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Ex-files: Are all your exes insane?

I will never forget returning from a night out with a new guy, only to find my ex waiting in my driveway. Psycho cop was not open to the idea of “parting ways” so he actively tried to sabotage any new potential romances.

The young man I was trying to rebound with was patient as any good man could be, but when he asked me, “Are all your exes this insane?”, well I had to own up to my poor choices in men! Is it fair to judge someone by the last person they dated?

What do you do when your ex is not ready to move on but you are already gone? Do you let the new person know that the ex is lingering around, much to your chagrin?

P.S. Did you hear the one about two guys walk into a club and start taunting one another about their shared ex? No punchline. It happened. What would you do if you found out your exes were fighting about you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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czBrat

June 15th, 2012
10:34 am

stripper roommates :shock:

Most of that action happened with me on the sidelines watching, clutching pearls and not believing (oh my virgin eyes and ears) or somebody seeing my back from running
^^^ that’s my girl! :lol: :lol: :lol:

MissMoni

June 15th, 2012
10:36 am

Celisea, I am JUST FINE!

Leggs- A note saying such probably rubbed his ego the wrong way, hence the bottle throwing. . .

Celisea

June 15th, 2012
10:36 am

czBrat – It ain’t as colorful as disco tryna paint it….lolol :) :)

lolalee

June 15th, 2012
10:37 am

Bluz he must be crazy to be engaged so quickly.
btw, you can’t get a restraining order just because somebody treats you badly.

disco

June 15th, 2012
10:37 am

well so long as I’m not the only one.

since things are slowing down I’ll throw in an off topic. I took my mom to dinner last night and she didn’t complain about one single, solitary thing. I wanted to call ripley’s believe it or not (is ripley still around?). anyway, it was amazing. another thing I’ll say – in particular to all the blog gents – is that I have a new found appreciation for brothers who consistently pick up the tab. I’ve been buying for two for two weeks (meals, event tickets, travel accommodations, everything) and in the back of my mind I’m like “this is some bull”. to all the guys who consistently pick up the tab disco says “you are the man. I don’t know you but I love you. keep up the good work.”

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
10:37 am

Really….

1. What did the FB msg say? Smart to have blocked her. I’m just being nosey.
2. She’s not crazy, just thirsty…yeah, crazy too.
3. Hope you expected him being nasty to you about your “redecorations.”
4. I immediately saw you guys on Maury fighting over musical instruments and the new gf jumping up from the audience threatening to whoop your arse when you guys get back home.

Celisea

June 15th, 2012
10:38 am

MMeelloo – That’s my take too….nothing but youngins Both of them need to go on somewhere and sit down. I know Chris Brown needs a switch taken to him…lol

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
10:38 am

MissMoni ~ it’s reported that Drake threw the first bottle.

Bluzgirl

June 15th, 2012
10:39 am

Lola…no…I’d get the restraining order if they continue harassing me…Also, borderline cyber-bullying on Monday, even though he took down the stuff. KIM…this boy is almost 46! I can’t believe he gave chick my number for her to start texting me…

Celisea

June 15th, 2012
10:39 am

Drake needs a switch too then…lol

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
10:41 am

@disco ~ our mothers are alike. I was afraid to take mine out while she was here because I know her too well. She complained, but I made sure we ate home the rest of her visit.

Brown is still on probation, so this ruckus isn’t good. BUT, at least Rhiana wasn’t at the place with them. Boy, that would have been even nastier.

Bluzgirl

June 15th, 2012
10:42 am

Leggs…her FB message said something about being really sorry and that was the hardest call he ever had to make but thought it was only fair for me to hear it from him. I wrote back a couple of things, including that I wanted my stuff back and for them to get out of my life, then I blocked her so she couldn’t write me again.

Of course I expected something about the bass, but it was MY bass…a friend even called him out on that when he was b*tching about it on FB. He gave it to me. Anyway…I could have posted the picture of my front door he busted, but I’m better than that.

The thing is…it was between me and him. She should not be involved in any way. That girl has a huge awakening coming, though!

Celisea....Only 2 men over a 14 year stretch ;)

June 15th, 2012
10:45 am

Wow…I dunno on this one

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
10:46 am

Wait a minute, Bluz. She FB you saying she’s sorry after he calls and tells you he’s getting married? What is she sorry for? If you gave the bass to him, it was no longer yours.

MissMoni

June 15th, 2012
10:46 am

Bluzgirl- THAT situation is worthy of reality tv!

Leggs- I too would like to know the answer to your #1 ? for Bluzgirl.

Celisea- I agree, they ALL need to go to TIMEOUT.

Disco- Why are they guys not paying?

czBrat

June 15th, 2012
10:46 am

but I observed a great deal of stuff along the way. I ain’t gotta experience everything to know what NOT to do. I learned from listening and watching.
sing it!!
like i said earlier, this is my preferred method for making life choices. and the one i’ve tried to instill in the munchkins.

bluz, it may take you a few more of these experiences to learn how to simply wish someone well, cut those ties (and the $$$ you’re owed), and move on in peace.
if she’s crazy and he’s homeless, be thankful they found each other and leave it at that.
don’t fuel the fire then wonder why the flames are lapping at your door.

Bluzgirl

June 15th, 2012
10:47 am

I know I seemed a little psycho with the bass…and I will admit to temporary insanity! LOL!!! I had reasons, though. He still didn’t give me the money he owes me before he got the bass back. I just destroyed my own property. I kind of wish I had just sold it, but that wouldn’t have felt as good! LOL

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
10:48 am

disco ~ here’s the story:

http://www.nydailynews.com/gossip/chris-brown-injured-nyc-bar-brawl-drake-rihanna-article-1.1095516

The girl about to take a sip of her drink in the one the pictures looks like a cartoon character (lol).

Bluzgirl

June 15th, 2012
10:49 am

Leggs…no kidding! I don’t know why she felt the need to tell me she was sorry. We do not know each other or have any mutual friends. I think she just wanted to have her presence known.

I am glad to be done with him at this point. He’s her problem now. He can use her like he used me. I learned a LOT of lessons with this one…including, listen to my family and friends when they question me about being with him…

Celisea....Only 2 men over a 14 year stretch ;)

June 15th, 2012
10:50 am

Miss Moni – Exactly. They both know better and should be making better choices.

czBrat – Me too and exactly. Like my mama would say, I don’t have to stick my hand in the fire to know it’s hot. That’s a lot to be said in observing rather than going all in. That’s no different than what we do when broaching potentially new relationships. We sit back and observe hopefully to avoid going all in each and every time. THIS is what I tell my kid.

Celisea....Only 2 men over a 14 year stretch ;)

June 15th, 2012
10:51 am

don’t fuel the fire then wonder why the flames are lapping at your door

Well said!

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
10:52 am

“don’t fuel the fire then wonder why the flames are lapping at your door.” – NICE.

Some people thrive on drama and Bluz, you may be one of them. It really is easy to just walk away from things, especially those things that aren’t good for you. I never give anyone a second chance to fugg with my heart!

Bluz ~ stop saying you destroyed your own property. If that was indeed the case, you would have destroyed it and kept it. You gave it back to him, because you relinquished your rights to it.

lolalee

June 15th, 2012
10:52 am

BLuz you have to prove legitimate risk of danger, esp since you don’t live together. judge gonna say why don’t you just change your number or block her number. even if you got a restraining order it would only be for a short period of time. im just saying so you know. like i said i have a PERMANENT order against my ex. <–those are extremely rare esp with children, but i had facts and evidence to get it. so i guess iknow a lil about it.

Celisea....Only 2 men over a 14 year stretch ;)

June 15th, 2012
10:54 am

Destroying something and then doing show and tell…is fueling the fire

Okay I got meetings. Who in the world line up meetings on a Friday???

disco

June 15th, 2012
10:55 am

moni – re why are the guys not paying? I’m not sure what you mean. all I was saying is that I’ve been paying for me and my momma for 2 weeks and I totally get why men might feel some kind of way re always paying. lol. me, myself, personally – I’m not used to this.

bluz – again I ask, do you not have any friends or family members who will put a little bug in your ear, give you a stern talking to from time to time? you need intervention, tough love and prayer. this drama with the ex is long and drawn out and it’s all you. if you would just stop then this mess would be done.

SlimUno

June 15th, 2012
10:56 am

Bluz – Not that you asked my opinion but it may just be better to cut all ties and chuck up whatever stuff he is supposed to give you as a loss. Peace of mind can trump material things sometimes.

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
10:58 am

Bluz ~ if that’s the case, she wanted more than just her presence known. That was her way of letting you know she’s spiteful and vindictive. That was your wakeup call….she was telling you “it’s on and popping” and if you aren’t over your ex she will make it her point to make you get over him and out the picture.

No woman in her right ming FB another woman saying “sorry” that she’s getting married to her ex! Crazy is as crazy does, and you stepped right into an Alfred Hitchcock episode.

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
10:58 am

I will say this, Bluz. Whenever the blog is slow, your situation always spark a lively conversation.

lolalee

June 15th, 2012
10:59 am

how bout we don’t fuel Bluz’s drama anymore either?
happy friday.

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
11:00 am

Destroying something and then doing show and tell…is fueling the fire

Yes ma’am!

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
11:01 am

Celisea ~ I think you said the same thing about Friday meetings, last Friday (lol).

Celisea....Only 2 men over a 14 year stretch ;)

June 15th, 2012
11:02 am

Leggs – I probably did…lol This is the day when most folks are done traveling. So I know for this demo we’re about to do it was scheduled today in an effort to “catch” folks while they have them…lol

disco

June 15th, 2012
11:03 am

lolalee – re bluz’ drama. better here than in real life. shoot, if I was bluz’ real life friend I would have dug a hole by now. lol. there’s only so much support I’m willing to dole out and only so much listening to the same tale of woe that I’m willing to do. this here – on the blog – gets me through the day.

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
11:05 am

Celisea ~ it’s the same way here. No work M-Thurs, but come Friday, I’m busting my arse. Thank goodness he’s out of town today. But come Monday, I know he’s going to call me on the carpet. I rented a car for him to be picked up from the airport. Problem is I ordered the pickup for Tallahassee and he’s flying into Jacksonville. I corrected the error hours later, but as far as he’s concerned the mistake was made. Oh well, NEXT problem…

czBrat

June 15th, 2012
11:10 am

c, i sometimes wonder if my life is rather boring because of the risks i didn’t take.
then i remember … i’m HAPPY!!! :grin:

leggs, i don’t bother much with keeping up with what the celebs are up to. especially the young ones. but when i hear stuff like what yous are talking about today, it makes me wonder what will become of this world once we grow old and they’re running things. smh.

ThirdWheelSingle

June 15th, 2012
11:12 am

Good Morning yall!!!! I have had two crazy exes…..ok maybe three…. One I dated in high school and dumped him right before graduation and he stalked me after I graduated and came up to my job with his friend and he harrassed me. It was great…. Then I had another ex I dated for two months but I dumped him because he got boring. Come to find out he married my neighbor/classmate and when she found out that we were dating she blew a fuse. Then SHE stalked me at my job. It got to the point that I had to quit and move to another town. Now I am still living with ex number three and he is crazy as all get out… currently trying to break our lease and move on with my life. Why do I want to get married again? LOL

Celisea....Only 2 men over a 14 year stretch ;)

June 15th, 2012
11:12 am

Leggs – Dontcha just hate it? I like for Fridays to be easy breezy. Getting loaded down on Fridays is blah… Glad to have a job though :) Glad you got the mix-up fixed. Can you imagine if you wouldn’t have caught it? Whew Thanks goodness for pencils as they have erasers (metaphorically speaking maybe…okay that was cheesy…lol)

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
11:13 am

czB ~ like the promo for young kids doing crazy things on “Clipaholics” poignantly states “We are F……!”

Bluzgirl

June 15th, 2012
11:14 am

I know that I fueled the fire, but it’s all over now. I can honestly say that I’m really over him. I may not be over all he did to me, but I’m over any feelings for him. His true colors have shown. I want NOTHING to do with either one of them ever again. Like I said, I just hope they both leave me alone.

I can admit that I have thrived on drama, but I’m trying my best to not do that anymore. I want my life to be drama free. I’m tired of it.

Celisea....Only 2 men over a 14 year stretch ;)

June 15th, 2012
11:15 am

czBrat – Noooooo, you did the right thing. Of my kid’s dad he was ALWAYS the risk taker. I saw of stuff chew his butt for me not to want to partake in that foolishness. That simply means you would have the experiences but a gang of consequences as well. Nope, good choice :)

I don’t too much follow celebs either. IMO, it’s all just so overstated or overlapping that it’s outrageous sometimes. Give me the simply life :)

kimmie

June 15th, 2012
11:16 am

How long are folks gonna give Chris Brown and Drake the “their young” excuse? If yo A– is over 18 and really when yo behind reaches 21, adult behavior is expected, plain & simple!!! Plus, wasn’t everyone giving CB the excuse when he beat RiRi that he had the right cause she had given him an STD?? If that’s the case, what they fighting over??? Naw, they are fighting for publicity, and stupid folks lap it up!!

Celisea....Only 2 men over a 14 year stretch ;)

June 15th, 2012
11:17 am

Ohhhh Lord….NOT ONE OF MY KID’S DAD…I only have one kid. My kid’s dad…I don’t know HOW I did that. I am NOT hiding another kid somewhere…lolololol

Celisea....Only 2 men over a 14 year stretch ;)

June 15th, 2012
11:18 am

Never mind…I was re-reading…whew Okay I’m screwy today :evil:

lolalee

June 15th, 2012
11:18 am

disco guess ive had my fill of bluz’ drama here. some people energize through drama (remember the celestine prophesy?), so im guessing bluz is one of those. not trying to be unsympathetic but somebody who keeps fanning the flames must like the fire. guess im too over that.

kimmie

June 15th, 2012
11:18 am

Drake is 26, pushing 30 in my book. CB is 23. Neither are babies, until it’s convenient anyway.

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
11:18 am

3rdWheel ~ I was thinking about you yesterday because I was invited out with a husband wife tomorrow night. I thought “no can do, I hate being the 3rd wheel.” Poof, here you are. How are things going for you? You’re still living with ex?

Correct me if I’m wrong, but I thought the last time you were here, you said you left your 500lb boyfriend who smelled like swamp a$$. Now, you know that’s not someone like me would forget (lol).

Bluzgirl

June 15th, 2012
11:18 am

Ex…I wasn’t Facebooking them. They are both blocked at this point. I kept quiet on FB about the whole break up and will continue to keep quiet on there.

Celisea....Only 2 men over a 14 year stretch ;)

June 15th, 2012
11:19 am

Even though Celisea agrees….she’s not saying a word :)

Celisea....Only 2 men over a 14 year stretch ;)

June 15th, 2012
11:19 am

And it keeps on going and going and going

disco

June 15th, 2012
11:19 am

celisea – you might not be hiding a kid but I hope you aren’t jinxing yourself. lol.

kimmie – stupid folks lap it up. and that’s the true shame of it all. I think about the movie the Bronx tale when sonny asked colojero (sp?) if mickey mantle was going to pay his rent.