Would you marry after 2 weeks?
I really was not going to get into the new HBO, show Girls. I am soo far from being a young girl (birthday is in 10 days!) and I don’t live in New York (not yet, that is.). Yet here I am, thinking about last night’s season finale.
One of the characters decides to up and marry a guy she met a whopping 14 days earlier. Now, I am all for spontaneity and living in the moment, but how does a two week relationship evolve into a marriage? Well, it’s fictional and on HBO, which isn’t just TV, so whatever.
The reality is though, there are people who believe in love at first sight. Some fall so hard and so fast, that they commit to a life together right away. Does that mean their love isn’t real, though?
I really want to know the marriage statistics on people who met and married in a short amount of time, compared to those that didn’t. What do you think those numbers would be?
Would you marry someone after two weeks of knowing them? Do you think love at first sight is possible?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
2:57 pm
WillieD – I don’t know where women are meeting these men…lol I can’t do it. If you’re broke and busted (not the same as hardworking and coming up), then than means you’re gonna lean on me and that ain’t happening. Might sound mean might sound snobbish but ut uh, I ain’t carrying a trifling dude.
kimmie
June 18th, 2012
2:58 pm
Willie – I’ll take a stab at your question – the same place yall meeting the women at!LOL!!
That’s why it’s so important to really GET TO KNOW people!! Not just get into each other’s pants. You would not believe how many “together on the outside and on paper” dudes I know! They are walking around among us, dressed nice, smelling good, some even driving nice cars. Peel back the layers, though, and you have to hold your nose! Come to find out they are robbing Peter to pay Paul and got an extra kid stashed away somewhere they gotta pay for, on top of the ones they have out front! Ex-con, in debt up to their eyeballs, you name it. The main dudes that be whining talking about “women don’t give the NICE guys a chance”!
Bluzgirl
June 18th, 2012
2:59 pm
Single…I guess I used to, but not anymore!!! I set myself up to be used with the last one and didn’t see it until it was too late. I’m ready for a man who can carry his own weight…
Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
3:01 pm
Kimmie – LOLOLOL…the same dudes For Real talking bout need a prenup, the 30K dudes…lol Yeah, they’re victims
Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
3:03 pm
If you didn’t strap up time and time again and then with crazed baby mamas to boot, it’s your own dang fault…lol Don’t fault the kids, the child support payments YOU RIGHTFULLY OWE, nor those crazy chicks. Should have thought about that when you was getting your toes curled and your eyes rolling back in your head…lololololol
kimmie
June 18th, 2012
3:03 pm
Celisea – Yeah, here I am, carrying you, yet you want to come up in my house and complain I’m not “letting” you be the man!
I’m just talking ish really, never had patience for sorry dudes though. Just not what I grew up seeing. I knew men, even if they only had a GED, would work 2 or 3 jobs before they let some woman carry them cause they had more pride. Call me a snob, boughie, all you want. I worked my behind off, throwing papers, bagging groceries at Publix, and working a full time job with a masters degree. Can’t carry nobody else that won’t work!
Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
3:04 pm
Oh, and the “white man” that created the law for garnishing nor the jail that’s waiting if you don’t make the payments….just saying
Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
3:06 pm
Kimmie – I’m cutting up too. But in all seriousness, I’ve made my mistakes and I didn’t blame not a single solitary person. I did what I had to do to pull it together. I didn’t whine the whole time doing it either and I didn’t “wait” for help. I agree, I have nothing but praises for those folks (men in this case), that just get on out there and make it happen…two jobs or whatever. Just do the dang thing without whining one word in blaming others.
disco
June 18th, 2012
3:06 pm
I love to see that the blog ladies know exactly what I’ve been talking about!!! I, too, absolutely refuse to carry a grown A man. bump that.
Bluzgirl
June 18th, 2012
3:07 pm
I did my time in carrying a man and refuse to ever do it again. It would be nice if I could find a man to carry me a little!!!
Single and Happy
June 18th, 2012
3:07 pm
@kimmie: what’s wrong with being in debt up to your eyeballs, long as you have things to show for it? and not what you used to have. (LOL)
Bluzgirl
June 18th, 2012
3:08 pm
It’s amazing what “love” does to you, though. It sure made me blind, deaf, and dumb!!! Never again!
Single and Happy
June 18th, 2012
3:10 pm
Bluz: it would be nice to find a woman than can just carry her own instead of hearing every woman needs a little help sometimes. And I know that’s not all women.
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
June 18th, 2012
3:10 pm
So, the topic is sorry dudes, let me catch up…
Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
3:12 pm
Bluz – There’s are PLENTY of men out there still treating women like women indeed. Keep and hold to a standard. It comes with that sort of territory. Yeah, you have some that will blow cause you ain’t buying into their BS, but there are plenty that recognizes a good woman when they see one. Truuust me on that
Bluzgirl
June 18th, 2012
3:13 pm
Single…I posted earlier that I do carry my own. I don’t need a man’s money at all. I’m saying it would be nice to have a man who can carry his own and maybe even take care of me a little. Obviously, I haven’t put too much on how much a man makes…Money can’t make you happy..
SlimUno
June 18th, 2012
3:13 pm
The beau told me over the weekend that if something happened to my job he would be able to take care of both of us… That’s all sounds good and dandy but I want to be able to carry my weight as well. Not looking for someone to ‘take care of me’ because in my eyes, that gives them too much ‘assumed power’ or control over me.
O/T Ok, this is waaaaay off topic. I saw some show over the weekend about a guy that has a 14inch wang. They showed him walking down the street and it looked like he was hiding an anaconda in his pants
If a dude pulled that out, i’d run for the hills.
Bluzgirl
June 18th, 2012
3:14 pm
Cel…Amen! I’ve had to go through some real frogs over the years, but that’s just to prepare me to appreciate my prince when we find each other!
Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
3:15 pm
Alright folks…my exit left (for now)
kimmie
June 18th, 2012
3:15 pm
Single – LOL!! That’s fine, just don’t expect me to carry you.
Really though, just like we talked earlier of weak women and bad decisions and the consequences, these are dudes that were guilty of the same – weak and made bad decisions. Now you gotta pay. Don’t get mad and call me a gold-digger or accuse me of not being ride-or-die cause I like being in my comfortable little house driving my dependable point A to point B car, wearing decent clothes and eating decent foods in a clean, safe neighborhood!
Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
3:15 pm
Bluz –
Single and Happy
June 18th, 2012
3:17 pm
bluz i was just going by your last post, carry you a little. I don’t have problem with doing it together, just don’t want to here carry me a little.
Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
3:17 pm
And that’s all I’m saying….just like women are in the condition they’re in because of bad choices, it goes equally the other way when the state is taking all you’re check for all those kids you got not strapping up. Those are the breaks and the price we pay to mend for the mistakes. No point in either saying crying victim. Start with self and the clean-up will be just a little bit easier.
Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
3:18 pm
I was piggybacking that 3:15
Single and Happy
June 18th, 2012
3:19 pm
@kimmie, wouldn’t want any one to carry me, just ride along with me, and not expect me to carry you. Last time I checked most rent’s and mortgages come around the same time every month, can’t pay yours and mine too. I’m just saying (LOL)
Leggs
June 18th, 2012
3:22 pm
What station are you watching SlimUno. That would scare my honey pot shut!
Leggs
June 18th, 2012
3:23 pm
I don’t know how many frogs you went through, just glad your clown phase is over. :wimk:
I hope that made you laugh, Bluz!
Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
3:25 pm
Well I wanted to hit gym at 3:00…guess it will have to be after work.
Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
3:26 pm
Call me crazy…I went back and read the comments…I’m ca-racking up at myself Kimmie and disco
Bluzgirl
June 18th, 2012
3:28 pm
LOL Leggs!!! The clown texted me last week (a forwarded mass text). I told him to please delete my number. He said “no problem…damn.” LOL
MervTheTerrible
June 18th, 2012
3:28 pm
Reading the comments here you would think some men would have common sense with all the forms of birth control they have out there now, even pill form for men. Ah so nice to not have any children and being single. Did anyone hear about the guy that’s got like 20 something kids by 15 women I think, and owes all them child support, man can you say SCREWED??!
SlimUno
June 18th, 2012
3:31 pm
Leggs – I think it was on that Strange Sex show on TLC. But your honeypot being scared is exactly how I felt when I saw my bf in college wang. Granted it was not 14 inches but he was up in the ‘well-endowed’ class. I said, what are you going to do with that.
But anyway, they were talking about he can’t fit even the largest size condoms. And that he has the ability to fracture a chicks uterus
Single and Happy
June 18th, 2012
3:33 pm
@MervTheTerrible, yes those women are screwed
Leggs
June 18th, 2012
3:34 pm
Dang, did the show state whether is sex needs were being met or are the women jumping out windows cuz he lockekd the bedroom door when they see all that wang????
Leggs
June 18th, 2012
3:35 pm
Single/Merve ~ one of those women only receive a $1.00 in child support.
Single and Happy
June 18th, 2012
3:37 pm
Leggs, yea I know that’s why I say they are the ones getting screwed
disco
June 18th, 2012
3:39 pm
speaking on sorry men, simple women and child support. I worked with a chick who was dating a guy who told her he couldn’t marry her because he was behind in his child support. that chick went and paid all his back support and I guess that was dude’s cue because he did indeed marry her. he is now a stay at home husband and she’s still making his child support payments. she’s happy with her hubby so more power to her and him and his baby momma whose check comes on time each month courtesy of the new stepmom. lol.
SlimUno
June 18th, 2012
3:41 pm
Leggs – He says often times he has to weed out chicks that are only talking to him for the curiousity of it all. But he also said he definitely has to really take his time with the women and surprisingly hes on the shy side….looks a bit of a nerd type. So I was surprised to see he wasn’t as big of what he’s carrying in those pants.
I know it isn’t funny but to read in black and white that someone gets $1.00 in child support has me sooooooo tickled right now lol He can never get mad at one of his baby mama’s and throw out, “Well you betta take it out of the child support I send you errry month!”
(to the corner I go)
Single and Happy
June 18th, 2012
3:43 pm
Enter your comments here
Leggs
June 18th, 2012
3:45 pm
“he is now a stay at home husband and she’s still making his child support payments.” = WOW! As it was so eloquently stated earlier…whatever floats your boat.
MervTheTerrible
June 18th, 2012
3:45 pm
@Single and Happy
Unfortunately they are, and the guy may end up in jail for lack of payments, then the gals are really screwed. I double up on birth control (rain coat and pill) and refuse bare back sex, I know parenthood isn’t planned most of the time but darn it I put an effort into not having kids, at least till I am some what ready.
Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
3:46 pm
I have a former coworker that told her dude, that transferred into our group, moving here from Fla and he so called fiance followed (both working for our company) her to Georgia. Well, given the fact that he was STILL MARRIED, had a set of twins under a year old at that time, two other kids outside of the twins and told him after all that…that she couldn’t marry him because child support took his entire check. Never mind still being married. How about buddy bought her a huge ring, divoced his wife changed jobs making more money. I say he was stupid past stupid. Mind you now at that time, she has a kid by a pro ball player (he was still playing at the time…albeit a thug) and a kid from an previous marriage that never worked because she kept dipping back with the ballplayer. Again….WHERE ARE THOSE STUPID MEN OUT THERE? Right here!
Leggs
June 18th, 2012
3:46 pm
Yes, corner is where you need to clear your head.
SlimUno
June 18th, 2012
3:47 pm
Leggs – Oh and he holds the world record too
Leggs
June 18th, 2012
3:49 pm
@Merve ~ you take the male bc pill???
Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
3:49 pm
Okay…I was redoing the post….
I have a former coworker that moved her from Florida and her man followed her. Both working here. He left our company and found a job making more all because she complained that his child support for four kids left nothing for her. Why would you want a dude with four kids? Why would you want four more kids and you already have two? Why would you want a dude that would drop wife and new babies???
I don’t know who was more stupid her or him. Maybe him because she’s laid back getting a company off the ground and he’s supporting everybody.
disco
June 18th, 2012
3:49 pm
is it just me or does it seem like the men who pay the “cheap” child support are the ones that complain the most? you know the ones that pay $12/week or other foolishness like that? the guys that should be crying the blues ($1000/mo+) you hardly hear from. of course, I guess those are the guys who probably try not to think about it let alone talk about it. lol.
Leggs
June 18th, 2012
3:49 pm
Sheesh, not sure why I insist on putting an “e’ at the end of your name, Merv.
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
June 18th, 2012
3:54 pm
14 inches, dayum, he got me an inch…lol
Celisea...dragging and tired :)
June 18th, 2012
3:54 pm
I guess they would have died if they had to pay what my kid’s dad had to pay. He tried to scream bloody murder but the judge said…and I quote “your a man you can do it” He was angry a LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONGtime with the amount I was awarded. He tried every trick in the book to get reduced.