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Men love romance!

You don’t have to buy a Lamborghini for your man to show him romance. No disrespect to that Kardashian lady because buying a car for a man is quite a romantic surprise. Men dig (good!) surprises, though and women can take a cue from Kim K about showing a man he should be pampered too.

Quiet as its kept, a lot of women forget that they need to put in some work in the romance department. There are even women who are kind of clueless about wooing a man. Not the same as seducing – mind you.

When it comes to romance and pampering, what do men like?
Guys, what was the most romantic thing a woman has done for you?

What kind of romantic things do you like to do for your men, ladies?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

214 comments Add your comment

Lily

June 13th, 2012
7:42 am

Diva, a reference to taking notes from Kim K. is an insult. She’s a professional tramp and can’t speak to anything unless its “on her back” and no “buying” her man is not romantic. Stupid maybe but hardly romantic. There are many things on a less grand scale that would garnet far more appreciation.

Exiled!

June 13th, 2012
8:18 am

Yeaaa,FIRST!!!

Take that Lily!

Ohhh blush

Missed! :lol:

Shrug

Exiled!

June 13th, 2012
8:27 am

Kim K bought who a Lamborghini ?

They have been too numerous for her…

(not counting the last one the gay dude)

On topic:

Anything ordinary o wouldn’t consider romantic,just routine.

To be Romantic with capital R she has to reaaaally go the extra mile and spend some dough for me to see that as Rrrrrrrr omantic!

Something like… figure out when I’m coming home get a private jet/limo,get us to either some exotic locale or some local place I have ne’er been before but that’s reknowed for it’s beauty and aura…All unbeknown to me…

Along those lines…

Anything else…I’m dismissive

Good morning

Exiled!

June 13th, 2012
8:30 am

Now she gives me 400$ to go blow with the boys at the strip..saying ‘here Daddy,it’s Father’s day,take ur boys!’

That’s Romantic!

Strokkers here we Come!

Randyt (is the plane fueled and ready yet?)

June 13th, 2012
9:22 am

I will make this simple for all and when you embrace this, you can go ahead and move on to the next topic…men desire RESPECT more than ANYTHING else. Show this in a word or gesture, show pride and admiration, and all else just falls in to place. Shall I repeat this? Show men you are PROUD of them, that you RESPECT them with words and gestures…and all will be well.

Your homework assignment is to go home and ask your man what shows him respect, what demonstates pride in him…and just take it from there. That is ALL you need to know about men and romance, trust me.

Raqi...A Real Housewife in Dunwoody

June 13th, 2012
9:26 am

Nice topic Diva.

There are many things that I like to do for him that are romantic but to be candidly honest here, as the parents of two little ones the extent of romance in our lives these days is the baths that he and manage to get in together a few nights a week.

No soft music. No candlelight. Just the mandatory, daily washing of the body. We do wash each other back while sharing the day’s most interesting, comical and/or frustrating happenings though.

And since we have put a television in the bathroom we sometimes will spend half an hour watching the 10:30pm ‘House Hunters International’ usually with him sitting in front leaning back up against me until the water starts to get cold. That is kind of romantic. Kinda sorta.

I know he misses the romantic gestures I afforded him in the past, because I know I miss what he used to do for me. But the reality is we are the “aged” parents of two small kids. That’s a choice we made. The needs of those two small kids along with their 17 year old older brother consume much of our time.

The romance is not dead however, as long as we are spending some time alone together, no matter how it comes packaged. And the physical intimacy is still alive even if it is waking up an hour earlier to get it on and shower before the little ones start to wake.

Thinking out loud…Morning time is good. I don’t have a whole day of events and stuff that I have to try to relax my mind from to fully get into the mood.

Raqi...A Real Housewife in Dunwoody

June 13th, 2012
9:29 am

Hi Randy. How are you?

I am standing here smiling because seeing your name just brought to mind a lace top stocking and garter belt afternoon idea I could maybe put together in the name of romance for the hub. LOL

Raqi...A Real Housewife in Dunwoody

June 13th, 2012
9:30 am

One thing that did come to mind once is trying to get the little ones fed and bathed before the hub gets home from work. He usually comes in in the evenings around 6:45ish. I figure if they are fed and bathed when he comes home, he can spend daddy-time with them getting them in bed and reading to the little lady while I prepare dinner for he and I.

The down side is that will take away from the family dinner time with all of us eating together. And until my dad moves back to Ohio I don’t know if that will work out as I would like. Family dinner time is a big deal for him. However the up side is the hub and I will have that time to talk alone and be able to enjoy our meal without having to tend to the babies. I barely can eat a fully prepared plate of food these days having to make sure the little ones eat all of their meal.

I guess if we could set Saturdays and Sundays aside to be everyone eats at the same time around the table days. Mon-Fri would be ample enough times for getting the kids out the way first and having the mama and papa/husband and wife dinner time together.

I don’t know. There is always coulda, woulda, shouldas.

Raqi...A Real Housewife in Dunwoody

June 13th, 2012
9:33 am

Since you have me thinking and pondering…I guess I could get an afternoon sitter one day and go kidnap the hub from his office and whisk him away for a nice lunch or picnic. That may be romantic. It would have to be an indoor picnic though. I don’t know what it is that I am doing differently but the mosquitoes seem to love me these days. Maybe it’s the new body moisturizer that I use.

Or I could very well get an evening sitter that may be willing to stay overnight. I could be waiting with an overnight bag, looking and smelling extra nice when the hub gets home. Have reservations at his favorite high end restaurant with an evening of dancing to follow. Afterwards check into a nice hotel…where we both will probably collapse and fall into grizzly bear hibernation from utter exhaustion the minute the door closes behind us. LOL

Raqi...A Real Housewife in Dunwoody

June 13th, 2012
9:33 am

Hello M-e-l-o. How are you?

Randyt (is the plane fueled and ready yet?)

June 13th, 2012
9:35 am

Hi Raqi…wondering about you often (and the stockings ;-) …somehow I don’t think I would get quite the same effect if this was tried by the midget with 15 teeth in the drive through at McDonalds here in northern England, LOL. SOOOO, I absolutely endorse waking up hubby with the stockings, (lucky guy!!!).

Raqi...A Real Housewife in Dunwoody

June 13th, 2012
9:40 am

Randy, you are waiting for a plane? Where are you going?

Raqi...A Real Housewife in Dunwoody

June 13th, 2012
9:41 am

Again nice topic Wise Diva. Especially for the fathers since Father’s Day is quickly approaching.

Romance and Father’s Day really don’t coincide though. Father’s Day is to show appreciation the Father in the man while romance shows the appreciation for the Man in the father.

That’s all folks. I have a dreadful doctor’s appointment staring me in face. I hate medical appointments. They are so invasive.

Leggs

June 13th, 2012
9:48 am

Lily ~ had to laugh at professional tramp!

Ex ~ a day late a dollar short (LOLOL)

“…usually with him sitting in front leaning back up against me until the water starts to get cold. That is kind of romantic. Kinda sorta.” No kinda sorta, Raqi, that’s very romantic. You should go with your last paragraph at 9:33.

Leggs

June 13th, 2012
9:48 am

Oops, good morning!

Randyt (is the plane fueled and ready yet?)

June 13th, 2012
9:49 am

Raqi…got sent to England with 4 days notice to put out a ‘fire’ 2 1/2 weeks ago.. Miss my house, my HD, my pool, my children (not in this order), my Bimmer, my dogs…and any potential new opportunity on Match.com. I am sick of the food, the weather, the work, the ‘Traditional English Breakfast’…did I mention the food and weather? Usually I find an opportunity to hop over to the continent for a few days, but this time the work schedule precluded that.

I’m almost ready to start swimming west.

czBrat

June 13th, 2012
9:55 am

HiYas!

just as i was pulling up AJC, my mind was on how frustrated i am with s/o at this moment. he kinda put his foot in the b-day plans i was trying to make for him. then at almost zero hour, he decides i should go ahead with everything. well … shi!t is booked up now!

anywho, my thoughts were on how i should just go with my heart and do what i know he would like, even if claims it’s doing too much. what’s wrong with allowing himself to be pampered every now & then? lord knows he does it for me all the time.

randy, your words are true indeed. it can be a difficult thing for a certain type of woman to embrace, but respecting your man as your head makes him twice the man he ever thought he could be. it’s a beautiful thing.

abc

June 13th, 2012
10:00 am

What Randy said. And, acts of service, it could be anything. The last thing of interest would be anything material. I think that goes both ways, although it’s hard to tell when most folks can’t tell that themselves.

Leggs

June 13th, 2012
10:01 am

HAPPY, HAPPY BIRTHDAY, FOR REAL Hope you get to use your infamous ZZZZIIIIPPPPP!!!

Leggs

June 13th, 2012
10:03 am

Ummm, seems I’m a day ealier on bday wishes. Dang calendar mishap!

Leggs

June 13th, 2012
10:03 am

Go for it, czB!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 13th, 2012
10:11 am

I’m not a mushy type but I like to be acknowledged. Respect and basic tenderness is all I care for, you don’t have to surprise me with anything or special extras although they would be appreciated. Knowing she is proud I’m her man is enough romance for me.

Good Morning:

czBrat

June 13th, 2012
10:15 am

leggs, you know i’m a stickler for order and organization. lol. i feel like i’m forcing things to come together “just so” at the last minute, but it’ll work out. i’m sure we’ll have a great time.
a little fishing, a little fine dining, lots of booze, beach and laughter.

Elijah

June 13th, 2012
10:19 am

Good Morning!

It is good to read Mrs. Raqi who brings it like no other…

Romance really does start with respect which is becoming a lost art due to parents lack of teaching on how to respect people first.

Celisea I want you to come and pick-up me up for an outdoor picnic and tell how much u really appreciate me! lol

Kim K. is da bomb! She just gets paid for what she does paid quite well at that…. Funny how other ladies call other ladies a tramp when they have probably as much as Kim K has done…

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 13th, 2012
10:21 am

CZ sounds like a plan, today is my Friday and my plans are to get on a beach, swim, fish, and of course lots of booze. A little time on the blackjack and roulette tables will do nicely too.

czBrat

June 13th, 2012
10:25 am

where ya headed, footie?

Leggs

June 13th, 2012
10:29 am

lots of booze and beach….stay clear of the water (lol).

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 13th, 2012
10:35 am

Tunica, MS. then roll up to the blues capital (Beale St.) in Memphis, TN. I know they’re not your ordinary beach towns but they have their stuff together for visitors. Well they’re on the Mississippi River and I can catch a river boat ride to boot.

disco

June 13th, 2012
10:35 am

good morning gang. I don’t have the energy to pretend to be on the romantic tip this morning but I’m all for getting on the booze / beach bandwagon.

czBrat

June 13th, 2012
10:40 am

bf, been dying to ride a riverboat ever since we went to “memphis in may” a couple years ago. just watching them from the riverfront park was awesome! and very romantic, i might add.
have fuuuuuunnnn!!

lol @ disco. that booze/beach bandwagon will lead to all kinds of romance … if done properly.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 13th, 2012
10:44 am

Leggs I’ll be so boozed up I may not find the water. I might not be able to get off the ground…….LOL

Leggs

June 13th, 2012
10:46 am

Not it won’t czB. The booze/beach bandwagon will only lead to an evening of debauchery…if done properly (lol).

Randyt (save a seat on the plane for me)

June 13th, 2012
10:48 am

BF…instructions to the beach bartender, “bring me a large margarita every 20 minutes until you see my head in a trash can…then every 40 minutes after that!!!”.

Leggs

June 13th, 2012
10:50 am

I can see you now, BF!

My typing sucks!!!

disco

June 13th, 2012
10:51 am

leggs / brat – I’m single remember? I’ll take the romance or the debauchery. to be totally honest I’m leaning toward the debauchery.

Randyt (save a seat on the plane for me)

June 13th, 2012
10:54 am

@ disco…could one suggest that “debauchery” IS “romance” with the guilt stripped out (usually in close proximity to alcohol)?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 13th, 2012
10:56 am

LOL…..@Randyt

And in between those wait times I’ll chug down a few long island teas. I’m not sobering up until it’s hours before time to leave and come home……LOL

disco

June 13th, 2012
11:00 am

randy – semantics. all I’m saying is that I’m not trying to put energy/effort/thought/planning into romance. call me selfish. wait – guilt? where does guilt play into romance? are you saying debauchery is romance without guilt? I’m confused.

czBrat

June 13th, 2012
11:01 am

I’ll take the romance or the debauchery
leggs/disco, it has been my experience that one generally leads to the other (if done properly).
take them in your order of preference. :grin:

Randyt (save a seat on the plane for me)

June 13th, 2012
11:03 am

Just asking the question, disco…maybe romance could sometimes be considered “watered down” debauchery? ;-)

Raqi...A Real Housewife in Dunwoody

June 13th, 2012
11:03 am

“show pride and admiration, and all else just falls in to place. Shall I repeat this? Show men you are PROUD of them, that you RESPECT them with words and gestures…and all will be well.”

Randy, I agree…HOWEVER…there has to be more.

I have been pretty open about my life with my hub on here and how traditional my marriage is. I am nowhere near perfect but I do TRY to respect him at all times as a man first, my husband second and as the father of my babies next. I am proud of him in many many ways even when I don’t say it all the time. But he knows that I am. I don’t agree with everything he does and/or every idea that he has but I do love that he DOES and HAVE IDEAS.

I love my husband and I don’t think anyone that knows us personally will ever doubt or question that. But how much more can I show respect and admiration for him outside of providing a nice comfortable home for him to come home to. Birthing and caring for his babies. Not talking down to him when he is wrong or makes a mistake. Having his back even when I don’t agree with him. What the heck else is there beyond the everyday mundane activities? That is if showing respect and telling him I am proud of him is all I as his woman and wife have to do.

I open mind to embrace his ideas and endeavors. I open my heart to love and accept him beyond his faults. I open my bank account to get him over a hump when he needs me to. I open my legs to share my body with him and give him pleasure. However, I still wonder am I doing enough. Am I doing all I can and should be doing.

Yeah I get angry and tell him to shut up talking to me because HE is being unreasonable. Yeah I turn my back to him and don’t give him love because HE disrespected me. Yeah I take my babies and leave the house at 9am on a Saturday morning and not return until late evening because HE is going to pay for acting like a (fill in the blank). But everything aligns back again.

Many years ago I used to worry that if a man, my man did not say “I love you” enough that I could recall the last time he said it, he must not love me all that much. But I am a grown woman now. I know love in action. He does not have to say it but instead keep doing it. However I do love the random cards of affection. The more.

So if I don’t buy him something. Or if I don’t treat him to a night out. Or if I don’t let him sleep in late on a holiday and I deal with breakfast with kids alone. If I don’t do those EXTRAs what makes the romance, or whatever it can categorized as, stand out? What makes it known?

If I am already showing respect, if he already knows I am proud of him, does he as a man not require or desire more? Or am I just thinking like a woman, that I am?

At what point should it differ from what is always supposed to be (Respect – Proud) to the act of being appreciative? Do men really not need or want more?

Please tell me so I can put my mind to rest. Yall know I have no problem saying that sometimes I just worry. Needlessly probably…but quite often all the same.

I don’t have my babies here to occupy my thoughts so my mind is in overload. LOL

Raqi...A Real Housewife in Dunwoody

June 13th, 2012
11:04 am

Hey Leggs and Blackfoote.

Bluzgirl

June 13th, 2012
11:05 am

BF…I’m jealous! I love Memphis! I want to go back and eat at Rendezvous…wonderful BBQ!

On topic…I think it’s important for both sides to make romantic gestures. I have always been good about doing sweet things or buying a thoughtful gift out of the blue for my man. Although…I’m ready to have a man do that for me! I haven’t been with a truly romantic man in a while.

Randyt (save a seat on the plane for me)

June 13th, 2012
11:07 am

One of the potential conflicts here is that with men, Debauchery can lead to romance (translated, lay a man good and he will get romantic)…

With women, romance can lead to debauchery (translated, she will get much more involved if the man has demonstrated romance)

Seems like one or the other is backwards ;-)

Leggs

June 13th, 2012
11:08 am

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Randyt (save a seat on the plane for me)

June 13th, 2012
11:13 am

@ Raqi…re: “If I am already showing respect, if he already knows I am proud of him, does he as a man not require or desire more? Or am I just thinking like a woman, that I am?”

I wwould suggest (and not speaaking for EVERY man) thaqt this is enough…caveat though, men are not that deep, and frankly not mindreaders, so the key word is “showing”…is the message absolutely getting through.

(Not a bad idea to particularly demonstrate this CLEARLY when you get the sense that the day, life, job, whatever, may have kicked him in the azz and he gets quiet…watch for these opportunities and he will follow you anywhere).

Randyt (save a seat on the plane for me)

June 13th, 2012
11:15 am

REWRITE WITHOUT THE FRIGGIN TYPOS

@ Raqi…re: “If I am already showing respect, if he already knows I am proud of him, does he as a man not require or desire more? Or am I just thinking like a woman, that I am?”

I would suggest (and not speaking for EVERY man) that this is enough…

Caveat though, men are not that deep, and frankly not mindreaders, so the key word is “showing”…is the message absolutely getting through?

(Not a bad idea to particularly demonstrate this CLEARLY when you get the sense that the day, life, job, whatever, may have kicked him in the azz and he gets quiet…watch for these opportunities and he will follow you anywhere).

kimmie

June 13th, 2012
11:16 am

Morning All!

Raqi – Good to read ya lady! And to answer your 11:03, yes you are doing more than enough. You are superwife/woman! From what you’ve said about your husband, I think, no I’m gonna say I know, he appreciates you and knows he’s got a great thing. Neither of you are perfect, but you are perfect for each other and your household works just fine. Plus, if you aren’t enough then DANG, the rest of us should worry.

On topic – I love to do nice things for my great husband. I don’t want to get too mushy here, but he did one of the nicest, most thoughtful things for our anniversary. I was off from work the Friday before and the Monday of our anniversary. The Tuesday I returned to work I got the most beautiful flowers, but not just any flowers. They included the type of roses we had in our wedding. They were special to me because they were my mom’s favorites. He included a note saying he knew I was off the 2 days, but he wanted me to have some flowers in the office. When my assistant brought them to me, I sat for about 5 minutes with my mouth open. It blew me away that a man paid attention to such detail.

Anything that man ever wants or needs from me he can get! :)

Leggs

June 13th, 2012
11:16 am

“I’ll take the romance or the debauchery. to be totally honest I’m leaning toward the debauchery.” – :lol: :lol: Me too!

Hi Raqi. Always a pleasure when you’re on board!

Randyt ~ I agree – lay a man good and romance will follow. Also your post on respect said all that needed to be said. When you show your man respect and appreciation and yes, telling him you’re proud of him, will only trickle down to him doing and showing his woman wonderful things in turn.

Randyt (save a seat on the plane for me)

June 13th, 2012
11:22 am

Hi Leggs…as I have said ‘ad nauseum’…men aren’t that complicated (and women keep looking for depth that just isn’t there, I swear it). Two or three areas of basic understanding and 95% of all men will be eating out of your hand, LOL. Respect being numero uno.