, guess you didn’t get the memo. Golden showers do not fit with the maturity of the women in Blogsville!
Willie Dynamite
June 22nd, 2012
2:05 pm
To be contrary (it is Friday) some Women just want to get done good by someone they don’t consider a buster. They may have a high opinion of themselves but we get the concept of low hanging fruit. IJS, its a lot of f ugging going on and it is mutual.
disco
June 22nd, 2012
2:13 pm
swiss – my jaw dropped. dang. lol.
Single and Happy
June 22nd, 2012
2:15 pm
Ex you wouldn’t consider her wifey type, yea you can turn a h into a housewife! so the first time I come homes and she’s acting like Susie home maker, she got to go!!