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Dating: Ready for the road test?

A reader sent me an article, Make or break? Travel tests your relationship and I immediately thought of the nightmarish trip that torpedoed a romance for me. Well, maybe not so much the road trip but the crazy trip personality my beau displayed did us in.

In hindsight, I am happy we traveled together when we did. Although we had only been seeing one another for a few months, the trip was eye opening, to say the least! Mr. Laid Back and mellow had another side to him. He pretty much behaved like a tyrant and I was starting to think he had an evil twin that showed up instead!

I agree with the author of the article, travel can be tricky when you are a new new couple. Unless you are feeling pretty confident with how things are going, putting your new relationship on the road could make or break the budding romance. Tread lightly!

When do you think it is appropriate to take a trip with someone you are dating? Is this more of a relationship thing or could it be a great activity to do with someone who is new in your life? Do you believe that traveling or road trips brings out a different side in people that you can’t really see anywhere else?

What was the best trip you took with someone you were dating? What made it so successful and what advice would you give someone to ensure a drama free road trip?

Happy Monday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

160 comments Add your comment

Mr. Unknown

June 11th, 2012
3:18 pm

So has the day of “It takes a village to raise a child” over? I remember certain teachers calling my mom and snitching on me and I wasn’t even in their class anymore. lol. The lady down the street would tell on us. Mrs. Johnson god rest her soul but it worked. Dang I ran out of time.
Anyway have a good day all. Class is over. Read ya later.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
3:20 pm

And that’s also the key. Children may love their parents, but they aren’t afraid of them. I thought my mother’s neck could stretch like a rubberband and see around buildings. I never played hookey because of it. I was definitely afraid of my mother’s wrath. Too many parents are young and they want to be their child’s friend. I want to raise a child where people will want to me her friend while I stay her mama!

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
3:24 pm

“be “her friend….

disco

June 11th, 2012
3:24 pm

mr. ? – it definitely depends on the village these days. most folks, myself included, are particular about who has a hand in disciplining their child. having said that, I have a large extended family and when my son was coming up almost anybody (family member or close family friend) that was old enough to whoop his behind was free to whip his behind. to this day I have a babysitting policy of “if I can’t hit your child, I can’t watch your child”.

leggs – I’m usually so perturbed when I hear mothers/daughters proclaiming to be best friends. it’s cool when daughter is 40 and mama is 60 but it makes no sense when daughter is 16.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
3:25 pm

Leggs – My mom used to say all the time “I’m not ya friend!”. At first I didn’t understand and thought she was being a little mean, but as I got older I definitely got it. And I appreciated her taking her role as my “parent” seriously.

I tell my kids that too and I still have all the old school beliefs about parenting. Hubs is a little more laid back. I don’t mind being the badguy. The kids complain, but I can see they respect and love me too. They know I have nothing but their best interest at heart(well sometimes they know!)

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
3:27 pm

Mr U – Seems like most kids get that same Ah-ha moment with one of their parents. I’ve had my fair share but the one time I can say i truly got it was when my dad came all the way from B’ham to whoop my arse for coming home with a hickey on my neck. My mom had to tell him to stop because he was going ham on me. lol

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
3:30 pm

@kimmie ~ just the other day mine said I was a bit too stern. I said “cool, perhaps all my sterness will keep you out of jail and from doing foolish things.” Who knows???

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
3:33 pm

The teacher was trying to tell her something and she told the teacher “F— you!”.

kimmie – Yup, that shold does happen a lot. Back in the day you would not be caught cursing in ear shot of any adult.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
3:35 pm

I remember being tempted to cut during my senior year after all my credits were in and I was good to go. Mind you I was an “elite” student, ranked 3rd in my highschool (3rd in elementary), NEVER got into trouble, pretty popular (Ms. 12th Grade) to carry my own so no pressue to feel accepted. Anyhoo getting into trouble was NOT my thing…nothing I even wanted to do. Well, my BFF was Tony…yep a dude and two other girls. Well Tony had a car and we (one of the two bff) jumped in to head to MickieDees to grab lunch, seeing it was our senior year and all we did was hang around a half day or graduation practice. Well, wouldn’t you know I saw Aunt Fannie at the corner store (we stopped before MickieDees) and I almost “tt’d” on myself….lol I was hiding in the backseat of the car until they came out of the store after seeing my aunt. I was like ut uh, take me back to school and just bring me something back…lol I was soooo scared Aunt Fannie was gonna tell.

For Real

June 11th, 2012
3:35 pm

As my Paw-Paw use to say “Beat dat ass when dey young and dey will respeck you when dey old and if dey don’t respeck you den shoot dey ass.”

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
3:38 pm

Leggs – That was a great comeback to lil leggs lol

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
3:39 pm

4Treal :lol: Sounds like I’ve met your paw paw…Dontcha jus love old people ;-)

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
3:41 pm

For Real – I just love your Paw Paw…lol

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
3:43 pm

Cel – I never really did the skip school thing but I have skipped my ballet class a few times to go to another lunch period. So all that led to me getting a failing grade on the mid-term progress reports. So I actually changed the grade and initialed it telling my mom it was a typo. I never got in trouble so she believed me. Weeks later she had to go to the school for something non-related to that and low and behold she found out about my grade. She was hurt that I went to that extent to lie to hurt and she was disappointed that I acted in that manner. To this day, (so serious) she always brings that up that she never thought I’d do anything like that. I told her she needs to let it go but that I am sorry AGAIN :lol:

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
3:43 pm

Who else thought ForReal’s post started out like Proverbs 22:6??? Then it took a sharp left.

SlimUno ~ she had no other rebuttal so she turned and left the room. Of course I snickered to myself.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
3:47 pm

Slim – And your story is what seemed “extreme” back in the day. I think we all have one or two things we did but learned from. Ain’t it funny how things have a way of “coming” out? I believe the Lord does that for parents because there’s no way they can be everywhere all the time yet and still they only want the best for you. So when we’ve been a little naughty and moms and pops are trusting us to be the little angels they’re trying to raise, somewhere somehow they’re find out. All seemingly coincidental…but I believe because they want and intend for you to go right it happens so they can put a stop to it before things get out of hand.

That’s the other things, kids need to know that we weren’t angels so we’re telling them because we tried (some of…not this crazy mess) of the things they’re trying and just know there’s no good outcome if they don’t do different or better.

disco

June 11th, 2012
3:49 pm

Celisea – that is one parental phrase that I absolutely hated to hear. “every thing that you are doing I’ve already done it”. I absolutely hated it!!!

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
3:51 pm

disco – Why? Because it was true? They were right…lol I think ALL kids hate hearing that. Or “this is going to hurt me more than it’s going to hurt you but….I have to”

LOL Classic

For Real

June 11th, 2012
3:52 pm

Leggs: It is a proverb. It’s from the book of Pitts.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
3:52 pm

Slim – Not saying your experience was awful…just saying folks would gasp and clutch pearls for cutting, changing grades heck even cussing. All that was extreme back then…lol You get what I’m saying.

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
3:57 pm

Ain’t it funny how things have a way of “coming” out?

Cel – That’s when I really learned that and understood what my mom meant whenever she said, “whatever you do in the dark, will come to light”. She had me feeling like eyes were always watching.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
3:57 pm

:lol: :lol: @ForReal. I hear ya!

disco

June 11th, 2012
3:58 pm

C – I could tolerate “this is going to hurt me more than you” because I often thought it was true. lol. I refused to cry when I got whoopings and I’m sure they were harsher because of it. that saying about having already done everything irked me because I wasn’t being given any credit for creativity or originality. I know nothing is new under the sun but I refused to believe that my mother had already did everything I was doing. even now, I refuse to believe it. lol.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
3:59 pm

Celisea – I did that same skip thing my senior year!

Slim – Did the same thing you did with the progress report. Didn’t get caught though.

I was slick, or thought I was anyway!LOL!!

I tell the kids all the time “You gotta get up EARLY IN THE MORNING to outslick me”!! They hate it, and have taken to finishing the phrase when I start saying it. I tell them all the time they are not slick!!

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:06 pm

Do you guys know that now they have a designated day for Seniors to Skip. Unreal…

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:06 pm

disco – They’re were right…they’ve already experienced it for you…give in to it…lol And let’s not talk about getting a whipping and NOT crying…OMG You would think that was an even bigger thing than what you was getting the whipping for. My mama would get mad and say “oh you’re not gonna cry???” She said it was being stubborn. Many times when I didn’t cry I thought, really mama? You want me to cry over this…wait…over getting a whipping for this??…LOL

Kimmie – I think if you’re gonna skip, at least let it be when you’re done, finished, just waiting to go through the graduation ceremony.

I tell my kid I ain’t gotta be there, I’ll still know…lol

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:07 pm

Leggs – Yep…at my kid’s school it’s call “Skip Day”

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:07 pm

“they were right” not “they’re were right”

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:09 pm

@kimmie ~ I tell mine, I will always be 3 steps of ahead of you because you guys are sloppy when you sneak.

P.S. No doubt she wins some, but please believe it’s not many. I have eyes like an owl and hearing like a hawk! Wait, do hawks have good hearing (lol)?

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:09 pm

Who says kids ain’t work? LOL Aside from the money involved in raising, the constant having to stay one step ahead and keeping one eye open can be something else after almost 20 years…lol

SexyCool

June 11th, 2012
4:09 pm

90 days and counting…

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:11 pm

SexyC – Don’t go having kids now…lol I’m kidding

disco

June 11th, 2012
4:11 pm

C – and I still can’t get on board with it. I have to hold on to the belief that I did something that my mother didn’t do before me. I’m not giving that up – I need it dang it. I’m sure she did her dirt in her day just like I did my dirt in my day. I stand by my argument that if we compared notes there’d have to be something on my list that she didn’t do. can you tell I’ve been told my whole entire life that I’m just like my momma? girl, I’ve been looking for differences since I was a wee child.

SexyCool

June 11th, 2012
4:13 pm

Cel – Er, um….do not say the “b” word, the “k” word or the “c” word around me. So not there…

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:14 pm

disco/Celisea ~ my whoopings last a tad bit longer as well. I was so stubborn I refused to give in and cry. I jumped alot when that belt hit my backside, but I didn’t cry often. Some whoopings were worse than others and I had to well up but for the most part, I refused to give her those tears. I have a child now, but the phrase “this is going to hurt me more than it does you” made no freaking sense to me because that belt was welping up my skin. I don’t recall Mama sitting down then yelling OUCH! But, as you get older, especially with a child of your own, the sayings make sense. I’ve never said it to her because I know she won’t believe me (lol).

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:18 pm

disco – LOL….I just bet though there are some things mama just never told you or didn’t see the benefit in telling. I bet if y’all kick the box open and truly compared notes, mama was probably you, like all others have said over the course of your life. You don’t think they’re saying it or have said it all your life because of just that thing? That they all know stuff you don’t know.

There are plenty things I’ve done that I won’t share with my kid. Not because they’re awful or was just way over the top but would really serve to benefit. I just know though from what I know I’ve already done anything she thinks she can do….or at least I hope…lol

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:23 pm

SexyC – You got it…we will withold that word in your presence. I’m loving on (blank) these days but if you ain’t feeling or ready I sure can’t be mad at you for that… Heck the only reason I can so love on (blank) these days cause they ain’t mine…lol

Leggs – I ain’t never said it either. Frankly I’ve never felt “hurt” when having to discipline my kid. I’ve been hot and had to wait and cool off so I wouldn’t break nothing…lol

Funny thing too, I remember moving and jumping around. I remember runnin too…lol My mama was swinging. With my kid it was, keep it to the backside only…lol She said God put that special extra in the backside for tolerating licks…not all over her body. I agree but ummm where was all that when she was whipping folks? LOL

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:23 pm

wouldn’t serve to benefit

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
4:24 pm

disco

June 11th, 2012
4:25 pm

leggs – I never gave the pre-whooping speech either. I did do the whole talk through the whooping thing. “boy didn’t I tell you” while emphasizing each word with a swing of the belt/switch/extension cord.

celisea – I still can’t get on board. I’m just plain stubborn like that. I refuse to believe that I never had an original idea. technology alone has these kids today at the advantage in that regard. lol.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:25 pm

@Celisea ~ I’ve felt bad the first time I gave her whooping. I sat in my bathroom with a glass of wine. The last time (her 3rd whooping ), I left her on the floor an stepped over her to leave the room and politely went and sat down on the couch….

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:28 pm

Leggs – I had to chuckled a bit out loud on that 4:25…chile I know :)

disco – Okay then, mama ain’t go it over you…lol

SexyCool

June 11th, 2012
4:33 pm

Hey kimmie!!!

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:33 pm

I remember telling lil leggs, the older she gets and acts up, the worse it will be for her. Told her she can call my bluff any day she like, but at the end, she won’t be liking much. And, I meant it!

disco

June 11th, 2012
4:36 pm

celisea – I know I have issues. I’ve got issues for days. momma issues are at the forefront because my mother is visiting right now and she’s watching “trash tv”. I’ve seen meet the browns more this week than I would care to. I can’t stand it and my mother watches it and cracks up. last night she started watching my big gypsy wedding or something or other. I just had to go upstairs and go to bed. lol.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
4:39 pm

disco – I hate Meet the Browns. I can tolerate House of Payne and I’ll patronize the movies because IMO they aren’t that deep but they’re
do-able. They’re decent and can be “family” entertainment. But Meet The Browns just irkes me to no end. I can’t do it…lol

Mama will be going home soon enough. Just enjoy your time and let her have it cause she’s mama ;)

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
4:39 pm

My mom always gave me a pre-butt whooping speech…I would start tearing up when I knew the convo was coming to an end and the belt was about to begin. Every now and then I’d get away with a punishment and the guilt of disappointing her, depending on what the infraction was that I committed. I don’t think a beat down is needed in every situation. As many teens go through the phone phase, it killed me to not be able to talk on the phone on 3-way with lawd knows how many other folks on the same call. I couldn’t get the after school scoop until the next day :-(

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:40 pm

I’m cracking up over here disco. While my mother was here, all I heard was Texas Walker, that show with Whitley and Dwayne Wayne??? and I love Lucy….

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
4:42 pm

@SlimUno ~ Mama took the phone with her to work. YEP! OR, she locked it up with one of those cylinder locks so we couldn’t make any phone calls.

disco

June 11th, 2012
4:43 pm

leggs – I’m fuming on the inside when I’m at home but I have to admit that I crack up when I’m telling my friends about it. girl, she was all up in that gypsy show last night but that was more than I could stand. I was just grateful it was late enough for me to excuse myself for bed.