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Dating: Do men enjoy humor?

Ask any woman what traits she would like in a man, and I can imagine a sense of humor is mentioned a lot. Women love to laugh, so the man who knows how to bring joy and laughter to a woman is a virtual chick whisperer!

Do men feel the same way we do about the importance of humor in a mate? Some would argue that they do not. In fact, many have said that wit and humor can actually count against a woman to some men.

What is it about funny women that is so off putting, though? I seriously thought that a happy, fun, jovial woman would be appealing to a man who loves to laugh.

Are funny women sexy? One of my twitter friends asked, “Do men like women with a sense of humor?” and further, is there such a thing as too much humor?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

192 comments Add your comment

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
12:08 pm

That’s gotta be dang dreary. You’re out with a dude and friends and y’all having a good time (nothing loud, rude or obnoxious) but she’s watching you because you’re watching her to make sure she keeps within a certain realm to remain composed and lady like. Well, I like to laugh and I’m gonna laugh. Maybe some have thought obnoxious…shrugs. I know some that have not. I can definitely appreciate a man that can appreciate a woman being herself.

disco

June 12th, 2012
12:12 pm

bluz – that’s a book title by Langston hughes – not without laughter.

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
12:13 pm

The saying is “Children should be seen and not heard”….

Bluzgirl

June 12th, 2012
12:19 pm

Even in hard times, I have to find humor in the situation…You just feel better when you can laugh!

SexyCool

June 12th, 2012
12:23 pm

Cosigning the “compatible sense of humor” comment.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

June 12th, 2012
12:24 pm

It ain’t gonna be the last time you read me and I speak of places, roles, whatever…Antiquated my azz, the rules of nature are what they are, I didn’t make them up…

Now nobody said sit down and be quiet…the topic asked if there was a such thing as too much humor, that situation can be viewed in that way under certain circumstances, like Slim said, drunkeness, or just doing to much to be funny and creating an uncomfortable space, if there is natural humor, thats a wonderful thing.

czBrat

June 12th, 2012
12:25 pm

“Children should be seen and not heard”….
that’s always been my credo. *shrugs*

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
12:27 pm

There’s not a place for grown folks…children yes

Jake – We won’t get into the rules of nature because last I check they apply to all.

Leggs

June 12th, 2012
12:28 pm

O/T: Lil leggs is here with me. She had her first job interview at Sears and got the cashier job! WOO HOO. Worked out that she got this job a few blocks from my job so I can drop her off and pick her up. She’s already caculating her paycheck, but forgot about taxes…I had to laugh.

BF ~ I have to agree with you on Steve Harvey not being very funny. He’s more camera greedy and cheesy and appears to be somewhat conceited. He is funny at times. I like those comedians who can make a joke w/o all that dang cussing.

SlimUno

June 12th, 2012
12:32 pm

Leggs – Oh man I remember getting my first check from my first job (bagger at Kroger)…I think I made $4.15 lol My mouth dropped at the amount of $$ that uncle sam took from me. But it helped me to finance all the stuff I needed to go off to school. It was hard to not want to blow it all on ‘teen stuff’.

disco

June 12th, 2012
12:32 pm

big ups to lil leggs. not mad at her. my son just got his first post-college job and he’s already looking forward to his first “grown” paycheck. we all remember our first jobs and first paychecks.

SexyCool

June 12th, 2012
12:32 pm

I actually somewhat agree with Jake – to a point. I have been around couples where the female was so spotlight hungry, so busy trying to prove that she was super witty and all that jazz that she was making jokes at the expense of her guy. He was embarassed and she seemed unaware.

So, when I am with M, especially around his friends, I make sure that I keep my comments in a certain lane, leaving all that extra for at the house.

disco

June 12th, 2012
12:33 pm

leggs – and the all important question. how much is the employee discount? my son worked at old navy in high school and dsw in college. the employee discount for both was the BOMB.

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
12:35 pm

I don’t…shrugs

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
12:36 pm

I’m a lady at all times…never been told anything otherwise. So, I’m comfortable in my skin, doing what I do, being who I am. I’m not overly cautious when I’m out.

disco

June 12th, 2012
12:37 pm

SCool – I got jake’s point as well. the whole time and place thing – i get it. my only point was that I wish my man would utter the words (that translated to my being seen and not heard) to me on the way out the door.

Leggs

June 12th, 2012
12:41 pm

“…and the all important question. how much is the employee discount?” DING, DING! We will soon find out.

@SexyC ~ you got it right. Not many “witty” women know when to cut off the humor at the expense of their mate.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

June 12th, 2012
12:42 pm

SexyC..thank you sweetie, That’s what I mean when I say “on stage”, somebody doing so much that they don’t realize they are embarassing themselves and the one they are with. When the humor becomes personalized, it can become too much, and embarass the mate.

kimmie

June 12th, 2012
12:50 pm

SCool & Jake – I get it, but it works both ways. I’ve seen dudes act the fool and embarass their lady as well.

disco – I’m with you. I got what he was saying, but heck, don’t treat me like a child. I’m not acting like one so don’t treat me like one. Take the stick outcha behind!

SlimUno

June 12th, 2012
12:52 pm

I like those comedians who can make a joke w/o all that dang cussing.

Sinbad and Bill Cosby

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
12:53 pm

Just hush me up then…lol Everything works both ways…it’s the laws of nature :)

MervTheTerrible

June 12th, 2012
12:54 pm

“Dating: Do men enjoy humor?”

Naaaaaah not at all, would not cross my mind, nope not one bit.

disco

June 12th, 2012
12:56 pm

slim – bill cosby, I like. Sinbad, I absolutely cannot stand. he (like steve Harvey) bothers me on a level that I don’t even understand.

kimmie

June 12th, 2012
1:01 pm

I cannot stand Steve Harvey really or Bill Belamy. Neither are funny to me.

Don’t need all the cussing or the simulating of intimate acts. A word here or there is okay, I’m not a complete prude. I just think it takes real skill to be funny and not have to resort to the gutter.

C- Just holding it down for the ladies, get tired of always being slammed and us always having to “watch it”!

SlimUno

June 12th, 2012
1:02 pm

disco – Honestly, I think both of them are ’sometimey’ to me…sometimes it’s a bit overexaggerated but other times they really do have me lmao.

SlimUno

June 12th, 2012
1:03 pm

kimmie – I am there with you on Bill Bellamy and why he act like he so fione. Ewwwww :lol:

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
1:11 pm

Kimmie – Thank you very much. What he initially said didn’t imply drunkeness. Heck who would want to see a lady drunk and out of control….

czBrat

June 12th, 2012
1:12 pm

let’s see. comedian that does not amuse me in the slightest? d.l. hughley (or whatever his name may be). that guy can’t even coax a grin outta me.

leggs, felicitations to the wee one! and to you for your superb guidance. :wink:
thing 2 just started his first “direct deposit” job, so he’s feeling some kinda grown right about now. lol.

kimmie

June 12th, 2012
1:12 pm

Slim – Somebody done told him wrong!!!LOL! He is straight ugly to me!

czBrat

June 12th, 2012
1:14 pm

why he act like he so fione.
i guess if he don’t believe it, no one will.

kimmie

June 12th, 2012
1:14 pm

Brat – With you on Hughley too! Not funny.

SlimUno

June 12th, 2012
1:18 pm

czBrat – You’re right but he is a bit over the top with it…ever time I see him he looks so greasy lol

kimmie

June 12th, 2012
1:24 pm

I don’t know the names of any comedians I really like, but I know funny when I hear it! It’s usually someone random I hear on the Sirius comedy radio stations we listen to when the kids are not in the car, or at a comedy club.

Leggs

June 12th, 2012
1:28 pm

I’m still waiting for Bill Belamy to grow into his lips. That dude is not funny!!!

Leggs

June 12th, 2012
1:30 pm

czB ~ it’s a beautiful and scary thing watching them transition into adulthood.

czBrat

June 12th, 2012
1:30 pm

kimmie, there was a time paul mooney kept me in stitches.
i don’t know if it’s him or me, but it seems i no longer get his “comedy”.

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
1:33 pm

I’m not too tickled with comedians doing stand-up. Most of my laughs comes from movies where they may have a role. So sometimes they’re funny and sometimes not. I definitely like dry humor.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

June 12th, 2012
1:36 pm

Of course its a two way street, and here comes the but, men and women socialize differently, some things acceptable to us, women dislike and vice versa…but whats always interesting is that anytime there is a reference to a woman being in place, in pocket, etc…its wrong, i wish someone would(disco), blah blah blah, when deep down you want a strong man that keeps you right there…..”in check”

SlimUno

June 12th, 2012
1:39 pm

Paul Mooney has never been funny to me…very dry if you ask me. jmo though

kimmie

June 12th, 2012
1:45 pm

Jake – A “real” strong man keeps his whole world in order without belittling or making any feel small. I left my parents home a long time ago and they raised me well. So I don’t need nobody to tell me how to “be a lady”. Just like I couldn’t tell any dude how to “be a man”.

Personally, it’s never been acceptable for a dude in my presence to be loud, drunk and obnoxious. Cute in The Hangover, but not in real life.

You dang skippy I’m gonna have a problem with someone talking about my “place” – as a woman, as an AA, as an adult. I don’t give a flip about any “laws of nature” either – some laws are made to be broken! Just cause “that’s the way it’s always been” doesn’t mean it’s the way it should stay.

Off my soapbox now! :cool:

SlimUno

June 12th, 2012
1:50 pm

Slim now taking cover behind two-way mirror with a pint of goose in tow to watch the action unfold :lol:

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 12th, 2012
1:51 pm

One dude that have my side slpitting is Lavell Crawford, big boy gets raunchy but he kills me when he talks about eating food and his weight. Sommore, Bernie Mac, and Eddie Griffin can make you laugh good too.

CZ I watched Paul Mooney and his stand up had me wondering too.

kimmie

June 12th, 2012
1:52 pm

Slim – That’s the “quick wit” in me!!LOL!! I’m so not amening no “stay in your place” mess!!

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
1:52 pm

I agree and head nod…now Imma wait and see if the snapback gonna be just as quick and fierce…

Yeah, I already know no matter who says what on here…AND AGREE, my comments are always singled out.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 12th, 2012
1:56 pm

LOL…..Slim1 a pint that’s like a shot to me, we gon have to go bigger than that.

czBrat

June 12th, 2012
1:58 pm

slim/bf, i once saw him do a skit called “ask a black man”. not sure what show it was on, but one particular bit he slammed white folks for being unjustly defensive around black men, then proceeded to say that he snatched a white woman’s purse and ran, just to prove her right. i laughed sooooo hard!

i think my love affair with his humor lasted all of about 1.5 minutes. then i suddenly decided he wasn’t that funny after all. i blamed my A.D.D.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

June 12th, 2012
1:58 pm

Ladies, your assumptions and perspective cause you to view that statement as negative, nobody said anything about belittlling, making a mockery of a woman, or anything about making her feel small….Kimmie, sounds like you may have “Outtapockebetes”. Get that checked as soon as possible….lol.

kimmie

June 12th, 2012
2:00 pm

Celisea – I just can’t take it. We’ve progressed a long way from alot of things. If certain folk haven’t then they need to catch up!!

kimmie

June 12th, 2012
2:02 pm

Jake – It’s incurable. I’m a spitfire, always have been, always will be. My man, my employer, my family & friends all love it!! :cool:

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
2:04 pm

Kimmie – Honey you know I’m agreeing. We already know there’s a role for man and woman but that doesn’t not negate the validity and importance of both roles. I too respect my SO, I don’t need him to teach or steer that. I know that already because of the lady I’ve grown to be. In turn, I expect the same in return.

It’s those ideas of I can do this but you can’t that’s fueled mishaps and what not for centuries and have lead to folks justify certain behaviors…all because it’s man versus woman. It’s never man versus woman. It’s man and woman together.

Oh, and for folks that jumps sides depending on the persons and day of the week, I’m just SMH…lol