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Dating: Manners matter

Atlanta is considered the south. Us “traditional” southerners were mostly raised to behave properly so that people knew you were civilized and socially graceful.

Regardless of where you were born, raised, or learned how to act in a social setting, when you show a serious lack of manners, your dating life can be challenging – as it should.

It doesn’t matter if you are a beautiful woman or a really hot guy, anyone who is rude to a waiter or extremely nasty to someone , it says a lot about their character. A lack of manners could be a symptom of a deeper flaw that would not work well in a dating situation or dating relationship.

Imagine how thoughtless they could possibly be when they have proven how inconsiderate and rude they are to strangers? I think a lot of bad dating behavior stems from a lack of manners. It gets excused and overlooked but if things bug you when you first meet someone, it only worsens when you become involved. This is especially true if you don’t address how it bothers you in the beginning.

How important are manners to you? Do you think someone who has shown poor manners do so because they just don’t know any better? Do you ever feel as if it is appropriate to comment on it?

Have you ever been on a date with someone with bad manners? Do you think they knew how they came across to you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

74 comments Add your comment

Bluzgirl

June 4th, 2012
3:17 pm

He does know I’m waiting on these items, but I needed to give him a date to get them to me. My friend also told me to put in that I would like the flute by Saturday. I went ahead and sent it. I don’t want to drag this out any longer. If I don’t get a reply or if he doesn’t comply by the weekend, then I may even call his mother (who loves me) and see if she will help me.

Manny

June 4th, 2012
3:18 pm

Yes. I peeked in a couple of times and decided to join but it seems pretty scarce compared to when I first stumbled on this site. Am I restricted to the opening post and stay with the thread of conversation or can I just toss anything out to talk about? I don’t have anything particular currently but wondered. What happened to the crowd I use to read? Is it like this during the summer months?

MervTheTerrible

June 4th, 2012
3:20 pm

By the third date, ladies are required to pass the humor test, as in being chased in a public place with a whoopee cushion. No exceptions.

Manny

June 4th, 2012
3:23 pm

Merv meet Manny. Hi! Seems we’re the only two guys here. I like your humourous idea. I’ll have to try it on my date this weekend, even though it’s not our third date. It’s more so like date six.

Leggs

June 4th, 2012
3:37 pm

Welcome Merv and Manny!

SlimNu - back to reality

June 4th, 2012
3:40 pm

Manny – We usually try to respond to the topic in the earlier hours of the morning but typically it gets beatened to death by lunch time (depending on the topic)…so we find ourselves creating Off-topic conversation to keep us busy on the blog. I’m shocked by the lack of participation here recently but it is probably due to summer months. Welcome and jump in with whatever is on the brain whenever the mood strikes.

SlimNu - back to reality

June 4th, 2012
3:42 pm

Merv – Does it have to be a whoopie cushion though? What about a water gun or a whipped cream pie?? ;-)

Manny

June 4th, 2012
3:47 pm

Thank you Leggs and SlimNu! Some days will be better for participating than others. It’s been a slow Monday so I’ve been able to sort of hang around. I am also hoping slow move is due to summer vacations as well. From just peeking in to read, I would often think wow this place is a riot while laughing the entire time! I won’t veer too much from the thread of conversation but I now understand, whatever I’m thinking just type it. Someone can probably relate or have something to say with me. You guys rock!

MervTheTerrible

June 4th, 2012
3:55 pm

I don’t know about a cream pie, but a water gun sounds fun. I like being a jokester most of the time, and I have no problem keeping a relationship interesting even though I might seem weird from time to time, but that is just me. We are the only men here Manny? Or is that just today?

SlimNu - back to reality

June 4th, 2012
3:57 pm

We are the only men here Manny? Or is that just today?

Merv – Don’t worry, you didn’t stumble in the girls bathroom….there just aren’t any other guys in here at the moment. Some maybe lurking though ;-)

Manny

June 4th, 2012
3:58 pm

MervTheTerrible, I’m hoping just today. There were a few masculine names earlier. I’m assuming those were men posting their comment. I’ve also read on other days a number of men hanging out here. So you’re a jokster I see? I don’t think my girlfriend will laugh at too many pranks. Probably within reason and as long as the joke is not always on her. That would be a riot! If she had a change to be the joker over jokee, she might get a kick out of whoppee cushions.

Leggs

June 4th, 2012
4:04 pm

Males get a kick out of whoppee cushions, not females. Much like men crack up at here “pull my finger…”

Manny

June 4th, 2012
4:07 pm

Proofreading will be key. There’s no way to edit.

SlimNu - back to reality

June 4th, 2012
4:25 pm

Leggs – My dad’s birthday was just last Tuesday and I found the perfect card that basically talked about all the different things dads say. Pull my finger was definitely on there. He got a kick out of that card lol

Manny

June 4th, 2012
4:28 pm

Everyone have a good evening! I’m going to try and make a quick visit tomorrow. That is my busiest day.

i'm swiss

June 4th, 2012
4:31 pm

Howdy folks. Better late than never, right?

Bluz — RE; Garmin vs. TomTom… I’ve never used either. What kind of phone do you have, though? MapQuest has a free app for iPhone (and I’m guessing probably for Android, too) that gives turn-by-turn voice directions. I’d use that, if it’s an option for you.

SlimNu - back to reality

June 4th, 2012
4:36 pm

Hi swissie poo…How goes it?

truth

June 4th, 2012
4:44 pm

Manners are important when it comes to dating. Included with manners: social faux pas are also a turn off.
Please be advised; just because a woman appears to speak softly or act demure doesn’t mean that she practices “good manners.” Offenses to good manners include treating waitstaff or others like your personal slave or being condescending to others = poor manners.

Discussing inappropriate subjects during dinner, speaking loud enough for the entire restaurant to hear you, name dropping, and lacking the capability of holding a conversation while seated across from the person who you are interested in also lands in the poor manners category.

Slouching in restaurant booths or chairs =no!
Talking while you have not digested all of your food=no!
CHEAP TIPS = BAD MANNERS!

*Manners are important. They are an indication of social status and class level. The manners someone displays is important. I do not correct poor manners because a grown man/womanshould be aware of their environment and should have received training from home: they are not 10 years old. Only in extreme situations will I say something.

Bluzgirl

June 4th, 2012
4:47 pm

Thanks swiss…I do have an iPhone, but I do a lot of talking on the phone while on the road, so I’m not too sure about that. I had a TomTom and it was ok. Seems like from what I’m reading that the Garmin may be the best option. Now, to decide which one!!!

SlimNu - back to reality

June 4th, 2012
4:52 pm

truth – I just assumed ‘name dropping’ fell into the tacky category, not neccesarily rude or unmannerable (if that’s even a word)…and also, lacking in conversation. Just considered that person boring as hell :lol:

Chanel

June 4th, 2012
4:58 pm

Usually it’s the high falutin people that are condescending and rude to service workers. Usually it’s the priviledged that feel it’s okay to be rude because service workers are beneath them.

cba

June 4th, 2012
5:26 pm

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i'm swiss

June 4th, 2012
5:30 pm

Hey @Slim. Maaaaan, I’m feeling old & gimpy today. F__ked up my back playing tennis yesterday (and kept playing), but today I can barely walk. At least I won. Lol

Nan

June 4th, 2012
9:00 pm

Manners run deeper than opening doors and pulling out chairs for making great impressions. Or under guise. I have seen people going through the motions only to learn the opposite sex overall holds little to no regard. Manners and carnal desires should always be in competition.