Issues getting naked?
One of our readers wrote me asking how she should handle a dating dilemma. She has been dating a man who is a little “husky” and is extremely shy about his body. He was in a car accident last year, so his activity level has dropped dramatically, and he is not at all comfortable at this size.
While he is actively working on getting back in shape, he does not want her to see him without clothes. A lot of people have body issues that can impede intimacy with their partners. When you have this kind of hang up, it helps to be with someone who understands and is supportive.
How do you really show support to someone who isn’t comfortable with their own body?
If you are someone who has this image issue, do you talk about it openly? Would you want your partner to bring it up?
What happens to your dating relationships when you have an issue with your appearance?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
2:48 pm
Kimmie – Prom time is always the exception IMO. Kids are hanging with other kids so I would allow a bit of a bigger window. The time I mentioned was when I left the house at pretty late and went to a 24 hour place on Piedmont (now closed) with said boyfriend. My mama was livid. I got back like 4:00 ish. She never really set a time but always said let the clock be your guide. We just knew to pick a safe hour and bring it in.
disco
June 6th, 2012
2:51 pm
C / kimmie – I think I mentioned on here once that I went home to PA and hung out one night. I returned to my grandmother’s house really late. my grandmother casually mentioned the next day that she heard me come in “fo’ day in the morning”. I didn’t even respond but I was over 30 and getting called out for staying out to late.
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
June 6th, 2012
2:52 pm
C, is that you wishing broken wangs on dudes, that is just deplorable….lol. Fellas there is a secret pill combo that does not involve viagra getting rich on you, or cause the dreaded 4hour steel wang….a simple regimen of Vitamin E (increases production of the special sauce), and Ginko Biloba, (increases blood flow)….it will make a difference…don’t kill yourself on them wang pills.
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
2:52 pm
Merv – Did you hear the Strawberry Letter today? Buddy was a horndog to his wife and made up excuses while having side pieces and all. Then he develops a conscious and tells her about his indiscretions when she’d suspected all along (his words) but said she couldn’t prove. Well when he wanted to get it together and have her come move with him (circumstances had them at one point living separately…did they say work or school), she declined. Guess what…she’d found her someone to love her and be with her. NOOOOOOW the hubby is writing in for advice. Shoulda thought about that while horndogging. Now he’s making up issues talking about the new dude is around his kid. Well if he didn’t want that to happen he should have practiced self control. Boo hoo
So go on and develope fake headaches and what not, she’ll just find another
I say that Merv in LOVE
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
2:53 pm
Jake – Now you know I would never wish that on a man…lol Imma need it to work for personal reason
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
2:55 pm
disco – I hear ya. I wasn’t 30 but I wasn’t 18 either. Those old folks didn’t play that. I hurry up and moved out. I love my mama dearly but I ain’t been back (to live) since
SlimUno
June 6th, 2012
2:55 pm
My mom would put the inside lock on after a certain time, so your key was useless and would force you to have to ring the bell
kimmie – We had a storm door that you could only lock or unlock from the inside…So my step dad would always put the storm door lock on knowing darn well I would be coming in late. So I’d have to stand out there until someone let me, then sit up another 30 minutes listening to him talk about what time I got home. That got old though lol
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
2:58 pm
hurried
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 6th, 2012
2:58 pm
Cely that wouldn’t be the night club on Piedmont and Lindberhg back in the day named VIP 2001. It had multiple bars inside of it and it was one of the clubs like the Lime Light that was famous.
kimmie
June 6th, 2012
3:02 pm
Celisea – The 24hour place on Piedmont – was it that mexican place? Man, we used to love to hit that place after the clubs!! Sometimes we’d even go there as the spot to hang out! We’d see all of our friends there! I wish I could remember the name of it!
kimmie
June 6th, 2012
3:04 pm
Blackfoote – Now that was Club 112, wasn’t it?
SlimUno
June 6th, 2012
3:04 pm
There’s a new pill called Mandingro…a buddy of mine helped to develop it.
MervTheTerrible
June 6th, 2012
3:04 pm
Oh Celisea you cannot guilt this one, I don’t believe in cheating, nor can you put that situation on me, nice try though. But heck if you wanna go that way, if my wife (if I get married) told me that, I’d tell her why don’t you go get you a fresh minor right out high school, if it’s THAT big of a deal for you sheesh.
kimmie
June 6th, 2012
3:06 pm
Slim – Yep, ours was a burgurler (sp?) door!LOL!!
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
June 6th, 2012
3:07 pm
112-Cheshire Bridge/Lindbergh, Piedmont/Lindbegh-The Gold Club
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
3:09 pm
Kimmie/Blackfoote – Yep…the Mexican place. They would serve margaritas…$4.00 for a pitcher….yep. We went there pretty often. That time though was my first time going there with hm.
Merv – Now you know it’s been cool up in here today. Don’t get your shorts in a wad. I’d been wanting to post that and I thought that was the perfect opening. What’s the matter?? Did that really get you riled? If so I apologize Merv and if no one said it ……WELCOME!!!
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
3:10 pm
Kimmie – The name escapes me but it’s right there when you’re getting of the interstate…the Piedmont Rd Exit.
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
June 6th, 2012
3:13 pm
C, did you mean Tattletales
kimmie
June 6th, 2012
3:13 pm
Celisea – That used to be the spot!! I remember the name was not mexican at all though. Now that’s going to bother me until I find out!LOL!!
disco
June 6th, 2012
3:15 pm
y’all are straight up playing memory lane up in this camp. guess I’m jealous because I know not of what you speak.
i'm swiss
June 6th, 2012
3:17 pm
@Slim — Why only oral buddies? Well @kimmie sounds like she was a little reserved in that department in those days, so I’d have eased her into depravity. Plus, it’s been my experience that once I get a chance to demonstrate my oral proficiencies it’s much easier to coerce more. Lol
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
3:20 pm
Jake – No I don’t so. I’ll know the name when I hear it. You would walk through the line and order, pick up your drinks and then they’d call you back in to get your food. We always sat outside. Dern…that’s be in my head until I forget about it.
Kimmie – Yes it was. You could order breakfast as well as dinner. Breakfast burritos and what not. Very inexpensive but a chill spot.
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
3:20 pm
Sorry…I meant “I dont THINK so”
kimmie
June 6th, 2012
3:20 pm
Swiss, while you tripping, help us remember the name of that 24-hour mexican hangout spot on Piedmont back in the day!!!
i'm swiss
June 6th, 2012
3:26 pm
El azteca?
SlimUno
June 6th, 2012
3:28 pm
I thought El Azteca was off Ponce De Leon???
i'm swiss
June 6th, 2012
3:29 pm
You’re right, that is ponce.
I dunno. What @C described sounds kinda like a Taco Stand, but I’m not sure.
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
3:31 pm
Nope…that’s not it…let me think for a second
i'm swiss
June 6th, 2012
3:31 pm
Was there a Felinis next door by any chance?
For Real
June 6th, 2012
3:31 pm
Two Dollars
i'm swiss
June 6th, 2012
3:32 pm
Taco cabana or something like that?
MervTheTerrible
June 6th, 2012
3:34 pm
Not at all deary but if you think you’re going to Strong-arm me, you’re better off dealing with lesser minds. Are you this blogs Bully or something you sure act like it. Just saying. Someone with a better attitude already welcomed me here, you can keep yours. Have a great day everyone!
i'm swiss
June 6th, 2012
3:34 pm
Was there a drive through? If so, it’s taco cabana.
kimmie
June 6th, 2012
3:35 pm
I think Taco Cabana was there for awhile, but it started out with a name like Steak Out or something that had nothing to do with mexican, at least from what I remember!
For Real
June 6th, 2012
3:39 pm
It’s called two Dollas
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
3:40 pm
I think the name of that cafe did change. Danggit I give up. I tried to goggle something but got no hits.
SlimUno
June 6th, 2012
3:40 pm
Cel – Quit running folks off the blog lol
Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB
June 6th, 2012
3:40 pm
Merv and Cel…play nice now….lol
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
3:40 pm
No drive through but facing the place, parking was on the right.
For Real you might be right but that’s not ringing a bell.
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
3:41 pm
Jake – I didn’t do nothing to Merv…lol
Merv – Strong arm? That’s a bit much and a bit dramatic don’t you think? LOLOLOLOL…it must be me then. I sho shorry
i'm swiss
June 6th, 2012
3:42 pm
I’ve heard of 3 dollar cafe, but not 2 dollar. I guess that’s the less expensive version?
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
3:43 pm
Merv – You hurt my feelings
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
3:44 pm
Off (this) topic: My sister called me and told me our old manager at Dun and Bradstreet was at the cabin with his wife. She was waiting for him to come up to bed but he never did. She went to check on him and he had fallen down the steps and broke his neck…he died instantly. He was only 63. He’d only retired for just a few years.
SlimUno
June 6th, 2012
3:44 pm
I’ve heard of 3 dollar cafe, but not 2 dollar. I guess that’s the less expensive version?
disco
June 6th, 2012
3:56 pm
dang merv. celisea cracked a joke. you were offended. she apologized and yet you still trip. peace out bruh. celisea – don’t let him steal your blog joy.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 6th, 2012
3:57 pm
Kimmie 112 was around the corner, this club was going strong in the mid eightys. VIP 2001 was in the same plaza with the K-Mart store. Jake it was before the Gold Club opened up on Piedmont.
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
4:00 pm
disco – Thank you! Honey I can’t lose sleep over folks sitting around waiting to create an incident. Next!
Bluzgirl
June 6th, 2012
4:02 pm
I used to hear about Backstreet, but it was already closed by the time I was old enough to go there. I think it was a late, late night club (if not 24 hours). Was told that I missed out!
Bluzgirl
June 6th, 2012
4:03 pm
Cel…that is awful about your old manager!!! Prayers for his family. I can’t imagine being his wife and discovering that…
For Real
June 6th, 2012
4:04 pm
Swiss what’s the mexican name for Dolla?