Issues getting naked?
One of our readers wrote me asking how she should handle a dating dilemma. She has been dating a man who is a little “husky” and is extremely shy about his body. He was in a car accident last year, so his activity level has dropped dramatically, and he is not at all comfortable at this size.
While he is actively working on getting back in shape, he does not want her to see him without clothes. A lot of people have body issues that can impede intimacy with their partners. When you have this kind of hang up, it helps to be with someone who understands and is supportive.
How do you really show support to someone who isn’t comfortable with their own body?
If you are someone who has this image issue, do you talk about it openly? Would you want your partner to bring it up?
What happens to your dating relationships when you have an issue with your appearance?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
10:46 am
Swiss – That was a GOOD one…lol You made me laugh
Randyt (in England, and not searching for the gal with 15 teeth)
June 6th, 2012
10:49 am
“What are your deal breakers and what’s “do-able” bodywise?”
Bad teeth, bad skin, smoker unless so dayum attractive that my body overules my upper head. Major lumpiness in stomach and backside. Chin and neck are one and the same. Major tats (okay maybe looking down at a tramp stamp over a really nice backside can be overlooked temporarily) and major piercings.
Randyt (in England, and not searching for the gal with 15 teeth)
June 6th, 2012
10:51 am
In response to swiss…if she sits on my face and I can’t hear the stereo…
disco
June 6th, 2012
10:51 am
randy – I giggled at lumpy because I always comment that I hate the term curvy simply because I find it is used more by “lumpies” than curvies. lol.
swiss – I have to counter. if it disappears when you wrap your hand around it – it’s a no go.
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
10:51 am
Chin and neck one and the same and tramp stamp…stooooop….lol Lumpiness in stomach and backside. Hey, we can’t see our backsides. We can only control what we see….lolololol That one should get tossed out.
i'm swiss
June 6th, 2012
10:52 am
@C — Somebody’s got to stand up for the menfolk. All the women on here clowning on teeny weenie dudes, but some of these women just have some big ol’ floppity, run through vajayjays. Lol
Stand tall, brothers! Or, well, as tall as you can with that little thing. Lol
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
10:55 am
Swiss – Teeny weenie cannot be helped….at all At least with the big ole floppity, folks can try kegels to reform that thing. I don’t know just how much togetherness it will bring back but at least it’s an option. But yeah, I can see y’all not wanting to touch the floppity with a million miles on it. Y’all know what I say about the abyss…lol
Leggs
June 6th, 2012
10:56 am
“On the other hand, some are growers… so you never know.”
Lawdy, lawdy, lawdy does this bring back memories. I was seeing this dude who was a little fatter than a pencil. His stroke was on point so I thought I didn’t mind. I knew I wasn’t interested in oral at the time because I already had toothpicks to pick my teeth with. Many years went by until I saw him again. When we again tangled between the sheets, I was pleasantly surprised at his growth and his improved stroking skills.
Bluzgirl
June 6th, 2012
10:57 am
What’s so wrong with several tasteful tattoos?
Elijah
June 6th, 2012
10:57 am
Good Morning!
Disco can I get a picture? Please send to 1packelijah@yahoo.com
Dimming the lights can most definitely create a more revealing enhanced atmosphere. Make sure you always have good liquor on the premises this will always reduce the naked issue.
@Celisea…We have known each other at least 3 blog yrs this is no longer mystery meat..Let the play-offs begin..lol
Randyt (in England, and not searching for the gal with 15 teeth)
June 6th, 2012
10:57 am
Teeny weenie cannot be helped” … are you suggesting that all those years I hung those lead weights on mine were wasted????
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
11:00 am
Elijah – You are no longer my blog boo…soliciting pictures from other women..tsk…lol Naw buddy you can’t have it like that…blogly
Randyt – If you started out teeny weenie and is now the reigning king dong, then um yeah, I guess hanging weights worked…lol You might want to spread the word then.
i'm swiss
June 6th, 2012
11:01 am
@Randy — http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3WCvULMRUq8&feature=youtube_gdata_player
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
11:03 am
Leggs – He used the pump…lol
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 6th, 2012
11:04 am
disco:
Body by Fisher was a car manufacturer in Detroit. They produced fine body parts for GM cars and when men see a fine woman they refer to her as her Body by Fisher.
disco
June 6th, 2012
11:04 am
Elijah – even if I were sending out pics (which I’m not) it’s not like I’d be sending out “birthday” pics so you’d miss all this smooth brown I’m bragging on. lol.
C – you checked him quick didn’t you? not to reintroduce the clown topic but “celisea don’t play that”.
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
11:06 am
disco – This blog has been the opening to many shenanigans. Gotta CHECK ‘EM so they’ll know I ain’t playing and to not get it twisted…lol Said in my joking voice
kimmie
June 6th, 2012
11:07 am
not to reintroduce the clown topic but “celisea don’t play that”.
disco –
You all are in rare form today!!!
i'm swiss
June 6th, 2012
11:08 am
I had an ex who got a tattoo of the top hat worn by Dr. Seuss’ cat in the hat right above her cooch. She called her “hat on her cat”. She thought it was the coolest thing ever. I had to f__k her from behind after that because it looked like I was getting a bj from a cartoon character otherwise. Lol
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
11:08 am
disco – Keep it rolling…I like fun blog days
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
11:11 am
Lady – Where did you go? Didn’t I see you earlier?
disco
June 6th, 2012
11:12 am
kimmie – this is my real true form. crazy and clowning.
celisea – we already had the “take your man” discussion on the blog. I didn’t want no mess behind Elijah up in here.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 6th, 2012
11:16 am
Ok you lady’s asked, what the hell is the deal when you can’t get it in. We tried baby oil, personal lubricant nothing worked. Of course thoughts ran through my mind like I know she’s a woman she has two grown children no trick there so why is this thing not happening. It never happened and I still can’t figure why.
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
11:17 am
disco – Chile Elijah just talking…lol He’s here more often than in the past but when hedid pop in he’d point something complimentary my way followed by “yeah” and kept it moving. This is a new side to him.
Randyt (in England, and not searching for the gal with 15 teeth)
June 6th, 2012
11:17 am
Re the Swedish Enlarger…I’d hate to try to get that through British customs.
Leggs
June 6th, 2012
11:18 am
I see you guys are straight clowning right now.
@Bluz ~ you may need to leave the booze alone. First seconds with too short to box dude, then the clown, what else you have in your arsenal of “Oh Yes, I did?”
@Celisea ~ hadn’t thought about the pump. We were in our 30’s second time around…I hope not!
Now the guy I referenced that needs the blue bill or penis pump, he already looks like Shrek with his clothes on. I might faint if I actually saw him nekkid with all that belly and a mini corndog.
Ok, I just read BF explanation on Fisher. And here I thought he was talking about how well they built sturdy toys.
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
11:18 am
Blackfoote – Being turned on produced a natural lubricant. Maybe she’s mentally not stimulated or too nervous to get the body juices flowing. Just my thoughts.
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
11:19 am
produces..not produced
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
11:20 am
Leggs – O M G…you did not say Shrek??? That is hi lar i ous
Leggs
June 6th, 2012
11:20 am
@BF ~ dang sound like it was glued shut. Chile, I can picture you huffing and a puffing but refusing to give up.
Randyt (in England, and not searching for the gal with 15 teeth)
June 6th, 2012
11:20 am
Not to play the Devil’s Advocate BF, but is it possible you just missed?
Just kidding!!!!
Randyt (in England, and not searching for the gal with 15 teeth)
June 6th, 2012
11:21 am
BF…when she opedned her legs, did a light come on???
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
11:21 am
Maybe she’s a virgin and adopted kids….just another possibility
Leggs
June 6th, 2012
11:24 am
Maybe she’s the poster child for chastity belt with no key.
i'm swiss
June 6th, 2012
11:26 am
@BF – here’s an educational video on getting the juices flowing:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IEVN_c8EwiQ&feature=youtube_gdata_player
“What’s wrong with a kiss, boy?”
Lol
Elijah
June 6th, 2012
11:27 am
@ Celisea my lady I only have eyes for you! lol
Swiss… Yes some ladies have the gateway passages…You have to take scuba gear and tie a rope around your ankle to climb out some deep cavern..
For some reason I have grown to like the tramp stamp,
Tramp Stamp= Translation …Bring out the special box of toys….
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 6th, 2012
11:27 am
LOL
Cely you know maybe she wasn’t turned on to me, but I was to her and damn near passed becoming winded.
Y’all got me falling out, Randyt I promise I looked the thing right in it’s face it just wouldn’t let me in.
Leggs I had done worked myself up so much I was so worn out to even care about it anymore.
Randyt (in England, and not searching for the gal with 15 teeth)
June 6th, 2012
11:27 am
Did she run to the corner and say, :its too big, keep it away from me”. I never had that problem, but still hoping.
Bluzgirl
June 6th, 2012
11:28 am
Leggs…I really have cut down on my drinking over the years because of past “d’oh” moments!!!! At least with the clown, I didn’t take it any further. That would have been a MAJOR regret!!!
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
11:30 am
Elijah – Nuh uh…you done done it now…lol
Blackfoote – Finger actions to stimulate? No? I’m trying to remain a lady. But when folks (i.e. women) ain’t quite feeling it or in the mood you can quickly change that. I know it’s all mental but the touch can get you there quickly. Unless you just ain’t feeling him…AT ALL
Leggs
June 6th, 2012
11:30 am
cracking up, BF, I am literally cracking up!!! And, you looked the damn thing in its face. Like Stephen King’s movie “Christina” the car’s radio sang “I hear you knocking, but you can’t come in.”
I still laugh at that scene. Now I’ll picture you trying to get some puddy only to be smacked with a brick wall.
Randyt (in England, and not searching for the gal with 15 teeth)
June 6th, 2012
11:33 am
One thing that has not been discussed here is “performance anxiety”…there can be a lot of pressure on the guy to ‘rise to the occasion’.
Leggs
June 6th, 2012
11:33 am
@Bluz ~ dig in your arsenal and share one of those “d’oh” moments. Anyway, glad you finally recognized you are too loose when you drink (lol). Umm, sorry, I’m inferring from your comments (lol).
disco
June 6th, 2012
11:33 am
bluz – do you notice that people shake their heads a lot in your presence?
speaking of shaking heads – here’s an update on “ms. there goes the neighborhood”. I was away for the weekend but she was telling me that on Saturday night she considered calling the police because our new neighbors were making too much noise at 1:30 in the morning. we (another neighbor and i) inquired as to what kind of noise thinking maybe she meant loud music or something. she said they were on their porch talking. we bust out laughing. this trick has some real problems.
Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote
June 6th, 2012
11:33 am
LOL
Swiss I went down the list in the man law book, I was so winded I gave up and went to sleep. Gave a good tongue lashing and she was getting hers fine I didn’t.
Leggs
June 6th, 2012
11:34 am
Now, don’t come at me with a wine bottle like Evelyn (BBWives) did when Kendra called her loose!!!
All in fun, all in fun.
Elijah
June 6th, 2012
11:34 am
BluzGirl….How is Mr. CLown doing these days? Was it the big red nose or the big red shoes that made you looked?
Disco—-I am going to need a picture of you to prove there are no marks…. lol
Celisea....today is my Friday!
June 6th, 2012
11:34 am
disco – Your neighbor is a hater….in every way. What the heck was she doing at 1:30 peeking through the blinds? Nosey I tell ya. The should have given her something to call the cops for.
Randyt (in England, and not searching for the gal with 15 teeth)
June 6th, 2012
11:36 am
(Leggs, now don’t discourage bluz drinking looseness, we guys already have to work hard sometimes)
Randyt (in England, and not searching for the gal with 15 teeth)
June 6th, 2012
11:37 am
too not to