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Ex-files: Are all your exes insane?

I will never forget returning from a night out with a new guy, only to find my ex waiting in my driveway. Psycho cop was not open to the idea of “parting ways” so he actively tried to sabotage any new potential romances.

The young man I was trying to rebound with was patient as any good man could be, but when he asked me, “Are all your exes this insane?”, well I had to own up to my poor choices in men! Is it fair to judge someone by the last person they dated?

What do you do when your ex is not ready to move on but you are already gone? Do you let the new person know that the ex is lingering around, much to your chagrin?

P.S. Did you hear the one about two guys walk into a club and start taunting one another about their shared ex? No punchline. It happened. What would you do if you found out your exes were fighting about you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

210 comments Add your comment

Lily

June 15th, 2012
6:19 am

Exiled!

June 15th, 2012
6:50 am

Lily,you have punched me to defeat.

Yea,second!

If All your exes keep rebounding,yea,you maybe pyscho yourself! Birds of a feather,I say.

Although I will confess,top notch nana will make a guy want to keep in contact even after being benched.
Top notch kuchi is like glue! It nuts s dude’s brain.

Hmmm..do Diva got a nice package..no wonder she got do much divaish swag.. :lol:

Exiled!

June 15th, 2012
6:51 am

So Diva…..

2CPTG

June 15th, 2012
8:12 am

morning……

I agree with exiled! Diva what are you doing to these men? I’mma start referring to you as “Diva 3-5-7″ …..juicy got ‘em crazy!!!!

HH7

June 15th, 2012
8:29 am

the answer to your question is …Yes!
that is why my policy is the ex does not EXist!
if he has NO reason to keep in contact, he better not even try..period.

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
8:58 am

Good morning!

Lily, you’re always first. Ex, give up trying.

Hey, 2C! What’s cooking.

I don’t have any insane ex’s. I pretty much can spot crazy before it’s in full bloom. There are 2 guys that are still vying for my attention 30 years later, but I know their dirt and can’t get down with them.

SlimUno

June 15th, 2012
8:58 am

2C – Good to read ya man and you have me cracking the hell up with the 357 reference :lol:

czBrat

June 15th, 2012
9:01 am

lmao @ lily & me-lo.
x, why do you even bother? :lol:

quite happy to report that i have no experience whatsoever with today’s topic. my exes are still my chums and rather cool dudes.
the ex hubs is in a trash class by himself, true, but he’s no psycho.

my heart goes out to the bloggers with stalker tales. that’s got to be some unnerving kinda crap.

disco

June 15th, 2012
9:08 am

omg – did ya say “juicy got ‘em crazy”. now that’s what I needed on a Friday morning. cold going mad. that’s what’s up!

good morning everyone.

SlimUno

June 15th, 2012
9:08 am

Oh, and good morning Blogsville…

Once when I was trying to move on from the ex, he could not get a hold of me because I was out with the new guy and ex was blowing me up. He called me about 30 times and even left a msg saying he was outside of my apt waiting and had been out there at least 3 hrs already. That was about as crazy as I can think of at the moment.

czBrat

June 15th, 2012
9:18 am

Diva what are you doing to these men?
wait. what? does this mean i wasn’t ‘too good to let go’?

nah! it’s like leggs said, them joes had their cuckoo under wraps from day one.
you just gotta be patient and savvy enough to flush it out.

MissMoni

June 15th, 2012
9:24 am

GOOD Friday Morning Everyone!

All of my ex’s are NOT insane. 1 or 2 do need some professional counseling, but none are stalkers. However, I do have 1 that I work with everyday and contrary to popular belief, it is going better than expected. If in fact you DON’T want to be bothered, stand your ground and keep your ex on their side of the fence.

Elijah

June 15th, 2012
9:26 am

What it do good people?

That good juice will have you doing some crazy things! I once dated a woman who threw down like no other! We had a bitter break-up, On a few occasions I noticed her car outside during this time I had a guest over and she would start blowing up the phone. Long story short after the madness subsided I started knocking dem boots again… Yea I know should not have, but the juice was calling me! lol

MissMoni

June 15th, 2012
9:27 am

czBrat I am a firm believer in the fact that a person does not turn psycho overnight. There are always warning signs, it’s up to the person as to whether or not they pay attention to them. *Loving the patient & savvy*

disco

June 15th, 2012
9:29 am

just yesterday I mentioned a news article out of Cleveland where an ex-girlfriend doused the current girlfriend in gasoline and tried to set her on fire. if D makes you do all that, that’s the D I don’t want. I’m crazy enough by myself. I don’t need anything adding to my level of crazy.

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
9:29 am

O/T ~ Has Drake and Chris Brown lost their freaking minds???

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
9:30 am

“but the juice was calling me! lol” – reminds me of Richard Pryor before he caught on fire.

MissMoni

June 15th, 2012
9:34 am

Leggs, to answer your ?, YES they have! Like seriously, what ADULT men act like that in public?

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
9:40 am

MissMoni ~ I said the same thing while watching the news.

disco

June 15th, 2012
9:42 am

okay leggs/moni. i missed it. i heard their names on the radio this a.m. and changed the station but now y’all at least have me curious. what did they do?

SlimUno

June 15th, 2012
9:44 am

If women act a fool after a break up then she is simply deemed crazy. However, if a dude is acting a little wacky then it automatically assumed to be because of some guuud guud puddy. Is it that hard to fathom that the sex known to be practical, could actually just be crazy as hell?

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
9:50 am

Brown and Drake were at the same club in NYC with their bodyguards. Brown sent a bottle of champagne over to Drake’s table. Drake returned the bottle with a note saying something to the effect of him being Rhiana’s true love. Bottles started flying, with one gashing Brown’s chin. Bodyguard in hospital, not sure from which camp. An Australian woman in the club received 16 stitches from the mayhem. Others in hospital (I think 4-6) with minor injuries.

disco

June 15th, 2012
9:56 am

what’s truly amazing to me – well I guess not so amazing, I should be used to it by now – is that this junk consistently makes the news. the paparazzi and the media need to pull back and leave folks alone. there are far more important things for these so-called journalists to report. certainly not condoning their behavior or making excuses but dang. too many folks are worried about what these celebs are doing. guess it confirms why some (usually hollywood’s bad boys/girls) stand by the concept of no press is bad press.

czBrat

June 15th, 2012
10:06 am

lol @ ms.moni. you can come about that patience & savvy a couple ways;
learn from your own near-psycho experience, or heed the mishaps of others.

i’ve chosen the latter. it’s a little less painful.

kimmie

June 15th, 2012
10:06 am

Morning All!!!

No crazy exes. One TRIED to go there with me, come calling over to my daddy’s house during the time he’d had his stroke and I would be over there alot caring for him. Cried like a big sissy when I broke it off with him. Claimed he was just “concerned” about me so that’s why he was calling me at my daddy’s house. My dad was not able to fight him at the time, but he main caregiver, a kinda crazy, ex-veteran that had seen real battle, was more than willing when he answered his calls! I told him it wasn’t necessary, but told dude DO NOT call my house or my daddy’s house ever again or he would not like the outcome. He’d really have something to cry about then, I told him. He left me alone!

That’s my only bout with crazy. I too, can spot it a mile away. I get a strong vibe. Those are the times when I can’t explain it when other people ask me “why didn’t I give so-and-so a chance”. Alot of times didn’t have anything “concrete” to base my decision on, just wanted to avoid the crazy I could feel possibly coming on.

Yeah, you dudes keep on runny after that crazy puddy! You and everyone around you will have to deal with the collateral damage. Is it really worth it? And you call US irrational!!

Exiled!

June 15th, 2012
10:08 am

Up north we had the news yesterday folds!

The DJs drive down to NY at night and are on the radio the next morning dishing out dirt.

Folks up here are just celebrity crazy

I can tell u todays news here that news there tmrw if u want! Lol

MissMoni

June 15th, 2012
10:09 am

Disco, it is borderline annoying that mainstream media is filled with celeb & politician everything. Most of the time, I’m like really, who cares? A crazy ex is just that & it doesn’t matter WHO they are.

Celisea

June 15th, 2012
10:09 am

Morning all,

I’ve had one all out crazy and one that had a hard time letting go.

I can admit though, I’ve probably been someone’s crazy…lol Not stalking or anything but snapping? Yeah I’ve gone all in and deservedly so. Next time don’t think me to be umm fu fu. Still and even so I bet they were thinking WTH??? LOLOLOLOL

kimmie

June 15th, 2012
10:10 am

Exiled – That Drake/CB mess was all over the news here yesterday too, early in the morning. They were talking about it on Frank & Wanda yesterday! I don’t know why the press is acting like it just happened last nite!!

Wanda was saying CB really needs to quit trying to be this big thug, cause he ain’t one!!LOL!!

MissMoni

June 15th, 2012
10:12 am

And another thing, sometimes people ALLOW music to inspire them when they really should listen to ANOTHER song. Case in point: Jennifer Holiday- And I’m Telling You
This is NOT a song to listen to after a breakup! You can’t MAKE anybody love you.

Celisea

June 15th, 2012
10:12 am

The all out crazy would just “show” up and try and sabotage anything new or potentially new I had going on. Constantly walked in without knocking, followed me, for about a year would call my desk EVERY Monday until he was dang tired. That would last Monday and about a half day Tuesday. He’d go quiet Wednesday on and back at it Monday. Looking through my stuff, questioning my kid about who’s coming over….I could go on and on and on

disco

June 15th, 2012
10:16 am

ex – I’m not truly mad at the media and the paparazzi as much as the idiots who support the media and the paparazzi. of course, it’s easier to blame the media and paparazzi than the general population. this fascination with other peoples’ lives (celebrity news and reality tv) is so beyond my understanding but apparently there’s a market. it takes all kinds.

Celisea

June 15th, 2012
10:16 am

Did I mention knocking on my windows at night, showing up at my job (calling from the security desk…nut), oh when he said (out of his mouth) he was going to put roots on me because he couldn’t get me like he wanted me…. What stupid? LOL

Anyhoo it’s Friday and I feel like cutting up :)

MissMoni

June 15th, 2012
10:21 am

Celisea, I’m so GLAD you got away from that FOOL! You definitely got a reason to ENJOY your Friday! ;-)

disco

June 15th, 2012
10:22 am

celisea – you have a very colorful past. stripper roommates, workplace stalkers, a kid who blocks with a subtle little cough. lol. (wait, that was your kid wasn’t it? might have you confused with someone else).

Bluzgirl

June 15th, 2012
10:23 am

I have only had one ex that I was a little scared of. Psycho in Seattle was definitely psychotic around the time of the breakup. He is bipolar and was not taking the proper meds or getting treatment. I was so glad that he lived in Seattle, but still worried about him coming here to visit friends and showing up. I was relieved when I moved and he wouldn’t have had my address anymore.

The recent ex…he isn’t psycho, but his new woman is and has stuck her nose in where it doesn’t belong. If I hear from her one more time, I will show her true psycho!!!

Celisea

June 15th, 2012
10:26 am

MissMoni – LOL…okaaaay How are you today?

disco – Yeah, that was my kid blocking…lol Not too checkered. Honey I’m a big sissy (please..no offense to anyone). Most of that action happened with me on the sidelines watching, clutching pearls and not believing (oh my virgin eyes and ears) or somebody seeing my back from running…lol Chile I was too scared to get into anything but if I had to put my eyes out from all that I’ve seen, well……

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
10:26 am

Oh snap, Bluz, the new gf is contacting you? Why?

Also, the license plate number was a bust!

Celisea

June 15th, 2012
10:27 am

disco – The best seat in the house is from the sidelines. From the time of being reared around pops and my brothers to the stuff I didn’t know folks did, I learned a lot. I’m not angel but I observed a great deal of stuff along the way. I ain’t gotta experience everything to know what NOT to do. I learned from listening and watching.

Celisea

June 15th, 2012
10:28 am

Bluz – Say it ain’t so!

disco

June 15th, 2012
10:29 am

C – well you see that story stuck with me because it was just so funny. sidelines or not, you were there and so you were a part of the experience.

leggs – I have my suspicions why but I’ll wait for bluz to share.

SlimUno

June 15th, 2012
10:29 am

I can’t wait to hear this…Bluz, do tell :shock:

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
10:30 am

disco ~ just read that the note Drake sent back to Chris said “I’m still f….. Rhiana” then all hell broke loose.

lolalee

June 15th, 2012
10:30 am

One truly crazy ex. I have a permanent restraining order on him. Seriously. Crazy.

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
10:30 am

Me too disco, unfortunately!

Celisea

June 15th, 2012
10:30 am

disco – Yeah, something like that.

Celisea

June 15th, 2012
10:31 am

Leggs

June 15th, 2012
10:32 am

Cracking up…

Celisea

June 15th, 2012
10:33 am

Did Bluz leave?

Bluzgirl

June 15th, 2012
10:33 am

Leggs…first, she sent me a FB message the day he called me to tell me he’s getting married…I blocked her.

On Monday, he discovered the “redecorated” bass I gave back to him and they both were being nasty to me, even though he’s the one who didn’t give me the money he owes me and treated me like dirt for the most part (wish I had noticed that sooner). I told her to stay out of it and she kept on. I told them both if I heard from either of them again, I would file a restraining order. I mean…she must be crazy to get engaged to him after only 3 weeks of dating and he was living in his car!!! She’s a country bumpkin and I don’t trust it. I know she’s probably threatened by me a little because she knows we just broke up in Feb…who knows. I just hope both of them leave me alone now.