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Dating: Do men enjoy humor?

Ask any woman what traits she would like in a man, and I can imagine a sense of humor is mentioned a lot. Women love to laugh, so the man who knows how to bring joy and laughter to a woman is a virtual chick whisperer!

Do men feel the same way we do about the importance of humor in a mate? Some would argue that they do not. In fact, many have said that wit and humor can actually count against a woman to some men.

What is it about funny women that is so off putting, though? I seriously thought that a happy, fun, jovial woman would be appealing to a man who loves to laugh.

Are funny women sexy? One of my twitter friends asked, “Do men like women with a sense of humor?” and further, is there such a thing as too much humor?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

192 comments Add your comment

Randyt (am I sick of English food or what?)

June 12th, 2012
6:54 am

“Do men like women with a sense of humor?”

Not just yes but HELLZ YES!!!!!

I want women in my life who are interesting and entertaining as well as attractive. To paraphrase my frequent statement, “sex is easy in Atlanta…finding an interesting woman is far harder”.

Randyt (am I sick of English food or what?)

June 12th, 2012
6:59 am

Example…

The lady I was in my last relationship with, before we ever met in person, had a talent for stimulating me with her texts. We had been texting back and forth for a few days when I asked her what she was wearing (to get a visual). She texted back, “a miniskirt, four inch heels, and no panties”. She was sharp and funny.

Caught my attention ;-)

Jeff

June 12th, 2012
7:53 am

A great sense of humor is as sexy as any physical trait.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 12th, 2012
8:39 am

What man doesn’t like a woman with a sense of humor? Women with humor are charming how in the hell does that count against them? I know dating has changed from the past, this new age of thinking is probably why it is so tough for some guys to get a date. Uptight and introverted will drain all the humor out of any relationship.

Good Morning:

SlimUno

June 12th, 2012
8:48 am

Good morning and alllllllllllrighty then

Button

June 12th, 2012
8:53 am

I truly believe it’s a myth about men not liking a woman with a sense of humor. Heck all of the couples I know that joke around with each other have the most amazing connection I’ve seen thus far. Laughter is the best medicine. I can’t help it, I’m quick witted and have a good sense of humor, it’s never been a throne in any of my relationships. I’ve never heard a man say he would like to date a prude!

Good Morning

disco

June 12th, 2012
9:32 am

good morning folks. sense of humor by itself isn’t so important as a compatible sense of humor. goodness knows there are hella comedians that make beaucoup bucks that I don’t find funny in the least. of course, their success indicates that someone somewhere thinks they are funny. if laughter is important to you, find someone who makes you laugh. I’m not a fan of silly people or folks who “play too much” but that’s not to say that someone else wouldn’t find those people hilarious.

Leggs

June 12th, 2012
9:33 am

Good morning. Come on now, who doesn’t like to laugh???

Button ~ laughter is indeed the best medicine. It’s healing mechanisms are very powerful!

Button

June 12th, 2012
9:42 am

Oops meant thorn…..not throne.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 12th, 2012
10:00 am

Button go on and sit on that throne.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 12th, 2012
10:01 am

That’s what Queens do!

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 12th, 2012
10:06 am

Leggs:
There’s so much internal healing humor can do for people. I’m not a prankster and don’t care for that but a laugh is always good.

Leggs

June 12th, 2012
10:14 am

disco

June 12th, 2012
10:14 am

BF – imo, pranksters and practical jokers fall under the play too much category. I have very little patience/tolerance for that and then people say I have no sense of humor. I’m like tell me a joke and if it’s funny I’ll laugh. booby traps, whoopee cushions, putting my stapler in jello (worked at a job once where they constantly pranked each other) – all that is playing too much.

Button

June 12th, 2012
10:18 am

LOL @Blackfoote

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
10:19 am

Humor is always good. Most times I’m funny when not trying to be. That sort of thing runs in my family….especially with my brothers. One of my brothers is always the center of attention in talking about the things he’s observed. Everybody is constantly ca-racking up at him but he’s almost oblivious to it.

I haven’t been in one relationship except the kid’s dad aka Bitty Bobby where they weren’t always laughing. Not trying to be funny but I guess I was…lol Now, pranks (whoopee cushion), cheesy stuff, crass slick sexual remarks? None of that is funny. Being humourous IMO is effortless, lighthearted and causes no physical harm to folks nor does it insults. Too it’s not just for women to keep it light. I like a funny man. I have a big laugh and I like laughing.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 12th, 2012
10:21 am

disco I feel ya, I can’t get into all the playing too much either. Like you say most of it aint even funny. Steve Harvey bless his soul the most unfunny comedian there is to me but some folks thinks he’s funny and that’s fine.

abc

June 12th, 2012
10:28 am

A sense of humor is fine; witty and sharp is nice. Loud and obnoxious, not so much. I know a few chicks that think they’re funny, but really, they talk non-stop and are pretty loud. It’s nice to get away from them after awhile.

kimmie

June 12th, 2012
10:30 am

Morning All!!

I’ve always been a bit of a nut and need a man that can appreciate it. My parents were that way, so I get it honest. They were strict, but no they were not walking around with a stick all day! They had fun, especially my mother. She could have you rolling with her impressions of people! I’m the same way with the kids. They know when I’m serious, but the other 90% of the time I like to have fun.

Yes, I’ve been told by men in the past that I was silly. They were sticks in the mud and had no sense of humor. That’s why we didn’t make it, among other things. Life is tough enough on the regular. If I can’t come home and chill and laugh with you, it’s like I’m in prison and I’m not doing any time! For those dudes that don’t like humor, they’ll be the first one saying chick is mean & bitter!

disco – While I love humor, there is a fine line. I’ve never been into physical humor and pranks much. I’ve never found it funny when someone trips or stumbles or things like that. Whoopee cushions & such – just not funny to me.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 12th, 2012
10:31 am

Cely I’m that way too I find nothing funny about sexual or racial jokes. I cringe at the racial ones, because growing up in the south I heard too many times the n word used and fights were a certainty.

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
10:31 am

abc – I for one NEVER think I’m funny but it’s pretty evident by how much he’s laughing and I’m having to constantly say “I’m being serious now” and he’s still laughing.

SlimUno

June 12th, 2012
10:33 am

I get my sense of humor from my dad…he is a nut and has told me that I too am a nut from a nut (pun intended)

czBrat

June 12th, 2012
10:33 am

HiYas!

dunno about funny, but i’m witty.
same effect, i guess, as long as it doesn’t go right over your head.

but if you ask me to tell you a straight-up joke, i’m dead in the water.

what guy doesn’t want a chick that can make him chuckle from time to time?

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
10:34 am

Blackfoote – I’m there with you. Crass stuff will get you sent home real quick. Most folks that are crass and pranksters will push the envelope. I don’t crack a smile and I don’t play along…ut uh. And don’t try and “slide” something in there…

kimmie

June 12th, 2012
10:36 am

Usually I find people who are quick-witted to be a little sharper, more intelligent. It doesn’t take them forever to “get” something. But that’s just my observation.

kimmie

June 12th, 2012
10:37 am

Cel/Blackfoote – Right there with you on the racial/sexual jokes. Not funny at all to me.

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
10:39 am

Kimmie – I don’t crack one smile….ut uh

disco

June 12th, 2012
10:44 am

celisea – your brother – that’s me. I swear I don’t try to be funny but it seems that whenever I simply express myself or recount a story folks are always cracking up. thing is I can hardly recall a good joke to save my life.

BF/kimmie – I have to admit that I’ll laugh at a good racial joke, a good homosexual joke, a good religion joke. if it’s funny, it’s funny. of course, said jokes have to be said at the right time in the right company or they can go left quickly.

Randyt (am I sick of English food or what?)

June 12th, 2012
10:50 am

I crack me up ;-)

czBrat

June 12th, 2012
10:54 am

:lol: @ —> “I crack me up”
it’s good when you enjoy your own company, no?

Randyt (am I sick of English food or what?)

June 12th, 2012
10:56 am

Quick witted and quick thinking is the key for me…not humor expressly. My transition lover would have a sharp reply before I could even get my comment fully out.

I’ve met too many women (in bars I mean) who were stunning until one looked at their eyes and there was no light behind them…sort of an empty vessel. That said however, if one suggests to a woman that you are really impressed with her quick wit, she will generally be very proud of the compliment ;-)

czBrat

June 12th, 2012
10:59 am

wth is a “transition lover”?

Randyt (am I sick of English food or what?)

June 12th, 2012
10:59 am

czbrat…if you are comfortable in your own skin, it makes being selective easier because you don’t succumb as often to neediness (and find yourself in a sticky situation). Lol

Randyt (am I sick of English food or what?)

June 12th, 2012
11:02 am

“transition lover” is the relationship you get in to after breaking off a long term relationship or marriage. He/she helps you heal, restores your confidance, and then kicks you out of the nest. Mine lasted two years after a divorce from a long marriage.

Randyt (am I sick of English food or what?)

June 12th, 2012
11:06 am

Someone on line defines it etter”’

Before you go too much farther… do you know what a transition lover is? If you’re newly single you are looking for someone to fill the void that your ex has left in your heart. You’re looking for someone to provide comfort and validation.

Enter the Transition Lover… your “soul mate,” the person you were meant to spend your life with. He, or she, completes you, providing the comfort and validation you so critically need.

The transition lover may awaken passions you haven’t felt for years or may never have felt before and it’s easy to start planning a future with him or her.

Randyt (am I sick of English food or what?)

June 12th, 2012
11:07 am

better not etter

czBrat

June 12th, 2012
11:08 am

ahhh. “i see” said the blind chick. it’s a twist on the “get under to get over” Rx.
been there. :)

disco

June 12th, 2012
11:09 am

so the transition lover is a step or two above the rebound person?

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 12th, 2012
11:13 am

Randyt
transitional lover = clean up woman
LOL

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

June 12th, 2012
11:19 am

I can be a bit clumsy, there’s no choice for me but to laugh at myself occasionally.

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
11:33 am

disco – I’m not sure if I should admit it but some of the stuff (NOT ALL…lol) have me ca-racking up. I know you’re not trying to be funny but you are. Sort of how my fam is. My brother says stuff and is looking like “what” all the while everybody is rolling. There are a couple more folks that will get me to do an outburst of laughter. Nothing obnoxious but just funny. Mainly because I didn’t see it coming.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

June 12th, 2012
11:34 am

What up….a sense of humor is great, but like abc’s 10:28, please do not cross into obnoxious…I think it can become a negative when a woman in the company of her man and others kinda steals the show, and gets “on stage”. It can be awkward, I have seen it, and in my head was saying, “dude need to control his old lady, she off the chain”. Its the old be seen not heard, remain ladylike situation.

disco

June 12th, 2012
11:50 am

jake – I thought that adage was for children. I wish a man would tell me to be seen and not heard. don’t get me wrong, I get what you are saying about there being a time and a place and all that but just on principal, I wish a joker would tell me some mess like that. lol.

i'm swiss

June 12th, 2012
11:54 am

A priest, a rabbi and a duck-billed platypus walk into a bar.

Discuss.

i'm swiss

June 12th, 2012
11:55 am

Wait, I think I told that wrong…

SlimUno

June 12th, 2012
11:59 am

swiss – I think any way you put that 11:54 is probably going to come out wrong. lol

I have seen it, and in my head was saying, “dude need to control his old lady, she off the chain

Jake – The only time I really think this way is the chick is being sloppy in her drunkeness. All over the place, loud, falling everywhere etc

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
12:00 pm

Jake – Why can’t a lady be seen and remain a lady??? That’s just wild man… This is not the first time you’ve mentioned a place for women You are mighty young to be so antiquated with your views about women.

disco

June 12th, 2012
12:03 pm

C – actually she can be seen, just not heard. lol. I don’t know if she’s wearing shoes or with child or not….

Bluzgirl

June 12th, 2012
12:06 pm

Why would any man not like a woman with a sense of humor? I hope to never meet one of those, because I love to cut up and laugh. I can joke around with the best of them and sometimes come up with some really good ones! I have a silly sense of humor. My mom always gets onto me for egging my dad on with his corny jokes, but they are funny with me! I can also be one of the guys and laugh with their jokes, unless they go too far. Then, I will tell them to remember that I am a woman! Life would not be worth living without laughter!

Celisea

June 12th, 2012
12:07 pm

disco – Right…I forgot. I should say why can’t see be seen and heard at the same time and yet remain a lady? lol