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Why do women cheat in relationships?

Author Tucker Max appeared on The Dr. Drew show and the topi was why do women cheat in relationships. The author said there were basically two reasons women cheated in relationships: they had deep emotional issues to work out or they have relationship unhappiness.

I should say that I a not a fan of this particular author because he usually says something wildly offensive about women. In this particular instance, I admit that I agree with him here. Often times, women are compelled to cheat on their partners for emotional reasons in an effort to get their needs met.

This doe not excuse the behavior, mind you. It is still an incredibly selfish and wrong thing to do to your partner. However, I would argue that men have their own reasons for cheating as well. Does it matter what drove them to it?

Why do you think a woman cheats in her relationships? How do their reasons differ from a man’s possible reasons?

Have you ever been cheated on? Do you think you know what led them to do it?

Does the reason someone cheated make a difference your forgiveness?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

191 comments Add your comment

Trouble

May 31st, 2012
6:38 am

Did you proof read this?

Lily

May 31st, 2012
7:24 am

On this type issue, women aren’t wired that much different from men. For various reasons, because they lack, because they can, because they see better…or believe so, for selfishness, etc. All the same reasons men do.

Jeff

May 31st, 2012
7:31 am

Women rename the reasons they cheat so they can attempt to claim moral superiority to men. It’s BS. If men are scum for cheating, so are women.

Lily

May 31st, 2012
7:48 am

I hope this isn’t an opportunity for all the Bitter Bobbys out there. It happens, men do it as well as women. It should NOT come as a shock to anyone.

Good day!

Dr. Ruth

May 31st, 2012
8:36 am

In recent studies, 61% of men have cheated on their spouse at least once and 54% of women have done the same. The study pointed out that men do it for more physical reasons and women tend to gravitate to the more emotional reasons. Pointing out and criticizing men is more of a staple, while doing the same to women has started to catch up. There are also the percentage of men and women that do it strictly because their sexual needs aren’t being met at home and they have decided to go out and find it elsewhere. Any reason, both for men and women, is wrong…period. But these same cheaters will admit that they knew it was wrong but rationalized that they needed it, wanted it and saw no way of receiving it at home. In todays world, boundries are being pushed as to what those “sexual needs” are and it can be frequency of sex to the pushing the envelope to make sex more exciting such as threesomes, S & M, role play and risque locations that their partner simply won’t consider. Just “going through the motions” isn’t enough to get the job done anymore. We can blame the media and ourselves for that as well. We want it more, we want it differently and the world has given us countless fantasies to feed our minds. It all boils down to needs (whatever those needs are) not being met and the partner feeling trapped, lost or ignored when those needs are brought up. But it’s still wrong.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
8:53 am

If she cheated on me, there’s a good chance I didn’t live up to the expectations I said I would. Since I failed her it makes no sense to hash things out because she may feel trapped or obliging later on. I would need to do some soul searching to ensure I don’t fail again to another and no all the blame can’t be placed on her.

Big Al

May 31st, 2012
8:53 am

Men cheat because they can. Women cheat because they can. I don’t cheat which is why I don’t date much.

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
8:55 am

Good morning all (bitter Bobby’s included) ;-)

So far I agree with what everyone has said.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
8:58 am

Dr. Ruth I like that.

disco

May 31st, 2012
9:04 am

hey folks. it’s my Friday and I can’t wait to be up out this piece!!!! cheaters and cheating is always a fun topic. maybe we’ll hear some interesting stories throughout the course of the day. personally, I don’t think the why of cheating is all that important so I won’t go into all of the so called reasons. unless you are sleeping with the DA to get me a reduced sentence (or something equally beneficial to me) I’m not trying to hear it.

Mike P

May 31st, 2012
9:10 am

Morning Folks

(1) First of all: Satisfying ones emotional “needs” are no more/less of a valid excuse to cheat than satisfying ones sexual need.” Both excuses are of the same merit; worthless!

(2) I believe the reason men, as a group, appears to be the biggest cheaters is because men’s needs or desires are of the physical, as in sexual. So cheating will always be physical whereas, women needs are of the emotional, which does not always mean sex or other physical. Also women are more likely to forgive the (sex) cheater way more so than men.

(3) WD wrote: “Does the reason someone cheated make a difference your forgiveness?”
–No way! please see paragraph (1). If I were cheated on, I would eventually forgive the woman over time for cheating but the relationship would definitely be over.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
9:17 am

Morning all,

Physical, emotional….whatever. There is no reason. Not a valid reason anyway. Sorry. Any reason IMO is just plainly justification. If something is amiss, lacking, not enough of, too much of (i.e. nagging), talk it out or walk it out. But cheating is not the answer.

disco

May 31st, 2012
9:23 am

looks like the general consensus is that cheating is not acceptable and there is no justifiable reason why one should cheat. why, oh why, do you all think so many folks justify staying with a partner that they know has cheated in the past and/or is currently cheating? (aside from the typical: low self esteem issues, in it for the kids, in it for the finances, he/she loves me and the other person is just sex).

Dave

May 31st, 2012
9:24 am

I think that the biggest problem is that people pay attention to their partner in the way that they want attention paid to themselves. Problem is that their partner has a different idea or view as to what that attention is to them. You must find and pay heed to how your PARTNER wants to be paid attention, not how you want to give it. This goes for both men and women. It’s not all about you and your idea of attention is no truer or better than your partner’s idea of it. That’s the single biggest problem in relationships these days. It’s a ME first mentality and you aren’t going to anything you don’t want to. You also expect attention or respect paid to YOU before you will reply with the same. Relationships don’t work that way.

Bluzgirl

May 31st, 2012
9:25 am

Cheating is cheating…no matter the reason. I’ve mentioned on here before that I cheated on my fiance when I was 20-21. I validated it to myself because I just didn’t love him anymore, but he loved me more than anything and I didn’t want to leave him and break his heart. It really is the worst thing I have ever done to someone (even though he never found out). I swore I would never cheat again.

I tell men that I get serious with that if they feel they want to cheat on me, then they should just call me first and break up with me. If I find out later that they cheated, there is no telling what I would do to him. I will NOT tolerate that and forgive. No one deserves to be cheated on. Break off the relationship before it gets to that…

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
9:30 am

Dave – Not all people are of the ME first mindset. I agree with what you said but within reason. At the same time many folks are skewed with selfishness and if you aren’t leaning to their every desire and whim, cater to them constantly, stroke them beyond what’s reasonable, they feel neglected. It’s draining have to constantly affirm and reaffirm your love for someone.

BALANCE IS KEY….

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
9:46 am

Cely that is draining, constant, and constant affirming. Of course that’s not enough to feed some egos before you eventually walk away and never look back.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
9:52 am

Blackfoote – Exactly. I think for either side of the coin, it’s impossible to draw a hardline either way. Too much of the ME mentality or not enough attention to YOU. If you’re that kind of mate that’s lived believing a woman (or man) is not in love because they’re not hanging to your every need then yes, you’ll say your SO operates under the ME mentality and if you’re that SO that’s all about self then yes, you’ll neglect the relationship. So I would say it depends on the side of the coin you speak from. Regardless, nothing justifies cheating.

disco

May 31st, 2012
10:08 am

my cousin’s ex-wife once made the statement that she felt like her husband was cheating on his girlfriend when he spent time with her. guess that’s when she finally decided it was time to get divorced. that same cousin remarried and his second wife divorced him because he never set boundaries with the first wife. now in his mid 30s and twice divorced he insists he’ll never marry again (as if either wife was the problem. lol).

kimmie

May 31st, 2012
10:10 am

Morning All!!

I remember this song that was out years ago – “cheaters never win, winners never cheat” were some of the words in it.

Sure, it’s no justification for it, but just as sure as you’re breathing and have been in a relationship, you’ve probably been cheated on or been the cheater. And again, while there is no justification for it, I can see some situations where it was understandable that it happened. Humans are subject to failure and are weak – some more than others. Some have the strength of character to walk away from a bad situation before they mix cheating up in the pot, whereas others are more prone to yield to temptation. It’s just life. Like this and all lifes problems, you have to find the best way to deal with it.

Mike P – I agree that women tend to be way more forgiving of such an offense than men. It can take courage for a woman to decide cheating is a dealbreaker for her. She may have outside forces telling her that if she leaves, especially if kids are involved, that SHE is destroying the family. Dude certainly was not concerned about destroying the family when he cheated though!

This was a topic on Michael Baisden one day. A lady called in that had left her husband for cheating. Her, along with the kids entire standard of living dropped. They lived in a big, nice home in a nice subdivision. Now she and the kids live in a small apartment and she went from driving a fancy SUV to some little used Ford or something. But she just could not deal with his CONSTANT disrespect of her. But Baisden was tripping on her, asking her if it really was worth all she was giving up. Even though he admitted he couldn’t deal with a woman that cheated.

kimmie

May 31st, 2012
10:13 am

disco – That reminds me of this song my hubs was talking about the other day “Your Husband Is Cheating On Us”!!LOL!!

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
10:18 am

But Baisden was tripping on her, asking her if it really was worth all she was giving up. Even though he admitted he couldn’t deal with a woman that cheated

OMG, what do yall think of this?? I know children are supposed to be a high priority but are you supposed to forego any happiness at the cost of staying in a crazy situation? Like, as the kids get older, will they begin to lose respect for the parent that is being blantantly disrespected/cheated on, if they start to put two and two together?? (I don’t have kids but was wonder what you parents out there think)

disco

May 31st, 2012
10:18 am

I know that both of my grandfathers stepped out on occasion. one of my grandmothers made the comment that her husband had the kind of side-piece that he didn’t have to give any money to. she had 12 kids and claimed that while she could spare her husband from time to time she couldn’t spare his money. my other grandfather had a key to his other woman’s home and my grandmother got a hold of the key. family legend has it that she would enter this woman’s home and simply move things around. lol. one set of those grandparents are both gone but the other set are still alive and married for nearly 60 years now.

M. (pronouced M dot)

May 31st, 2012
10:21 am

Good day..

“Why do you think a woman cheats in her relationships?

I think women cheat in relationships because it is always available for them to do..they just have to pick the guy.

I think alot of women also cheat out of EGO. Some women think they are slicker than oil, they can do what they want and their guy will never find out.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
10:21 am

Kimmie – And again, while there is no justification for it, I can see some situations where it was understandable that it happened. Humans are subject to failure and are weak – some more than others

I’ll have to respectfully disagree. I agree it happens and I agree too about much as we breath but I don’t find any reason “understandable.” There is ALWAYS that thing there before you do anything directing you in the other direction. I agree the will is sometimes weak but the opening you need for walking away is ALWAYS there. If you choose to ignore under “duress” you simply chose to ignore. But according to how this world is tempered, right presents itself, giving you that opening.

Now with that being said, I have cheated…. Years ago and spitefully (kid’s dad). It wasn’t physical but I had everything aligned to move on to the next…. It got real for me when I had a dude ask me if I wanted him taken out….and he was serious. For one, I’d shared too much with the next man, and two I was playing a dangerous game. At that point I backed it up, got out of it and moved on. That dude hated my kid’s dad all because of what I shared.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
10:26 am

Some women think they are slicker than oil, they can do what they want and their guy will never find out.

LOL…this made me laugh. Most women that cheat gets it done without ever been discovered. I have too many (past)friends, coworkers that did it and the husband/SO was none the wiser. Not saying it’s cute but man women not only think they’re slick, they are slick.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
10:26 am

I had two coworkers (not really friends) that double dated every other weekend with their side men. Both were married.

M. (pronouced M dot)

May 31st, 2012
10:34 am

@Celisea

LOL you aint never lied. Its funny because sometimes the guy is doing his own thing also or he may be faithful but being cheated on also.

An interesting question I have is in the dating game, if people dont have official titles, how much cheating is going on with someone you are dating but not with? Is it safe to assume that they are seeing other people, but if they arent together its not cheating I guess? Thoughts?

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
10:35 am

That same dude that wanted to take him out was the reason kid’s dad and I got into a huge argument. Kid’s dad came over one Sunday and things were really ramping up and escalating with the other dude. The other dude and I was going out (off and on) and talking on the phone pretty regularly. Not wanting him to call while the kid’s dad was over, in a panick I turned the ringer off. Well kid’s dad was lying on the floor/carpet watching the game…next to the phone. And he looked up at me and said why is the ringer off? OMG…I lied, tried to act casual and said I don’t know. He looked at me and turned it back on. The look though was it better not ring. Sooooo, not even 10 minutes after he switched the ringer on, the phone rings and it was him. I wasn’t going to answer it (I’m laughing as I type this…forgive me), and froze. He kept saying…”answer the phone”….so I did. I tried to sound like I was talking to one of my girls. As soon as I hung up, he asked who it was….from there it was on. Yelling, grilling and back and forth for what seemed like forever.

This was the dude 10 years my senior. Oh what a tangled web we weave…..

See, I’m nowhere near perfect :)

disco

May 31st, 2012
10:35 am

celisea – dang girl. you were about to be all over oxygen, lifetime and own. lol.

re the women cheaters. most men are so “confident” that they are putting it down and handling business that they can’t imagine their woman stepping out on them. when a man cheats a woman will just chalk it up to his trifling, doggish ways and her female support system will be there for her. when a woman cheats a man takes it much more personal. it’s almost more about his shortcomings than hers. of course, that’s just my perspective. I do know lots of female cheaters though and their men are almost clueless.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

May 31st, 2012
10:37 am

Women cheat Because Of, Men cheat Because

In most cases, a woman who is being treated well, emoitionally engaged with her man, in a secure relationship will not cheat, she has no reason. Even if seduced, she will weigh those actions and its detriment to her relationship, and typically remove herself from this situation. (there are exceptions, but this is the norm)

Conversely, a man who is being treated well, emotionally enagaged with his woman, and in a secure relationship may still cheat becuase he is capable of detaching his real-life from this opportunity to hit some strange. He could have that experience and it may not have an effect on him at all, if does, he will rationalize the act, deal with his guilt internally, and move on.

There is psychological effect of Sex that women experience that men don’t deal with. The Entry, for a woman, Sex comes with you literally allowing someone into you, it carries an emotional weight which is why she will always fall for a man if they continue to be intimate. A man’s psychological effect of Sex is not emotional, but a validation, its a conquest, its a Charlie Sheen….WINNING!!

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
10:37 am

disco – I ain’t gonna lie…I was scared…for real. Nothing too much popped off but he was pissed for eternity.

Skip

May 31st, 2012
10:37 am

I work in an office that actually TALKS about the “in office cheating” going on with each other! It’s like a secret society in here. Everyone knows that one or the other is sleeping with and they make no effort to conceal it. They even talk about who is good in bed and who isn’t. Then they go back home to their SO. I haven’t been included (I’m single….maybe that’s the reason) and many of these people are really, REALLY attractive. Little nuggets about locking the office door behind them or sneaking off to an empty area…they come back a little rumpled up and it’s giggled and laughed about. I even think they (both the men and women) come back strutting because they just got laid during the “break”. It’s all funny to me and the subject of countless water cooler conversations, but I’m sure it wouldn’t be funny if the news ever got home. It’s like musical chairs in here!!!!

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
10:38 am

disco – Imma have to agree with your 10:35

M. (pronouced M dot)

May 31st, 2012
10:39 am

Question for the women; What are the signs guys should look for that a woman is cheating on them?

I think the signs are:

1. If they always have social plans that don’t include you.
2. If she mentions a lot of guy friends that you have never seen. (If she even mentions them)
3. If her phone goes off at random times but she doesnt pick up in front of you. That guy may or may not know about her man but he doesnt care if he calls your girl after 10 pm.

kimmie

May 31st, 2012
10:40 am

Celisea – When I say “understandable”, I’m saying I can see in certain situations a weaker person falling victim to it. 2 wrongs never make a right. The option is always there. But when you’re treating this individual you deem weak like dirt, don’t be surprised if the tables are turned on you. We’re talking about cheating, it could be beating. You hit someone so many times and get away with it, one day they may pick up something and go in on you! Maybe understandable was not the best word.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
10:43 am

Kimmie – I gotcha.

I will say though, I don’t have too much respect for any person that tolerates cheating. I don’t. Only marriages I think deserves examination and the effort to make it if something breaks down. I don’t view any married person negatively for staying and trying to make things work. I’m not talking getting slapped around…that kind of stuff. I’m talking infidelity. I can understand any man or woman wanting to make it work.

M. (pronouced M dot)

May 31st, 2012
10:44 am

@disco

“I do know lots of female cheaters though and their men are almost clueless.”

You make a good point. Why are the guys so clueless? I think the guys dont have a lot of attention to details and LISTEN when women talk. If you listen and cross reference what she says, you will definitely learn a lot more.

Like I always say..

“Guys lie but women are slick, slick is an entire operation” lol

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
10:47 am

MDot – That’s the thing. Usually there aren’t any signs.

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
10:49 am

When a person in a relationship starts to carry on a full fledge sitatution with another person, the significant other is bound to feel some difference at some point. Whether or not they KNOW for a fact the spouse is cheating, i’m sure they pick up on different routines that bring up red flags. As much as some folks desire spontaneous activites, we tend to stick to some sort of regular habit of living. The beau just got back from Miami and he mentioned he went shopping while he was gone. Why did i see he had bought like 8 shirts similar to what he already has in his closet. I couldn’t help but to laugh. :lol:

kimmie

May 31st, 2012
10:51 am

An interesting question I have is in the dating game, if people dont have official titles, how much cheating is going on with someone you are dating but not with? Is it safe to assume that they are seeing other people, but if they arent together its not cheating I guess? Thoughts?

M dot – I learned early that you can’t just “assume” anything in dating. In fact, I kinda learned the hard way. If there is no understanding that the 2 of you are exclusive, don’t assume the other person is not seeing other people. Make it clear what your expectations are and either that person can roll with it or not. Early on, I would make the mistake of thinking that if dude is seeing me 3 or 4 times a week and talking to me every day, we must be exclusive. How about I got my little feelings hurt. I need the title AND the agreement that we’re exclusive. Yes, it kind of hurts when you THINK the 2 of you are getting closer only to see evidence that that person is seeing others, but if you don’t have any kind of agreement in place, you’ve got to deal with it, or not.

Sassy Me...Sun Kissed :-)

May 31st, 2012
10:52 am

Guys lie but women are slick, slick is an entire operation

Intersting evaluation…good comments y’all :mrgreen:

When it comes to cheating I have zero tolerance and will not accept it from my man or participate in it with another woman’s man. What goes around always comes around and KARMA is a b!otch. I think it’d be better to sever ties than to cheat.

disco

May 31st, 2012
10:54 am

Mdot – I think men are clueless in these situations because they can’t handle the truth. heck, a woman can have a baby that looks like someone else and the man will try to justify why the baby has those features. lol. (okay. that was a slight exaggeration but it’s still been known to happen).

Mdot – also, as far as signs, I won’t say there aren’t any signs but the signs you selected aren’t likely. by the way, in support of cheating women everywhere I will not post any signs. 1) most couples do things separately and it’s not likely to be considered a big deal. a lot of guys will feel like they’ve been let off the hook not to have to do some things. 2) as for mentioning guy friends you don’t know, trust me, if she’s mentioning him – he’s not the one you have to worry about. and 3) that calling thing is a woman thing. women call trying to cause drama in the home. men don’t. the typical man is grateful that he gets the benefits without the work, commitment and cost. he’s not going to call and mess that up. he’s not trying to take the real man’s place.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
10:54 am

MDot – I often say that exclusivity is almost a given rather than spoken…IMO and for “grown” folks. Folks that treat others they way they want to be treated. Folks that don’t have an appreciation for you sleeping around on them. But for those folks always practicing under shady behavior, you might want to speak to it and have that conversation….lol Otherwise, all they’re gonna say is oh, I didn’t know we were a couple. We didn’t say or make it official.

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
10:58 am

Skip – What kind of industry to do you work in, if I may ask?

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
10:59 am

When I say there are no signs….I should say nothing overt. Never what you think, never what you’d expect. Nothing sloppy and the biggest oversight is the assumption (by men) that women or your woman don’t cheat. Nothing like numbers left lying around, finding his underwear or earrings (stuff men have to happen to them), catching her with him….that sort of stuff

kimmie

May 31st, 2012
10:59 am

Celisea – Your 10:54 – I operated on that GROWN assumption too, until I got burned. I really didn’t have to worry much about it as I got older because dudes were pretty quick to try to “claim”, but if it is a concern, make it clear that the 2 of you are on the same page.

Oh, and your line “I didn’t know we were a couple” reminds me of that topic we had on here awhile back about folks not knowing when they were on a date!LOL!!

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
11:04 am

Kimmie – Such a shame that folks are acting on it and acting as a couple but have to concretely confirm. I don’t think I’ve ever had that “do we go together” conversation since high school…lol Too, I run and avoid dudes where you have to make sure we’re on the same page…by physical stating when all along we’re acting it out. Nuh uh…no can do. That’s a indiscretion waiting to happen. To me and IMO, it’s speaks to that person’s character. Grown folks still checking the “check yes or no” box…lol

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
11:06 am

“AN” indiscretion

Skip

May 31st, 2012
11:06 am

Slim, I’m in manufaturing and sales. Most of the shananagins are within the management, admin and sales departments (which makes up about 70% of the company). About sixty employees in all. It’s really laughable and I admit, it is enjoyable living vicariously through all of the stories and comments.

M. (pronouced M dot)

May 31st, 2012
11:08 am

So who cheats more, men or women?

disco

May 31st, 2012
11:09 am

celisea – it’s a shame but sometimes you have to be specific, you almost have to get it in writing. folks run game, plain and simple. I hate to hear a simple chick whining and crying talking about “but he said he loved me or but he said he wasn’t messing with her or but he said this/that”. they better learn to respect the truth and reject the lie.

kimmie

May 31st, 2012
11:10 am

Skip – One day the mess is going to hit the fan up in there!! Make sure you have your popcorn ready!LOL!!

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
11:12 am

disco – LOL…sho nuff. There are some folks that live “living in default”, finding loopholes and stuff. That’s why I said, I like to interact with foks that live about such BS and foolishness. If you got a dude or chick where y’all gotta specifically state and speak to EVERYTHING just so y’all are crystal clear, somebody is going to eventually find that loophole for making shenanigans. LOL

kimmie

May 31st, 2012
11:14 am

Yeah, I also learned that if I had to be specific with a dude like that, he must be a player, therefore not a keeper. See playing games like that are a red flag. That would definitely keep a dude from getting the drawers from me too!LOL!!

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
11:15 am

Kimmie – Precisely. I don’t even want to be bothered. Imma be hot as H E double hockey sticks if we’ve been sleeping together and you’re doing other folks, falling back on “oh but you didn’t ask me to check yes”

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
11:21 am

Mdot – I’ll say the assumption is men cheat more only because we hear more about men. I think there’s probably a good chance cheating is done equally on both sides. We just don’t hear too much about women. I could be wrong but those are just my thoughts.

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

May 31st, 2012
11:31 am

You don’t hear about women cheating as much because if it happens, dude is not puttin it out in the air like that. FB, texting, etc…letting the world know his broad stepped out….women love that pity party so they can say, “gurl, fugg him, he don’t deserve you”…lol

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
11:36 am

I don’t talk too much about “mishaps”…NOT CHEATING with girlfriends because most assume you want advice…lol Usually if I need to lean on someone, it’s solely for venting. I don’t want their advice because oftentime it’s skewed (from their relationship), misguided and biased. Soooo, I only divulge what I know can get said without too much backlash. Too, if y’all work things out (again…NOT CHEATING) and things get better, your girlfriends are usually still hanging on to what you said too much about. Noooo, if anything, I’m talking to a male friend if I need to open up with little judgement and great feedback. Seriously.

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
11:42 am

Good morning.

Michael Baisden is a hypocrite trying to make the woman feel bad for leaving a cushy lifestyle because of her husband cheating.

There is no excuse for a person to cheat. If a woman cheats because she’s not emotionally fulfilled by her mate, then she needs to sit him down and talk about it. If that doesn’t help, then she needs to get out of that relationship and find a come compatible mate. If the man is cheating because he simply wants a new flavor, then he’s greedy and selfish.

If you want to cheat and sample other flesh, then stay single.

disco

May 31st, 2012
11:42 am

celisea – I’m the friend (all of my friends know it) that doesn’t really care about how a situation makes you feel. I want to know “what do you want to do about it”. I’m in your corner for getting to the action but take your emotional stuff to one of your other friends.

kimmie

May 31st, 2012
11:46 am

I still don’t get the vibe that women cheat more than men, but men are sloppy with theirs.

Jake – I think a dude isn’t putting it out there that she’s cheating for because he’s probably cheating too, she’s not as sloppy so he doesn’t know or he’s arrogant enough to think she couldn’t POSSIBLY be cheating on HIM, oh greater than thou! I mean, mess still got out before FB, twitter, etc.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
11:47 am

I’ve always tossed a side eye to Michael Baisden. I first saw him on Ricki Lake years ago and he was getting booed (by the audience) then…lol He’s makes too many excuses for men…IMO

disco – Then you my dear, would fit the profile of the perfect friend…lol I can get emotional, I can’t lie but usually I don’t like taking too much of that to my set of lady friends :) I like to get a male’s persepective because in my experience it’s often more sound and they can tell me things and places and areas where I’m going wrong. I don’t want someone to just agree with me because “the same thing happened to you”

Robert

May 31st, 2012
11:48 am

Robert’s Rules of Order – Why Do Women Cheat?
Top 10
1. Maturity – Knows the difference between “puppy love” and “love”.

2. Evolution -Cheat when they discover who they are. TD Jakes says every 5 years we evolve.

3. Education – Cheat with men who are educated they can relate to. Better educated = more $$$

4. Religion – Cheat with men who are sincere about their faith and have a personal relationship.

5. Communication – Cheat with men who are sensitive to their needs and listen to their problems.

6. Career/Job – Cheat with men at work because they see them for at least 8 hrs daily.

7. Neighbors – Cheat with men who are neighbors (Handy Men). They fix things around the house.

8. Vacation – Cheat when they go on vacation with their girl friends (Bahamas, etc.).”Last Call !!!”

9. Infidelity – Cheat when they catch their man cheating. “Tick – for – Tack”

10. Freak/White Liver – Cheat because she is a “freak” who has a “white liver” and can not get enough “funky stuff” – FREAK

6.

Robert

May 31st, 2012
11:48 am

Robert’s Rules of Order – Why Do Women Cheat?
Top 10
1. Maturity – Knows the difference between “puppy love” and “love”.

2. Evolution -Cheat when they discover who they are. TD Jakes says every 5 years we evolve.

3. Education – Cheat with men who are educated they can relate to. Better educated = more $$$

4. Religion – Cheat with men who are sincere about their faith and have a personal relationship.

5. Communication – Cheat with men who are sensitive to their needs and listen to their problems.

6. Career/Job – Cheat with men at work because they see them for at least 8 hrs daily.

7. Neighbors – Cheat with men who are neighbors (Handy Men). They fix things around the house.

8. Vacation – Cheat when they go on vacation with their girl friends (Bahamas, etc.).”Last Call !!!”

9. Infidelity – Cheat when they catch their man cheating. “Tick – for – Tack”

10. Freak/White Liver – Cheat because she is a “freak” who has a “white liver” and can not get enough “funky stuff” – FREAK

6.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
11:49 am

Kimmie – I said “equally” but I don’t think a straight 50/50 I just mean it’s probably happening more often among women than believed. I too think we hear about men because they are more sloppy. As someone also mentioned, the “other side” of cheating will bring it to the forefront, sidewalks, front page when the realization hits that they’re on the short end of things.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
11:51 am

Robert – Religion – Cheat with men who are sincere about their faith and have a personal relationship.

Men that are sincere about their faith and cheating all in the same sentence scares me…lol

Your #10 made me laugh…LOL Stooooop

Sassy Me...Sun Kissed :-)

May 31st, 2012
11:52 am

or he’s arrogant enough to think she couldn’t POSSIBLY be cheating on HIM,

That’s what he’s thinking…that’s what most think…

They’re like, “Girl..this me…how you gone cheat on me?

Player puhleaze…

gal1964

May 31st, 2012
11:53 am

I was married once back in the 90’s and I thought I wanted to be married, but I was wrong. I really craved the “newness” in a relationship, the excitement of meeting someone new all the time. I regret that I had many, many affairs while I was married and my husband to this day has no idea. I decided to divorce him and get rid of my guilty flings. Now I like it much better being able to do what I want with whomever I want. Marriage just wasn’t for me and I don’t want to put another husband in the position of having to hear about my past. I agree with some of the postings, if you want to sample the flavors, stay single.

kimmie

May 31st, 2012
11:54 am

Celisea – I do agree that it’s happening more than folks think and I think, as more women got into the workplace in less traditional “women’s work” the opportunity began to present itself more. But that’s just my little theory.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
11:54 am

That’s why I said most men don’t believe women or their woman would cheat. Noooo, not MY woman. Those are the men that are wounded the hardest/worst when they find out. Don’t let her be the chick he put on a pedestal. She was bang bang at first…lol

Sassy Me...Sun Kissed :-)

May 31st, 2012
11:56 am

Men that are sincere about their faith and cheating all in the same sentence scares me…

Okay?!..but isn’t that rather hypocritical…sincere faith AND cheating?

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
11:56 am

Kimmie – It’s true. I have been pursued…out right…in the work place and then I’ve been “brushed up against” with it in the work place. You have to set it straight and make it known. But yes yes, women are largely presented with it in the work place. It’s the perfect scenario.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
11:57 am

Sassy – I thought it was rather oxymoronic but I didn’t want to speak too harshly

disco

May 31st, 2012
12:02 pm

kimmie/celisea – I too agree that cheating (among both sexes) is rampant. probably 8 out of 10 guys that approach me are already involved with someone else. some are upfront and admit it right away. others, I figure it out through the “signs”.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:04 pm

disco – Especially since women discovered cheating ain’t exclusive to men. Once they found out women can get in on it too, it’s been on every since. Not saying it’s okay but it happens.

M. (pronouced M dot)

May 31st, 2012
12:04 pm

@Celisea

LOL I think women cheat more because you dont hear about it therefore people assume it wont happen. Men hook up with women when it is AVAILABLE. Its not always available for guys but women can pick and choose the guy they want to cheat with. Guys try to talk to women every day. Its just about her picking the guy that she wants to deal with.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:05 pm

MDot – Imma have to slightly disagree with your 12:04 but I think we’re on the same page though.

kimmie

May 31st, 2012
12:09 pm

M Dot – Baby, it’s just seems to not be available TO YOU!! Most dudes I know don’t have ANY problem getting any. Dudes in prison get play!! Like disco said, 8 out of 10 dudes that approach me are already involved some kind of way. This was before I was married and now. They just don’t care! Now, what’s available isn’t always QUALITY, but most men will tell you they have no problem getting some!

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
12:11 pm

One of the worst lines a guy can tell a woman is “I don’t care if you have a man, I just want you.” That statement reeks of disrespect and further down the road, he will disrespect you and dump you by the side of road for the maggots because if you step to him in return, he already knows you devalue yourself.

Reminds me of a song, but can’t think of the name.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
12:11 pm

There’s another darker side to cheating, it’s called swinging. It’s out here and married couples participate whether full fledge or a try out.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:13 pm

And for all those activities (i.e. swinging, swapping partners, etc) with a bunch of everything going on and eventually penicillin, I’m getting the heck away from that.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
12:17 pm

Single couples do it too can’t forget about them. The larger question is why and the answer can vary with each person.

disco

May 31st, 2012
12:18 pm

leggs – re that 12:11. I once had a guy I’d only recently met ask me to come over. told him I was going out with someone else. he then said – and I quote – “that’s cool. let that other “guy” wine and dine you and then come check me out”. I may have been young but I wasn’t that big of a fool. lol. dude was serious though.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
12:18 pm

LOL…..@Cely

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:21 pm

Blackfoote – Hey I’m getting out of dodge. Some folks like the adrenaline rush of swapping body juices and changing partners like some that changes their drawers everyday but that mess is dangerous. Right now there’s stuff going on that we don’t have the answers for. Nuh uh. Miss me with that…lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
12:24 pm

Dudes play the game that works for him, if he’s asked several women to check with me after you see him it is strictly to get you under his control. Some women aren’t strong enough to resist and some know how to take the game and change the rules.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:26 pm

Sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night to those infomercials (sp) where a dude is talking about getting the essense out of life by taking on some wang inducing/enlargement pill…..and he’s all but 100 years old. Really? That is sooooo funny to me. He’s like and I’m paraphrasing “I mean really man, who wouldn’t want the best out of life being able to eternally get it up and make love…no matter how aged you are?” I’m just saying. That’s the funniest to me.

Willie Dynamite

May 31st, 2012
12:26 pm

Afternoon All,
Ahh the why’s of cheating. To me Men cheat because of science. They are acting on impulse a chemical knee jerk reaction to a/any chick. Whereas for women its more of an art. She has to be inspired to do so and its usually well thought out and planned. I could be wrong but that’s my opinion.

disco

May 31st, 2012
12:27 pm

O/T – this is about to sound crazy and some of y’all will get it and some of y’all won’t but I’m about to take a few days off and I’ll have some family coming into town for awhile. I am so looking forward to being “ignant” and ghetto and talking trash and cracking jokes and not having to worry about appearances or hurting anybody’s feelings.

BF – don’t know why your post made me think of the pimp game. that’s something I never could fully grasp. the concept of a pimp. I’d have definitely had to work as an independent if I were in that line of work.

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
12:29 pm

A married co-worker told me that just over the weekend a guy was coming on to her. He asked if she was married but when she said Yes, he goes on with the, ‘well are you happy”? If things don’t work out or start going bad, holla at me. :roll:

M. (pronouced M dot)

May 31st, 2012
12:30 pm

@Kimmie

That’s what I was saying. Quality is the preference….any guy can just go out and get a ratchet chick who looks like a transformer but we are trying to keep the standards high lol. Not trying to take a risk on a busted chick and possibly end up with a kid Ill pass lol..

@Celisea

Fair enough..

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
12:31 pm

disco ~ then you’re about to have a grand ole time with family and getting back to your roots. It’s a cleansing to your soul (lololol).

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
12:35 pm

Men hook up with women when it is AVAILABLE. Its not always available for guys

Theres a married dude at my job who never fails to try to hit on every new chick that comes in here. He has tried to holla at everyone in my dept alone, no matter the age, race or status. I guess he casts a wide net to see who he can snag lol

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:36 pm

Mdot – Not trying to take a risk on a busted chick and possibly end up with a kid Ill pass lol..

LOLOLOLOL…. Didn’t you know? All babies are a blessing…no matter how much they inherited “busted”….

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
12:37 pm

any guy can just go out and get a ratchet chick who looks like a transformer

HOLLERS :lol: :lol:

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
12:38 pm

Shiiiid ain’t havin no baby with that deceptacon lol

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
12:38 pm

Married co-workers are the worse.

M. ~ “ratchet” is the word all the teenagers are now using (lol).

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
12:39 pm

disco I know you, you’re a game changer……LOL

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
12:42 pm

Slim1 that’s one of the oldest tricks in the book, casting a wide net to see what you snared……..LOL

disco

May 31st, 2012
12:42 pm

celisea – please don’t get us started on busted babies. lol. re kids being a blessing. one year my son took all of his little Christmas spending money and bought gifts for everybody (including himself) but not me (he was around 5 or 6 doing that shopping thing at school). I asked why and he responded with first – he ran out of money and second – he’s my child and he’s my gift from God. I was looking at him thinking you cheap so and so.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:44 pm

I was in the good looking white guy along with the lily white guy (y’all pardon me but this is how I distinguish the two) and I was standing over/next to the good looking white guy and I said, oh pardon me for standing over you. So the lily white guy says oh he’s fine with it, that won’t bother him. And he piggybacks and says yeah, especially women.

I’m constantly catching little phrases like that from him. Just said something yesterday. I politely pass on by them. When he calls me from his cell (to discuss work), he’s always slow and hesitate to get it said….what we need to talk about. Too, he’s experiencing problems at home (per the the nosey dude that has access to his calendar…he can see the scheduled marriage counseling sessions)…I can tell too. Another thing he said to me, I was scheduling an event with the CEO of a company and RSVPing for my team he so slightly said his wife don’t like those type events and he told her, “cool, I’ll just take one of my girlfriends” That’s why I mean by having stuff to brush up against me.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
12:45 pm

disco don’t forget the family follies that go on when too many kin folk get together things can get close to becoming a riot……..LOL

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:46 pm

disco – Aww c’mon you know all babies are a blessing :)

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:48 pm

Those aren’t the only comments there are many more, along with the looks and what not. I know how to stay in the company of them all the while moving right on pass the comments and looks.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:50 pm

I went to breakfast Monday morning and saw the CUUUUUUUTEST baby :) His mommie said he’s just turned a year old. He was sporting a cast on his left arm. Babies like that make me wish for a hot second what it would be like…again…to smell them and hold them close :) But then the thought of all that other stuff (losing sleep, the expense) sets in and I come back quickly.

disco

May 31st, 2012
12:52 pm

BF – this is true but I’m not expecting enough folks for too much to go wrong. well… I will have to keep an eye on my mother. she’s already got a few ideas in her head re dealing with “ms. there goes the neighborhood” and taking care of a few roaming pooches I’ve had issues with. I told my mother she couldn’t come down here messing with people’s pets. lol.

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
12:54 pm

Cely = Strenght! And a lot of you here, I think it is outstanding when a lady can hold her own in most circumstances.

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
12:57 pm

Celisa ~ it definitely is an art to bob and weave pass the comments and looks of co-workers. Some of us have it down to a science, while others get caught in their web of deceit.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
12:57 pm

Blackfoote – You have to have it. You can’t go running with your tail tucked everytime someone makes a comment. I always wait for the right moment to get it said and get it said once. The right time ain’t happened yet because his remarks tetter on the other side of the coin. I don’t need personnel either. I’ll get him….at the right time :)

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
12:57 pm

“Strength” I got it right after I saw how bad it was mispelled, y’all know I’m good for that at least twice or more a day……LOL

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:01 pm

Leggs – Exactly. You have to let them know, don’t even try it. I’m not all flattered and giggly because you’re right there’s no doubt a ton of others. I heard about him too before he got here. He’s well know for being a hottie and for being good at what he does….and being ethical and a great standup guy…yeah he is. He’s great at what he does, I have to give him that but not THAT great…lol He’s like a Sean Connery type to me. The older he gets the better. Still, I keep things straight.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:02 pm

Blackfoote – We understood what you meant :)

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:11 pm

Celisea ~ I had a coworker, who is now retired, call me to tell he has been contemplating leaving his wife for me. I told he was a fool and his mind is warped. I have come to work with drunk voicemails from him professing his love for me. I have gotten to the point where I had no choice but to cuss his dumb behind OUT! He still doesn’t quick. When he used to come to my desk I had to stop looking at him because he seemed to always undress me with his eyes. He would stop by for the dumbest reasons. Had to tell him one time, we have a mail room and it’s not located at my desk. Finally with a call to HR, he seemed to have gotten the msg. This was one retirement I was looking forward to.

i'm swiss

May 31st, 2012
1:14 pm

Hey, C, I’ll make you a deal. When you get the urge to hold/smell a little baby, you can come babysit SwissMocha.

(On that note, had another ultrasound today. The little one actually looks like a little one now — little arms & legs flailing around all over the place. Must have picked up some of dad’s whiteboy dance moves…)

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:15 pm

Leggs – Are you kidding me? Now THAT is the extreme… Just wow. Yeah contacting HR was in order. It’s not funny but drunken voicemails? LOLOLOL OMGosh. What’s the saying a drunken mind speaks a sober heart…something like that

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

May 31st, 2012
1:15 pm

Speaking of the busted broads….Any dude who is going to cheat, should cheat up….cheat up=she will stay and try to outdue the mistress, cheat down =hell to pay…lol

Lady~survivor

May 31st, 2012
1:16 pm

What’s poppin’ MIA?!? ;)

let me catch up……….

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:17 pm

Swiss – It’s a deal!!! I love babies…just not for long though…lol I’m quick to hand them back…lol I don’t know what it is. I’m just soooo moved when I see babies now. I’m like awwwwwww they’re shooo shweet :)

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:17 pm

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:18 pm

Celisea, not only that, how the hell does one contemplate leaving their wife for someone they never went out with??? Was that line supposed to warm me up. Dumb clucks everywhere…

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:19 pm

I get the biggest kick out of my grandnephew that’s two. He’s sooo cute, soooo smart to be so little/young. I hate to say it and I’d never say in front of my nephew (their dad) but the two year old is an old soul compared to their four year old. The four year old is still trying to put words/sentences together. The two year old has him licked. I know, I should be ashamed for saying so but it’s true :(

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:20 pm

That’s funny, swiss!

Also, I love babies too and they love me…you have a babysitter in me when you need one as well.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:21 pm

Leggs – Honey that sounds like buddy had some preconceived, well thought out fantasy…lol Don’t you just hate the ones that won’t go away.

i'm swiss

May 31st, 2012
1:22 pm

Cool, thanks, Leggs. Y’all do know I’m taking screen shots of this, so no one tries to play dumb once Junior arrives. :lol: Any other volunteers? :D

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:23 pm

You got the phrase right, Celisea.

You may remember the “air licker” I had to cuss out on THE SPOT! Some of these men know they’ve crossed the line, but don’t care because they think eventually, something is going to click. I’m not the one.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:23 pm

Swiss – LOLOLOL @ your 1:22 I’m in :) I’m good with babies. My mommie had eight and I called her for EVERYTHING. I didn’t have any bouts with colic or too much other stuff. So, your kid would be safe with me :)

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:24 pm

Leggs – Air licker??? No I don’t recall that one. Do tell

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
1:25 pm

Leggs – Daaaaang, and any dude that’s coming off that crazy from jump street would need to keep it moving anyway.

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:28 pm

What’s even weirder, Celisea, is I have a sassy mouth and have no problem telling one what I think. What I don’t want to do is continue to have smarta$$ convo at work. To keep coming back for more verbal abuse only tells me he liked the challenged and felt he had the skills to break me. Well, I broke him with the help of HR of course.

Lady~survivor

May 31st, 2012
1:29 pm

Waving @ C!!!!!! y’all covered the topic!!!! lol one day I am going to get in here early and play on the playground! lol #crurrentlydoingthemost

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
1:33 pm

Cel – Don’t feel bad about your comparison of the two kids. My sister had her daughter only a month before my cousin had his son. I don’t know if there is a difference in the rate of learning of girls versus boys but my niece speak very well for being 3, she already knows her letters, numbers, how to write them, her name and colors. That little boy hardly puts a sentence together. He’s still just shouting one word phrases in that ‘babytalk speak’ and I feel bad. I’m not sure if the mom is working with him daily or not but I suppose that’s where the advantage my niece has since my mom watches her during the week,

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:35 pm

Lady – What’s crackalackin? How are you today?

Leggs – Probably the smarter the smartass comments the more he liked. Yeah, buddy was getting off on that. That’s funny though…”broke him with the help of HR”…that’s funny as heck. I can just see the wind getting knocked out of his sail. Sometimes these weirdos and their issues run way deep than what we see on the surface. I’m seeing that more and more.

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:37 pm

The “air licker” was a guy who flirted hard with me from complimenting my outfit, my legs, my skin tone. At first you smile, say thank you and K.I.M. After repeated compliments and drop bys to the desk your antenna is up a little higher.

One day walking down the hall, he’s coming in the opposite direction and when he got closer to me he stuck his tongue out and started licking the air. I stopped and had many choice words with him to ensure he never does it again to me and hopefully not to another! And yes, he was married too!

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:40 pm

Slim – I know it ain’t right but I ca-racked up at this….He’s still just shouting one word phrases in that ‘babytalk speak’ and I feel bad. I’ve always heard (not sure how true) that girls learn faster than boys at that stage. It doesn’t help that the four year old’s voice is raspy. So not only is he behind but he struggles physically to talk. I don’t know if that’s something that needs medical attention or he just inherited. My nephew’s mom voice is the same way. I try to show love equally to both of them and make no difference in the two but I’m admit I’m a bit more smitten with the two year old.

Slim – You said your mom watches him….that is the advantage. The four year old went to daycare (napped, watched t.v., etc), whereas because of their financial stuggles, the two year old goes to work with the mom everyday. So, he’s in an office full of woman (family owned company) and he’s having adult like intelligent interaction. As a result he’s more apt and ahead. I know being there with adults everyday all day and that interaction has placed him slightly ahead of the older one.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
1:43 pm

Leggs – OMG…that is way crazy…lololol Not licking the air. Now that would have me nervous and on edge. He would have been another HR story.

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:48 pm

I handled him, Celisea. Didn’t need HR this time because I was certain he wouldn’t be saying another damn thing to me. He no longer works for the company.

i'm swiss

May 31st, 2012
1:48 pm

“I know being there with adults everyday all day and that interaction has placed him slightly ahead of the older one.”

C — I’m so glad to hear someone else say this. I hate baby talk. Not only does it make the adult look ridicu-lous, but I’ve never understood how it helps the baby at all, either. I’ll be talking to my kid like I would talk to a normal human, because that’s what I want him/her to be.

Lady~survivor

May 31st, 2012
1:49 pm

all over the place but calming down slowly. …..May has been a beast but I survived Thank God~ ;)

Lady~survivor

May 31st, 2012
1:49 pm

hope all is well with your mom! she is the true fighter and you are so cool with it! Love it!

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
1:55 pm

Cel – We were all wondering if the little boy may be a little autistic…something just doesn’t seem right be we aren’t sure how to bring it up to her.

swiss-Cel – There is a way to talk to a child so that they understand without all the babble babble gubble wubble stuff. My niece is around my mother and step dad as well as other adults. So i’m sure that helps with her communication/comprehension level. And please don’t make the mistake of telling her you’re going to do something because she WILL remember it. lol (lesson learned by auntie Slim)

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
1:57 pm

That’s the key, swiss. I wasn’t into the baby talk either. Didn’t give body parts cutesy names, and didn’t even care for the word “tee tee” for pee pee! Call it what it is.

i'm swiss

May 31st, 2012
1:57 pm

“And please don’t make the mistake of telling her you’re going to do something because she WILL remember it”

Slim — Luckily, I’ve already got Mrs. Swiss to teach me that particular lesson. She don’t forget sh!!!!!!!!!!!t :lol:

Leggs

May 31st, 2012
2:01 pm

Enjoy the rest of your day.

kimmie

May 31st, 2012
2:08 pm

disco – I so get your earlier post! It’s nice sometimes to just be with your peeps and let your hair down!! Plus your baby graduating – yeah have a blast!!

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
2:10 pm

Swiss/Slim – I’m so all over that. NO BABY TALK PLEASE. They are humans…just little ones. I talked normal talk to my kid from day one.

Lady – Thanks girlie. She’s at home now…sooooo happy about that. Tonight would have been my night to say with her. I stopped by this morning and she looked so much better than she did the weekend.

I was trying to ask if today’s after work meet up was still on but I never heard from WillieD

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
2:12 pm

Slight shift here….anyone every tried Crystal Light Appletini or Mojito flavors? I saw for the first time last night in Publix.

disco

May 31st, 2012
2:30 pm

swiss – I think your little dance move line was funny too but don’t put my name on the list of babysitters.

celisea – it’s okay to have favorites and since their not your kids it’s even okay to play favorites. I have a lot of cousins who have multiple children and I have a favorite child in each house. in some houses there’s even a child that I can’t stand. now I know it’s wrong to say you can’t stand a child but there’s some out there that I just plain don’t like.

kimmie – and my countdown has begun. in my mind I’ll be like “peace out beeeyotches”.

Willie Dynamite

May 31st, 2012
2:33 pm

Cel – my bad I thought you couldn’t make it. Its short notice now but I’m game if anyone wants to give it a go.

i'm swiss

May 31st, 2012
2:33 pm

disco — What’s that you say? Put you down to babysit? You got it! ;-)

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
2:35 pm

disco – You know I’m slightly (don’t get offended), from your world. Maybe not as hardly but I can relate…to many things you say. Favorites are one. I know it goes on but it ain’t right…lol I use to buy for all four greatgrands, trying to be fair and balanced but that got expensive as heck. When it comes to clothes and outfits I see so much for my greatniece but her mama is looking at me funny when I drop a bag off with stuff just for her and not her brother. So, I have to keep it fair. But I stopped doing a huge gift bag for all four. Plus I coming around but I couldn’t stand the greatniece’s mama…lol Spending my dang money and I can’t stand her?? Okay, I took the high road but I was NOT feeling her.

To sum it up disco…it ain’t right…lol Keep it fair.

disco

May 31st, 2012
2:35 pm

swiss – you got jokes. I let people know my rule on babysitting. if I can’t hit your kids, I can’t watch your kids. that rule pretty much limits my babysitting to close friends and family members.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
2:36 pm

WillieD – Okay…so far it’s you and me. I tried to get Lady to come but she’s got class tonight. Boooo

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
2:37 pm

That’s another thing I think has happened with me over time. Younger, I was all for smacking bad kids. Now, I’m such a softie, I grimace at kids getting a spanking. I know it’s the age thing going on. Don’t get me wrong, tare that butt up if they’re out of line but sometimes, let’s find other means…LOL My kid would look at me like I’ve grown two heads if she knew on the inside I was getting mushy.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
2:38 pm

maybe not as “hard”…not “hardly”

i'm swiss

May 31st, 2012
2:39 pm

C / Willie D — Sorry, I can’t make it tonight. I’ll try for next time. If anything good happens, make sure you get it on video, Willie D. :lol:

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
2:40 pm

Swiss – Awwww man, I was gonna give a table dance. Oh well, maybe next time :)

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
2:41 pm

WillieD – I’m not pressed….we can wait if you/y’all like. I’m sporting a nappy do anyway…lol

Willie Dynamite

May 31st, 2012
2:42 pm

Cel – ok cool I’ll be there round 6:30.
Someone anyone please join us. Cel can be a handful. Hahaha

disco

May 31st, 2012
2:45 pm

C – at least you recognize that you have gotten soft. some of my aunts have gone soft and I’m like I remember when y’all used to fight us like y’all were jumping us into a gang. that’s a true story. my mother and 2 of her sisters literally fought me and beat me down while the others instigated in the background. now they are talking about “leave those babies alone. they are just little kids”. GTFOH.

O/T – coworkers are discussing 50 shades of grey book (again). why do I feel like a “book snob”?

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
2:45 pm

Luckily, I’ve already got Mrs. Swiss to teach me that particular lesson. She don’t forget sh!!!!!!!!!!!

swiss – I messed around and told her I’d take her to the zoo one day and every time she talked to me she would ask me about it. I told her the animals were sleeping so we couldn’t go that day. She said, “Auntie, the aminals (yes aminals lol) are not sleeping. It’s not even dark outside and the sun is not sleeping either.” Too damn smart for me. So I bribed her into settling for the park instead ;-)

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
2:45 pm

WillieD – 6:30 it is You know you need to stop….lol

Blackfoote: The Real Blackfoote

May 31st, 2012
2:47 pm

I had a lady friend that gave me the go ahead to smack her son around. Uhn uhn call his daddy, I would help with discipline but I’m not smacking nobody’s child around unless it’s mine. Made me think when I was coming up the neighbor moms would whip all the kids butt no matter who you belonged to. Followed with a phone call to your mom so you can get another one when you get home. Those were the days.

i'm swiss

May 31st, 2012
2:48 pm

Willie D — You have an iPhone? If C gets up on the table, FaceTime me, bro. :lol:

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
2:50 pm

disco – Literally a beat down? From mama and auntie? Whatever for?

My greatniece was spending the night with my brother (granddad) and his wife was telling her it’s time for bed and she said “no, it’s not dark outside yet” Oh, when her baby brother was constipated, she asked if she should get the suppositories and I think she was like two then. She’s four now. Even now when she’s talking to my kid, she’s got all these dramatics going on….eye rolling and neck snapping.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
2:53 pm

Blackfoote – Now THAT’S how it was where we grew up too. You did or said something naughty? Heck yeah, you got it from “Ms. Jones”…she was busy saying “Imma tell ya mama too” Boy oh boy by the time you got home, the news made it ahead of you. You was turned around to go find switches. Oh yeah, I remember all too well.

Swiss – Stoooop. If you want to see the action, you must be present :) No table dances…lol Never do anything that will come back and bite you in the butt.

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
2:56 pm

Speaking of kids, why little boyz gotta be some damn musty!!! I was in FL over the weekend and my little cousin brought along a friend of his…the boy smelled like mustard and onions under those pits. The whole weekend I’d ask if everyone showered, WITH SOAP, washed under their arms and put on deo.

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
2:59 pm

BF – The only time someone other than family gave me a spanking was when I went to Catholic school. I got swapped with the ruler a few times. lol

Willie Dynamite

May 31st, 2012
3:00 pm

Swiss – I got you man. Hit Jake up for me. I may have lost his/your email addy.

disco

May 31st, 2012
3:01 pm

C – literally a beat down though I suppose I exaggerate some about the severity. I was a kid. it seemed severe at the time. here’s the abbreviated story. I was in the second grade. yep. second grade. one of my cousins who was in 1st grade got into a fight with a 4th grade girl and I didn’t help her. (to this day I can still call that girl’s name and I did end up fighting her). when we got home my cousin told and I got a whooping. later that same day I beat up my cousin because she caused me to get a whooping. my mother and aunts then got on me for fighting the wrong person and they started poking, shoving, taunting me trying to get me riled up. when I did act like I was going to do something that’s when they “beat me up”. after that I knew to get my “jump” on though.

i'm swiss

May 31st, 2012
3:06 pm

“Never do anything that will come back and bite you in the butt.”

C — See now, that stripper asked me to bite her butt, I swear! :lol:

Willie D — I don’t think I have Jake’s email, either. May just have to put up the Bat Signal on here.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
3:07 pm

disco – You are kidding me right? I am ca-racking up at your story. I believe it though. I’ve seen it all too often. We were encourage to help one another since there were so many of us, if ever in a pinch…for lack of a better word…but no butt whipping if it didn’t pop off.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
3:08 pm

Swiss – Butt biting eh? Licking I’ve had heard of but no bitting yet…lol

disco

May 31st, 2012
3:12 pm

C – I kid you not. if you could hang out with us you’d hear all kinds of “remember that time” stories. here’s one where we (two cousins and i) played ourselves. us 3 cousins are all daughters of 3 sisters. anyway, we went to visit our grandmother and one of us (no one recalls who) told my grandmother that our mothers were at the house getting high. my grandmother wrote a note for us to take home. we were young enough that we couldn’t read cursive handwriting yet and so we gladly took the note home. don’t know what the note said but we promptly got 3 butt whoopings. that was our introduction to what happens in my house, stays in my house.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
3:15 pm

disco – That is wild. Now I have to agree with the what stays in my house rule. I use to teach kids and boy they will volunteer all their mamas and daddies business. I started the moment my kid could look around and see…..”we don’t tell mommie’s business, k?” If not, they’re gonna tell it all…lol From humping to bugs, to utilities getting shut off…I’ve heard it all.

i'm swiss

May 31st, 2012
3:20 pm

Awwwww, suki suki, now, C. I knew somewhere in there was some freaky-deaky just waiting to be unleashed. :lol:

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
3:27 pm

Swiss – That’s Calandra…my alter ego speaking to butt licking. I know nothing about that. I have to take meds for keeping her under the surface…..

Willie Dynamite

May 31st, 2012
3:28 pm

Swiss – per your 3:20 forget the bat signal I think I’ll be alright handling Cel solo. Polishing my halo as we speak. Hahaha

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
3:34 pm

WillieD – Look atcha…talking smack now I see…lol Halo it is then. I thought Dreams said might come. Dreams you reading?

Exiled!

May 31st, 2012
3:54 pm

Butt licking Cel?

U done changed since I logged in.

Congrats Swiss and Willie for making that transformation happen.

Cel is a bigger girl now.

So Swiss,how big is her butt buddy? :???:

Will check in later for the response…off to another meeting.

Hey y’all! :lol:

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
3:57 pm

Heeey MMeello – Stop it man. I’m the same me. I’m cutting up but ut uh NONE OF THAT….not with blog folks anyway :)

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
4:00 pm

Daaaag, did butt licking bring things to a halt??

disco

May 31st, 2012
4:02 pm

celisea – stop teasing the menfolk. you give just enough to get their attention and then you pull back. that ain’t right. goodness knows we don’t need a virtual sex crime on our hands. lol. you know some folks on here like to congregate under the stairs. ain’t no telling what goes on under those stairs.

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
4:07 pm

disco – LOL…stop I only asked about the plans already set in motion. Honestly I wasn’t teasing. I think Swiss set the wheels in motion. It would be wrong to not oblige a fellow blogger…lol That was pretty mild compared to the blog freakfest that we’re all too familiar with.

On a different note, I’ve gone to Atlantic Station mostly in the evenings and have been sooo turned off by the crowd or I should say, younger than me crowd. But I spent some time down there Saturday shopping and I LOVE it! I’ve gone to Dillards several times to pick something up for my kid but never explored all out shopping. I found shoes at DSW…for the low low. My sister bought five pairs

Celisea

May 31st, 2012
4:09 pm

disco – BTW, I’ve never been under the blog stairs. I thought only Blackfoote was familiar with that place…lol

Manny

May 31st, 2012
4:34 pm

I suppose there are many reasons women cheat. It is more prevalent now than ever. Every person in a commited relationship should closely inspect any breakdown or barriers at all cost to avoid. I would not want to endure such an outcome so I would be willing to do what I needed to do to avoid. If it is a person that just want to cheat, there is nothing I can do to help that situation.

Exiled!

May 31st, 2012
4:40 pm

Talking of women emotions,lacking etc and In topic

My wide called me this week and said,’baby I’m h0rny’

I told her to hang in there!

Just as well I will be home tmrw evening..

:grin:

Exiled!

May 31st, 2012
4:41 pm

SlimNu

May 31st, 2012
4:55 pm

Exiled – Where are you? Are you out of town?

Jake a.ka. Sweet Peeda Jeeda TWB

May 31st, 2012
4:55 pm

LeeH1

May 31st, 2012
8:57 pm

Often women cheat for the same reason they try to commit unsucessful suicide- they want attention, or at least something out of other people. Even if it is bad reactions, they still want to pleasure of stirring up activity around them, and becomeing, even if only for a short time, the center of attention.