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Dating: Ready for the road test?

A reader sent me an article, Make or break? Travel tests your relationship and I immediately thought of the nightmarish trip that torpedoed a romance for me. Well, maybe not so much the road trip but the crazy trip personality my beau displayed did us in.

In hindsight, I am happy we traveled together when we did. Although we had only been seeing one another for a few months, the trip was eye opening, to say the least! Mr. Laid Back and mellow had another side to him. He pretty much behaved like a tyrant and I was starting to think he had an evil twin that showed up instead!

I agree with the author of the article, travel can be tricky when you are a new new couple. Unless you are feeling pretty confident with how things are going, putting your new relationship on the road could make or break the budding romance. Tread lightly!

When do you think it is appropriate to take a trip with someone you are dating? Is this more of a relationship thing or could it be a great activity to do with someone who is new in your life? Do you believe that traveling or road trips brings out a different side in people that you can’t really see anywhere else?

What was the best trip you took with someone you were dating? What made it so successful and what advice would you give someone to ensure a drama free road trip?

Happy Monday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

160 comments Add your comment

Single and Happy

June 11th, 2012
7:45 am

My best trip was also my worst date. We took a trip which also happen to be our first date because of distance, to a romantic island that turned out to be anything but romantic. We didn’t have any drama, but I guess we found out we weren’t compatible. But what made it a great trip was that we did things together and had great time regardless of the circumstances. I’m one that likes to do beach vacations and get in the water, and she didn’t have a problem with getting her hair wet, we also did a lot of walking and site seeing. But the strangest of all, that made it a memorable trip for me, was that I was making all the plans, but wanted some input, so I was asking what did she want to do, she said I probably wouldn’t want to do it because most black people don’t like to do it. It was para sailing, jet skiing and scuba diving. Well we went and had a great time, and now I’m a certified scuba diver. My #1 rule now is, regardless of who I travel with, or what happens on a trip I’m having a great time!

Golden Pig

June 11th, 2012
7:55 am

Travel for the first date and get it over with…and so you’re trapped in a room with a single bed you have to share…works every time. Hells yeah!

Randyt (whya re people wearing coats and scarves outside here?)

June 11th, 2012
8:19 am

Hello from England…I’m so ready to fly west!!!

“When do you think it is appropriate to take a trip with someone you are dating? Is this more of a relationship thing or could it be a great activity to do with someone who is new in your life? Do you believe that traveling or road trips brings out a different side in people that you can’t really see anywhere else?”

The answers are: yes, yes, and yes. I think an overnighter is maybe a month or so in…and you should already at least think you know the person. I’m not sure that it is the best starting place fror the first “sleepover”, but instead a measure of how well you get along when you are together ‘after the loving’.

Let’s be real, most of our initial encounters physically still end with one or the other going home sooner or later. You may have breakfast, but seldom are you staying together for more than 24 hours the first time. That is what the initial road trip answers. Most of mine have been great…(except for some of those with my wife in the day ;-)

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
9:22 am

Good morning.

czBrat

June 11th, 2012
9:25 am

HiYas!

quiet start to the blog this a.m. i see.

our first out of town getaway was about 3-4 months into the relationship. it was great. a road trip to the memphis in may jazz/bbq festival. he has since told me that it was on that trip that he began to see things in me that made him tumble.

for me, it was very settling to know that i could spend three days away with someone “new” and have no thought of regret. i was completely comfortable and well taken care of. it was especially cool to be with him in a large crowd of strangers and watch him take lead, interacting with people and mapping out our course and time so that i could just hang back, observe and soak it all in.

having said that, our first international trip was tons of fun UNTIL we missed our flight off the island. i got a little pissy about his unscheduled pit-stop that caused our delay, but he stepped up to the counter and worked it out; no fuss, no muss, no charge.

i have since come to recognize my dude as the great negotiator. i no longer worry about snafus. i just let him do what he do.

czBrat

June 11th, 2012
9:37 am

When do you think it is appropriate to take a trip with someone you are dating?
after you have introduced them to someone close to you, and that someone has all of their contact info. you know, in case you never return.

Is this more of a relationship thing or could it be a great activity to do with someone who is new in your life?
i think the best approach is as an opportunity for adventure and new experience. if you don’t set out expecting a love lightning bolt to hit you both while taking a moonlight walk on the beach, you’re less likely to be disappointed.

Do you believe that traveling or road trips brings out a different side in people that you can’t really see anywhere else?
i do indeed. i think it’s harder to keep up appearances of stability and sanity for more than 24 hours straight. :lol:

Single and Happy

June 11th, 2012
9:38 am

@golden pig: trapped in a one bedroom suite with sleeper sofa, no expectations!

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
9:51 am

Happy Gloomy Monday No Sun-day morning,

When do you think it is appropriate to take a trip with someone you are dating?

Whenever the two of you feel comfy enough to do an ‘Overnight, together 24/7′ deal…if you don’t feel you know each other at least well enough to at least feel comfortable about then it’s too soon. The time frame will be different for each couple. Our first road trip together was not an over nighter but we had to drive a few hours away for his old roomates wedding. It was cool getting all dressed up to go to an event such as that. And the conversation in the car was pretty cool too. However, our first weekend trip was just last year to the cabins. He was feeling a bit awkward at first since so many other people that he didn’t know was going to be there. Once he got there and saw how cool everyone else was, he was having a ball. That’s all he talked about a long time after the trip and excited about the next one.

Do you believe that traveling or road trips brings out a different side in people that you can’t really see anywhere else? Since you are together the whole time you’re on the trip, it just gives you a clearer view of how that person could be on a regular everyday basis. Typically in dating, you aren’t seeing each other everyday and when you do see each other, it’s for a limited time and of course you’re excited to see the other. Everything doesn’t always go as planned on a trip so you get to see how the other handles those types of situations, whether it be one of them gets sick, isn’t open to trying things the other wants to do, complaining about everything, bathroom behaviors etc…

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
9:58 am

Good morning!

I’ve been on a few trips with men in the past that were real eyeopeners! 2 of them pretty much spelled the end to our relationship. All were at least 6 months in the relationship so we were not that “new”.

With now husband, our first out of town trip was actually with his family to Orlando for Christmas. We had been dating a little over a year and our first Christmas together. That trip was absolutely magical! Part was doing something very different from my normal Christmases with my family. The other was just affirming was I already had observed about him – that he was a take-charge and handle things type of man. Me, the kids, had not a worry in the world!

We took another trip together a few months after that to a cabin in the mountains. We met 3 other couples there and had a fabulous time.

All of our travels have been wonderful together!!

disco

June 11th, 2012
9:59 am

good morning y’all. I wish somebody would call me up right about now and invite me on a trip. they sure as heck wouldn’t have to ask me twice. I definitely agree with the concept of using traveling together as a sort of compatibility test. the possibility is there for all kinds of hidden personality quirks to come to the surface.

slim – here’s a complaint for you. my mom is visiting. she wanted to go have a drink Saturday night. ended up at a bar/restaurant and she decided she wanted to eat. she enjoyed her food and then had the nerve to complain that she was full. I was like really. the restaurant brings out complimentary dessert samples and my mother had the nerve to be mad that they brought her something else to eat.

disco

June 11th, 2012
10:01 am

kimmie – I’m not trying to sound like a hater this early in the morning but dang girl – you just sound too daggone happy. geesh. lol.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
10:01 am

Do you believe that traveling or road trips brings out a different side in people that you can’t really see anywhere else? – I would think it would. Road trips typically shows how a person reacts to the quietness in the car when there’s a lull in the conversation. Can’t get up and feign a bathroom run. You’re also privy to how they handle road rage (if it should come up). I suppose road trips can show how each other handles things when they go awry because on trips, something usually goes wrong.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
10:03 am

When we spent that weekend in the cabin, the other couples were friends of mine and he had only met 1 of the other couples. I liked how he hit it right off with the other guys and how the other guys found him cool. I’ve dated others that have been standoffish. I was so glad he wasn’t like that, because I’m not like that.

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
10:05 am

Sorry about the long post…didn’t realize it until after it was sent.

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
10:08 am

disco – That’s funny about your mom…it isn’t like it’s against the law to say No thank you :lol:

disco

June 11th, 2012
10:13 am

leggs – re quiet in the car. i ride quiet and live quiet. I can go extended periods of time without talking and long stretches of silence don’t bother me (I do live alone after all). I’m always amused (and sometimes slightly perturbed) by people who feel like they have to fill the silence with words. once after a particularly stressful trip home I drove back the entire 9 hours without even turning on the radio. I’m all for conversation but I definitely appreciate silence and don’t need constant chatter.

slim – she was actually away from the table trying to see the score to the game when they brought the dessert out. she did tell me that I could have rejected it on her behalf. I was just like whatever.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
10:18 am

disco ~ I was thinking why get mad, just decline, but I see SlimUno beat me to the punch again. Mothers are quite a trip now that they are older. Let’s just hope we make it to an age where our children may be irritated by us as well. :wink:

disco ~ I went out on a date a few months back and he told me he liked me because I didn’t talk much (little did he know) and that I didn’t feel the need to fill in the silence gaps with idle chatter. He said “I’m glad you kept your mouth closed for the most part and didn’t talk much through dinner.”

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
10:20 am

On road trips I don’t always have to be chatter boxing…silence is good. Often times, I look forward to my short road trips to AL because it gives me time to think & ride or sing as loud or dance as crazy as I want to in the car to some old cd’s (yes some folks still rock cd’s lol)

abc

June 11th, 2012
10:24 am

I once went on a cruise with a girlfriend. What a disaster. Never again will I sail on that line, I already knew it was not my speed, but she did the booking. I spent 3 of 4 nights sleeping in a deck chair because she locked me out of the cabin. The first day was the end of the relationship for me; it actually persisted for a month or so after our return, during which she went psycho a couple more times.

What a bad memory. Thank you Lord for my excellent wife!

Robert

June 11th, 2012
10:25 am

“Do you believe that traveling or road trips brings out a different side in people that you can’t really see anywhere else?”

This weekend my friend and I went on a long drive to the beach (Destin, FL). I love to travel at night (12:00am) to beat the traffic and get to the beach by sunrise. While driving long distances I like listening to books on tapes/CD’s. I love listening to my Bible CD’s and while driving. I thought she was asleep. She heard the CDs and was impressed. She commented how good it was to hear the scriptures read out loud and was happy to wake-up and listen with me. She was happy to learn how I maintain my “personal relationship” with God and how important spirituality is to me. I may not go to Church regularly but I still find time to read or listen to God’s Word. This road trip was good for us. We both felt something different and new happening in our relationship.

Lady~wow factor

June 11th, 2012
10:33 am

Sweetness Robert~

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
10:33 am

Let’s just hope we make it to an age where our children may be irritated by us as well

Leggs – This made me laugh because I just had a conversation about this very thing when my mom was here for my birthday. We were watching Monster-in-law and my mom said just slap her if she ever acts like that. Seems like older folks get to say and do whatever they please (in their minds anyways) lol

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
10:34 am

abc – What happened to where she locked you out of the cabin??

disco

June 11th, 2012
10:39 am

slim / leggs – I’m just going to chalk it up to a parent/child thing because I can’t even blame my mother’s age. heck, she’s only in her mid 50s. I’d have a lot more patience if I was dealing with someone in their 70s or something.

abc – yes. do tell. what happened to get you locked out of the cabin?

czBrat

June 11th, 2012
10:39 am

can’t figure out the blog monster’s issue with my post.

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
10:41 am

disco – Did she not want to box up the dessert for later? Maybe she felt it would be rude not to eat the complimentary treat ;-)

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
10:41 am

disco – I am. I actually keep a lot to myself because I’m sure I’d sound sickening! It’s kind of like pictures of your kids – after a point nobody really wants or needs to see every new one you get every day!!

That’s cute about your mom! You’re so lucky to have one that’s cool to hang out with. My mom was like that too.

abc

June 11th, 2012
10:42 am

Various stuff Slim. Let’s not think about it. Chick was nuts.

Agree Robert, regarding church being not that necessary, and mostly (for me) a negative influence in my relationship with God. Churches want one to honor the church more than anything else. Want to find some self-righteous, judgmental and prejudicial people? Check out a church. I saw a book title once, “I’m fine with God, it’s Christians I can’t stand!”. Yep.

disco

June 11th, 2012
10:46 am

slim – the dessert had whipped cream on it and so she also got to complain about not liking whipped cream. (my momma is a piece of work and kids don’t take after strangers lol). she did however, poke at it to make sure it wasn’t served to someone else.

kimmie – I was (mostly) kidding. no harm in you being happy and still in love. heck, most of us aspire to be where you are. still, I had to throw out my little janky comment. see above where I said kids don’t take after strangers. lol.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
10:51 am

I brought a dude along on a cruise once and it was a disaster! He acted like a whiney, complaining punk baby the whole time. The end!

Bluzgirl

June 11th, 2012
10:54 am

I’ve had pretty successful road trips with previous SO’s. But…we didn’t take the trips until we were in full relationship mode. I was worried about the long drive (one trip, we were in the car for about 8 hours), but worked out pretty well. I like when you can have long conversations, but then you can be comfortable being quiet and just listening to the radio. You can definitely see a different side of your partner on a road trip and it can be good or it can be bad. I’ve been lucky to not have had the bad at this point.

Now, when I was dating psycho in Seattle, I went to visit him a couple of times. The first trip was wonderful! The second trip…not so much. There was so much tension before I got off the plane and I was wishing I could just get on another plane and go back home. He was a whole different story, though, because he had severe mental illness that I didn’t think he had in the beginning.

abc

June 11th, 2012
10:57 am

And what did he whine about, kimmie?

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
10:58 am

disco ~ I’m a very picky eater, but watching Mama these past 2 weeks had me SMDH on more than one occasion. There wasn’t anything this lady liked at any restaurant we went to. From Pappadeaux to Legal Seafood to This is It (lol). I cooked all the other times and although she loves my cooking, she couldn’t help commenting on something, ANYTHING..too much salt (which I don’t cook with) to too peppery, to sauce too thin. I chalked it up to “it’s just what she does and not to take anything personal.” My mother is in her 70’s but acts a good 85.

disco

June 11th, 2012
10:58 am

dang. not just a baby but a punk baby. that’s deep.

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
11:01 am

kimmie – What was he complaining about? I can see maybe motion sickness but other than that what was his deal?

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
11:01 am

abc – More like what didn’t he whine about!! He didn’t have any issues with the cruiseline or the accomodations. He didn’t like the entertainment, everything I suggested he didn’t want to do or criticized, didn’t want to do anything at any of the places we stopped, didn’t like what HE brought to wear to dress for dinner, you name it!

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
11:02 am

@kimmie ~ my marriage was already suffering when I planned a cruise to The Bahamas with lil leggs. My ex didn’t want to go and I was thankful. The week before we were scheduled to leave he speaks up saying he would like to join us. I said “oh no, I’m not going on a cruise to be miserable, and I don’t want to land in jail over there after I throw you overboard.” He didn’t say anything else to me.

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
11:05 am

Leggs – When my sister was doing my nieces hair the other weekend, apparently my mom thought the part wasn’t even so she ended up re-parting it. My sister got mad because she said she just can’t seem to do anything right when it comes to her. I suppose they just have their own ways of doing things and want what they want the way they want them done lol. God bless them though

abc

June 11th, 2012
11:05 am

Sounds like he’s a girl. Er, ah, no offense!

I actually far prefer to be on ships as part of the staff. Being a passenger is a little bit boring after awhile.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
11:07 am

Slim – I got motion-sickness on a cruise me & hubs took. Constant complaining won’t cure anything. I just dealt with it the best I could until it subsided. But that’s one of those things you find out on a trip with an SO. You find out how they deal with adversity, be it sickness, getting lost, car trouble, etc.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
11:10 am

abc – No offense taken, he certainly acted a bit of a girl!LOL! Anyway, that’s some other woman’s problem now, not mine!

You know, you are right about being a passenger though. A few days is all I can take. It can get old after awhile.

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
11:14 am

kimmie – Out of the cruises i’ve been on, I’ve probably only experienced the motion sickness thing once because of a storm we went through causing rough waters. I just tried to stay liquored up and eventually it passed. lol I’ve gotten sick here at home with the beau and he was pretty good at looking after me. I don’t think he’d complain if it happened on a vacation. He’s usually pretty level headed and non-affected by things like that.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
11:20 am

O/T: Can anyone’s union last? 115 years

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/world/turtles-throwing-towel-115-years-marriage-article-1.1093118

The funniest line is :Animal experts have put the pair through counseling in hopes of sparking a reconciliation.” Heck, she bit him (lol).

abc

June 11th, 2012
11:20 am

I’ve spent a lot of time on cruise ships. The cure for sea sickness — which is caused by motion and your bodies reaction to it — is to eat a lot of bread. The most common cause is liquid sloshing around in you.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
11:22 am

Slim – I’m prone to motion-sickness. I used to get car-sick during my child/teen years. I still can’t read in a moving car. I’ve gotten air-sick too! The worst sea-sickness was when I went on a little 3 hour whale-watching cruise. I’ve kind of grown out of a lot of it, but if I’m going on a cruise I have to start taking the Dramamine early before. That last time, we too hit some very rough waters. Guess what the staff gave me to cure it? Green apples! They actually worked too!!

Sounds like your beau is a good travel companion too!

Bluzgirl

June 11th, 2012
11:25 am

Speaking of cruises…my best friend and I are talking about taking a cruise in Sept. He’s the one that lives in Charleston and cruise ships port out of there. I’ve never been on one and worry about sea sickness because I am prone to motion sickness. I’ll just make sure I have the dramamine with me! I take it before I fly.

Kimmie…I’m like you…I cannot read in the car. I will get so sick and dizzy if I do. I also do not like sitting in the back seat for very long (especially if it’s my dad who is driving).

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
11:31 am

I’ve never heard of bread or apples as a remedy for motion sickness. I’ll have to keep that in mind ;-)

Bluzgirl

June 11th, 2012
11:51 am

Is everyone sleeping on this dreary Monday! :-)

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
11:54 am

Morning all…peeking in for just a moment as I’m super busy today:

Topic: All my traveling with a mate has subsequent to an established relationship. So if or when disagreements came up was sort of normal activity in our relating and interacting. Nothing that caused us to split or leaving thinking WTHeck?? Almost like not skipping a beat and just a part of how we interacted….again, if there were disagreements just not at home but a far away location. So by that time (before traveling), I was use to bathroom activities, the likes versus the dislikes, habits and what not.

For me: I’m not traveling with someone I’m not solid with. For a number of reasons…I DON’T KNOW YOU…I mean “know” you. Having slept together does not qualify “knowing” a person. Part of my timeline in getting intimate. Plenty of folks at the bottom of the river because they slept with someone too early and thought they knew them…just saying. I don’t know you as in your habits and what you like. I don’t know how you’re gonna respond to nature if we’re out in the woods. If you like hunting and if I’m gonna be the huntee (y’all watched the movie Strawdogs??) Okay I’m somewhat paranoid but I’m somewhat kidding.
So in essence, traveling with a companion for me is subsequent to nailing it and getting something solid underneath us. I don’t want to explore on the front end of things in some faraway land…lol I might not come back. Even worse, you might not come back…lol I’M KIDDING AND IN A SILLY MOOD :) I dunno and just for me, the better already acquainted, the better the time together while away.

As it relates to motion sickness…never done a cruise and probably won’t do. I can do a cup of water, a tub of water and the beach/shoreline but out there in the middle of it and nowhere to run if things run amuck….nuh uh I’ve flown many times now and never gotten sick. Sleepy as soon as I’ve sat down but not sick. As a kid I would get sick riding the bus (to and from high school)..that would make me queasy at least a couple times a week. Too as a kid, riding in a car I would often get sick. I don’t know if it’s that I’ve just outgrown but I don’t so much have that as an issue now.

On riding the distance…I can ride up to about 13 hours and I start feeling some kind of way…like trapped or something. I can ride about 6 hours and really enjoy the ride. I can ride alone and be cool but I’m very cool riding and talking and listening to music with a companion.

Late morning!

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
11:54 am

The last night of our cruise (supposedly the best night) the boat hit some turbulent waters. It was horrible. As we were making our way to the rooms people were spitting up in just about every corner of the boat. I was so dizzy, sick, downright miserable. For those that didn’t get sick, there was a firework/food specatular on the upper deck. We missed it all because we were huggng the porcelain goddess much of the night.

abc

June 11th, 2012
11:59 am

There’s only 1 cruise ship that ports out of Charleston, Carnival Fantasy. Very old, a scow, plus Carnival merits a ‘just don’t get on board’ rating, in my opinion. Budget minded? Try Royal Carribean out of Port Canaveral on the Bahamas run, 3 or 4 day cruises.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
11:59 am

Sorry if some of my post didn’t fully make sense. I was typing erasing, answering IMs and what not. As long as you can gather what I was trying to say :)

disco

June 11th, 2012
12:03 pm

celisea – all jokes aside, even though you are kidding you are keeping it real. I’ve been known to call up a trusted friend and give her all of a new guy’s particulars. car description, license plate, phone number etc. I might wind up dead but somebody can give the cop’s a lead. lol. thing is for all of our paranoia over new guys I figure just as many women are endangered by husbands/boyfriends or exes.

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
12:05 pm

Awww, that sucks…My little cousin went on his first cruise earlier this year. (A disney cruise) So the kids pretty much were able to hang out in their little clubs and eat as much as they wanted. His mom told me how he got sick one night, not because of motion sickness, but because he was eating everything he could. After he vomited, he was back out having fun. lol

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
12:05 pm

disco – LOLOLOL…yeah you got it. “J/K/B/N/R” Folks can make their mouths say anything and I tell the longer the world stand, the better folks get at lying and acting and representing. Thieving and tricking should get added as well…lol I don’t want to deal with getting “stuck”…Stuck with the bill (cause I’m definitely not paying), stuck with the crazies, stuck with a eye roamer….just plain ole stuck like chuck…

I agree on your last statement…definitely

Bluzgirl

June 11th, 2012
12:07 pm

I was just remembering that the last time recent ex and I went to Charleston together, we had a huge fight that weekend…talk about a long ride home. He had left to come back to Atlanta to play with a band without even discussing it with me and came back to pick me up. I decided not to bring up my feelings about it until we got home because there was no point in fighting while being stuck in the car for 6 hours. I just remained quiet and so did he.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
12:09 pm

disco ~ we had a convo here on giving friends concrete information/particulars of their date just in case something went wrong. I try my best to always capture the license plate number and what my date is wearing. I have texted that information back to a friend before.

Bluzgirl

June 11th, 2012
12:10 pm

abc…I haven’t looked up the cruises out of Charleston yet. That stinks if it’s only Carnival and they aren’t that good. I don’t know anything about any cruiseline. With my friend living there, we just thought what the heck…why not do it because we wouldn’t need to fly anywhere. Just park at his place and take a taxi to port.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
12:22 pm

abc – That’s the cruise me & hubs took, the RC 3-day to the Bahamas! Very nice!!

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
12:24 pm

I’ve left details for a family member or friend with regards to meeting up with a new guy. You just never know who or what you’re going to get. I think Forrest Gump said it best, “life is like a box of chocolates…” lol

I’ve never left out of the port of Charleston but I have traveled with Carnival and my experiences have been good so far. However, I have heard that Royal Carribbean is pretty good too, especially when it comes to amenities and activities.

abc

June 11th, 2012
12:26 pm

My opinion, forget about Charleston and Mobile as potential ports. They’re Carnival-only, and the boats are old. Unless you have an agenda that only includes partying ’til you puke, you probably won’t like it very much. But then again, some folks do.

Go to Port Canaveral, fly to Miami. Or, for about the same dough, fly to San Juan and port from there. That’s where the nicer Eastern Carribean itineraries start from, anyway. Girly girl and I have left from there the past couple of cruises.

Cruises are nice if you enjoy the big beautiful ships, and it’s a good way to get around and see what islands you like. I came to think they’re a little bit of a waste, though, as the Florida Gulf Coast (from St. George Island to Gulf Shores, AL) has more beautiful beaches than any Carribean Island, and you can drive. Plus, you have to hassle with Carribean natives — that can get to be a hassle, especially in the independent islands — the ones that are still colonies aren’t quite as bad.

abc

June 11th, 2012
12:27 pm

Did you sail on Majesty of the Seas, kimmie? I heard that boat was making the Bahamas run these days. When I was working on it, it was brand new, and was the biggest ship in the world! Cruising has changed a little bit since then.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
12:31 pm

abc – I think it was the Majesty!!

disco

June 11th, 2012
12:31 pm

since we are discussing cruises has anyone been on Norwegian epic? I’m curious about their solo traveler studios.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
12:35 pm

You ladies are so right to give your loved ones info on your dates! Can never be too careful!

I’ve thought on a few occasions, and not necessarily out of town, just out like at Stone Mountain or something – “this dude could snap and push me over this railing and no one would be the wiser”. Always grateful I had the forethought to let someone know who I was with and the particulars!

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
12:36 pm

The one thing I do find a bit annoying when traveling is the aggressiveness of the natives in trying to get you to buy stuff from them. It got a little crazy when I was in Cancun and Jamaica.

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
12:37 pm

kimmie – I had to get on my sister recently about not letting anyone know info about a guy she was going to meet up with. She had met him a few weeks ago while on a weekend beach getaway. All we knew is dude was in the army. That’s all. :twisted:

disco

June 11th, 2012
12:40 pm

slim – yep. he would have been very easy to find. lol. shame on your sis.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
12:47 pm

Annnnnnnnnnnnnd eyecandy takes his stroll. I was busy munching down on lunch and looked up just quick enough to catch him looking. He strolls by and to the end of our side of the floor (what five feet from me), turns and strolls back…lol

I LOVE it. Nothing like a Monday afternoon stroll :)

Mr_NYC

June 11th, 2012
12:51 pm

RCCL seems like they may be ending their Bahamas runs out of Port Canaveral. You may want to check the site — looks like past September things are changing. Definitely agree though stay away from the Carnival short runs, they use the older boats. On the longer trips their ships are much nicer. cruisecritic.com usually has pretty level write ups on the ships, traveler reviews and details on when the ships were built so you can get a good feel. I’ve been on 7, 5 of them RCCL and IMHO they are great.

abc

June 11th, 2012
12:53 pm

Kimmie, there were 3 of those, all identical: Sovereign, Monarch, and Majesty of the Seas. Sovereign got sold a couple of years ago and is cruising the Mediterranean these days. Majesty was the last of the 3, launched in 1992, I think. I was on it in 92 and 93. It was (and I hope still is) quite a wonderful ship — 20 years is a long time for a ship to remain with its original owners these days. I was on Sovereign too.

Mr. Unknown

June 11th, 2012
1:49 pm

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
1:52 pm

Mr. U ~ To get this blog moving, you need to say something more than Sooo….

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
1:52 pm

twirling thumbs right about now….

Mr. U – I think they all jumped ship lol

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
2:05 pm

Hmmm…do you all think Creflo actually choked and slapped/punched his daughter? Originally the two daughters said he did, but as time went out, I hear they recanted his actually did all that.

Mr. Unknown

June 11th, 2012
2:08 pm

Lol, I was trying to figure out what happened. Thought I may have missed something. I don’t think its a good idea to talk about vacation while at work.
Did C go chasing the Eyecandy lol.

disco

June 11th, 2012
2:10 pm

slim – jumped ship. that’s funny but something went down up in this camp. it’s dead.

hey there mr unknown. how goes things?

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
2:15 pm

I think Creflo was acting like a dad to an insolent 15 year old who seemd to have a lot of gumption to talk back the way they claimed she did. I wasn’t there, but choking is a bit much.

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
2:15 pm

Mr U Well eye candy is better than looking at this misty rain outside my window, So if she did, i dont blame her. lol

disco

June 11th, 2012
2:18 pm

leggs – as a person who was choked by her father (legs literally lifted off the ground) and as a person who has wanted to choke other people on a number of occasions – I get it. kids/people in general will take you there. heck, he may have done her less damage by choking her than by actually hitting her. just my opinion though. some of these kids make you want to dig a hole. all parents who haven’t killed their kids should reach around and pat themselves on the back right now. lol.

Mr. Unknown

June 11th, 2012
2:18 pm

Slim I was just reading that. I say where theres smoke… On the flip side my best friends father is a pastor. Growing up around the family, everybody outside of the church and even church members were sooo critical of everything little thing. I mean the kids had no freedom to just relax, everything is under a microscope. Sucks… Something is happening under the Dollar roof, like what was the deep conversation that lead to the incident?

Mr. Unknown

June 11th, 2012
2:21 pm

Whats up Disco.. I’m sitting in class right now wishing I was on a beach somewhere…

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
2:24 pm

Mr U – She was wanting to go to some party that he told her she couldnt attend. I think it escalated from there…I know someone that has worked at a few of his locations (home included) and I was told he is one rude, obno xi ous dude. That has nothing to do with this situation though.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
2:27 pm

abc – My husband said it was Monarch, the ship we took. I really want to do a Mediterranean. My aunt took one, left out of Barcelona Spain and she said it was fabulous.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
2:33 pm

Mr. U – Now you know that hurt…lol I’m not chasing anything or anybody I work with.

I was in Macy’s Saturday and this woman irked me talking about it. She was adamant that he choked, punched, slapped, kicked, tossed….claiming she worked with kids and she could tell. I was like lady if you weren’t there do go judging either sides. I said at least wait until we hear more (that was before he spoke). Times have gotten so bad with this kids and their “rights” that it’s hard (for some) to raise them because the system is on their side so much so that it’s crippling and causing good parenting to become ineffective. I don’t listen to V103 but while surfing chanels, I stop to hear Wanda and Frank this morning and agree. Some “expert” was on there and all he could say was kids are not getting time in so they’re rebelling. Wanda said it was just her and her mom and her mom left her there to work and dared her to let anyone else in….I agree. What this messed up world can’t see is the more it calls itself getting better and doing better than days of ancient, the worse things and times become. All I know is too, my mama and daddy raised us, knew what was best for us, and lead us…until we could stand on our own. Even then we still needed to lean on them. We weren’t abused and mistreated because we couldn’t run amuck and live with no regard and no respect and rejecting direction. We were all the better because we didn’t buck but pretty much took them at their direction and teaching. Most folks from our generation and back turned out to be pretty decent individuals. Not perfect but decent in our own rights. Leave it to folks nowadays, everything back then was done wrong yet we had enough respect to respect adults and rules and laws….and it got us most of us further than we ever imagined.

We are raising nothing now mostly but a bunch of fools that you can’t tell a thing and a system that agrees and backs them up.

Mr. U – You know that hurt right? I thought you knew me better than that. C’mon now

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
2:33 pm

I understand the feeling of “wanting” to choke your child. I’ve even envisioned what would make me snatch mine up like that. I know it’s in me to do it, just wondered if it’s in her to bring it out of me. I hope not! This child was 15. These children these days really believe they have more rights than they actually do. They feel it’s ok to get out of the child’s lane and ride with the big dogs. Woof, and watch them skimper back to their corner! Like that New Orleans guy used to say…I guarantee it….

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
2:33 pm

Mr U – I didn’t mean to say that twice….oops :)

Mr. Unknown

June 11th, 2012
2:36 pm

Slim.. I remember my pop put a dent in the hallway wall for talking back to mom at 16. He used my back to put the dent there. I was like dang dude strong. lol… He told me If I ever talked to his wife, not my mom but his wife like that again it would be a bad day for me. He deflated my bird chest real quick.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
2:36 pm

“Leave it to folks nowadays, everything back then was done wrong yet we had enough respect to respect adults and rules and laws” – And this is what this generation is lacking…respect!

disco

June 11th, 2012
2:41 pm

C – I could go on all day about my issues with the social service system. I understand their purpose and I really do believe they can be of service to families and the community but I also truly believe that in a lot of cases they do far more harm than good. just the fact that they can remove children from homes just based on suspicion is more than I can stand. goodness knows this world is full of petty people who have nothing better to do than to report their neighbors or their “baby’s daddy’s other baby’s momma” just to be spiteful.

mr. ? – that puts me in mind of D.L. Hughley’s joke when he said his teenage son bucked up at him. he said he asked his son that if he (the son) did manage to win the fight where did he expect to live after the fight. DL’s a nut.

Mr. Unknown

June 11th, 2012
2:43 pm

My bad C.. lol..

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
2:46 pm

C/Leggs – I agree with you all. It’s about respect and lack thereof for parents and authority. I heard not only did the 15 yr old talk back, but she actually hit Creflo first. I remember my mom telling us if any of us even looked at her wrong, much less tried to raise a hand to her or daddy, expect to see her on the 6 oclock news being led away in handcuffs!

A friend of the family’s 15 yr old about a month ago got suspended from school for 3 days. The teacher was trying to tell her something and she told the teacher “F— you!”. See, that’s the kind of stuff that takes parents THERE!!

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
2:50 pm

My mom used to say we didn’t have any “rights” until we moved out on our own. She said if we called the authorities to make sure we go and stay gone.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
2:52 pm

Kimmie – So so so true. And you see why we are functioning lawabiding citizens. My mama said there would be two calls if you looked like you thought you might want to call the cops. The morgue (for us) and the cops to turn herself in…lol What people fail to see and are so sadly missing is the world they’re going to have to live in. They grow up believe they’re entitled and can do what they want, say what they want and act anyway they want…..getting in the real world is going to be a rude awakening. Now a parent trying to spare and save and steer a child in their right direction is wrong because what?? No you don’t need to be at some party at 15. You need to be watching a movie (maybe with friends) and enjoying dinner. Where’s is the system when their fast ass gets knocked up? Where is the system when at 15 you get yourself in some mess that money can’t cash you out of?

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
2:53 pm

Kimmie – Mine too. She said if you call the authorities you going to live in a shelter….and rightfully so.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
2:54 pm

But you know what? We loved our parents. We didn’t like all they said but for the most part we always came around and once the law was laid down, we lived with it. We went on living and enjoying the place we were in (in their house), be it 16 or 14 or 18.

Okay….I’M OFF THE SOAP BOX…lol :)

disco

June 11th, 2012
2:56 pm

kimmie – your mom’s comment reminds me of a conversation with my son. way back in the day we were watching jenny jones and the topic was parents who were abused by their children. those were some bad A kids. my son looked at me like he was fascinated by the idea of taking me out. I told him if he ever tried me I’d be on jennie jones only not as a studio guest. they’d be doing a live satellite from prison with me in an orange jumpsuit talking about why I killed my son. he still remembers that conversation to this day.

MervTheTerrible

June 11th, 2012
2:58 pm

That’s why it is important to get to know the person you dating before such events. I know it’s healthier for a woman to have kids at younger ages, but before I would even consider something like marriage I would have to date someone a minimum of 2 years before even thinking of popping the question, plus live with them some just to make sure. I’ll never understand why some people jump the gun on these things, but hey to each his/her own I recon.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
3:01 pm

disco – Man, you brought back some memories with jennie jones!! A live satellite in an orange jumpsuit – that would be my mom too!LOL!!

Celisea – I was terrified of my parents, but I did indeed love and respect them. The worst thing in the world to me would have been to disappoint them. I can’t stand ole Frank Ski, but he said the same thing about his parents. To disappoint them would have broken my heart.
My mom used to recite that Bible verse – Honor thy mother and father and your days will be long in the land that the Lord thy God giveth thee!

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
3:09 pm

Kimmie – Yes indeed. I’m so all over the end of your 3:01. That’s all Imma say…I agree whole heartedly. There are so many young kids cut off early because of disobedience….to parents but ultimately to God. Children have a duty to respect the parent. God is not some big beast to just cut folks off but if a kid gets to far out and crosses the lines, essentially they will have a life short lived.

And yes Kimmie, we loved them. Honey I can remember thinking I was grown when I actually was….and didn’t know nothing. I can remember my mama coming through without me even having to ask….on things I messed up. She and my daddy was together. Although he didn’t say much, he was there more so than my mama.

I said I was done didn’t I?? LOL

Mr. Unknown

June 11th, 2012
3:18 pm

So has the day of “It takes a village to raise a child” over? I remember certain teachers calling my mom and snitching on me and I wasn’t even in their class anymore. lol. The lady down the street would tell on us. Mrs. Johnson god rest her soul but it worked. Dang I ran out of time.
Anyway have a good day all. Class is over. Read ya later.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
3:20 pm

And that’s also the key. Children may love their parents, but they aren’t afraid of them. I thought my mother’s neck could stretch like a rubberband and see around buildings. I never played hookey because of it. I was definitely afraid of my mother’s wrath. Too many parents are young and they want to be their child’s friend. I want to raise a child where people will want to me her friend while I stay her mama!

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
3:24 pm

“be “her friend….

disco

June 11th, 2012
3:24 pm

mr. ? – it definitely depends on the village these days. most folks, myself included, are particular about who has a hand in disciplining their child. having said that, I have a large extended family and when my son was coming up almost anybody (family member or close family friend) that was old enough to whoop his behind was free to whip his behind. to this day I have a babysitting policy of “if I can’t hit your child, I can’t watch your child”.

leggs – I’m usually so perturbed when I hear mothers/daughters proclaiming to be best friends. it’s cool when daughter is 40 and mama is 60 but it makes no sense when daughter is 16.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
3:25 pm

Leggs – My mom used to say all the time “I’m not ya friend!”. At first I didn’t understand and thought she was being a little mean, but as I got older I definitely got it. And I appreciated her taking her role as my “parent” seriously.

I tell my kids that too and I still have all the old school beliefs about parenting. Hubs is a little more laid back. I don’t mind being the badguy. The kids complain, but I can see they respect and love me too. They know I have nothing but their best interest at heart(well sometimes they know!)

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
3:27 pm

Mr U – Seems like most kids get that same Ah-ha moment with one of their parents. I’ve had my fair share but the one time I can say i truly got it was when my dad came all the way from B’ham to whoop my arse for coming home with a hickey on my neck. My mom had to tell him to stop because he was going ham on me. lol

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
3:30 pm

@kimmie ~ just the other day mine said I was a bit too stern. I said “cool, perhaps all my sterness will keep you out of jail and from doing foolish things.” Who knows???

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
3:33 pm

The teacher was trying to tell her something and she told the teacher “F— you!”.

kimmie – Yup, that shold does happen a lot. Back in the day you would not be caught cursing in ear shot of any adult.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
3:35 pm

I remember being tempted to cut during my senior year after all my credits were in and I was good to go. Mind you I was an “elite” student, ranked 3rd in my highschool (3rd in elementary), NEVER got into trouble, pretty popular (Ms. 12th Grade) to carry my own so no pressue to feel accepted. Anyhoo getting into trouble was NOT my thing…nothing I even wanted to do. Well, my BFF was Tony…yep a dude and two other girls. Well Tony had a car and we (one of the two bff) jumped in to head to MickieDees to grab lunch, seeing it was our senior year and all we did was hang around a half day or graduation practice. Well, wouldn’t you know I saw Aunt Fannie at the corner store (we stopped before MickieDees) and I almost “tt’d” on myself….lol I was hiding in the backseat of the car until they came out of the store after seeing my aunt. I was like ut uh, take me back to school and just bring me something back…lol I was soooo scared Aunt Fannie was gonna tell.

For Real

June 11th, 2012
3:35 pm

As my Paw-Paw use to say “Beat dat ass when dey young and dey will respeck you when dey old and if dey don’t respeck you den shoot dey ass.”

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
3:38 pm

Leggs – That was a great comeback to lil leggs lol

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
3:39 pm

4Treal :lol: Sounds like I’ve met your paw paw…Dontcha jus love old people ;-)

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
3:41 pm

For Real – I just love your Paw Paw…lol

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
3:43 pm

Cel – I never really did the skip school thing but I have skipped my ballet class a few times to go to another lunch period. So all that led to me getting a failing grade on the mid-term progress reports. So I actually changed the grade and initialed it telling my mom it was a typo. I never got in trouble so she believed me. Weeks later she had to go to the school for something non-related to that and low and behold she found out about my grade. She was hurt that I went to that extent to lie to hurt and she was disappointed that I acted in that manner. To this day, (so serious) she always brings that up that she never thought I’d do anything like that. I told her she needs to let it go but that I am sorry AGAIN :lol:

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
3:43 pm

Who else thought ForReal’s post started out like Proverbs 22:6??? Then it took a sharp left.

SlimUno ~ she had no other rebuttal so she turned and left the room. Of course I snickered to myself.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
3:47 pm

Slim – And your story is what seemed “extreme” back in the day. I think we all have one or two things we did but learned from. Ain’t it funny how things have a way of “coming” out? I believe the Lord does that for parents because there’s no way they can be everywhere all the time yet and still they only want the best for you. So when we’ve been a little naughty and moms and pops are trusting us to be the little angels they’re trying to raise, somewhere somehow they’re find out. All seemingly coincidental…but I believe because they want and intend for you to go right it happens so they can put a stop to it before things get out of hand.

That’s the other things, kids need to know that we weren’t angels so we’re telling them because we tried (some of…not this crazy mess) of the things they’re trying and just know there’s no good outcome if they don’t do different or better.

disco

June 11th, 2012
3:49 pm

Celisea – that is one parental phrase that I absolutely hated to hear. “every thing that you are doing I’ve already done it”. I absolutely hated it!!!

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
3:51 pm

disco – Why? Because it was true? They were right…lol I think ALL kids hate hearing that. Or “this is going to hurt me more than it’s going to hurt you but….I have to”

LOL Classic

For Real

June 11th, 2012
3:52 pm

Leggs: It is a proverb. It’s from the book of Pitts.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
3:52 pm

Slim – Not saying your experience was awful…just saying folks would gasp and clutch pearls for cutting, changing grades heck even cussing. All that was extreme back then…lol You get what I’m saying.

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
3:57 pm

Ain’t it funny how things have a way of “coming” out?

Cel – That’s when I really learned that and understood what my mom meant whenever she said, “whatever you do in the dark, will come to light”. She had me feeling like eyes were always watching.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
3:57 pm

:lol: :lol: @ForReal. I hear ya!

disco

June 11th, 2012
3:58 pm

C – I could tolerate “this is going to hurt me more than you” because I often thought it was true. lol. I refused to cry when I got whoopings and I’m sure they were harsher because of it. that saying about having already done everything irked me because I wasn’t being given any credit for creativity or originality. I know nothing is new under the sun but I refused to believe that my mother had already did everything I was doing. even now, I refuse to believe it. lol.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
3:59 pm

Celisea – I did that same skip thing my senior year!

Slim – Did the same thing you did with the progress report. Didn’t get caught though.

I was slick, or thought I was anyway!LOL!!

I tell the kids all the time “You gotta get up EARLY IN THE MORNING to outslick me”!! They hate it, and have taken to finishing the phrase when I start saying it. I tell them all the time they are not slick!!

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:06 pm

Do you guys know that now they have a designated day for Seniors to Skip. Unreal…

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:06 pm

disco – They’re were right…they’ve already experienced it for you…give in to it…lol And let’s not talk about getting a whipping and NOT crying…OMG You would think that was an even bigger thing than what you was getting the whipping for. My mama would get mad and say “oh you’re not gonna cry???” She said it was being stubborn. Many times when I didn’t cry I thought, really mama? You want me to cry over this…wait…over getting a whipping for this??…LOL

Kimmie – I think if you’re gonna skip, at least let it be when you’re done, finished, just waiting to go through the graduation ceremony.

I tell my kid I ain’t gotta be there, I’ll still know…lol

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:07 pm

Leggs – Yep…at my kid’s school it’s call “Skip Day”

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:07 pm

“they were right” not “they’re were right”

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:09 pm

@kimmie ~ I tell mine, I will always be 3 steps of ahead of you because you guys are sloppy when you sneak.

P.S. No doubt she wins some, but please believe it’s not many. I have eyes like an owl and hearing like a hawk! Wait, do hawks have good hearing (lol)?

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:09 pm

Who says kids ain’t work? LOL Aside from the money involved in raising, the constant having to stay one step ahead and keeping one eye open can be something else after almost 20 years…lol

SexyCool

June 11th, 2012
4:09 pm

90 days and counting…

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:11 pm

SexyC – Don’t go having kids now…lol I’m kidding

disco

June 11th, 2012
4:11 pm

C – and I still can’t get on board with it. I have to hold on to the belief that I did something that my mother didn’t do before me. I’m not giving that up – I need it dang it. I’m sure she did her dirt in her day just like I did my dirt in my day. I stand by my argument that if we compared notes there’d have to be something on my list that she didn’t do. can you tell I’ve been told my whole entire life that I’m just like my momma? girl, I’ve been looking for differences since I was a wee child.

SexyCool

June 11th, 2012
4:13 pm

Cel – Er, um….do not say the “b” word, the “k” word or the “c” word around me. So not there…

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:14 pm

disco/Celisea ~ my whoopings last a tad bit longer as well. I was so stubborn I refused to give in and cry. I jumped alot when that belt hit my backside, but I didn’t cry often. Some whoopings were worse than others and I had to well up but for the most part, I refused to give her those tears. I have a child now, but the phrase “this is going to hurt me more than it does you” made no freaking sense to me because that belt was welping up my skin. I don’t recall Mama sitting down then yelling OUCH! But, as you get older, especially with a child of your own, the sayings make sense. I’ve never said it to her because I know she won’t believe me (lol).

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:18 pm

disco – LOL….I just bet though there are some things mama just never told you or didn’t see the benefit in telling. I bet if y’all kick the box open and truly compared notes, mama was probably you, like all others have said over the course of your life. You don’t think they’re saying it or have said it all your life because of just that thing? That they all know stuff you don’t know.

There are plenty things I’ve done that I won’t share with my kid. Not because they’re awful or was just way over the top but would really serve to benefit. I just know though from what I know I’ve already done anything she thinks she can do….or at least I hope…lol

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:23 pm

SexyC – You got it…we will withold that word in your presence. I’m loving on (blank) these days but if you ain’t feeling or ready I sure can’t be mad at you for that… Heck the only reason I can so love on (blank) these days cause they ain’t mine…lol

Leggs – I ain’t never said it either. Frankly I’ve never felt “hurt” when having to discipline my kid. I’ve been hot and had to wait and cool off so I wouldn’t break nothing…lol

Funny thing too, I remember moving and jumping around. I remember runnin too…lol My mama was swinging. With my kid it was, keep it to the backside only…lol She said God put that special extra in the backside for tolerating licks…not all over her body. I agree but ummm where was all that when she was whipping folks? LOL

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:23 pm

wouldn’t serve to benefit

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
4:24 pm

disco

June 11th, 2012
4:25 pm

leggs – I never gave the pre-whooping speech either. I did do the whole talk through the whooping thing. “boy didn’t I tell you” while emphasizing each word with a swing of the belt/switch/extension cord.

celisea – I still can’t get on board. I’m just plain stubborn like that. I refuse to believe that I never had an original idea. technology alone has these kids today at the advantage in that regard. lol.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:25 pm

@Celisea ~ I’ve felt bad the first time I gave her whooping. I sat in my bathroom with a glass of wine. The last time (her 3rd whooping ), I left her on the floor an stepped over her to leave the room and politely went and sat down on the couch….

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:28 pm

Leggs – I had to chuckled a bit out loud on that 4:25…chile I know :)

disco – Okay then, mama ain’t go it over you…lol

SexyCool

June 11th, 2012
4:33 pm

Hey kimmie!!!

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:33 pm

I remember telling lil leggs, the older she gets and acts up, the worse it will be for her. Told her she can call my bluff any day she like, but at the end, she won’t be liking much. And, I meant it!

disco

June 11th, 2012
4:36 pm

celisea – I know I have issues. I’ve got issues for days. momma issues are at the forefront because my mother is visiting right now and she’s watching “trash tv”. I’ve seen meet the browns more this week than I would care to. I can’t stand it and my mother watches it and cracks up. last night she started watching my big gypsy wedding or something or other. I just had to go upstairs and go to bed. lol.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:39 pm

disco – I hate Meet the Browns. I can tolerate House of Payne and I’ll patronize the movies because IMO they aren’t that deep but they’re
do-able. They’re decent and can be “family” entertainment. But Meet The Browns just irkes me to no end. I can’t do it…lol

Mama will be going home soon enough. Just enjoy your time and let her have it cause she’s mama ;)

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
4:39 pm

My mom always gave me a pre-butt whooping speech…I would start tearing up when I knew the convo was coming to an end and the belt was about to begin. Every now and then I’d get away with a punishment and the guilt of disappointing her, depending on what the infraction was that I committed. I don’t think a beat down is needed in every situation. As many teens go through the phone phase, it killed me to not be able to talk on the phone on 3-way with lawd knows how many other folks on the same call. I couldn’t get the after school scoop until the next day :-(

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:40 pm

I’m cracking up over here disco. While my mother was here, all I heard was Texas Walker, that show with Whitley and Dwayne Wayne??? and I love Lucy….

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:42 pm

@SlimUno ~ Mama took the phone with her to work. YEP! OR, she locked it up with one of those cylinder locks so we couldn’t make any phone calls.

disco

June 11th, 2012
4:43 pm

leggs – I’m fuming on the inside when I’m at home but I have to admit that I crack up when I’m telling my friends about it. girl, she was all up in that gypsy show last night but that was more than I could stand. I was just grateful it was late enough for me to excuse myself for bed.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:47 pm

During the summer months my mama would give her list of demands before heading out to work….or else And funny thing is we were scared to NOT do them and she wouldn’t be home before like 3ish. LOL

No laying in bed late, house cleaned before watching cartoons, (for use little ones) playing outside extended to the front of our house and the house to the right and left. And one of the big kids had to stay behind and watch the young ones. She didn’t pick and choose just said somebody do it…lol Boy if it was a day of skating the neighborhood and somebdy had to stay back it was hell to pay…lol Our hair had to be comb (my older sisters gave me afro puffs) before going outside as well as a bath.

If ANY of that was NOT done, my mama was on it!

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:47 pm

I feel ya, disco!

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:50 pm

Robin Roberts was just diagnosed with MDS…some sort of bone marrow disease. She’s starting pretreatment, chemo and bone marrow transplant later. Wow…she just battled breast cancer. Hope she comes out okay.

I may have got some of that wrong. I’m typing as the radio is playing in my ear.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:50 pm

Celisea ~ sounds much like my household. We had a list, I would cringe when I got the bathroom and had to clean out soapdish with soap scum in it…make me puke every time. To this day I won’t use soap that creates scum, nor will I leave a pot on the stove unsoaked (a big peeve of mine). I was the littlest sibling, but I had a mouth on me and I wasnt going to let my siblings get me in trouble because they were lumps on the log…no siree!!!

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
4:52 pm

Leggs – Dang! She didn’t play I see. I guess you would’ve had to call her using a neighbors phone is something happened huh?

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:56 pm

Leggs – We took turns with the kitchen, bathrooms and dusting. The house had hardwood floors so that was assigned as well. Everything else was make your own beds/clean your own rooms. My mama always made her and daddy’s bed but we had to go in and dust and sweep once they left for work. If anything was out of place, we knew to put it away.

I was so happy when I was able to give the bathroom duties to my kid. She sooo sorry though with it that it irkes me. Just lazy. I keep latex gloves and sponges and Clorox cleanup so there’s no excuses in her mouth. It’s funny though my mama didn’t stand over us. If I’m not checking behind her it’s not even good enough to call half done. When we washed dishes we had to do clean the stove, the counter top, sweep and take out the trash. Doing the kitchen now means just what’s in the sink. No sweeping, cleaning the stove, taking out the trash or counter tops….UNLESS TOLD.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:58 pm

Same here Celisea. It’s a shame we have to explain that cleaning the stove, sweeping, etc. is part of cleaning the kitchen, not just what’s in the sink. We were trained, we have to train them. However, back in our day we used a lot more common sense….

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
4:58 pm

Yall have a good evening…I see the sun peeking out. Be safe!

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
5:00 pm

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
5:00 pm

Leggs – Your 4:58…exactly

Well folks, it’s time and I’m out of here!!!