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Dating: Ready for the road test?

A reader sent me an article, Make or break? Travel tests your relationship and I immediately thought of the nightmarish trip that torpedoed a romance for me. Well, maybe not so much the road trip but the crazy trip personality my beau displayed did us in.

In hindsight, I am happy we traveled together when we did. Although we had only been seeing one another for a few months, the trip was eye opening, to say the least! Mr. Laid Back and mellow had another side to him. He pretty much behaved like a tyrant and I was starting to think he had an evil twin that showed up instead!

I agree with the author of the article, travel can be tricky when you are a new new couple. Unless you are feeling pretty confident with how things are going, putting your new relationship on the road could make or break the budding romance. Tread lightly!

When do you think it is appropriate to take a trip with someone you are dating? Is this more of a relationship thing or could it be a great activity to do with someone who is new in your life? Do you believe that traveling or road trips brings out a different side in people that you can’t really see anywhere else?

What was the best trip you took with someone you were dating? What made it so successful and what advice would you give someone to ensure a drama free road trip?

Happy Monday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

160 comments Add your comment

abc

June 11th, 2012
11:59 am

There’s only 1 cruise ship that ports out of Charleston, Carnival Fantasy. Very old, a scow, plus Carnival merits a ‘just don’t get on board’ rating, in my opinion. Budget minded? Try Royal Carribean out of Port Canaveral on the Bahamas run, 3 or 4 day cruises.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
11:59 am

Sorry if some of my post didn’t fully make sense. I was typing erasing, answering IMs and what not. As long as you can gather what I was trying to say :)

disco

June 11th, 2012
12:03 pm

celisea – all jokes aside, even though you are kidding you are keeping it real. I’ve been known to call up a trusted friend and give her all of a new guy’s particulars. car description, license plate, phone number etc. I might wind up dead but somebody can give the cop’s a lead. lol. thing is for all of our paranoia over new guys I figure just as many women are endangered by husbands/boyfriends or exes.

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
12:05 pm

Awww, that sucks…My little cousin went on his first cruise earlier this year. (A disney cruise) So the kids pretty much were able to hang out in their little clubs and eat as much as they wanted. His mom told me how he got sick one night, not because of motion sickness, but because he was eating everything he could. After he vomited, he was back out having fun. lol

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
12:05 pm

disco – LOLOLOL…yeah you got it. “J/K/B/N/R” Folks can make their mouths say anything and I tell the longer the world stand, the better folks get at lying and acting and representing. Thieving and tricking should get added as well…lol I don’t want to deal with getting “stuck”…Stuck with the bill (cause I’m definitely not paying), stuck with the crazies, stuck with a eye roamer….just plain ole stuck like chuck…

I agree on your last statement…definitely

Bluzgirl

June 11th, 2012
12:07 pm

I was just remembering that the last time recent ex and I went to Charleston together, we had a huge fight that weekend…talk about a long ride home. He had left to come back to Atlanta to play with a band without even discussing it with me and came back to pick me up. I decided not to bring up my feelings about it until we got home because there was no point in fighting while being stuck in the car for 6 hours. I just remained quiet and so did he.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
12:09 pm

disco ~ we had a convo here on giving friends concrete information/particulars of their date just in case something went wrong. I try my best to always capture the license plate number and what my date is wearing. I have texted that information back to a friend before.

Bluzgirl

June 11th, 2012
12:10 pm

abc…I haven’t looked up the cruises out of Charleston yet. That stinks if it’s only Carnival and they aren’t that good. I don’t know anything about any cruiseline. With my friend living there, we just thought what the heck…why not do it because we wouldn’t need to fly anywhere. Just park at his place and take a taxi to port.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
12:22 pm

abc – That’s the cruise me & hubs took, the RC 3-day to the Bahamas! Very nice!!

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
12:24 pm

I’ve left details for a family member or friend with regards to meeting up with a new guy. You just never know who or what you’re going to get. I think Forrest Gump said it best, “life is like a box of chocolates…” lol

I’ve never left out of the port of Charleston but I have traveled with Carnival and my experiences have been good so far. However, I have heard that Royal Carribbean is pretty good too, especially when it comes to amenities and activities.

abc

June 11th, 2012
12:26 pm

My opinion, forget about Charleston and Mobile as potential ports. They’re Carnival-only, and the boats are old. Unless you have an agenda that only includes partying ’til you puke, you probably won’t like it very much. But then again, some folks do.

Go to Port Canaveral, fly to Miami. Or, for about the same dough, fly to San Juan and port from there. That’s where the nicer Eastern Carribean itineraries start from, anyway. Girly girl and I have left from there the past couple of cruises.

Cruises are nice if you enjoy the big beautiful ships, and it’s a good way to get around and see what islands you like. I came to think they’re a little bit of a waste, though, as the Florida Gulf Coast (from St. George Island to Gulf Shores, AL) has more beautiful beaches than any Carribean Island, and you can drive. Plus, you have to hassle with Carribean natives — that can get to be a hassle, especially in the independent islands — the ones that are still colonies aren’t quite as bad.

abc

June 11th, 2012
12:27 pm

Did you sail on Majesty of the Seas, kimmie? I heard that boat was making the Bahamas run these days. When I was working on it, it was brand new, and was the biggest ship in the world! Cruising has changed a little bit since then.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
12:31 pm

abc – I think it was the Majesty!!

disco

June 11th, 2012
12:31 pm

since we are discussing cruises has anyone been on Norwegian epic? I’m curious about their solo traveler studios.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
12:35 pm

You ladies are so right to give your loved ones info on your dates! Can never be too careful!

I’ve thought on a few occasions, and not necessarily out of town, just out like at Stone Mountain or something – “this dude could snap and push me over this railing and no one would be the wiser”. Always grateful I had the forethought to let someone know who I was with and the particulars!

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
12:36 pm

The one thing I do find a bit annoying when traveling is the aggressiveness of the natives in trying to get you to buy stuff from them. It got a little crazy when I was in Cancun and Jamaica.

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
12:37 pm

kimmie – I had to get on my sister recently about not letting anyone know info about a guy she was going to meet up with. She had met him a few weeks ago while on a weekend beach getaway. All we knew is dude was in the army. That’s all. :twisted:

disco

June 11th, 2012
12:40 pm

slim – yep. he would have been very easy to find. lol. shame on your sis.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
12:47 pm

Annnnnnnnnnnnnd eyecandy takes his stroll. I was busy munching down on lunch and looked up just quick enough to catch him looking. He strolls by and to the end of our side of the floor (what five feet from me), turns and strolls back…lol

I LOVE it. Nothing like a Monday afternoon stroll :)

Mr_NYC

June 11th, 2012
12:51 pm

RCCL seems like they may be ending their Bahamas runs out of Port Canaveral. You may want to check the site — looks like past September things are changing. Definitely agree though stay away from the Carnival short runs, they use the older boats. On the longer trips their ships are much nicer. cruisecritic.com usually has pretty level write ups on the ships, traveler reviews and details on when the ships were built so you can get a good feel. I’ve been on 7, 5 of them RCCL and IMHO they are great.

abc

June 11th, 2012
12:53 pm

Kimmie, there were 3 of those, all identical: Sovereign, Monarch, and Majesty of the Seas. Sovereign got sold a couple of years ago and is cruising the Mediterranean these days. Majesty was the last of the 3, launched in 1992, I think. I was on it in 92 and 93. It was (and I hope still is) quite a wonderful ship — 20 years is a long time for a ship to remain with its original owners these days. I was on Sovereign too.

Mr. Unknown

June 11th, 2012
1:49 pm

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
1:52 pm

Mr. U ~ To get this blog moving, you need to say something more than Sooo….

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
1:52 pm

twirling thumbs right about now….

Mr. U – I think they all jumped ship lol

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
2:05 pm

Hmmm…do you all think Creflo actually choked and slapped/punched his daughter? Originally the two daughters said he did, but as time went out, I hear they recanted his actually did all that.

Mr. Unknown

June 11th, 2012
2:08 pm

Lol, I was trying to figure out what happened. Thought I may have missed something. I don’t think its a good idea to talk about vacation while at work.
Did C go chasing the Eyecandy lol.

disco

June 11th, 2012
2:10 pm

slim – jumped ship. that’s funny but something went down up in this camp. it’s dead.

hey there mr unknown. how goes things?

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
2:15 pm

I think Creflo was acting like a dad to an insolent 15 year old who seemd to have a lot of gumption to talk back the way they claimed she did. I wasn’t there, but choking is a bit much.

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
2:15 pm

Mr U Well eye candy is better than looking at this misty rain outside my window, So if she did, i dont blame her. lol

disco

June 11th, 2012
2:18 pm

leggs – as a person who was choked by her father (legs literally lifted off the ground) and as a person who has wanted to choke other people on a number of occasions – I get it. kids/people in general will take you there. heck, he may have done her less damage by choking her than by actually hitting her. just my opinion though. some of these kids make you want to dig a hole. all parents who haven’t killed their kids should reach around and pat themselves on the back right now. lol.

Mr. Unknown

June 11th, 2012
2:18 pm

Slim I was just reading that. I say where theres smoke… On the flip side my best friends father is a pastor. Growing up around the family, everybody outside of the church and even church members were sooo critical of everything little thing. I mean the kids had no freedom to just relax, everything is under a microscope. Sucks… Something is happening under the Dollar roof, like what was the deep conversation that lead to the incident?

Mr. Unknown

June 11th, 2012
2:21 pm

Whats up Disco.. I’m sitting in class right now wishing I was on a beach somewhere…

SlimUno

June 11th, 2012
2:24 pm

Mr U – She was wanting to go to some party that he told her she couldnt attend. I think it escalated from there…I know someone that has worked at a few of his locations (home included) and I was told he is one rude, obno xi ous dude. That has nothing to do with this situation though.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
2:27 pm

abc – My husband said it was Monarch, the ship we took. I really want to do a Mediterranean. My aunt took one, left out of Barcelona Spain and she said it was fabulous.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
2:33 pm

Mr. U – Now you know that hurt…lol I’m not chasing anything or anybody I work with.

I was in Macy’s Saturday and this woman irked me talking about it. She was adamant that he choked, punched, slapped, kicked, tossed….claiming she worked with kids and she could tell. I was like lady if you weren’t there do go judging either sides. I said at least wait until we hear more (that was before he spoke). Times have gotten so bad with this kids and their “rights” that it’s hard (for some) to raise them because the system is on their side so much so that it’s crippling and causing good parenting to become ineffective. I don’t listen to V103 but while surfing chanels, I stop to hear Wanda and Frank this morning and agree. Some “expert” was on there and all he could say was kids are not getting time in so they’re rebelling. Wanda said it was just her and her mom and her mom left her there to work and dared her to let anyone else in….I agree. What this messed up world can’t see is the more it calls itself getting better and doing better than days of ancient, the worse things and times become. All I know is too, my mama and daddy raised us, knew what was best for us, and lead us…until we could stand on our own. Even then we still needed to lean on them. We weren’t abused and mistreated because we couldn’t run amuck and live with no regard and no respect and rejecting direction. We were all the better because we didn’t buck but pretty much took them at their direction and teaching. Most folks from our generation and back turned out to be pretty decent individuals. Not perfect but decent in our own rights. Leave it to folks nowadays, everything back then was done wrong yet we had enough respect to respect adults and rules and laws….and it got us most of us further than we ever imagined.

We are raising nothing now mostly but a bunch of fools that you can’t tell a thing and a system that agrees and backs them up.

Mr. U – You know that hurt right? I thought you knew me better than that. C’mon now

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
2:33 pm

I understand the feeling of “wanting” to choke your child. I’ve even envisioned what would make me snatch mine up like that. I know it’s in me to do it, just wondered if it’s in her to bring it out of me. I hope not! This child was 15. These children these days really believe they have more rights than they actually do. They feel it’s ok to get out of the child’s lane and ride with the big dogs. Woof, and watch them skimper back to their corner! Like that New Orleans guy used to say…I guarantee it….

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
2:33 pm

Mr U – I didn’t mean to say that twice….oops :)

Mr. Unknown

June 11th, 2012
2:36 pm

Slim.. I remember my pop put a dent in the hallway wall for talking back to mom at 16. He used my back to put the dent there. I was like dang dude strong. lol… He told me If I ever talked to his wife, not my mom but his wife like that again it would be a bad day for me. He deflated my bird chest real quick.

Leggs

June 11th, 2012
2:36 pm

“Leave it to folks nowadays, everything back then was done wrong yet we had enough respect to respect adults and rules and laws” – And this is what this generation is lacking…respect!

disco

June 11th, 2012
2:41 pm

C – I could go on all day about my issues with the social service system. I understand their purpose and I really do believe they can be of service to families and the community but I also truly believe that in a lot of cases they do far more harm than good. just the fact that they can remove children from homes just based on suspicion is more than I can stand. goodness knows this world is full of petty people who have nothing better to do than to report their neighbors or their “baby’s daddy’s other baby’s momma” just to be spiteful.

mr. ? – that puts me in mind of D.L. Hughley’s joke when he said his teenage son bucked up at him. he said he asked his son that if he (the son) did manage to win the fight where did he expect to live after the fight. DL’s a nut.

Mr. Unknown

June 11th, 2012
2:43 pm

My bad C.. lol..

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
2:46 pm

C/Leggs – I agree with you all. It’s about respect and lack thereof for parents and authority. I heard not only did the 15 yr old talk back, but she actually hit Creflo first. I remember my mom telling us if any of us even looked at her wrong, much less tried to raise a hand to her or daddy, expect to see her on the 6 oclock news being led away in handcuffs!

A friend of the family’s 15 yr old about a month ago got suspended from school for 3 days. The teacher was trying to tell her something and she told the teacher “F— you!”. See, that’s the kind of stuff that takes parents THERE!!

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
2:50 pm

My mom used to say we didn’t have any “rights” until we moved out on our own. She said if we called the authorities to make sure we go and stay gone.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
2:52 pm

Kimmie – So so so true. And you see why we are functioning lawabiding citizens. My mama said there would be two calls if you looked like you thought you might want to call the cops. The morgue (for us) and the cops to turn herself in…lol What people fail to see and are so sadly missing is the world they’re going to have to live in. They grow up believe they’re entitled and can do what they want, say what they want and act anyway they want…..getting in the real world is going to be a rude awakening. Now a parent trying to spare and save and steer a child in their right direction is wrong because what?? No you don’t need to be at some party at 15. You need to be watching a movie (maybe with friends) and enjoying dinner. Where’s is the system when their fast ass gets knocked up? Where is the system when at 15 you get yourself in some mess that money can’t cash you out of?

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
2:53 pm

Kimmie – Mine too. She said if you call the authorities you going to live in a shelter….and rightfully so.

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
2:54 pm

But you know what? We loved our parents. We didn’t like all they said but for the most part we always came around and once the law was laid down, we lived with it. We went on living and enjoying the place we were in (in their house), be it 16 or 14 or 18.

Okay….I’M OFF THE SOAP BOX…lol :)

disco

June 11th, 2012
2:56 pm

kimmie – your mom’s comment reminds me of a conversation with my son. way back in the day we were watching jenny jones and the topic was parents who were abused by their children. those were some bad A kids. my son looked at me like he was fascinated by the idea of taking me out. I told him if he ever tried me I’d be on jennie jones only not as a studio guest. they’d be doing a live satellite from prison with me in an orange jumpsuit talking about why I killed my son. he still remembers that conversation to this day.

MervTheTerrible

June 11th, 2012
2:58 pm

That’s why it is important to get to know the person you dating before such events. I know it’s healthier for a woman to have kids at younger ages, but before I would even consider something like marriage I would have to date someone a minimum of 2 years before even thinking of popping the question, plus live with them some just to make sure. I’ll never understand why some people jump the gun on these things, but hey to each his/her own I recon.

kimmie

June 11th, 2012
3:01 pm

disco – Man, you brought back some memories with jennie jones!! A live satellite in an orange jumpsuit – that would be my mom too!LOL!!

Celisea – I was terrified of my parents, but I did indeed love and respect them. The worst thing in the world to me would have been to disappoint them. I can’t stand ole Frank Ski, but he said the same thing about his parents. To disappoint them would have broken my heart.
My mom used to recite that Bible verse – Honor thy mother and father and your days will be long in the land that the Lord thy God giveth thee!

Celisea

June 11th, 2012
3:09 pm

Kimmie – Yes indeed. I’m so all over the end of your 3:01. That’s all Imma say…I agree whole heartedly. There are so many young kids cut off early because of disobedience….to parents but ultimately to God. Children have a duty to respect the parent. God is not some big beast to just cut folks off but if a kid gets to far out and crosses the lines, essentially they will have a life short lived.

And yes Kimmie, we loved them. Honey I can remember thinking I was grown when I actually was….and didn’t know nothing. I can remember my mama coming through without me even having to ask….on things I messed up. She and my daddy was together. Although he didn’t say much, he was there more so than my mama.

I said I was done didn’t I?? LOL